Scorpio Going through mid life crisis

I don’t know when it happened but right now I feel so unhappy with my life. Looking back on my marriage that failed and early life I feel like made nothing but mistakes. I look at other people’s life and they are so happy and well adjusted but I’m just barely hanging on emotionally. I just don’t know what happened. I use to feel happy I guess but not I just feel like I’m in a really bad situation and I’m not happy with anything. My looks have changed and now I have acne it’s just so hard for me to move on from this sadness. I look at woman with man who really love them and care for them and all I meet is users and emotionally unavailable men it’s so hard to think positive but my professional life is really amazing I just wish I felt like the total package again. I’m tired of being unhappy but I can’t stop thinking about all of the stuff I lost trying to be there for others. I just wished someone cared about me and wanted to see me do well. My birthday is coming up and I’m trying to plan a vacation which I am taking alone. I’m thinking Denver or San Juan but the point is I need a break, makeover and to relive this self imposed stress. I just feel like I’m drowning in plain sight and no one even cares or notices I’m so alone right now I’m really paying attention to my diet and health even more then ever but that’s really hard for me. I feel like I’m ruining myself and I want to stop. I cut off all negative relationships but now I’m alone. Have any Scorpios felt like this I’m turning 31 by the way

Posted by IMightBeElle

Yes....about every ten years it repeats itself...lol

Oh no I can’t take this ☹️ I don’t remember this when I turned 21

Posted by IMightBeElle

I try to keep my life tidy and only put focus on career, family and relationships.

However, it is hard to keep even those balls in the air at the same time

When one falls....it usually falls hard and it is like a blow to the stomach.

Two of them fall.....and it is like the fucking apocalypse.

If all three fell at the same time, I would probably vaporize on impact.

Then you have the pesky self love and maintenance crap to deal with.....which other sun signs do a lot better with than scorpio.

It is good to practice saying no. People will vanish but that is a good thing.

You know the self care thing is real. I’m trying really hard to take proper care of myself and my surrounding even to point of hiring cleaners to clean I just don’t have the energy right now my focus is my career and school but my personal life sucks.

I’m okay with being on the right path but it’s killing me to feel like a failure. I’m crying all the time and I just want to do the right things so bad. It’s so sad I feel just burned out at this point I really don’t know what to do

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Posted by Missscorpio30

Posted by IMightBeElle

I try to keep my life tidy and only put focus on career, family and relationships.

However, it is hard to keep even those balls in the air at the same time

When one falls....it usually falls hard and it is like a blow to the stomach.

Two of them fall.....and it is like the fucking apocalypse.

If all three fell at the same time, I would probably vaporize on impact.

Then you have the pesky self love and maintenance crap to deal with.....which other sun signs do a lot better with than scorpio.

It is good to practice saying no. People will vanish but that is a good thing.

You know the self care thing is real. I’m trying really hard to take proper care of myself and my surrounding even to point of hiring cleaners to clean I just don’t have the energy right now my focus is my career and school but my personal life sucks.

I’m okay with being on the right path but it’s killing me to feel like a failure. I’m crying all the time and I just want to do the right things so bad. It’s so sad I feel just burned out at this point I really don’t know what to do

Yes, self care is real and probably why we get where we get with these low spots.

Your vacation alone will definitely help. I try to do that at least once a year.

Try to absorb the entire experience, even of it feels forced. You will be tempted to stay in the hotel room the whole time 😂🤣

Just observe people in real time. Something about seeing happy and content people in real life can rub off and give you aspiration.

You don't need to be perfect and have everything in order and don't measure yourself with other people. You will eventually notice alot of people have similar feelings and issues.

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Yes I think so too this vacation is something I’m looking forward too even tho I’m going to be alone on my birthday and I’m really trying not to notice other people but it’s like I can’t help it it feels like everyone is doing so much better than me. It’s so strange I never noticed people as much until now. Thanks for the advice I really needed it

Posted by dilettante

keep in mind that you are also coming out of your saturn return. i found 30-32 to be hard years for me. i didnt feel stable for a long time. i turn 35 this year & feel p good about not wanting to die anymore.

it gets better 100% & you just stop caring about some bullshit. we all fail at stuff all the time but that’s what makes us (humans) really cool & interesting.

if your adult acne is getting really bad, it could be hormonal. if you can afford one, see a dermatologist. they can typically tell you what to do in one appt.

also this skincare brand is 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

http://theordinary.com

Yes I did see a dermatologist but she said I’m allergic to something so I changed lots of stuff but the acne is still there. I do think it’s hormonal so now I’m working on finding supplements go to balance them. Thanks for the advice

Posted by ClassyAquarius

I'm not scorpio but I adore you guys so I want to help 🙂

First of all try to change thinking from "It's sad to be alone" to " it's good to be alone sometimes ". It's great time for heeling, for rethinking and for focusing on yourself. I think people should learn how to be alone and comfortable without relationship so they could make healthy another relationship. You made big steps ( I know how hard is for scorpio to deal with people who are hurting them and cut them off)

Don't think it's something wrong with you and that's why you are alone. It's not. This World is fucked in many ways. People's values has changed but you can still find people who will think like you and feel like you 🙂 Don't chase the love! It's always hidding when you chasing it.

I don’t mind being along I actually cut off the Virgo I was seeing because he played games but the solo vacation thing is a problem. I want somebody but the men I meet are not what I’m looking for so I end up leaving them and it takes a toll on me. I see so many people happy in marriage and relationships so I’m looking forward to the day I find my person again because I am waiting for them and need them so bad

Posted by Missscorpio30

I don’t know when it happened but right now I feel so unhappy with my life. Looking back on my marriage that failed and early life I feel like made nothing but mistakes. I look at other people’s life and they are so happy and well adjusted but I’m just barely hanging on emotionally. I just don’t know what happened. I use to feel happy I guess but not I just feel like I’m in a really bad situation and I’m not happy with anything. My looks have changed and now I have acne it’s just so hard for me to move on from this sadness. I look at woman with man who really love them and care for them and all I meet is users and emotionally unavailable men it’s so hard to think positive but my professional life is really amazing I just wish I felt like the total package again. I’m tired of being unhappy but I can’t stop thinking about all of the stuff I lost trying to be there for others. I just wished someone cared about me and wanted to see me do well. My birthday is coming up and I’m trying to plan a vacation which I am taking alone. I’m thinking Denver or San Juan but the point is I need a break, makeover and to relive this self imposed stress. I just feel like I’m drowning in plain sight and no one even cares or notices I’m so alone right now I’m really paying attention to my diet and health even more then ever but that’s really hard for me. I feel like I’m ruining myself and I want to stop. I cut off all negative relationships but now I’m alone. Have any Scorpios felt like this I’m turning 31 by the way

I'm not a scorpio sun (you asked if any "scorpios" felt like this) but I"ll tell you that it will get better. I'm a cancer/leo. If you want me to tell you about your natal chart, send your birthdate and if you have the time born I can shed even more details. First, when you look at women with men who really love them, you're only seeing what's being made public, not the compromises that ensue behind the scenes to get to that point. Don't fall for the perspective that they got it easy. Also, it could be the early stages of their relationship, before they really "dig in" to each other's overall personalities. Re: being there for people, I've heard this eadivde from a scorpio if that adds credibility, its nice if you're there for people, but afterwards, how does it make you feel? **If the case is that it doesn't leave you feeling good, then why are you doing it? Could also be attracting those users, just saying. Re: divorce, or any break up, what's bittersweet about any relationship is how they show us who we are and what really matters you know, what expectations we should keep of our significant other, and what expectations don't really matter as much and can be tossed overboard. Also, re: the users you're attracting, scorpios usually like people who live on the edge. People who live on the edge usually know are badboys. Badboys know how to get by, to have enough time to live on the edge--they know how to use people. Maybe use this time to figure out what matters to you in your thirties. What does this scorpio (you) need to evolve or transform. This could be knocking at your door right now and that's why you feel "changes".

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Posted by Missscorpio30

I don’t know when it happened but right now I feel so unhappy with my life. Looking back on my marriage that failed and early life I feel like made nothing but mistakes. I look at other people’s life and they are so happy and well adjusted but I’m just barely hanging on emotionally. I just don’t know what happened. I use to feel happy I guess but not I just feel like I’m in a really bad situation and I’m not happy with anything. My looks have changed and now I have acne it’s just so hard for me to move on from this sadness. I look at woman with man who really love them and care for them and all I meet is users and emotionally unavailable men it’s so hard to think positive but my professional life is really amazing I just wish I felt like the total package again. I’m tired of being unhappy but I can’t stop thinking about all of the stuff I lost trying to be there for others. I just wished someone cared about me and wanted to see me do well. My birthday is coming up and I’m trying to plan a vacation which I am taking alone. I’m thinking Denver or San Juan but the point is I need a break, makeover and to relive this self imposed stress. I just feel like I’m drowning in plain sight and no one even cares or notices I’m so alone right now I’m really paying attention to my diet and health even more then ever but that’s really hard for me. I feel like I’m ruining myself and I want to stop. I cut off all negative relationships but now I’m alone. Have any Scorpios felt like this I’m turning 31 by the way

I'm not a scorpio sun (you asked if any "scorpios" felt like this) but I"ll tell you that it will get better. I'm a cancer/leo. If you want me to tell you about your natal chart, send your birthdate and if you have the time born I can shed even more details. First, when you look at women with men who really love them, you're only seeing what's being made public, not the compromises that ensue behind the scenes to get to that point. Don't fall for the perspective that they got it easy. Also, it could be the early stages of their relationship, before they really "dig in" to each other's overall personalities. Re: being there for people, I've heard this eadivde from a scorpio if that adds credibility, its nice if you're there for people, but afterwards, how does it make you feel? **If the case is that it doesn't leave you feeling good, then why are you doing it? Could also be attracting those users, just saying. Re: divorce, or any break up, what's bittersweet about any relationship is how they show us who we are and what really matters you know, what expectations we should keep of our significant other, and what expectations don't really matter as much and can be tossed overboard. Also, re: the users you're attracting, scorpios usually like people who live on the edge. People who live on the edge usually know are badboys. Badboys know how to get by, to have enough time to live on the edge--they know how to use people. Maybe use this time to figure out what matters to you in your thirties. What does this scorpio (you) need to evolve or transform. This could be knocking at your door right now and that's why you feel "changes".

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But things will pick up and you will feel better.

Posted by Missscorpio30

Posted by IMightBeElle

I try to keep my life tidy and only put focus on career, family and relationships.

However, it is hard to keep even those balls in the air at the same time

When one falls....it usually falls hard and it is like a blow to the stomach.

Two of them fall.....and it is like the fucking apocalypse.

If all three fell at the same time, I would probably vaporize on impact.

Then you have the pesky self love and maintenance crap to deal with.....which other sun signs do a lot better with than scorpio.

It is good to practice saying no. People will vanish but that is a good thing.

You know the self care thing is real. I’m trying really hard to take proper care of myself and my surrounding even to point of hiring cleaners to clean I just don’t have the energy right now my focus is my career and school but my personal life sucks.

I’m okay with being on the right path but it’s killing me to feel like a failure. I’m crying all the time and I just want to do the right things so bad. It’s so sad I feel just burned out at this point I really don’t know what to do

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It's hard I think, to tell a scorpio not to feel like a failure because they hold themselves up to such high standards. You can't lower your standards, but you could make *certain* you're being realistic about your expectations of yourself. Like if career needed a lot of attn and maybe that took a toll on personal life, then it's people who couldn't help you ride out the tough periods and there are gonna be more tough periods to come so they're just not "equipped for the ride". Better to learn that now than later.