Scorpio bringing up an ex??

I'm talking with a scorpio guy (, feelings are both mutual. He's been driving me crazy lately by being hot and cold. Anyway, We have a small group chat where we talk about games, art and stuff together with a few others. He's being more active in that chat then his personal chat with me the last few days. I feel like he's been doing it intentionally because he's noticed when I see his chats in there and I don't participate- then he goes into our private chat and talks to me- most times at least. Today we were talking in the group chat, and he suddenly mentions that he still follows an ex on some social media account. It was really random and right after I linked my blog in the chat. Oh and not only that, he LINKED to one of her profiles. I kind of didn't really talk about it because I wasn't really sure how to take it after he linked to her profile... I sent a thumbs up sticker and didn't comment on it. He then said that he prefers me--- okay...... (well I'm sure he does but the mentioning of an ex and then saying he prefers me was really odd to me..) I suppose it just kind of bothered me because I don't ever bring up ex's whatsoever with him- I just feel he would not like it. Lately I just feel like he's been testing me. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions because I'm already pro at doing that and there's been countless times where I've been proven wrong haha (eg. is he ignoring me = he's really just napping.)

Part of me feels like there's no hidden reason for bringing up an ex, but another part of me isn't convinced.

So~ I would love to hear others thoughts on that. ^^

Its pathetic and cruel to "test" someone in that way. Its one thing to agree to discuss your past relationships with a partner - as the meaningful bonds they were, recounting the things you learned, the good and the bad, etc. I don't see anything wrong with it, but for some it can be a very difficult subject and, if done at all, it has to be done with the right motives (e.g., getting to know one another better), mutual consent, and extreme sensitivity.

If someone I was serious about started throwing around pictures or stories of past loves or sexual exploits, not innocently, but with the obvious intention to test me or make me jealous, on some level I'd be disgusted with them, and being the petty unevolved individual that I am, I'd probably be reduced to reaching in my own archives to one-up them. But tiziani's advice is much better....

There is nothing 'pathetic' about young Scorpio approach.

They are what they are!

They are weird even after 45!

So it's like if you can't drive - getnoit of the vehicle!!!

Posted by tiziani
Make him feel awkward for comparing you to her.

Every time he does it, greet it with extended awkward silences.

It will soon stop.

why is your advice so rational and less passive-aggressive than mine? STOP IT U BALANCED BEING.

my response was going to be “if he can make comments about his exes so can you, and when you casually mention yours and he gets butthurt, act really confused and say ‘oh, well you talk about yours so i thought it was ok.’” then when he says it’s not, you ask ‘why can you mention your exes then?’”

sigh, my scorpio/libra is showing. passive-aggressive but slightly manipulative. i call this...innocent manipulation though, because nobody gets hurt. it only mirrors what someone else is doing to you so they get the picture through their thick skulls. only the intelligent survive and thoroughly understand. the stupid and irrational throw temper tantrums about how “you’re so mean” and turn the situation around on you and make you look like the bad guy when in reality, they shouldn’t have compared you to their ex in the first place. because then you wouldn’t of mentioned your own ex and all would be fine and dandy in the land of love 🤷🏻‍♀️

Does he have any "unfinished business" with his ex? Do you know anything about their break-up at all?And are you guys only interested in each other or are you dating?

Posted by Bananacat
I'm talking with a scorpio guy (, feelings are both mutual. He's been driving me crazy lately by being hot and cold. Anyway, We have a small group chat where we talk about games, art and stuff together with a few others. He's being more active in that chat then his personal chat with me the last few days. I feel like he's been doing it intentionally because he's noticed when I see his chats in there and I don't participate- then he goes into our private chat and talks to me- most times at least. Today we were talking in the group chat, and he suddenly mentions that he still follows an ex on some social media account. It was really random and right after I linked my blog in the chat. Oh and not only that, he LINKED to one of her profiles. I kind of didn't really talk about it because I wasn't really sure how to take it after he linked to her profile... I sent a thumbs up sticker and didn't comment on it. He then said that he prefers me--- okay...... (well I'm sure he does but the mentioning of an ex and then saying he prefers me was really odd to me..) I suppose it just kind of bothered me because I don't ever bring up ex's whatsoever with him- I just feel he would not like it. Lately I just feel like he's been testing me. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions because I'm already pro at doing that and there's been countless times where I've been proven wrong haha (eg. is he ignoring me = he's really just napping.)

Part of me feels like there's no hidden reason for bringing up an ex, but another part of me isn't convinced.

So~ I would love to hear others thoughts on that. ^^

Every time he does it start offering positive affirmations to your chanclas

Posted by Bananacat
I'm talking with a scorpio guy (, feelings are both mutual. He's been driving me crazy lately by being hot and cold. Anyway, We have a small group chat where we talk about games, art and stuff together with a few others. He's being more active in that chat then his personal chat with me the last few days. I feel like he's been doing it intentionally because he's noticed when I see his chats in there and I don't participate- then he goes into our private chat and talks to me- most times at least. Today we were talking in the group chat, and he suddenly mentions that he still follows an ex on some social media account. It was really random and right after I linked my blog in the chat. Oh and not only that, he LINKED to one of her profiles. I kind of didn't really talk about it because I wasn't really sure how to take it after he linked to her profile... I sent a thumbs up sticker and didn't comment on it. He then said that he prefers me--- okay...... (well I'm sure he does but the mentioning of an ex and then saying he prefers me was really odd to me..) I suppose it just kind of bothered me because I don't ever bring up ex's whatsoever with him- I just feel he would not like it. Lately I just feel like he's been testing me. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions because I'm already pro at doing that and there's been countless times where I've been proven wrong haha (eg. is he ignoring me = he's really just napping.)

Part of me feels like there's no hidden reason for bringing up an ex, but another part of me isn't convinced.

So~ I would love to hear others thoughts on that. ^^

but he follows the ex. that would be a red flag.