Scorpios and supportiveness

I was laid off today. In all my working life, I've never left a job involuntarily. This was a huge blow to my pride and ego to say nothing of my wallet! I have some prospects, but they'll take some time to percolate.

My Scorp is acting ... odd. Or, at least, odd for me. I called him and he immediately asked me what was wrong. I told him. I was on my way home, so I was a bit teary-eyed over it. I said what I had to say and felt better. When I got home, he was there waiting for me, which was a surprise since when I called him, he was at work. He held me for a while then took me into the bedroom and gave me the fucking of a lifetime. Then he went back to work. He called me a few times to check in, but each time he seemed to want to just talk about the great sex I had - not the fact that I no longer had a steady income for the moment or that I was summarily marched out of my former office like a felon after my boss delivered the news. He also, to me, seems detached. One of the things that seemed to attract him to me was the fact that I was a career woman. Now I have no career. I asked him when I came home if he still loved me because I feel like a loser not having a job and I am scared. For a Taurus, security is everything and I don't have it anymore at the moment. He jokingly said no, then said "Of course I still love you." But for some reason, I don't believe it.

I know he doesn't want me to wallow; I don't either. But I feel, I dunno, like in losing this job, I lost his respect somehow. It wasn't my fault, but Scorpio men aren't the most logical of creatures, I suppose. I am very down and depressed right now. I do believe everything happens for a reason, but I am scared that I am going to lose him, too, and I have no way to talk to him about it. I mean, I have no idea why I feel this way except that the rug was pulld out from under me in a big way today and nothing seems solid.

get used to it lol mine is similar. if there is anything like that happens he's "acts weird" too. if there is something major they have no control over or can help you directly then they'll behave like children. mine once said that he won't go into a delivery room when a baby is born. he'll think of himself 1st and how he'll react to you loosing your job. it's always about them 1st. in his way he's being supportive by being there for you physically and calling you. if you expect him to buy you "get well" cards and ballons and bring you flowers - forget it lol

ah scorpio men. yeah they do that. you kind of have to live with it or lose it, pretty much. i can deal with it, maybe because i'm a scorpio. but i understand what you're saying too...when you're feeling down and they aren't exactly the ones to sympathize and be all 'awww', it can be a bother. I think it just gets better though, when you actually think about it. It's hard not to react on emotion, so talk it out with someone else. at least that's what helps me.

''This was a huge blow to my pride and ego to say nothing of my wallet''

The key words here are pride and ego.

Your Scorpio KNOWS that your pride was hurt. If your feelings were hurt by someone or something that didnt involve your pride - he may have been more sympathetic.

As a Scorpio, I wouldnt really be bothered about spending too much time comforting you as it was your pride/ego that was hurt. To whimper and cry over your pride being hurt is a huge turn OFF.

If he really loved you and cared, he would have stayed with you and LISTENED attentively to what was bothering you.

He slept with you and left you. You can paint it whatever colour you want - but it remains a fact thats what he did. He isnt in love with you and Im sure he gets irritated with your whining.

Scorpionsting, err, did you read my post? He left work to come comfort me. As he is a firefighter on call, he could've been written up for that, but he told his captain it was an emergency. Also, I did say this in my first post:

"I was on my way home, so I was a bit teary-eyed over it. I said what I had to say and felt better."

As in, I talked to him on almost the entire way home, 45 minutes, wherein he listened to what I had to say and let me get it out. Also, we LIVE together, so he came home and we talked some more about what this was going to mean for us, what we were going to do, and he cheered me up by planning an afternoon out today.

You seem ... harsh. Granted, you didn't have the entire information and probably have not read my previous posts that mention how he and I are engaged. But for you to reach whatever conclusion you did from just my one post points to a lot of bitterness in you, which is unfortunate since you're so young.

Thanks to everyone else for the kind words.

so are you job hunting now?
a jobless taurus is not a pretty sight... Hope you remember that not everyone will feel the same about a job loss than capricorn or taurus.... it's tougher on those two signs as far as I've observed. It's up to you to tap into your self-worth and bring out the best to help you... have no expectations of anyone, whether you're dating or not... it will be hard for anyone else to feel what you do, hence they will react different.

Take it easy.

''Scorpionsting, err, did you read my post? He left work to come comfort me.''


No - he came home to have sex with you to shut you up probably. lol

Just tone it down on the whining and he may take you more seriously.

I'm not a whiner by nature. Maybe it's a sign thing. Zenalchemy is right about Tauruses and our jobs - not sure about Caps, as I don't know many. My career in many respects is my identity. I grew up poor and worked my way through school and acheived a high level career as a result. To have it just be ... gone, is a shock. I don't want to wallow in self-pity, however, and maybe he is being quiet to avoid me doing so. I do notice that my Cancerian mother and uncle, both of whom I'm very close to, have begun the pity party for me, and that makes me uneasy. I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I want to vent and get it over with, probably that's the Aries influence in me. But Scorpion Sting, I will keep in mind that what might seem like venting to me may seem like "whining" to him. I had not considered that.

Zen, I applied for UC and sent out several resumes within hours of having "the talk" with my boss. I'm also making some calls. The long and short of it is, though, that my career - publishing - is being hard hit by this economic crisis and it might never recover. May be time for me to think outside the box some.

ab: as you can read from here a scorp is never wrong and whatever they do is always right. btw: they allowed to whine and be crabby but they're not going to like when you do that with them. imo: he was there for you & comforted u the way he could. he left work 4 u & listened. there is nothing else he could really do. i know it's annoying to hear but i'm going through the same thing with work.

To be honest, we don't actually know how to react when something like that happens..we just don't know what to say so being goofy is the best option..well at least it is for me..I just don't do the comforting thing..The most you'll get out of me is "honey, it will be fine, you'll find something real soon"..that's it..after that you wallow alone..

Being goofy and playful is probably his way of saying he's there for you blah blah..

To be honest, we don't actually know how to react when something like that happens..we just don't know what to say so being goofy is the best option

i forgot to add this. very trueeee.

my friends will talk to me about things because i'm trustworthy. but i'm seriously not good with that kind of thing, i sympathize but i don't know what to say.

Scorpio men are very sensual creatures. They find it difficult communicating with words, I have found. He was comforting you in a way that was easiest for him and where he had control over the situation, through sex.
Why would he suddenly dislike you because you have lost your job? why would he fall out of love with you for that? crazy. Is this because Taureans are quite career driven that you would have this insecurity.
The economy is not good atm, many people are being laid off. It is affecting numerous people, no matter what sign you are.

Tough it out and be motivated to look for another job.

ok so scorpion sting, out of curiousity, what would you advise AnnBarrett if she was the scorp and him the taurus?

But Scorpion Sting, I will keep in mind that what might seem like venting to me may seem like "whining" to him. I had not considered that.

have no expectations as you have seen he doesn't know how to react --- the cancer you know is reacting the way they know how too. It's up to you to not project --- but it's a 2 way thing, the people around you are treating you they way they would like to be treated instead of treating you like you would like 🙂 we always think people want to be treated the way we would like to be...
Tauruses are not too emotional so a water sign might think you're whining... your first post sounds reasonable but the only thing I see is you need to be secure with yourself even without the job as identity but that's easy for me to say as I'm not Taurus... Taurus needs this -- steady job & incoming funds to be secure...

You gotta get yourself better by getting busy --- which you're doing it seems --- the economic problems are horrible going around, so looking out of your field's a good idea. freelance? ghostwriting? really know nothing about that field... good luck though.

they allowed to whine and be crabby but they're not going to like when you do that with them.
lol - this goes for most - woe-betide you if you don't sympathise how they expect you

Yes that is very true..we are pretty self-centred bunch..I don't really see anything wrong with that..as you are looking out for number 1..That's why the saying "do as I say, not as I do" was made for Scorpios..LOL..

Being harsh is our way of pushing you to achieve more..strive for betterment in your lives..softly softly approach soo not for me..but we expect you to be nice back when we are feeling like crap..but not too nice..not I want to kiss your ass nice cos that just gets on my tits..oh and if you are harsh back to us and we'll probably kick the shit out of you.

If he came to comfort you, to be sensitive to you when you need him to .... then I'm unclear how you are equating him and his treatment of you with your ex-employer and their treatment of you.

You lose job .. so fear relationship issues .. that aren't even relevant?


Sorry can't help you .. I don't even get the problem .. except you are displacing your feelings of one event onto another. But, I only read the OP, so perhaps you clarified why you would transfer feelings from one to another without justification.

You lose job .. so fear relationship issues .. that aren't even relevant?


she identifies part of her worth with having a job >>> part of the reason she thinks he like her is her career woman status >>> now no career, will he feel different? --- that's my take.

scorps aren't really great at sympathy on the whole. i think it's perfectly ok to wallow in it for a bit cos it is shit when you get laid off. i lost my job just before christmas but some of the people had been there for years. unemployment in spain is nearly at 19% and the government are offering free repatriation to all nationality ex pats just to try and clear up the problem.

i was gutted to the core but after a few days i got a grip on things.

i think the problem in your situation is that your scorp has expressed their token sympathy which is really all we are good for and now he is expecting you to brush yourself down and keep moving. and you know you can do it 🙂

I agree with Rox. Hey girl where you been?

Scorp men can be very supportive but in their own way. Him leaving work to comfort you was very supportive in my eyes. If a scorp loves you they love you career woman or not. Period!

QS: you are the finest 78 year old i've ever seen 😉

actually, spain has had really terrible weather these last few weeks.

question: Why is the term global WARMING when it just seems to be getting COLDER—

mind you, the sea is awesome right now.

Trust me losing your job has no connection as strong as the bonds scorpio creates with someone he wants to be with. And anyone who knows a scorpio knows they are all about whats and desires.

Wants and Desires i mean And i gotta agree with the do as i say not as i do but i thing that applies to all water signs.

"Him leaving work to comfort you was very supportive in my eyes. If a scorp loves you they love you career woman or not. Period!"

I thought it was supportive as well but different people need different things. So I think he did what he thought was supportive. It seems like you needed him to speak more about the job situation with you, some people like myself, wouldn't want to speak about it right after it happened. He has to get to know you better, so he can be a better support next time maybe.

well, i just wanted to cry and feel sorry for myself and did exactly that for a few hours. then my aries/scorp rising daughter came into my room and gave me a good talking to (age 9) and afterwards, i felt ok again.

i personally think that other peoples' sympathy can perpetuate the misery.