So .......

I have seen quite a few scorpios go madly after the opposite sex they are interested in.

Situation 1: If a scorpio just looks at me emotionally but sends some mixed signals for months, he might not that interested in me. Am I right?

Situation 2: The scorio gives me me a confusing answer like "You are nice. But so far we don't really know each other very well." when I ask what he thinks about me. I try to move on but he tries to "kind of" stop me. Does it mean he needs more time to know me or he just want to keep an admirer around?

Help! My friends.

Give him the benefit of the doubt at this point and assume that he's not so egotistical and self-centered as to only keep you around because he likes being admired. But yes, I would say that if the Scorpio isn't all about pursuing you (even if he thinks he's doing it subtly, but to you it's glaringly obvious)--then he isn't sure whether he wants a relationship or involvement with you. Especially if he's non-verbally sending you signals that are telling you to "stop" talking about the situation. Which by the way, is sort of rude on his part; he ought to just say, "I don't feel comfortable discussing this right now" or SOMETHING. But, we scorps can occasionally sacrifice politeness for the sake of secrecy sometimes I suppose. These are just my preliminary impressions, because I don't have much information to go on. Let us know what happens! : )

phoenix_rising

I don't think it's because he wants to keep an admirer around. Scorpio always has admirers around. He may sense that you want a commitment and he's not ready. But if he's still seeing you, he's interested maybe in the future, when he's ready. If he's worth it, give him time.

I also say give it time.
I have a guy friend that is a Scorpio (I am a scorp also) and he sends similar mixed signals. I KNOW he likes me, but isn't ready obviously for any kind of real relationship. I have noticed that the more I do my own thing the more he seems interested, and the more clingy I am the more pushed away he is. Keep up other interests, but don't feel this is a lost cause. I don't think Scorpios intentionally misguide people, so if you say he looks at you emotionally, take that as a positive sign. He wants to take a step back from your pursuing, and follow his lead. Remember that the Scorp always wants to feel "in charge". I often find myself giving out mixed signals and when this happens it is best for the person to let me decide how to pursue the relationship. Sometimes the hardest people for me to pursue are the people I like the most. Just a thought.

You're very wise 64. Isnt it funny how we (Im not a scorp, just talking about the 'we' as in the collective) find it the hardest to approach the person we really like? Why is this? It is so easy to approach someone, for casual sex or whatever, if you dont like them.

Just some thoughts ...

True scorpios are pretty extreme on either end of the spectrum. Personally, I find in my own life that ultimately I'm either incredibly attracted to women (and people in general) or incredibly repulsed by them; hardly ever anything in between. Scorpios going after someone "madly" fits the bill on one end of the spectrum. The only other state is discovering over time who the person I'm dealing with on any level is like habitually in day-to-day affairs.

From my limited perspective, it seems to me that he's entertaining thoughts of what might be possible with you (the 'emotional' glances - although if he's thinking what I think he's thinking I'm surprised you didn't type 'mischievous smile') but his mind is also presenting possible drawbacks and cautions as well.

So, in situation 1 my singular opinion is that he isn't that interested or disinterested YET. If he was totally disinterested, I'm sure he would just brush you off.

In situation 2, seeing as how most pure scorps tend to guard their privacy, I don't think he's looking for an admirer so much as watching you from a distance to see who you really turn out to be (loyal/disloyal, truthful/liar etc.).

I'd recommend staying in front of him, maybe even using subtle female seduction tactics like perfumey gifts to keep him thinking about you and then giving him time to make his decision. Move on if he takes too long though; if he snoozes he loses ... his fault, not yours.


Take care

Alright, scorp25 said it much better than I...I completely agree with him regarding his opinion on "situation 2". I also think he is teasing you a bit, what with the bedroom eyes (which is what I'm sure they are) and then dodging your questions. Play his game and tease him back; sometimes you will see a person's true colors when playing with each other (in a figurative sense) more often than when you call them to the carpet with a bold question such as "what do you think of me?". Enjoy the sexual chemistry and play with it, is what I say. Have fun with it, but don't let him take advantage of you by any means. Give him the bedroom eyes, then slowly walk away saying nothing. ; )

phoenix_rising (Heather)