Scorpio women whon have dated Virgo Males.. help!

todays my first day on this forum and i hope it can help me in my quest in finding out more about the virgo male. i've read a few posts and you seem fairly knowledgable about the male virgo and scorpio female relationship. so i hope you can help! (the grammer and spellings a bit off, so please ignore)

i am or was seeing a virgo for about 2-3 months. although i dont know much about horescopes but from what i have read he your typical virgo.
he told me from the very begining that he wasnt looking for anything serious which i was ok with at the time. but i after a while i've developed more feelings for him. he talked alot about his previous girldfriends and opend up to me very quickly which iwas quite surprised with. but it felt good that he could trust me. it took me a little while longer to open up but i did tell him some personal stuff about myself. i dont really open up to new people very quickly thats just the way i am. i find it hard to talk about my feelings and stuff espcially to new people.

anyways, he talked about previous girls and the ones he was chatting to at the time. he's a bit on a player. it was weird at first but he used to tell me everything about these girls and was very open with things. it did hurt me but i thought it was important to him to chat about them so i listened. (i think thats why he initially liked me becuase i listened to him) we went out a few times but that was it. i used to see him at his place for a meal or just hang out. he was chatting to another girl last year and started chatting to her again a few weeks ago.he was really into her. he said to me that he saw her as 'partner material' she had good values and qualities. she's blown him off a few times and said shes not interested in him which really pissed him off. i listened to him rant on about her. i feel like he wants to keep me and play with other girls at the same time.

what really bugs me is that he used to say stuff like 'you'll be a good wife, lover' or 'mother'. it was like he was ticking a check list in his head, and my 'profile' seem to fit whatever he is looking for. but then he started chatting about other girls and i would get confused as to what he wanted and more intrigued and why he acted like this. we get along well. although he talks more than i do.!

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Also forgot to mention that having close friends is really important to him as he doesnt really have many and said from the begining that whatever happens he wants us to remain friends. despite him knowing how i feel about him, this morning he said he sees me as a friend. sometimes i feel like he's testing me which i dont like! (please note we have had an intimate relationship) the thing is i'm falling for this guy. i really want to keep seeing him becuasei think it turn into something real if he lets it. i want to be more than friends.

shed some light... part wisdom please😢

Virgo Male here 🙂

I can tell you this. BE FRIENDS and WE ARE HARD TO DATE..lol

He's going through the phase where he wants to be 100% correct in his decision. If you can just maintain patience it sounds like he's leaning more towards you. When dating or showing interest in a Virgo we give subtle indicators like...wife..lover...mother. Those are all qualities we look for in a woman because in most cases, once we get involved its for the long haul. I can't stress enough remain friends..you find out soooooo much more about a person that way. He's a Virgo and the attraction to you is there...no doubt. You have just got to be patient. Virgo's always look close to home for lover's because we often feel we can trust the person....you being a Scorpio is icing on the cake..he just doesn't know it yet 😉

VIRGO = PATIENCE (IT WILL PAY OFF)

thanks brianodom... i really need to know i'm doing the right thing by waiting.

its really confusing though... one minute he's asking me about kids and how many you want family and shit and then the next he's chatting about other girls. sometimes i think he's testing me.

the thing is said from the begining he didnt want anything serious and was very stright forward with me and chatted openly about other girls and stuff. as i wasnt looking for anything serious at the time. it was ok for me then. he even told me your the first girl who's ever wanted to listen to all his'shit' which i felt nice about.(that he could trust me and talk to me like that). i know he wants something serious becuase of the way he talks to me. its just that sometimes i cant open up to him (being a scorpio) and i think he finds that a frustrating.

Don't Fret.. We're so damn scary most of the times..we HATE taking risks especially with LOVE. Scorpios terrify us...you all have the power to break us down 'over time'....also beware the infamous "cold shoulder" will be lurking soon. Remember just be there for him..we love to see a woman who is down for the cause and once he sees that....he'll be yours. Gradually let him have space (so he can miss u) be very subtle in giving your feelings and complimenting him. Sooner or later he'll have you spilling your guts..lol

Virgo's/Scorpios almost always work because you have one who worries(Virgo's) and you have one who comforts(which you are doing)

Also one key thing is You will have to be aware of instances when he puts you in positions to prove your feelings-rather it be a night on the town or a picnic in the park. You won't be able to force ANYTHING with this man..who may come off as emotional-less at times. I think that's one of the reason's women love us is that we are so tough to crack. LOL

I know about this all too well. I'm doing it right now with a beautiful woman. LOL-->She doesn't know she has me because I'm still scoping out territory to make sure the terrain is right...all the while I remain so cool....she doesn't know what to think !

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Also forgot to mention that having close friends is really important to him as he doesnt really have many and said from the begining that whatever happens he wants us to remain friends. despite him knowing how i feel about him, this morning he said he sees me as a friend. sometimes i feel like he's testing me which i dont like! (please note we have had an intimate relationship) the thing is i'm falling for this guy. i really want to keep seeing him becuasei think it turn into something real if he lets it. i want to be more than friends.

shed some light... part wisdom please😢

Tread carefully. He's been honest about seeing you as a friend but he's also getting a little "something something" from you. Strategically, he's already getting the best of both worlds.

More often than night, being with a Virgo guy is a pain in the ass (*I* know as I'm a huge f'ing pain in the ass to be with lol).

How old is he?

scorpio_chick: thanks for the insight. but the problem is i've fallen for him! question: as a scorpio do you find it hard to open up to virgos or anyone new? i find it so hard. its like i shut down.

briandom: your killing me.... your doing this with another girl. harsh!!!! virgos are so direct and upfront about everything else so i dont understand why they cant say what they really feel about a girl! i wonna ring his neck... lol its like he gets too confused too easily. too many options for him. he has to go out test the field(he just chats/flirts with other girls.... he hasnt slept with anyone else he's really honest) and then he'll come back to me bitchin about them and me being the idiot i'm still there listening to him. i've told him that it hurts me when he chats about the other girls and he says he wants to be honest with me and open. wants to make a deep and strong friendship thats why he tells me about them. :S

so your advice is backing off. be his friend no matter what... the thing is i have fallen for him. but havent said anthing. so its gonna be really hard to have those feelings and not say anything.

Virgohero: he's 35... i'm treading very carfully now. i will remain friends (with no benifits!) i just dont understand the mixed messages....

thanks all

caribbeangold: hi. i wouldnt call him a kid. he's 35. but quite a few pple have told be to cut off all ties with him that he's playing me. i will be backing off for a while though see how things go.. will keep you updated🙂

I'm not doing the whole getting 'some' thing. I'm more along the lines of just sitting back playing the quiet role. She started off great and started with the up and down---on/off indecisive behavior that makes Virgo Men throw up the walls of china. I still care for her but with the way she acts I get scared that she may continue to do it. With this lad--CUT THE SEX OFF----> It does nothing but bring emotions that aren't needed. Like I said be his friend and If he wants you he'll come around...don't sweat it ^_^

caribbeangold: hi... i dont know what decn means but his bdy is in september.. (sorry not good with the astrology lingo)

scorpio chic: thats exactly how i am. i really didnt belive in horoscopes until i came across this site. its so weird how acurate they are.

brianodom: just out of curiosity are you seeing a scorpio?

i'm being his friend.. but it really really hard🙂