Scorpio's - Living in darkness and liking it?

I have a question for you Scorpio's.

First thing I have been on this board for a while and have posted a lot about a Scorpio I can't seem to let go of. We are so different it's insane. We have been talking on and off for about two years and it's been turbulent.

What I would like to know is this: Why is it when Scorpio's come around they like to be the bringer of bad news? Do you always persist in that dark place? Some of us are cheery and like to make others laugh. The gloom and doom (lightning included) tends to leave me soaked and sour.

Just yesterday I was having a good time puttering around at work and here comes Stinger McPoisonpants and literally turns my day upside down. In the middle of our conversation (we were chatting through MSN) where I was being my funny Gemini sunny sunshine ha ha let's laugh and crap, does a complete Jeckyl and Hyde on me and said something along the lines of this: "So I have a question to ask you and I think you'll get upset."

Really? I stop and I am like thinking to myself "Oh here we go...Always with the "seriousness" Can't this guy ever have fun?"

I told him once that this phrase totally suited him: "I had fun once, and it was awful." *Sigh*

Anyways, so he proceeds to think up the most asinine thing ever. About how I don't like him cause x, y, z hasn't happened in this amount of days. Really? REALLY? You question MY feelings for you, even after all that we have been through? And let me make this very clear to all you readers. I have been there for this guy through some very, very tough times (for him). He's been nothing but a debbie downer, well since always. He is everything I am not IE: facts, work, serious face all the time 247. I am the exact opposite.

So why is it you Scorpio's brood so much? What is there to be so damn morose about?

Oh and one more thing.

I saw a lot of posts about how Scorpio's and Gemini's seem to make a decent pair.
What? Since when? What the frick? I am like how the heck do we compromise?

Oh I do too. I get along great with pretty much everyone, but Scorpio seems rather intense for me. I love it don't get me wrong I just have no idea how to handle it correctly. And I loooove night time. I have that too. I am two minds about everything. It's just relationship wise I am not sure about them.

And just to rephrase I meant metaphorically, not literally on the "darkness" terms.

Ok, as a scorp...when we first start dating you, its important to build habits you can maintain. By habits I mean..If he does something to make you feel loved and everytime you feel loved...You need to rub his stomach 3 times, do 2 jumping jacks and yell merry christmas...And this doesn't continue (we can deal with short term lapses..we know shit happens and we all have a numbers of days..weeks or months we'll wait and watch to see if you bounce back before we say it...)And after something serious...something that may drop his confidence or something...we're going to be looking for those signs even closer. Basically...we'll figure out what happens when you feel a certain way and if those habits change in anyway...We'll start to feel some type of way and from there..sort of a snowball effect where either you will get through it split or watever is necessary for the given situation...SCORPIOS DON'T VALUE ACTIONS...YOU DOING NICE STUFF IS APPRECIATED BUT ITS NOT A FIX ALL BECAUSE OUR THOUGHT PROCESS IS THAT WE'D DO IT FOR YOU BECAUSE THAT'S WHATS EXPECTED OF US...WHAT WE LOOK FOR IS HOW YOU'RE ACTING AFTER YOU DONE THE DEED...And you stopping watever you did may be making him feel like you regret helping him...Cause again...he noticed that after he got help from you...You Rubbing his stomach, doing 2 jumping jacks and yelling Merry Christmas has slowed down or stopped..I hope you get where i'm going with this...LOL Sorry for typos..Boss is coming smmfh.

I understand, it's just sometimes really hard for me to be there for someone who is so negative and just mean to me a lot. I can't find the line between ok he's a Scorpio and they just are closed off and what is actually being rude and mean. I'm starting to think that most are just mean people. I know I am wrong for saying it, but I just can't tell anymore.

Dude must be depressed..I'm not saying we're all sunshine n rainbows but we're not doom and gloom either..we're realist. We won't make things seem better than they are nor will we make it seem like things are the end of the world..your guy is going through something...

I know there is a fine line between being a realist and a pessimist. I should know. *Laughs*
But I understand. Maybe you're onto something you know?

Hi Rock. Thank you for replying.

Well right now I am feeling pretty down because he has made some demands about how I don't listen and a myriad of things. So I am trying to be agreeable seeing anything I say or do it's like walking on eggshells. I feel he is blaming me for a lot of things and his love is greater than mine.

I am not sure if this will continue on or not but I am unhappy. We are from two different worlds. Again that does not make him a bad person I just cannot get through to him or speak his language. He is very sensitive and I guess I just don't have the emotions he wants so desperately yet gives me none of his.

We have had a history of turbulence and honestly I do take some part of it and I am responsible for a lot of different things, but it's always been him dumping me and turning his back on me.

Id really like to have a good feeling about Scorpio's but lately I am just really down about it.

I'm going through an walk on eggshells situation as well with my virgo. Lately...I've been getting on her for how she says shit..Yesterday, she woke up with an issue...so i'm like whats wrong. She refused to say and we tried to move past it but the attitude kept seeping out so I was like F it..you gotta tell me whats good cause I'm not about to get yelled at over nothing...Now, cash is a lil low which she is aware of...so when she spews out her issues, at the end...she throws in and you can't help so now what. Now all the way until that last part..I was thinking of solutions I had for her..I even had access to enough money to make things a bit more comfortable...Anyhow, after that, I was like F it then..you figure it out and I used the bread on something else...Later on, she's like I should have known this and that and just be there and all this crap but i'm not in the habit of getting yelled at and then trun around and go above and beyond for you...I just cant do it. We had a little argument about it..her point, I needed to still be there..My point she needed to be nicer about trying to get me to do things for her. Then this morning, we speak again..she's like how'd ya sleep..i'm like bad, I didn't get any @ $ $ so she's like Well, if you want some...you need to come over on yo lunch break cause i'm going out tonight if not...yo bad (she actually said My Bad)something about the if not..yo bad statement rubbed me wrong so I basically told her to keep her vagina today...I'm not trying fit into no hour window. In both cases...things would have been fine if it weren't for those last few words of each sentence...maybe i'm crazy too but that crap bothered me. Specially the second one..felt like a ultimatum and I hate those..

Ha....told ya i'm good wiht Gemi's 😄 Lol

Now if I could only get this spelling thing down..i'm set -____- *With*

Rock,

So I read over what you said and this sounds really accurate. I am going to back off a lot. I've heard from my other Scorpio friends that backing off and making them wonder is when they come for you. I know that all Scorpio's need alone time, so Ill just give him that. But if I mention giving him alone time he goes ape shit. So I suppose Ill do it carefully.

The part over "that a really great girl doesn't love me by the little things they do or don't do" OMG! Sooooo true with him.

Pretty much everything you said is spot on, especially me leaving him is his worst nightmare. I just think its really hypocritical how someone will do that to another and think of no consequences but if you do that to a Scorpio they will drag you down to the different levels of hell poking you with their stinger the whole way. Dish it out and can't take it? Pretty much.

I cannot tell you how many times he's dumped me and ran off and of course I am a dumb ass coming after him like WTF! He's like yeah but I thought about you the whole time. Yeah right. It's like oh if you really cared you wouldn't have dumped me like 12 times in our span, not even to say sorry. And it was really stupid things like I'd do what he would and push him around and be like "You better not be doing this or that" and he dumps me for the SAME THING HE DOES! Im like seriously?

Gah!!!

FML! Honestly I am not sure I want to just leave him like that. Id like things to work out but I have no idea how to speak to him Rock. Like at all. He's super intense and I get that. I understand it but damn I am a very aggressive person and I have to tone it down cause all he will do is fight with me. To tell you the truth im bored as hell with him. He's such a downer all the time too. Anyways. Thanks for the advice 🙂

'So I read over what you said and this sounds really accurate. I am going to back off a lot. I've heard from my other Scorpio friends that backing off and making them wonder is when they come for you. I know that all Scorpio's need alone time, so Ill just give him that. But if I mention giving him alone time he goes ape shit. So I suppose Ill do it carefully.'

That's the right idea. We Scorps are really damn sensitive so- if you tell him you're going to give him alone time, he'll think you're abandoning him. Back off, but don't abandon him (if you wanna stay with this guy). Yes, he'll come to you if he really loves you!
Not all Scorpios are debbie downers! I have my moods, or when I fall into a temporary depression...but I can have fun and joke around 🙂
I think it's a matter of what memories he's keeping close to him. He's probably dwelling on depressing things, and has been for some time. It's hard for Scorps to open up, too, as you stated in different words before. How to get him to open up? I'm not even too sure about that one...because I have no advice to give to people to make ME open up, either. I want to, because I see that it hurts people I'm closest to, but there's something holding me back. Hard to explain.
Oh, and I know it's understandable for you to doubt that he truly cares and thinks about you often, but it's not bullshitting if he said it to you first! He seems pretty confused, but not a liar~