Scorpio Ex Returns

Hey Everyone,

So I have some news. Which I am having a little trouble with. As you all know by now the story about my Scorpio. I've posted it pretty much everywhere and mostly the reason why I came to DXP in the first place.

Here is the update:

Lately I've been having a hell of a time with my emotions and Gemini's well we aren't the best with it. Seriously happy that Venus is done doing it's thing. Well with that said, here comes the Scorpio, baggage and all. I broke up with him on 5/9/12 and didn't once speak to him. This is a very hard thing for me because I love to talk/discuss really communicate with someone if need be. I don't like leaving on terrible terms. Yesterday Im doodling around at work 9AM and I log into my chat account and I see an offline message. It reads "Hey just seeing how you are".

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Uh...Okay? He logs on later in the day and comes after me again. Now mind you he has NEVER come back on his own this is the first time ever. Im starting to wonder if it's because I dumped him this time instead of him doing it to me every month. So tra la la here he comes talking like NOTHING happened. Being a total tard like "Haha what are you talking about?" He knew he was ruffling my feathers.

I cannot believe how he just barges back into my life and expect me NOT to be pissed. He was dodging my questions and trying really hard to be "normal" and talk about "normal" shit. Like how is work, how are you, I got a new kitten, blah blah. We talked but I ended up looking completely frazzled with googly eyes after we were done. Adding me back to every chat program he had, etc.

What the hell is going on here?

I even told him look I didn't bother you, I didn't text you, write you, call you nothing. What do you want? "I just want to see how you are doing". Oh gee not that you cared previously. UH!!! For once I didn't do my stupid stalker thing and check out to see where he was and what he was doing. I literally let go 100% . Now here he is. WTF! Then he tells me he's been kind of watching me (Venus in Scorpio) someone told me that they stalk a bit.

Anyways I'm anxious about today, nervous. He's like ok well Ill be on to talk to you after my appointment. Like just kinda telling me what he's doing. A force just barging in again.

Advice Scorp's? Im really at a loss. He's never once came back. I always went after him so many times he dumped me. Now I just left and it was very hostile when I did. I was very angry!

Dont give him what he wants. Your attention. (Kinda late tho).

Unless its ok to pretend like nothing happened, that is. If its NOT ok, then you need to set and STICK to some boundries.

ZZZ - Yes he has. I'm not sure what to do yet. I guess I will play it by ear you know? Kind of in limbo, more shocked he even said anything. But I know Scorp's always have an agenda. So I am sure it's not just to be buddy chums.

xin: venus hasn't finished doing it's thing yet...not until the 27th of this month. at the beginning of last week it squared the sun (i think) but that was a short term venus transit lasting a couple of days WITHIN the retrograde motion....again in connection with relationships of all kinds. the short term influence i believe heralded surprise encounters which catch you off guard but that has passed now and it's back to the main influence being from the retrograde motion.

i think generally, it's caused much confusion in relationships and we've seen this all over the boards since the retro started. it's a time for reflection though and not action and it's important to remember that because the risk that faces us with the return of past lovers in particular is that we snap right back to the mode we were in when we were with them and find ourselves repeating past mistakes.

it's a time for closure in some cases but also a time to re-evaluate and strengthen relationships by drawing a line under past mistakes.

i would advise to not allow yourself get drawn in. it's not just you who has to accept mistakes in past relationships as he was in it too.

any 'action' on your part would be best left until venus turns direct at the end of the month when hopefully, the mist will clear our confusion.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s

it's important to remember that because the risk that faces us with the return of past lovers in particular is that we snap right back to the mode we were in when we were with them and find ourselves repeating past mistakes.

..... but also a time to re-evaluate and strengthen relationships by drawing a line under past mistakes.....

i would advise to not allow yourself get drawn in. it's not just you who has to accept mistakes in past relationships as he was in it too.....

Beautifully said.

I am in this exact space. Man returned. I am holding tight to new boundaries, emotions set to the side. Boundaries will be respect by ME, if not him.

Will not repeat mistakes. Even if it means he leaves. Im ok with that. Hope you will be too.

Great articulation Rigor Mortisssssssssssss!! xoxoxoxox

Theyre all coming back around. Mine has too :/

the retro has finally made me withdraw completely because my experiences haven't just been with past loves....my relationship with my parents has also been in the spotlight. i always felt abandoned by them as i never held the same religious views and was a bit on the wild side...probably to get a reaction from them. finally, this month my mother expresses her guilt over how she too feels she abandoned me and there's been a whole bunch of emotional outpouring from her and in my dad's name. i haven't actually heard my dad's voice since 2005 which was also the last time i saw them both.

the problem is that they are both emotionally remote people and consequently, so am i. the things she's written me lately don't 'fit' the relationship (if you could call it that) and i don't know how to deal with this from her at all.

consequently, i've found myself withdrawing completely. i don't know what to think, believe or say and so i do nothing - which is an action in itself i spose.

that's now extended to past loves too. my mind is mush. i can't separate my head from my heart and so my new comfort zone has become silence.

my problem is that because i'm emotionally remote, i don't express myself to others and actually avoid deep conversations. i base relationships on assumptions....even my marriage...the massive assumption i could trust him based on the fact that i was trustworthy myself.

so that's my lesson i guess.

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Posted by OceanDeep
Theyre all coming back around. Mine has too :/

Mine hasn't 😢

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This might make you the luckiest one of us all.

Their coming back is not necessarily a good thing at all. Sometime's God's rejection, is God's protection.

Xin mine has been coming back since I broke up with him in November 2010. Yes. That long. Dated two guys but kept going back. Was it my fault? Yes. I thought I could keep in touch. Be friends. Innocent me. how are you, he says. Then slowly you remember why you loved him - and forget why you didn't. I don't think they mean to do it to manipulate you. It's the only way they know to get their way. And it works. Man does it work!

Solution - don't let it work, I finally gave my Scorpio an ultimatum before my 26th birthday to tell me if he was all in or all out by June 10 - and show me that he would make some real chnages so it wasnt just words. I get a measly text message says I still love you and want to make this work. And then he wanted me to wait 6 months so be could change his life. Um, no. I waited 1.5 years already dude!

Hon, this is a guy who thinks he loves me. Truly, he does. But if it's not good enough to keep me happy, Im not his girl. So - don't take what he gives. Ask for what you want. There is a guy who will lay it at your feet if he loves you. If this is that guy, great. But if not - make sure your needs are being met before you meet his. Geminis are so good at figuring out what their partners need that they forget about their own needs. Oh I'm Gemini too incase you didn't figure it out from my birthday.

Hey Sunny! Thanks for answering. Actually this is great I am really glad you put your opinion up. It's nice to get advice from a fellow Gemini who has had Scorpio's around her too.

Right now I am really enjoying his company. He's being his true Scorpio self and I am happy obliging. I don't mind. Things are better than they have ever been (we are just friends right now). So seems to be working nicely without the title. I think that Scorpio's have a big problem being dumped. Most of the time he was doing the dumping like every month, but finally I did it. Maybe it got to him? Who knows. I'm not sure what I want to ask of him right now because I don't have any expectations and in my mind neither does he. Hasn't really made a move, but it's obvious he cares, I suppose in his Scorpio way. You know the cryptic messages and conversations. They think they are really telling you how they feel but its completely hidden and you have to dig to find out the meaning.

May I ask what he was doing that ended the relationship? Six months for what? To get a job? Move out? Do tell!

Biggirl..why to keep love far away..when its coming back? What if your ex is waiting for you the whole life? Anyways you gonna go out with someone new..then why not with ex? See am asking cause I just beleive in one life one death n one love. I am old soul. I am trying to understand things. So you just look for a better guy..a update? Instead of love?