Specifically, why does no one like me?

And if they do, treat me like they don't all the more?

Yeah, I'm a Scorp male.

It doesn't apply on boards, just in person.

I think I just don't have enough going on in my life to justify being interesting.

I know I have strengths, but I don't know how to apply them, or necessarily what they are. I'm not a good communicator at all, due to how I was raised. That's probably what hurts me most.

I am stand offish. My rising sign is Cancer and I was raised by a Cancer. Maybe that's too much shell on top of a Scorpio.

I want to give people what they want, so is that just giving what I want, and not trying to appease them? From what I've figured out on my own, it's like people don't want weakness like this around them.

I tend to either stand off, or come too strong, in general. I have never found a balance.

I think I just don't have enough going on in my life to justify being interesting.
being interesting to who?

I know I have strengths, but I don't know how to apply them, or necessarily what they are. I'm not a good communicator at all, due to how I was raised. That's probably what hurts me most.........From what I've figured out on my own, it's like people don't want weakness like this around them.
strengths to apply to what? weaknesses like?

I am stand offish. My rising sign is Cancer and I was raised by a Cancer. Maybe that's too much shell on top of a Scorpio.

sounds like you have too much protection for the outside world. If it was natural, then you wouldn't be complaining about it, right? so what is your protection against?

Good advice everyone!!

SEJ: Going out of your way to please other people is a really bad way to live life. Honestly, it will just make you so miserable (been there, done that)...First and foremost, you have to be happy and you have to nurture yourself.

Focus on the positives instead of the negatives (your post was full of negative statements) - "I think I just don't have enough going on in my life to justify being interesting"; "I'm not a good communicator at all"; "i'm standoffish" and "i have never found a balance" - are only serving to hold you back. Ditch those thoughts out the window.

Release everything in your life that isn't working for you, and this includes thought patterns and behaviour patterns - in order to move forward. So many people are frightened to do this, to let go...But the reality is, you can only GAIN by doing this. The question is, do you really want to? Alot of people are actually afraid of being successful, confident people living abundant lives (as stupid as it sounds).

- Love who you are. Remind yourself that you're valuable, and of the qualities you possess that make you a great person.
- Smile at yourself in the mirror in the morning. Genuinely - think of something that makes you feel happy from within. I know this sounds lame, but it worked for me.
- Have fun! You're here to enjoy life - if you don't enjoy it, what's the friggin point being here? And since you are here, you may as well make the most of the opportunity 🙂
- And learn as much as you can along the way 🙂 Change and growth keeps life interesting, and nourishes your soul.

Your upbringing has everything to do with how to cope with this. Great words in here from people telling you to just do it, be strong, be confident, don't worry about what others think .. however, your upbringing has you viewing the world from the vantage point of a Cancer, in which case .... what others think, and you wanting to seek their approval for your emotional well-being, is how you were raised.

So, those are wise words to you .. they aren't applicable to a person who was raised as a Cancer.

My suggestion to you would be to stop worrying about people at large, for the time being, and concentrate on finding a particular person, preferrably good friend .... and make sure that this person is very head-strong, opinionated, who's life force is focused around pushing forward to obtain what they want in life.

Your influence has been that of submission to others for their mercy upon you to approve of you and accept you .... so, to mend yourself at this time, since by your very raising you don't know HOW to do these wise things in here that people have told you .... then you should change your influence, to hang with those of conviction.

A Ram would be perfect for you right now.

You have been conditioned, by proxy, to not be one who makes stands .. and as I said, it is clear that all words in here to you are in the right place of where you need to be .. the problem is having the fortitude of getting there. And once you learn how to stand, all your Scorpion characteristics will kick in and tell you ... I like this shit, I'm it !!!! ===== then all this fear will disappear, and you won't even have to worry about it because the thoughts won't be present.

So change your example to follow .... watch him be all he can be as he
makes deliberate strides forward in his life.

You have to change the program, Sejanus ... that is how you find the way of what you can see, but, cannot touch.

Why do you want people to like you ? And anyways itz only the Aquas who are universally liked. Think itz good enough if you make people think about you - good or bad.

Aquas are universally liked?





wai wai, in what universe?

LOL...U know how dense we can be 😉

yea you know it ! the brain's seriously clogged to da max yo !

don't even know how to eat

i like you

Awwwww .................. 🙂

Listen, you have to like yourself before anyone else can like you. There are people that I encounter that don't like me either and some just want to get rid of me 😉

I will add more later 🙂