VirgoLaydee
@VirgoLaydee
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Scorpio's Get over their Ex's quickly?
well i supported us, he didnt feel like a man apparently. i was faithful he felt terrible in the end as he wasnt in the end and i always kept my word. i took care of him, the kids, the house, business. and even fought for him in the end.
a few months back he came back .. last month actually ... and said we should have done this and a lil more of that (I would take him out and get his biz supplies and etc) but then he was wanting to try and do that some more and be a family.
he was trying to do family outtings but i never wanted to go. i told him go do his thing with the kids, ill do my thing with them but there'sno need to go be together. he tried holding me one of the last times he stopped by.
I hate it. he lied to me about his mistress dying and turns out she's fine. he tried to come back 5 months ago too but as soon as i said no he ran back to her. as i said unless she's out of the pic he's never coming back. so he seems to be jumping from vine to vine, which doesnt fit well for me so i moved on.
he continues to go back and forth trying to pry the door open. but he'll never tell me straight up whats up.
he'll never show his feelings though i have noticed his jealousy which ive never seen before.
so weeks will go by where he's fine and ignore me then he'll come back and be trying to get with me.
But wont fully admit it. telling me he's not happy with her and he was happier with me. etc. i havent told him i wanted him back at all. i have told him i noticed his pattern of wanting what he cant have. when he left the first time, he came back when he noticed i was dating someone who treated me well... broke up with him, jumped right in and wouldnt go away until i finally agreed to go out with him again. got burned twice. not doing it again. i have a feeling he aint gonna change. at least not for a very veryyyy long time.
a few months back he came back .. last month actually ... and said we should have done this and a lil more of that (I would take him out and get his biz supplies and etc) but then he was wanting to try and do that some more and be a family.
he was trying to do family outtings but i never wanted to go. i told him go do his thing with the kids, ill do my thing with them but there'sno need to go be together. he tried holding me one of the last times he stopped by.
I hate it. he lied to me about his mistress dying and turns out she's fine. he tried to come back 5 months ago too but as soon as i said no he ran back to her. as i said unless she's out of the pic he's never coming back. so he seems to be jumping from vine to vine, which doesnt fit well for me so i moved on.
he continues to go back and forth trying to pry the door open. but he'll never tell me straight up whats up.
he'll never show his feelings though i have noticed his jealousy which ive never seen before.
so weeks will go by where he's fine and ignore me then he'll come back and be trying to get with me.
But wont fully admit it. telling me he's not happy with her and he was happier with me. etc. i havent told him i wanted him back at all. i have told him i noticed his pattern of wanting what he cant have. when he left the first time, he came back when he noticed i was dating someone who treated me well... broke up with him, jumped right in and wouldnt go away until i finally agreed to go out with him again. got burned twice. not doing it again. i have a feeling he aint gonna change. at least not for a very veryyyy long time.
Posted by QuietSt0rm
It depends on how they treat me. If they were good to me, obviously it would be difficult to let go. If they treated me wrong, cheated on me or disrespected me at all, it's nothing. Give me a month or two and a rebound and I'm over it.
With the decent ones, never. Not completely.
oh wow. ive never truly seen him hate anyone. possibly because of his mom (Cancer) who was hurt lots and continued to love them as people regardless. where as with me. once your gone your gone. i know i think he always resented the guy i dated
after him who i was pre-engeged to and treated me so well. cuz he saw the way i was with him even after we broke up
we were still the best of friends until we couldnt be around each other cuz too much chemistry was too much for us but we knew it would never work. so in the end my scorp ex (the one before was a virgo like me) - threw in "why dont you go back to __ since he was so great" (I hadnt spoken to him in years) , of course by chance 6 months later i bump into him and he starts coing around. scorp ex is shocked i just pointed out .. well you DID tell me.... can't get mad when you suggested it!
but again as a friend my virgo ex is awesome he was an awesome bf but boy did he have a temper and i knew history would just repeat itself so again i had to stop talking to him for good. but he treated both my kids wonderfully. which made my scorp ex want to take the kids out more so he didnt loose them to the one who did step up and was taking on his responsabilities instead.
i know lots of people who've one way or another truly screwed him over. but not once have i heard him say anything bad towards them. (yet me who he claimed to love at one point he just always shut me down and made me feel as if i was last on every list as even strangers were more important) but he seems to fall easily for the "im a victim" card that some play and he takes their side.
For me im a big people person who i keep in touch with almost everyone i meet. but for relationships its easier for me to move on if they're not in the picture at all instead of back and forth being friends then trying to work things out, then me saying no, then them turning cold on me cuz i dont do as they want. way too much for my emotions. which i told him but as usual... the boy dont listen to anything i say.
for those who did him wrong, ive seen him say hi to them, but prefers to just avoid them.
then again for years i never knew he had jealousy in him until i saw it when he threw my ex who i hadnt mentioned or anything in yrs. and then of course when i started dating and he stumbled in here when i was talking to them on msn with
"he not that great".. never said he was ... O_O
so i started being horrible to him to make him go away which i do feel
after him who i was pre-engeged to and treated me so well. cuz he saw the way i was with him even after we broke up
we were still the best of friends until we couldnt be around each other cuz too much chemistry was too much for us but we knew it would never work. so in the end my scorp ex (the one before was a virgo like me) - threw in "why dont you go back to __ since he was so great" (I hadnt spoken to him in years) , of course by chance 6 months later i bump into him and he starts coing around. scorp ex is shocked i just pointed out .. well you DID tell me.... can't get mad when you suggested it!
but again as a friend my virgo ex is awesome he was an awesome bf but boy did he have a temper and i knew history would just repeat itself so again i had to stop talking to him for good. but he treated both my kids wonderfully. which made my scorp ex want to take the kids out more so he didnt loose them to the one who did step up and was taking on his responsabilities instead.
i know lots of people who've one way or another truly screwed him over. but not once have i heard him say anything bad towards them. (yet me who he claimed to love at one point he just always shut me down and made me feel as if i was last on every list as even strangers were more important) but he seems to fall easily for the "im a victim" card that some play and he takes their side.
For me im a big people person who i keep in touch with almost everyone i meet. but for relationships its easier for me to move on if they're not in the picture at all instead of back and forth being friends then trying to work things out, then me saying no, then them turning cold on me cuz i dont do as they want. way too much for my emotions. which i told him but as usual... the boy dont listen to anything i say.
for those who did him wrong, ive seen him say hi to them, but prefers to just avoid them.
then again for years i never knew he had jealousy in him until i saw it when he threw my ex who i hadnt mentioned or anything in yrs. and then of course when i started dating and he stumbled in here when i was talking to them on msn with
"he not that great".. never said he was ... O_O
so i started being horrible to him to make him go away which i do feel
whoops message cut off .. which i do feel bad about cuz u know how emotional he does get, though he rarely shows it.
but i cant take anymore of this in and out-ness of his and would prefer to move on ... if he ever lets me!
but i cant take anymore of this in and out-ness of his and would prefer to move on ... if he ever lets me!
What is it you want?
The title and beginning describe a want in knowing how long it will be before leaves you alone by getting over you .....
Then the middle makes clear claim that you are not only hard to get over by men, you also work at making it hard to ignore you .....
Then three quarters of the way through you leave the suggestion in the readers mind that you want him to change so you can be with him .....
Then you end by showing us how you fuck with his head for reason being: he won't let you live
So, I'm confused as to what you want here ... do you want his sorry ass? Or do you want his wonderful ass to go away?
The title and beginning describe a want in knowing how long it will be before leaves you alone by getting over you .....
Then the middle makes clear claim that you are not only hard to get over by men, you also work at making it hard to ignore you .....
Then three quarters of the way through you leave the suggestion in the readers mind that you want him to change so you can be with him .....
Then you end by showing us how you fuck with his head for reason being: he won't let you live
So, I'm confused as to what you want here ... do you want his sorry ass? Or do you want his wonderful ass to go away?
Although, I must admit, you wouldn't be alone.
Seems all women come in here ... wanting his sorry ass for herself .. then when she realizes he has a sorry ass, she sends him away ... then once he's aways, she believes he is wonderful ... so, she gets him back, she wants his sorry ass, until she realizes he's a sorry ass ... then she sends him away ... then she misses him because he is so wonderful and an awesome catch, why did she ever send him away ... she gets him back, his sorry ass and all because she misjudged him ... then she realizes he's a sorry ass .......
the rinse, wash, repeat .... appears to be indefinite .. the only thing that changes is the shampoo and creme rinse .... repeat
Seems all women come in here ... wanting his sorry ass for herself .. then when she realizes he has a sorry ass, she sends him away ... then once he's aways, she believes he is wonderful ... so, she gets him back, she wants his sorry ass, until she realizes he's a sorry ass ... then she sends him away ... then she misses him because he is so wonderful and an awesome catch, why did she ever send him away ... she gets him back, his sorry ass and all because she misjudged him ... then she realizes he's a sorry ass .......
the rinse, wash, repeat .... appears to be indefinite .. the only thing that changes is the shampoo and creme rinse .... repeat
No the thing is. I Have to see him as we have kids together.
So he's been taking the kids out which is fine. and he'll be fine when he'll be around.
but every now and then he comes around with the same - i think we should work it out thing.
or the - do you want me thing.
When he talks to me about anything else its fine. but he starts getting into that.
he just gets me so angry that i feel like knocking him out for what he did to the kids.
he use to be a great father but now he ignores them. he fought to have tehm 3 days a week
i said fine. he showed up once. and then took off.
he said he wanted them on weekends i said fine we'll do that. he did it for two weeks then took off again.
and that just messes the kids up. he tries to play nice so he wont have to pay child support
kept promising he'd pay this or that next week or the week after. it never happened.
the thing i want changed in him is the fact that when he says he'll do something, he'll do it.
For the kids i know my youngest one is fine without him. my oldest has a stronger attachment and does better
when he's a part of her life. so for her sake as a father, id want him to step up and be the father to them he use
to be.
As for him and me. He broke trust, was disloyal and dishonest. and without those a relationship. I did try for the first six months after to try to work on things, but when i realized he didnt want to, i let it go and told him, i did give him a chance but now im closing the door. and i said if you wanna see the kids fine, but dont ask me to go off and pretend like we're a big happy family. because i did go once. and it was fine until he tried doing "mommy daddy" things and im like no, now your just confusing the kids. because they were ok with having two homes, but now my oldest one is asking when we're all moving back in together with "daddy" as apparently she overheard him saying to me "when WE move"
and i said "who's we?" and he said "me you and the kids when we move back in together" in which i said. i dont know what gave you that idea but im not moving in with you.
as i did go on dates with others, i did realize tehre are others who do get it.
but im not one of those who changes my kids father with each diff person i date. my girlfriend did that and it rally messed up her daughter who's a year older than my oldest. so if they can at least have the stability of both mom and dad being there for them, though not for each other, then thats fine. but w
So he's been taking the kids out which is fine. and he'll be fine when he'll be around.
but every now and then he comes around with the same - i think we should work it out thing.
or the - do you want me thing.
When he talks to me about anything else its fine. but he starts getting into that.
he just gets me so angry that i feel like knocking him out for what he did to the kids.
he use to be a great father but now he ignores them. he fought to have tehm 3 days a week
i said fine. he showed up once. and then took off.
he said he wanted them on weekends i said fine we'll do that. he did it for two weeks then took off again.
and that just messes the kids up. he tries to play nice so he wont have to pay child support
kept promising he'd pay this or that next week or the week after. it never happened.
the thing i want changed in him is the fact that when he says he'll do something, he'll do it.
For the kids i know my youngest one is fine without him. my oldest has a stronger attachment and does better
when he's a part of her life. so for her sake as a father, id want him to step up and be the father to them he use
to be.
As for him and me. He broke trust, was disloyal and dishonest. and without those a relationship. I did try for the first six months after to try to work on things, but when i realized he didnt want to, i let it go and told him, i did give him a chance but now im closing the door. and i said if you wanna see the kids fine, but dont ask me to go off and pretend like we're a big happy family. because i did go once. and it was fine until he tried doing "mommy daddy" things and im like no, now your just confusing the kids. because they were ok with having two homes, but now my oldest one is asking when we're all moving back in together with "daddy" as apparently she overheard him saying to me "when WE move"
and i said "who's we?" and he said "me you and the kids when we move back in together" in which i said. i dont know what gave you that idea but im not moving in with you.
as i did go on dates with others, i did realize tehre are others who do get it.
but im not one of those who changes my kids father with each diff person i date. my girlfriend did that and it rally messed up her daughter who's a year older than my oldest. so if they can at least have the stability of both mom and dad being there for them, though not for each other, then thats fine. but w
him saying he'll come by to get the kids and not show up. as he was doing that before.
so i just stopped letting them know he was coming by. so when he did show up
it was a good surprise instead of having them expect him only to be dissappointed with "why didnt daddy come?
you said he was coming to get us? why isnt he here? its taking a long time" kind of thing.
so i just stopped letting them know he was coming by. so when he did show up
it was a good surprise instead of having them expect him only to be dissappointed with "why didnt daddy come?
you said he was coming to get us? why isnt he here? its taking a long time" kind of thing.
Vld, do what brings you peace and pray for him when the spirit moves you. Sounds like he needs therapy and true tough love. Don't feel sorry for him.
He is your children's father, so let them decide how they want to spend their time with him. Believe me, they will make a decision -- sooner or later. Just remain open, because they may lash out against you when really they should be doing that to him. It's only because you are always "there" for them, not because they are angry at you. It will not always be easy, but keep that basic understanding in mind. You are not responsible for how he treats HIS OWN children, HE is. Caps not added as emotion, but as reality. Hopefully, one day he will grow up and face his responsibility without always blaming others for his own lack of maturity and accountability. It may never happen, however, without an act of God.
He is your children's father, so let them decide how they want to spend their time with him. Believe me, they will make a decision -- sooner or later. Just remain open, because they may lash out against you when really they should be doing that to him. It's only because you are always "there" for them, not because they are angry at you. It will not always be easy, but keep that basic understanding in mind. You are not responsible for how he treats HIS OWN children, HE is. Caps not added as emotion, but as reality. Hopefully, one day he will grow up and face his responsibility without always blaming others for his own lack of maturity and accountability. It may never happen, however, without an act of God.
everybody lies
Thank you all for your advice. i did find out that it wasnt him who texted me that he never had feelings and how it was over. it was his Capricorn Mistress. though he's still playing difficult and not co-operating with legal divorce filings - he says he left her when he found out she was texting me ... but he's left before and went back. which. im just glad im not the one dealing with the arguments and back and forths anymore.
But yeah the one thing i was worried about is one day the kids looking at me and blaming me for his leaving. (so far the kids have been great and been real supportive and not been acting out - but one never knows!)
he tells me he did have a dream about how the children felt and how much pain he felt so he wanted
to be around more. hopefullly that effect lasts and its not another one of his short term babbles that eventually
goes away..
thank you all again for taking the time out to answer that question. =]
But yeah the one thing i was worried about is one day the kids looking at me and blaming me for his leaving. (so far the kids have been great and been real supportive and not been acting out - but one never knows!)
he tells me he did have a dream about how the children felt and how much pain he felt so he wanted
to be around more. hopefullly that effect lasts and its not another one of his short term babbles that eventually
goes away..
thank you all again for taking the time out to answer that question. =]
Posted by VirgoLaydee
Thank you all for your advice. i did find out that it wasnt him who texted me that he never had feelings and how it was over. it was his Capricorn Mistress. though he's still playing difficult and not co-operating with legal divorce filings - he says he left her when he found out she was texting me ... but he's left before and went back. which. im just glad im not the one dealing with the arguments and back and forths anymore.
But yeah the one thing i was worried about is one day the kids looking at me and blaming me for his leaving. (so far the kids have been great and been real supportive and not been acting out - but one never knows!)
he tells me he did have a dream about how the children felt and how much pain he felt so he wanted
to be around more. hopefullly that effect lasts and its not another one of his short term babbles that eventually
goes away..
thank you all again for taking the time out to answer that question. =]
Virgo, I'm glad to hear this. He just sounds so needy, and so does the cappy mistress. I'm glad you are moving on with your life and your children are trying to take the high road of a healthy attitude. I think they feel stable and that is so important. Keep up the good work!
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