Serious vs Not

Hello Scorpio Gentlemen:

I wanted to write and let you know that you should be very careful with your girl's heart. If you are not serious about a relationship, you should not discuss the wonderful future that you and your girl are going to have unless you plan to really persue that future. The pain that you can induce is torture. Please, if you are in a relationship and just consider it a flirtation, please let her know. Do not discuss how you have found the only one for you unless you really mean it, because she will believe you. I'm not saying that All Scorpio Men do not pay attention, I'm just saying please be careful.

Thank you, Lost Gemini Girl

Gemini, I agree - except that you're NOT compatible with Scorpio.

Hello Scorpio Gentlemen:

I wanted to write and let you know that you should be very careful with your girl's heart. If you are not serious about a relationship, you should not discuss the wonderful future that you and your girl are going to have unless you plan to really persue that future. The pain that you can induce is torture. Please, if you are in a relationship and just consider it a flirtation, please let her know. Do not discuss how you have found the only one for you unless you really mean it, because she will believe you. I'm not saying that All Scorpio Men do not pay attention, I'm just saying please be careful.

Thank you, Lost Gemini Girl

hi, dear. you are so right. just want to express my sympathy. you're not alone. please stay cool. you'll be happy soon, once you get that scorpio poison out. good luck to you

Gemini Girl - It sounds like there was a little sting by a scorpion. I'm not to well versed on what signs are beter matched with each other, but I'm married to a scorpio man and he's gentle. He's not as openly loving as I would like, but I know that he's loves me. I hope you sting wasn't too bad.

Thank you for your reponse. I really was not stung by my Scorpio Gentleman. I have just learned today that I need to learn to be a little patient... Something that a Gemini Girl seems to know not. He finally called me back today and said that he really missed my voice. I treated the conversation really lightly and was very careful with my response. I told him that I was not too worried because why would he want to miss out on something a great as me? He laughed and said "that's for sure."

I have a terrible habit of jumping to fast and not thinking about the chance of freaking him out, do you think that maybe I scared him a little and that is why that it took him so long to call back? He made no comments about the future, but he let me know that he was thinking about me. What is your opinion? Do you think that I should be worried? How do I learn the patience that seems to be required. It seems to me that if you really find something as great as what we have then go for it.

Thank you again,

I don't think patientence is limited to Geminis. I think it's human nature to want to jump ahead of ourselves, especially when we want something so badly. I also have a tendency to jump too fast. Hence, I've been married 4 times! Oh , my GAWD! I've never been with a Scorpio man before my present husband, so I can't advise on that. Whatever the sign we have been born with, I think we all should practice patience. It then gives us the opportunity to see what's happening around us & to evaluate the situation. You may think it's great and he may think it's great, but I believe the determining factor is - just be aware of what's happening. Now, did I rattle on enough?

Something else I'd like to share with you. I don't think that Geminis' are the only ones that fall for flirtious actions. I know, as a Scorpio, I have always been very venerable to flirtatious men ( if they're good-looking) and even not nesseceriously so.

Wow! Thank you so much for such a quick response. I really value the experience a Scorpio Girl can give. My Gentleman has also been married twice and has told me that he has a terrible habbit of jumping too fast and that is why that he wants to take our relationship slow. Unfortunatly I just don't know how to do that. I really need to learn exactly what to do. Do I call him and tell him that I was just thinking about him? Or will a call just make him think that I'm chasing him? If I don't call will it make him think that I don't care at all? Help! We live about 100 miles apart and have been seeing each other steadily for 2 months. We have been talking on the phone every nite until last Sunday and then silence. I practically fell apart until he called this morning. I know that it was only 4 days but it seemed like a life time. thank you for taking the time to listen. Since you are married to a Scorpio guy maybe you can give me some hints.

Hey, girlie! It's 5:30 a.m. and I don't quite know if I'm awake or not, but here's my words of wisdom...if he's been married wice and wants to take it slow, then I say give it a chance (if he's what you want). Let him lead the way. You can always throw a few tidbits his way every now and then to keep him intertested (whatever they are is up to you). Hows can you be seeing each other steadily if you live 100 miles apart. Explain! Maybe you could suggest a weekend away from each hometown, you know, different outlook and prospectives, and collect new experiences to share. Another thing I don't know is your ages. That has a lot to do with my advice (as little that it may help). With age comes wisdom...

You said that he wants to take the relationship slow..ok, well he's been married twice. I can understand his reasoning. Be glad you found someone that realizes he may have made a couple of mistakes. Once again, I don't know your ages, but I would suggest, since you say you don't know how to take it slow..be sensual, but not seductive. Seductive, to me, says OUT LOUD,,SEX. However, sensuality leads to the imagination. There's a time and place for seduction. That'll happen over a period of time. You can be sensual in the way you look at him, touch his arm, move your head...get the picture? Don't give in. I know it sounds like a cat and mouse game, but times really haven't changed over the years. What once worked still works if you play your cards right (but remember one thing..if it's not meant to be it won't happen)

..another thing I might add..if he's been married twice..does he have children? You know, that takes up alot of time. If he's any kind of father (note, I didn't say dad) then that may shed some light on his aloofness. He may have realized (by 2 mistakes) where his priorities are.

Hello Scorpio Girl:

Thank you for the responses. I guess that I could start with age. My gentleman and I are in our mid 30's. And yes he does have children. They live with their mother and I've heard him talk to them on the phone and they seem to have a great relationship.

We have already taken our relatonship to an intimate level. With a long distance relationship sharing our weekends together involves spending the nites together.

He is the most sensual man that I have ever had the pleasure of sharing with. When he is away from me, I crave just hearing his voice.

Can this build into something great or am I just the "weekend fling?"

Suggestions?

To continue with the strangeness of this relationship, I will tell you about how that he changes. First, He calls and says that he misses me and can't wait to see me, then he calls back the following day and tells me that he is "a single man."

He tells me that he has dated this other girl and that I should not mind, because we are not a "thing".

So inturn I ask him "why on earth would he want to mess up something as good as us?" And he inturn says "Gosh, I hope I haven't messed us up, were still great aren't we?

How do I respond to that? I know that we aren't a couple, but when we are together he treats me as if I'm his one and only. I don't know what to do. He is such a contridiction in words.

I'm lost.

Let me start by saying "that single is as single does" (and I'm not quoting Forest Gump). You might want to try leaving a little to his imagination. I think that if you try, MAYBE, to not lean too heavily on him being the only one in your life, he might just realize what you mean to him. If you're in your 30's your are just in the prime of your life. Believe me, I know. I'm well out of my 30's and while it was a wonderful learning experience, it was also a rocky road. I venture to say that if you start seeing other guys (casually of course), your "guy" might come around. Is there any chance that he would consider living a little closer to you? I am most certainly not suggesting that you move towards him, at his point

Hello: Thank you for your advice. I have been dating other guys casually. The last thing that I want to do is just sit at home and wait for a phone call. Anyway I just know that we spoke on Friday and he told me that he would call me again on Monday evening. Said that he had weekend plans and hoped that i have a good weekend. Once again not seeing him. What do you think?

Good afternoon! I read back through your other posting and you mentioned that you've only been seeing eachother for 2 months. Maybe just take it easy for a while. You know that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Yeah I know, yada, yada, yada! I do believe there's some truth in those words, though. Is there any, kind of, special event happening where you live that you mimght invite him to attend. You know, some kind of outdoorsy affair or something. Some kind of event that doesn't suggest having any thing to do with spending the night together. Try to put some other kind of message into your getting together.

Hi: Tell you what! Absence is certainly making me grow fonder of him. There are really some days that I curse being a Female, because of not being the one to be able to control things. Some things are so impossible. Thank you for your suggestions.

Do you mind if I ask where you are from? Sounds like I've made a good friend.

To You

Down south, Texas way. How 'bout u?

West Coast, Mountain Country. Are you a cowgirl or City?

I like to think of myself of somwhat of a cowgirl. I like to ride horses, but I like ridin' hogs also. I like rodeos, but I like dressin' up and going out too. If I had my choice, I would live on a horse ranch and spend my days tending to them. ...but give me the night lights every now and then. What do you like to do? ..and yes, it's sounds like I've found a new friend also.

Hope you post back, but I've gotta split right now. Hubby's starting supper and I don't trust him in the kitchen. HA1 HA1 Just kiddin'. I'll check back later. Take care.

Hello!!

Sorry so long since last response, but I've been crazy. To update you on things with the Scorpio Gentleman, he has called me about 3 or 4 times but I have not had the pleasure of his company. This relationship is not enough for me and next time I speak with him I will make my wishes known. If I scare him away then it was not meant to be anyway.

I also am a country girl that loves to party on the weekends. There is nothing sexier than a cute cowboy in tight wranglers. Your opinion? Hope you are having a great day. E-mail
lelani@oregondoor.com. write okay

I'm going to e-mail

Hi Gemini Girl! Hope all is going well with you.

Scorpio men are complex individuals. They can be mean and hurtful, but they're most likely to be that way if someone provokes them. By the way, Scorpio and Gemini DON'T mix!