scorpios when ur special other iggs you

Do u enjoy tryin to get em back?how do u feel when ignored?do u feel bad if that person snapped on you?does timing allow u to be more into a person?for people with venus scorp and mars aquarius moon libra and sun scorp,do you perfer to chase that special one because others throw themselve at u ? Is it possible to resent an ex and still press forward for the present wit someone else?if u really feel strongly about someone would u wait for perfect timin every single time sex is desired by yourself?

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How did you learn to ask so many questions?

Get em back? In the ways of vengeance or breaking up??
If vengeance.. When I am slighted enough by a man. I don't get em back I go Scorpio crazy! Then make them look stupid about themselves (really takes a lot for this to happen)
If breaking up.. No.. If its a sexual Encounter I my consider letting them be attracted to me still in that way if they are good enough.. But I never want them back. Mostly cause I try so hard for break ups not to happen. That if they do.. See yah!

Ignored I feel like I want to cry, get mad, be sad, move on from that person, hope that they will talk to me.. Alllll at once. It's my weakness for sure.

When snapped at.. Hmm if it's a girl.. Then yes.. If its a guy possibly not.. If its a guy I'm attracted to.. Strangely attracted to them even more instead.

Timing definitely is a key factor to all Scorpios I believe.. I will always be more into anyone that sticks by my side through time.. If it is friendship I commit to them like they are my own blood.. If its relationship.. Much time is not wasted knowing if I "want" to care for them more, but they have to prove worth or else no
Time in the world will make that connection grow with in me.

I have no placements there besides sun sign.. No I prefer to be caught.. I will chase a good time though. Just a little bit.. =P

I admit to have resented an ex while pursuing someone else.. So yes I suppose it is

Before we do anything.. Again. Timing is key.. I like the tease of the wait.. When already active with them.. The timing is nothing.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
How did you learn to ask so many questions?

just cuttin to the chase instead of volunteering the info

Caps are blunt bout things, so I really didnt wanna make a paragraph bout me n him cuz i been there, so now would it help that I told him how i felt n is no longer takin his calls or texts? I feel he is into me, but I know it could be an illusion so I keep snappin and backin off..then i finally give into us be.in aroun.d talkin textin ect..then the issues happen to make me question it..So I am deliberating weather or not I even wanna stick around to see this outcome, hes indecisive about US, so I decided to make the decision for him . He has been callin n textin, but i feel its a front . He comes over frequently and that attachment IS there cause he wakes up textin me n before he goes to bed at night, but im naturally distruatful, n he tells me to be patient but he will be around me for days and weeks n doesnt wanna touch, kiss, cuddle, then all of a sudden he comes n wanna do something i wanted to a month before n he denied. I can not initiate sex or cuddlin he has to . I feel I do not want this and since I made this choice he continues to try to contact me as if its a game or I was jokin and that this choice wasnt final..
@ELLE you told me to be patient with him but I dont understand how to do that if he will not even much give me what everyone an dastrology says they are about . i told him i do not get how we are goin at all so Im movin on . he is an ex from 4yrs ago n I only did one thing wrong to him and it makes me feel he has a hidden agenda that is bad but he wears this mask full of lies to distract me like he really cares . Then he shows he cares by gestures he does, but it could be a front its income tax season i feel like everybody is gonna try to get close to you rght now, then any other time of year i just feel like somebody keeps me on their side as a backup if they dont get it right with someone they are with

Posted by ellessque
Do u enjoy tryin to get em back?

No, if a relationship ends, I tend to do nothing. But that isn't the case with all scorps. I guess it depends on how it ended. If we feel we were in the wrong, we might try to get them back but it won't be obvious. If we feel you were in the wrong, we might try to get you back so we can dump you.

how do u feel when ignored?

I hate being ignored. That is the worse thing you could do. Ignoring is the fastest way to get us to cut you out of your life. Ignoring automatically makes us think you don't care anymore because if we are stil in love with you, you are in our mind 24/7 and we want to share that, even if things are ugly at the moment.

do u feel bad if that person snapped on you?

not really, but i have dealt mostly with caps with cap in merc. i know where it comes from. i snap on others too and will give the same forgiveness and consideration that is given to me.

does timing allow u to be more into a person?

absolutely. no healthy person in their right mind is going to want to jump into a relationship with eyes closed. you need time to figure out if that person is really right for you and it's not some surface attraction.

for people with venus scorp and mars aquarius moon libra and sun scorp,do you perfer to chase that special one because others throw themselve at u ?

i'm a scorp but i don't have any of those other placements. sorry 🙂

Is it possible to resent an ex and still press forward for the present wit someone else?

I don't resent exes. When i'm done, i'm done and i move the hell on. They are completely exiled from my existence. If someone is hanging on to an ex enough to resent them, then they are not finished.

if u really feel strongly about someone would u wait for perfect timin every single time sex is desired by yourself?

yes. i would wait. sex is handled differently with scorps. we don't typically like multiple partners and we would prefer it to be an emotional bond. As much as we talk shit about sex and that "sex is sex", it really is something more for a scorp, in my scorpioness opinion. 😛

He told me that i am not in a competition with other girls n that im the special someone in his life but i felt that could be a lie because he feels like he has to keep feedin me this bull to make mme feel better . he told me the day b4 that he felt like i di

Posted by ellessque
Do u enjoy tryin to get em back?

No, if a relationship ends, I tend to do nothing. But that isn't the case with all scorps. I guess it depends on how it ended. If we feel we were in the wrong, we might try to get them back but it won't be obvious. If we feel you were in the wrong, we might try to get you back so we can dump you.

how do u feel when ignored?

I hate being ignored. That is the worse thing you could do. Ignoring is the fastest way to get us to cut you out of your life. Ignoring automatically makes us think you don't care anymore because if we are stil in love with you, you are in our mind 24/7 and we want to share that, even if things are ugly at the moment.

do u feel bad if that person snapped on you?

not really, but i have dealt mostly with caps with cap in merc. i know where it comes from. i snap on others too and will give the same forgiveness and consideration that is given to me.

does timing allow u to be more into a person?

absolutely. no healthy person in their right mind is going to want to jump into a relationship with eyes closed. you need time to figure out if that person is really right for you and it's not some surface attraction.

for people with venus scorp and mars aquarius moon libra and sun scorp,do you perfer to chase that special one because others throw themselve at u ?

i'm a scorp but i don't have any of those other placements. sorry 🙂

Is it possible to resent an ex and still press forward for the present wit someone else?

I don't resent exes. When i'm done, i'm done and i move the hell on. They are completely exiled from my existence. If someone is hanging on to an ex enough to resent them, then they are not finished.

if u really feel strongly about someone would u wait for perfect timin every single time sex is desired by yourself?

yes. i would wait. sex is handled differently with scorps. we don't typically like multiple partners and we would prefer it to be an emotional bond. As much as we talk shit about sex and that "sex is sex", it really is something more for a scorp, in my scorpioness opinion. 😛

Also I hate multiplesexual partners too but it seems as though it isnt me who hes having sex with, he says having sex has made him start to feel dirty so he only does it with himself and that if he does he wants a different kind of sex and not just like it was

I kind of really do trust him, but he doesnt wanna give me any intamacy so if it is just gonna be us as friends that have this disortated thang goin on then what should I do except just give him what he has told me he wants, for me to make him chase me, and do all the haunting down but I really have just made it up in my mind that he can not handle if I ignore a person so it will be him backin out of this equation because he wont care that i pulled away

When it comes to Cap women, I wonder if Scorpio males fear falling into the trap of it being all about sex? Or feeling used for just sex. I keep running into these stories of them withholding it, making excuses, or having to be drunk to do it lol. It just doesn't seem to be like that when they are with other women, although I rarely read the stories.

I have lost controll with him but he says that this kind of love that i give him is exactly what he wants but he can not except it right now so he wants to ease away from doin anything with me at all so there wont be any confusion then the next minute he is huggin me callin me sweets, idk I just dont get this bull be together be together but elle you are what has save it a few times because it is you reasoning for him because he says the same thing you do except he contradicts his self alot ...I submitted but I dont think he wanted me to he wanted to I guess so what should I do about how he perferrs me to behave, cuz i told him when I snapped on him that I am gonna be who in the hell I am if I am into a person and they claim to be into me then when we are together ill treat them like my king as they should treat me as their queen .He had an interview for a job n this pleased him so much that he will be able to do things for me, but he refuses to give me anything until hehas his self together like I havent been there for him you know

Or really is it just that much about them pacing it so they can be the ones in control? It seems like she's vocal about what it is she wants.

24Capgal18, you must be typing from your phone. Girl, can't nobody read that lol.

For the love of God, use a period.

yes I was typin from my celli, sorry.. But now Im on the computer, so I will ttry to get it right..I have been back n forth with him, but last nite I had to snap yet again, because he thought that I was gonna back down on what I had previously said. I told him that if he was not gonna make up his mind I would do it for him, ,so what else is there to talk about and he asked me why should he let me know how he feels, I responded by telling him that he could keep whatever was given to him n we do not have to ever talk again(although that was just anger from frustration )He hung up on me . I called him back n said u aint have to hang up on me n he said he thought after that last word I was done when I asked what else is there to talk about . He called me this morninng saying that he has me wensday with bring back all he owes to me . I told him I dont want it, he says I said that out of anger cause he knows that I need it . Then he told me about a connection I need for my career, so what does all of this seem like to you all . He will not stop callin me, but I see he is gettin a kick out of watchin me perform poorly on this observation he is doin with these test. I feel if a person wants you they will not take all that analyzing to comprehend that ..It does not take a rocket scientist to figure that out. So now I am standing behind my words, I am not budging. If he wants me he will come get me, otherwise I dont wanna deal with him and that bullshit he has goin on there inside of his head. I wanna be there for him (but check out the previous posting about virgo guy) Then other guys b4 him (since the split up with my kids father) I dont know how to respond to anything that does not seem to be in my plans(and we all know how capricorns plans are to them ) If he doesnt wanna be inlcuded in my plans then he does wanna be in my life so it didnt take a mathemtician nto solve that equation . Guys Do you think Im wrong for how I handled this situation?No one wants to be played, or feel played, so I am get back, no times for the games Im a grown ass woman and I dont play wit lil boys.++I told him we went through bullshit in the past, so Im not about to go through this shhit now . Opinions here please .

Posted by BigGirlPanties
For the love of God, use a period.

You forgot to mention paragraphs too 😉

You're lucky I don't mind reading or I wouldn't have read that wall of text you just posted OP.

Sounds like all is good. You ended it. Now time to move on. Don't dwell on it anymore. You are done

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
For the love of God, use a period.

You forgot to mention paragraphs too 😉

You're lucky I don't mind reading or I wouldn't have read that wall of text you just posted OP.

Sounds like all is good. You ended it. Now time to move on. Don't dwell on it anymore. You are done

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Well he is still being all there and stuff(like I said I do want him)but I will not have this back n forth thang with all of the other stuff. so why is he still there? Im not sayin I dont want him there, I want him. So back to my paragraph questions and concerns, maybe it doesnt mean anything to you but I wanna know if it does to him, and have I just really messed up or have I just shown him that I am not gonna take no shit? Just have understanding and tell me how would it be if you we're in this situation with an alleged special girl who you cared for(if that was even true)Idk what to think here

I am being as understanding as I can be.

If you want him back then you are going to have to quit all communication with him. BGP is good about telling me to stop that so if you need any support in that dept she or I can help ya there.

Don't focus on the whys. What happened has happened and at this point if you want to get back with him dwelling on why he did stuff will not get him back. Only action will

So basically it seems that you've given him an ultimatum telling him either he's in or out. He's probably about to try and play you like a drum now, and I'm just being honest. Scorpio's don't seem like the type that work well with ultimatums. It's not about him anymore, because he's going to straddle the fence by pretending he's still there. It's more about YOU now, and sticking to your word because you put out there what you will and will not tolerate. It's time to back it up.

Boundary: Setting a limit & choices on MYSELF, not another, on what I will tolerate and not tolerate.

Ultimatum: You do THIS and only this, or it's over

Choose which you want to exercise. (If it's not too late). I NEVER, EVER give ultimatums. Ever. That is me giving away my power. I set and enforce boundaries. Much like your local city, they set a speed limit. If you are caught exceeding it, they dont beg you to slow down, they enforce their boudnary by hitting you up with a fine.

My boundary is the line I set that keeps me safe. If I am wanting a committment from a man, I can say what I need, express my feelings, what I want, need and expect. Then, I can ask if he is willing and able to meet me on that level. He may need time to consider it, which is fine, or he may not be able to committ or he may agree. BUT..it's really his actions that will determine the truth. If his behavior continues to violate my boundary, then *I* now must enforce it, even if it means breaking up. That is MY power. Yes, I will be sad and heart broken (as I am now) but it is ultimately up to him to make his decisions and I cannot make anyone love me the way I want. If it his behavior is unacceptable, then stop trying to change him and take care of you. If you say it, you must mean it. You gave the ultimatum, so be prepared to accept the outcome.

Well it was not an ultimatum, but now that you two point that out I see I did make one . I told him though that I will not continue how we were goin, so now I enforce it . I did feel as though he would be playin little games behind that situation, so I prepared myself for the games . When it comes to someone calculating the movesI DO (as a capricorn we see be for you even think )I stand behind what I have said I am actually realizing the importancy of what makes me and my kids happy . I can get anybody to be there, so why stay in an ikki situation with anybody, if I didnt do it with my kids dad I damn sure am not gonna do it with him . I really am glad I have you guys help here . Thank you !! Now I will talk to you guys about it if anything else happens to come up here, but yall say Do not fall for it because it will only be a front and that him coming around dont fall weak for him stand firm for what I beilieve in (right )

Posted by 24capgal18
Well it was not an ultimatum, but now that you two point that out I see I did make one . I told him though that I will not continue how we were goin, so now I enforce it . I did feel as though he would be playin little games behind that situation, so I prepared myself for the games . When it comes to someone calculating the movesI DO (as a capricorn we see be for you even think )I stand behind what I have said I am actually realizing the importancy of what makes me and my kids happy . I can get anybody to be there, so why stay in an ikki situation with anybody, if I didnt do it with my kids dad I damn sure am not gonna do it with him . I really am glad I have you guys help here . Thank you !! Now I will talk to you guys about it if anything else happens to come up here, but yall say Do not fall for it because it will only be a front and that him coming around dont fall weak for him stand firm for what I beilieve in (right )

Yeah, I'm "thinking" that he will only try to test how far he can make you bend and go back on your word. Twist it more to his terms. It seems to be all or nothing for both signs, so that gray area might as well be nothing. If you can't go back to being friends, you'll probably have to cut him out of your life for a while or until you find someone or else you will waste time thinking that your building something with him.

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Posted by 24capgal18
Well it was not an ultimatum, but now that you two point that out I see I did make one . I told him though that I will not continue how we were goin, so now I enforce it . I did feel as though he would be playin little games behind that situation, so I prepared myself for the games . When it comes to someone calculating the movesI DO (as a capricorn we see be for you even think )I stand behind what I have said I am actually realizing the importancy of what makes me and my kids happy . I can get anybody to be there, so why stay in an ikki situation with anybody, if I didnt do it with my kids dad I damn sure am not gonna do it with him . I really am glad I have you guys help here . Thank you !! Now I will talk to you guys about it if anything else happens to come up here, but yall say Do not fall for it because it will only be a front and that him coming around dont fall weak for him stand firm for what I beilieve in (right )

Yeah, I'm "thinking" that he will only try to test how far he can make you bend and go back on your word. Twist it more to his terms. It seems to be all or nothing for both signs, so that gray area might as well be nothing. If you can't go back to being friends, you'll probably have to cut him out of your life for a while or until you find someone or else you will waste time thinking that your building something with him.

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So true! And it will be hard, but you'll get through it. Just needs time 🙂

Posted by BigGirlPanties
How did you learn to ask so many questions?

Miles: Where do you live?
Buck: In the city.
Miles: You have a house?
Buck: Apartment.
Miles: Own or rent?
Buck: Rent.
Miles: What do you do for a living?
Buck: Lots of things.
Miles: Where's your office?
Buck: I don't have one.
Miles: How come?
Buck: I don't need one.
Miles: Where's your wife?
Buck: Don't have one.
Miles: How come?
Buck: It's a long story.
Miles: You have kids?
Buck: No I don't.
Miles: How come?
Buck: It's an even longer story.
Miles: Are you my Dad's brother?
Buck: What's your record for consecutive questions asked?
Miles: 38.
Buck: I'm your Dad's brother alright.
Miles: You have much more hair in your nose than my Dad.
Buck: How nice of you to notice.
Miles: I'm a kid - that's my job.


Uncle Buck goofy, that's where! 😛

^^^Love Uncle Buck 🙂 😉

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Posted by 24capgal18
Well it was not an ultimatum, but now that you two point that out I see I did make one . I told him though that I will not continue how we were goin, so now I enforce it . I did feel as though he would be playin little games behind that situation, so I prepared myself for the games . When it comes to someone calculating the movesI DO (as a capricorn we see be for you even think )I stand behind what I have said I am actually realizing the importancy of what makes me and my kids happy . I can get anybody to be there, so why stay in an ikki situation with anybody, if I didnt do it with my kids dad I damn sure am not gonna do it with him . I really am glad I have you guys help here . Thank you !! Now I will talk to you guys about it if anything else happens to come up here, but yall say Do not fall for it because it will only be a front and that him coming around dont fall weak for him stand firm for what I beilieve in (right )

Yeah, I'm "thinking" that he will only try to test how far he can make you bend and go back on your word. Twist it more to his terms. It seems to be all or nothing for both signs, so that gray area might as well be nothing. If you can't go back to being friends, you'll probably have to cut him out of your life for a while or until you find someone or else you will waste time thinking that your building something with him.

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Il I finally got that through to my brain that hey u know that its not happenin so just do yo tahng and there is a few guys caught on my string but i keep throwin those basses back into the water cuz they are to young, so now i reasoned with me and the next step is you guys advisin when i need help or reciprocol