Trust....

hello Scorpio's I was curious about how your trust works, My Scorpio was hurt to the point that it's like no matter what I do or say he still feel's he can't trust me, everyone around this man knows how much I love him and am dedicated to him but it's like he still has that shield.

He says things that make no sense, for example he came over last night but before he got here I wanted to look cute for him, I have this black top that is v-neck and somewhat the same in the back but it had a bit of lace but the lace had a hole in it so I decided to cut the lace out but the shirt still looked cute! I didn't put the lace in the trash because he showed up, so it was beside my bed with the scissors.

well after making love he see's it and picks it up and says what's this? I told him that I remember me wearing it before and he poked his finger in the hole that's how I knew it was there! so I decided to cut the lace off well he fires back saying, "so that's what you do when I'm not here is fuck other guys" like what?!?!? that's what his ex did to him (not the shirt thing but sleeping with other men) and it's like he still just can't get over it and punishes me for it!

To me cheating just makes no sense if you know you don't want to be with one person then remain single and do as you please! I also feel, why do something to someone that you know would hurt you? put yourself in that person's shoes and think about what your doing and if you'd like it! so I would NEVER cheat I would leave if I felt unsatisfied, I'm just curious how can I help him get over this?

Idk it's like if he can't trust he wont commit, and he feels that since his ex was like that he labels all women like that, he says the famous line "all women are the same" all because of what she did, he knows deep down that's not true but it's like him mind can't comprehend fully and he'll take little things and make it like I did something but it's usually when he's in a bad mood already that he says those stupid things!

@ elle I don't feel responsible just feel like I'm being punished for another woman's mistakes

How long have you been together?

When did he leave his ex?

How do you react when he 'interrogates/accuses' you?

Posted by His4lyfe10
@ elle I don't feel responsible just feel like I'm being punished for another woman's mistakes

you are. don't make it your issue. i would've laughed in his face had he said something as crass to me!! that's unreasonable behaviour imo.

Scorpios believe what they want, no one can change their thinking & you shouldn't put up with his bs! Either he respects you or leave his ass! I'm tired of "men" using their past experiences for their present behaviors..

Please get out of this situation hun...there's no "SAVING" things. Just Save yourself. Its not worth the headache..Nothing you DO or SAY will convince him otherwise.
He still has ALOOOOOT of healing to do. and it usually happens after they lose a GOOD one.

can i ask if his b-day is close to sag? i've found that the closer to the cusp they get, the more irrational their jealousy is.

@ scorpvenus- we've been together 9 months but have been talking for a little over 2 yr's he left his ex back in 09, and my reaction is to look at him crazy! and I just say "anyways", @R1g0rM0rT1s- he is Nov, 4th 1983 I'm Nov 24th 1984

Im nov 9 83 ive also been cheated on as well.... Advise you to just give him his space. You did all you can and now you wait. He will come to his sense. That your not like the rest.. just stop helping and do you, if he still crying over it. smack him to his sense! If that dont work.. He needs to grow up.

Don't ever appear weak/be rattled when he interrogates you.

Tell him firmly and just once that you did not cheat,will not cheat.

Let it sink in his head.

Posted by ScorpioChica
Scorpios believe what they want, no one can change their thinking ..

^This. Not many can change our minds when it is made up. Only People We Truely Respect &/Or Really Love!

"Idk it's like if he can't trust he wont commit"


So he won't commit to you. Tell us really all bullshit aside...is that the problem here?

once i have a perception of someone, its hard to shake that.

Thanks everyone @stingerbaby I get where your coming from trust me I've been cheated on by all of my ex's but that because I tend to be way too nice. @Letitbe it's not about the commitment at the moment because to me we haven't been together long enough for me to expect that and when a man has been hurt like she hurt him and is still trying to (with his kids) I wouldn't expect it to happen that fast, but he's seen my loyalty, when we were just friends and he broke his ankle I was there for him stayed in the hospital, through surgery, after surgery, and through recovery I never left his side! I'm still there for him when she does stupid shit to get under his skin I listen and only give me opinion when asked he confides in me, I just don't get why he does that every now and then and when he does a fight follows days later for no reason and he Ices me out (not completely).

His experiences have nothing to do with you, if he carries them with him then he'll have to take a personal journey on his own to get over his trust issues. Someday he will realize that everyone is not a cheater- and that the only way for him to ever find the love he looks for is to open his heart and mind to new people. The fact that he's carrying past insecurities into this new relationship isn't your fault- and there's nothing you can do. The only solution is really patience if you think you can put up with him doubting and feeling insecure