ScorpioFemale79
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Scorpios and Enemies
It is a tough one to answer. There are SO many factors. What the person did to me or what I witnessed. How severe the problem/issue was. How well and how long I knew them before all this happened. Also, what my feelings were before they went and did some dumb shit. If someone pisses me off enough and if it was dishonesty, I have no problem acting like someone doesn't exist.
Posted by PP
It is a tough one to answer. There are SO many factors. What the person did to me or what I witnessed. How severe the problem/issue was. How well and how long I knew them before all this happened. Also, what my feelings were before they went and did some dumb shit. If someone pisses me off enough and if it was dishonesty, I have no problem acting like someone doesn't exist.
We just have the same friends so I can never completely avoid them. But I just distanced myself so I wouldn't cause shit in the circle of friends. I just hate the fact that she thinks she's too good to live within her means. Me as someone who grew up in poverty and worked my way out of it it annoys me that she tries to live high end but yet us a cheap individual at the same time. I don't like how she's too good for the poor. Plus she's got dependency and neediness in terms of attention
Our mutual friends don't notice it because they aren't around her as much as she clings to me and a couple of other people
It's so much work disliking/avoiding her and I've tried getting over it or not let it be annoying but the Scorpio in me takes over
"but it just seems like so much work to just dislike someone or to avoid them."
Simple solution: Release them.
I understand that you believe your resentments against her are justified, but what you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them. You are only defining yourself as a person who feels the need to judge others. (cliche, I know. But it works) You mentioned that you feel annoyed by what they bring into your life. Well, if someone else is responsible for how you feel, that means you'd have to wait until they change for you to get better right? Which is unlikely to occur. Eliminating the blame means never appointing responsibility to anyone for what you're experiencing.
If someone says or acts in a certain way that you deem offensive.. instead of resolving to feel resentful, you can choose to impersonalize what you've experienced. Choosing to not give someone that unwelcome power is a way of validating that you have control over how you are going to feel. Think about every single person who has ever "wronged" you. Your experience of them is nothing more than a thought you carry around with you. All these feelings of annoyance are debilitating energies that will disempower you.
"I have a right to be upset because this person ______."
Try to avoid this kind of thinking.
Also, there are too many non-shitheads in the world. Surround yourself with people who bring light to your life. I hope you find swift resolution, so you can go back to feeling like your wonderful self. —
Simple solution: Release them.
I understand that you believe your resentments against her are justified, but what you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them. You are only defining yourself as a person who feels the need to judge others. (cliche, I know. But it works) You mentioned that you feel annoyed by what they bring into your life. Well, if someone else is responsible for how you feel, that means you'd have to wait until they change for you to get better right? Which is unlikely to occur. Eliminating the blame means never appointing responsibility to anyone for what you're experiencing.
If someone says or acts in a certain way that you deem offensive.. instead of resolving to feel resentful, you can choose to impersonalize what you've experienced. Choosing to not give someone that unwelcome power is a way of validating that you have control over how you are going to feel. Think about every single person who has ever "wronged" you. Your experience of them is nothing more than a thought you carry around with you. All these feelings of annoyance are debilitating energies that will disempower you.
"I have a right to be upset because this person ______."
Try to avoid this kind of thinking.
Also, there are too many non-shitheads in the world. Surround yourself with people who bring light to your life. I hope you find swift resolution, so you can go back to feeling like your wonderful self. —
Posted by miso
"but it just seems like so much work to just dislike someone or to avoid them."
Simple solution: Release them.
I understand that you believe your resentments against her are justified, but what you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them. You are only defining yourself as a person who feels the need to judge others. (cliche, I know. But it works) You mentioned that you feel annoyed by what they bring into your life. Well, if someone else is responsible for how you feel, that means you'd have to wait until they change for you to get better right? Which is unlikely to occur. Eliminating the blame means never appointing responsibility to anyone for what you're experiencing.
If someone says or acts in a certain way that you deem offensive.. instead of resolving to feel resentful, you can choose to impersonalize what you've experienced. Choosing to not give someone that unwelcome power is a way of validating that you have control over how you are going to feel. Think about every single person who has ever "wronged" you. Your experience of them is nothing more than a thought you carry around with you. All these feelings of annoyance are debilitating energies that will disempower you.
"I have a right to be upset because this person ______."
You are completely right, I just wish we didn't have the same circle of friends. I don't like hearing stuff she says and her constant neediness for attention and all this crap just annoys me over and over again. If i could go more than a couple of days without her yapping her crap then I'd slowly learn to get over it.
But no...but you are right. I can only control how I feel/think about something or someone.
Try to avoid this kind of thinking.
Also, there are too many non-shitheads in the world. Surround yourself with people who bring light to your life. I hope you find swift resolution, so you can go back to feeling like your wonderful self. —
damn site.
I said i agree. It's just im stuck being around her. We know the same poeple so i always run into her. I PURPOSELY don't look in her direction or go near her.
I think she wonders if something is wrong and im pretty sure other ppl notice.
I said i agree. It's just im stuck being around her. We know the same poeple so i always run into her. I PURPOSELY don't look in her direction or go near her.
I think she wonders if something is wrong and im pretty sure other ppl notice.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
damn site.
I said i agree. It's just im stuck being around her. We know the same poeple so i always run into her. I PURPOSELY don't look in her direction or go near her.
I think she wonders if something is wrong and im pretty sure other ppl notice.
S'okay. I found your other post in my wall of text 😉 You said you think she wonders if something is wrong- what this tells me is that you are secretly harboring bitterness and resentment towards her, all reasons completely unknown to her. From my point of view, there are three ways you could go about this:
1.) Continue to nurture your secret resentment towards her, and deal with the ramifications (annoyance, discomfort)
2.) Fully integrated honesty. (If you have any desire to look past how her behavior offends you, then approach her honestly about why you avoid her. Confront your feelings about her, to her)
3.) Release completely (as I described in my previous post).
I totally get that it's difficult for you to avoid her since you share a mutual circle of friends.. but my point is that once you choose to take control over how she affects your moods and emotions when you are around her, consequently ridding yourself of the negativity associated, it will make it much easier to bear simply being around her if that is something truly unavoidable for you. Because, pardon me, but you choose to not give a shit.
Are you willing to accept that she is who she is, and she does what she does, and choose to not let it offend you? (which obviously hinders your ability to have any semblance of a friendship with her). Based off of the information you offered, it also sounds to me like she isn't intentionally attacking you, or going out of her way to make you feel icky. You are almost unwittingly punishing her in your mind for making you feel a certain way, that she is not even aware of .. Simply because you disagree with how she behaves. That's not really fair though, is it? I mean, would you think that was justified behavior if you had knowledge someone was doing the same to you? Sometimes it's simply a matter of changing the way we think, and the people/situations we are spending our energies thinking about, change.
Miso ... it wasn't obvious to you that ScorpioFemale79 made this thread to have allies in perpetuating her bad feelings?
She's been posting in here for a while on the Pisces board, and not only does she accept these feelings ... she embraces them to hash over and over, ultimately - calling this energy to her by her thoughts of discord for this person.
You attempt to show her how to overcome ... whereas, she doesn't want to overcome, she wants people to agree with her in that she has a right to be pissed off.
She's been posting in here for a while on the Pisces board, and not only does she accept these feelings ... she embraces them to hash over and over, ultimately - calling this energy to her by her thoughts of discord for this person.
You attempt to show her how to overcome ... whereas, she doesn't want to overcome, she wants people to agree with her in that she has a right to be pissed off.
I just don't believe people should act like they are better than they are ESPECIALLY if they have nothing to bring to the table
I believe that one shouldn't force their wanting a friendship on you. If I don't want to be your friend then don't be upset. I mean as a Scorpio it takes a special person to call you my friend.
I'm sure while I saw her as an acquaintance she thought she was a friend. Just cause I talked to you or hung out with you once means nothing. Once she assumed friendship she followed me around. If there was a party she wanted to go where I went, she wanted to carpool to places if friends got together, she would only go hang out with the ppl we both knew if I was going. If u wasn't going them she didn't. It's annoying!
I believe that one shouldn't force their wanting a friendship on you. If I don't want to be your friend then don't be upset. I mean as a Scorpio it takes a special person to call you my friend.
I'm sure while I saw her as an acquaintance she thought she was a friend. Just cause I talked to you or hung out with you once means nothing. Once she assumed friendship she followed me around. If there was a party she wanted to go where I went, she wanted to carpool to places if friends got together, she would only go hang out with the ppl we both knew if I was going. If u wasn't going them she didn't. It's annoying!
Posted by Stinger Baby
it takes strong disrespect/ malice in order for someone to become my enemy. once you've reached that level with me, i will never have anything to do with you again. i know what you're about, i know you have no real concern for me - so no. i will never befriend you, or even waste time chit chatting with such a person. that's not to say i wont forgive - that is needed to move on from an experience. but i will keep as much distance as i possibly can from that person. i will change numbers and refuse any type of contact from that person. i dont care if that someone changed for the better. i still dont want him/her around me. go befriend someone else and use our negative experience as a life lesson. that's all you can do for me.
Same for me. Most occasions it takes multiple indiscretions for me to snap
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