Spoiled Scorpio Male

I'm always touching and spoiling my Scorpio man, but instead of just laying back and enjoying it he always seems to want to be bossy about the way I touch him. Whether it is giving him a hand job or to telling me where to scratch his back. It never seems to go outside of that arena though. He doesn't boss me around in any other way then to tell me where and how to touch him. He is always saying to me things like. Tickle my face and run your fingers through my hair and a little to the left. I'm not sure that I like it. I am the one who is always initiating the touching so I know that it's not because I'm not doing it enough. I will start touching him and then he just starts bossing me around. It makes me want to stop doing it because it starts to feel like a chore. Does anyone else have this problem and what does it mean?? Do you think that he respects me that I do as he asks me to or should I tell him to stop being bossy and stop touching him when he gets like that. It confuses me why he is like this because he doesn't seem to be selfish and bossy in other ways with me.

Why is that funny Elena? Does your scorp do that?? :-)

Oh LOL!! Why do you do it??

"I will start touching him and then he just starts bossing me around. It makes me want to stop doing it because it starts to feel like a chore."

"Does anyone else have this problem and what does it mean??"

"Do you think that he respects me that I do as he asks me to or should I tell him to stop being bossy and stop touching him when he gets like that."


How long have you been with your scrop? You still questioning his actions

You beat BlueAqua down about her scrop man being selfish and a coward and yet you make a thread about how you feel your scrop is bossing you around and you wonder if he respects you.

Do you see the selfishness in his actions? Do he do it for you, Do you tell him where to touch you and how?

I am asking these questions because I can't seem to understand how you can have all the answers to another women issues with her scrop man, tell a women how her man is no good and she should leave him, because he is selfish and yet you don't even know if your man respects you or not, and you want to know if anybody else if having these issues?

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FA, I'm a Scorpio too so I'm allowed to bash them as much as I want. LOL!!!

Elena, I just want to make sure that he is not just testing me to see how much he can get away with so that he can start bossing me around in other areas too. THAT will not happen.

"I think your man just gets lost in the feelings of being touched and doesnt realise he's being bossy...or that it's coming across as that."

I think you are right about that because a couple of times I have teased him about how bossy he is and he acts like he is coming out of a trance and says "Oh, I'm sorry, it just feels so good. I'm just not very good at being told what to do, but I don't think it is worth mentioning to him and making him feel uncomfortable and maybe eventually like you he will stop doing it. He has already stopped doing it a little in the hand job department because I know how he likes it now.

"I don't think it's such a good idea that we post anymore personal discussions about our lives here because we don't want to upset the Scorpios and their fragile egoes.

Also, according to them and some other followers, we aren't be factual and have no proof of our statements"

I hold nothing against no one on these boards. "Freedom of Speech"

I personally don't think people should talk about others peoples relationship unless there own relationship is not in order.

"You beat BlueAqua down about her scrop man being selfish and a coward and yet you make a thread about how you feel your scrop is bossing you around and you wonder if he respects you."

OMG SL!!! How can you even compare these two things. Blue Aqua's man is trying to leave her in the dust after 2 1/2 years claiming that he is doing it for her and she needed confirmation that she is right in her feelings of what he has done to her. I was in no way beating her down. If you look at that thread you will see that she completely agreed with everything that I said to her. I in no way feel the need to answer anything more to you about your ridiculous post.

Well I personally don't get offended when you or anyone else bashes Scorpios!! I'm just saying that no one gets mad at me when I do it because I am one too and when you talk about your own kind it doesn't seem to get the same reaction.

My best friend's husband is a Scorp and he does that all the time...

he is bossy with her in other ways as well, but it is mostly just joking. When it is serious is when she's out of line is some way: drinking too much, flirting too much, etc.

I think your man is just telling you how he likes what he likes. It will likely translate into other things as well, but that is how you get to know someone...if their likes, wants, and desires are what you share then it's go time..if not...well.

FA, I actually think it's funny when some of the people on this board get so offended by what you say about Scorpios and I think they take it way too personally.

"I think your man is just telling you how he likes what he likes. It will likely translate into other things as well, but that is how you get to know someone...if their likes, wants, and desires are what you share then it's go time..if not...well."

I guess you are right and maybe I should be more vocal about that too, but I prefer to tell a man more subtly what I like though than just bossing him around. When he is doing the right thing I moan like crazy, when he is doing the wrong thing I'm silent as a mouse. That way he gets the hint very quickly about what I like and what I don't like and I don't have to be bossy about it and make him feel like it's a chore for him. That's the way I think he will take it anyway. Maybe I'm wrong though, because men always say that they want you to communcicate and tell them what you like. When I do tell him what I like though I tell him in a very positive way when he is doing something right. I always tell him how much I love when he massages my feet that way or when he touches that certain spot it makes me crazy. I just don't start telling him step by step how to do it. I feel like it ruins the heat of the moment.

"When he is doing the right thing I moan like crazy, when he is doing the wrong thing I'm silent as a mouse. "

I am....erm, WAS, this way as well, but I realized, Men Do Not Take Hints Well. Men need to be told exactly what to do, which is why they tell us exactly what they like. Isn't it crazy how different men and women are? I am like you, I use positive assurance to let them know when I like something and have a hard time just outright asking for what I want. But I'm learning to do just that...

I heard once that within 20 minutes of having sex with a guy for the first time, he will let you know what he's into...they have no mystery!

"It just may be his thing, you should have a talk to him about it, but it is unlikely to do more then stop the frequency of his behavior until it is in full swing again..."

I agree with you and I don't really think he means anything by it accept that he loves when I touch him and I think I'm taking it a little too personally and putting a meaning to it that's just not there. That's why I posted this thread, because I think if I could get more of an understanding of why he does it and what it means when he does it, it won't bother me. These are the kinds of things that you file away in the back of your head at the beginning of a relationship but maybe don't need to be addressed unless it really becomes a problem. I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill. I personally believe in picking your battles and only making a big deal about the big stuff, but I still want to understand the little stuff and nip it in the bud so that it doesn't become big stuff.

"I am like you, I use positive assurance to let them know when I like something and have a hard time just outright asking for what I want. But I'm learning to do just that..."

exactly, and it's not because I'm afraid to ask for what I want, but I think there is a way to ask for what you want and not be bossy about it even though you feel like it would be easier sometimes, but I think I'm more sensitive about it then he is. Hell, he would probably love it if I started bossing him around on where and how to touch me. LOL!!! I should just start doing that and then if he gets offended by it then it will be the perfect opportunity to say "See it doesn't feel good to be bossed around does it.?" If he doesn't get offended then I will know that he doesn't mean anything by it when he does it to me.

FA I totally agree with you. When we give our opinions about things sometimes it just hits a nerve with some people and they get all bent out of shape and they can't handle it because it reminds of them of an issue or something they have done in their own life that is unsettled. I think we can all get offended occasionally and sometimes it comes completely out of nowhere too just like I just got attacked by Scorpio Lady on this thread for no reason at all. I must have said something unintentially that completely rubbed her the wrong way, but that's her problem not mine and I won't take her attack personally.

sglove, I am not comparing.

All I am saying is do you think it's right for a women to tell another women what she should do with the man she loves? Even if they do ask for help.

Women can and will carry grudges/hurt/pain and anger from their own past relationships and will base their advise/suggestions on what happened to them, and think it will help a person. I don't think so because they will not give a bias opinion.

I had a gf that was a leo about 10yrs ago and I was in love with a virgo and although I said some bad things about him to her it was not her place to put him down call him all kinds of names and tell me that I don't need him, especially when she was not even in a relationship with anyone all she was doing was haten, and she has always hated on me I ended the friendship with her and to this day I have not seen or heard from her... But I still talk to the virgo and we are the best of friends.

FA
"Sl You're a little more mature and objective than a lot of other people around here. You're able to discuss things without making attacks and personal insults, which is nice for a change. Wish more people could learn that."

At 46yrs old I have been through just about anything you can name, from being shot at to carjacked and rape. And sometimes in your life you have to take a step and look at things from differnt persepctive. I used to think I was invincible and no one would bother or hurt me I was the one hurting the people. Today I know that is not true, I can still get hurt by people. I am more loving and kind and caring, I don't do a lot of argueing, fussing or fighing. And it took me a long time to hear and I am much happy with my life and the people in it.

I'm completely baffled by this "FuckinA" idiot. You're basically annoyed because we apparently have "Ego's", yet you like Leo's??!?!?

You stupid fucking hypocritical cunt. Leo's are the most Arrogant, Pompous, Self-Absorbed Assholes, yet you like and respect all of them??

Explain that, you filthy whore.

"just got attacked by Scorpio Lady on this thread for no reason at all. I must have said something unintentially that completely rubbed her the wrong way, but that's her problem not mine and I won't take her attack personally."

Sweetie you did not say anything to hurt my feelings or make me think of anything that is happening in my life. Nor was I trying to attack you. I hardly ever post on this board because alot of the stuff is imature and don't make any since and it's constantly the same subjects in different from people asking the same stupid ass questions.

I just don't understand why you are bashing blueaqua man, she ask for help to understand she did not need bashing or negative comments about the man she loved she was looking for understanding as to why this was happening and as a scorpio I really thought that you of all people would understand why he did what he did. And that is why I said you are still holding anger towards the man that hurt you 20 years ago and then you used it as a similar situation, when the diffence is that man that dump you in the worst way a (dearjohn letter)this women was told to her face and everybody saw all the bad and negative stuff and no one recognized the respect that he had for her to tell her face to face.

I thirve on respect, and consideraton. And I will understand a person better just because of the respect, honesty and consideration, no one as a right to tell another person their man is lieing especially if they are in love. And guess I say this because I feel compassionate to what she is going through. I have been hurt and I know what it feels like and sometimes a person just needs support.

"All I am saying is do you think it's right for a women to tell another women what she should do with the man she loves? Even if they do ask for help."

Yes I do!!! She is asking for help. How is what you said to her any different than what I said to her. You were telling her what you thought she should do. Were you not— You basicly told her to just stuff her own feelings away about the situation and to be understanding of this poor misguided man. You want her to tell him that what he is doing is perfectly acceptable. That's your opinion and I had mine and we both gave her and everyone else on that thread our opinion.

Women can and will carry grudges/hurt/pain and anger from their own past relationships and will base their advise/suggestions on what happened to them, and think it will help a person. I don't think so because they will not give a bias opinion.

Everyone gives opinions based on their own past relationships. That's how we form an opinion in the first place. Yes, my opinion based on MY past experience is that if I continually be understanding of someone elses issues and weakness than my needs don't get met and I'm putting someone else's feelings before my own and I end up miserable.

Your opinion is your opinion and my opinion is my opinion and no one should be attacking someone else about their opionion. The bottom line is that we all are on the same page here in that we were all trying to help her no matter what our opionions are and she needs to hear opinions from all sides so that she can make her OWN opinion.

Oh and for the record I never told her that he was lieing to her. I said that IF the real reason he was leaving her is because he just can't handle the relationship anymore or he was not in love with her anymore (like someone else said) then why is he pretending to not be selfish and lieing to her and telling her that he is doing it for her. It was hypothetical.

sglove calm down it's not that serious, and apperantly I must have hit a soft spot on you. It's ok I am not mad at you, you have your opinion and I have mines... You can respect a person for what they say and still have an opinion. You have your opinion about me and what I say...to each it's own.

FA

You are an Aries?

I have 2 best friends that are aries, one male and one female known the female for about 9 years and the male for about 7 years, I also have a brothr-in-law that is an aries also. 🙂 I have special kind of love them. 🙂

"sglove calm down it's not that serious"

Haha!! That's funny!! I am calm! I feel like I'm trying to calm YOU down and I'm just trying to defend myself. You were the one who started judging me for stating my opionion. I'm not mad at you either. I just want peace and love. I know on a couple of other threads we HAVE been in agreement with our opinions and I want you to know that even if I don't agree with you and I voice that I will still always respect your opinion.

"Hell, he would probably love it if I started bossing him around on where and how to touch me. LOL!!! I should just start doing that and then if he gets offended by it then it will be the perfect opportunity to say "See it doesn't feel good to be bossed around does it.?" If he doesn't get offended then I will know that he doesn't mean anything by it when he does it to me.


You know he would!! I love this approach, might give you more of the Scorp reins your longing for, too!!

Sl,

Yeah, I thought you knew that, but you don't post as often I guess.

LOL 🙂 no I don't. I have been on DXP since maybe 2004, I was dating a Capricorn and needed some insight. Got into a lot of argument and debates I was having a hard time understanding why the women on the Cap board was putting up with Capmen and their crap and some of it got bad, and thats when I choose to take step back. Was on a few other boards and my last post was actually on the Gem board and I have not posted anything nor do I comment on much.

"sglove calm down it's not that serious"

"Haha!! That's funny!! I am calm! I feel like I'm trying to calm YOU down and I'm just trying to defend myself. You were the one who started judging me for stating my opionion. I'm not mad at you either. I just want peace and love. I know on a couple of other threads we HAVE been in agreement with our opinions and I want you to know that even if I don't agree with you and I voice that I will still always respect your opinion."

Like wise 🙂

O.K. Great!! Now that that's settled. Want to meet for coffee later? Maybe do a little shopping? 😉

"Awwww....you two are so cute. Before you know it, you'll be wearing matching outfits and skipping down the street arm in arm singing Laverne and Shirley."

LOL!!! I want to do that with each and every one of you. I love you all!!!

LOL!!

"O.K. Great!! Now that that's settled. Want to meet for coffee later? Maybe do a little shopping? 😉"

Sure why not. I can use a change of pace right know. 🙂 I wish we were close enough to have a coffee, or a drink and dance the night away. I still have my moments when I like to party don't do it much know but when I get the itch I do go out.

"Awwww....you two are so cute. Before you know it, you'll be wearing matching outfits and skipping down the street arm in arm singing Laverne and Shirley."

FA, you just love a good ending? 🙂 I don't think I would like be compared to Laverne and Shirley, I never like Laverne initials, they were to big and awkward 🙂

I think I would like:

Thelma and Louise, well my other leo gf her husband calls us that, and of course I am not the one that choose to jump the canyon, I told my leo gf that I would never had made a decision like that. I would have went to jail. I love myself to much to kill myself.

so that leaves Lucy and Ethal, and gslove I want to be Lucy. 🙂

"so that leaves Lucy and Ethal, and gslove I want to be Lucy."

Oh Gee!!! Thanks!!!

"I think I like Thelma and Louise better too without the driving off a cliff part though. Yeah, I probably would've chosen jail too."

I like Thelma and Louise better too, and I probably would drive off the cliff instead of going to jail. I wouldn't want to become anybody's bitch in the slammer!!