Scorpio that keeps coming back...

I dated a Scorpio male a year ago however, it didn't work out because we are just two different people. It started off great, he was calm with a lot of conversation. We went a lot of places however, he would say things that were unacceptable out in public. He started cursing and whining when I wanted to go to my favorite places to eat. He started becoming very jealous, nitt picky and possessive. He would always compliment me on how wonderful I was though. I met his mother and other family members. However, that did not conceal the fact that we are not meant for each other. I broke it off and he stopped talking to me all together. Every three months he contacts me to see if I am single. I always tell him "no." I offered friendship however, he has turned that down. Every time he contacts me, he is wanting to get back together. Is there anyway to ensure him that we are not meant for each other and there is no future?

Yeah ... Scorpios HAVE to be the breaker-upper, not the breakee. If you break up with a Scorpio .. they will become obssessive because this is their motto ...

HOW DARE YOU

And you dared to break up with a God .... how dare you, Virgo?

The solution to the problem is to get back with him ... irritate and piss the living FUCK out of him until he breaks up with you.

Then you'll never have to deal with him again in your life because he will make sure this happens ....... because he will think he's punishing you ....

.. and that's what Scorpios do if you dare .. they punish.

So, so the fuck what? Let him think what he wants, right? You win, actually, because this is what you wanted anyway. Only he won't know this .. he'll believe he was the breaker, and you breakee, and that you are being punished for it by not having him anylonger.

P-Angel: scorps aren't quite that dramatic i don't think. i haven't met one that thought he/she was god at all so where this idea comes from, i don't know. perhaps it is this perception that makes people tend to want to see us suffer just so they see we are feeling anything at all!!

Any more outbursts like that P-angel, and I'll strike thine mortal ass down 😉

"P-Angel: scorps aren't quite that dramatic i don't think."

no? does panties wadding up ass over a name on a piece of paper sound familiar to you?

How DARE him .... all dramatic and shit.

that's just a piece of paper .. imagine how a Scorpio would act over being ............. dissed.

sounds more like aries behaviour!

"sounds more like aries behaviour!"

woa don't drag us into this psychotic mess 🙂 we don't obsess over it for months cuz Aries attention span is like a grasshopper which makes. oooohh I am going to watch Greys' Anatomy online I want ice cream

This is the deal... He seems to call me when something has happened to him, wanting to talk for hours even though, he doesn't want to be friends and we haven't talked in months. His father passed away and he quit his higher paid job. He gives me a calling wanting us to get together. He was a little cranky when I wouldn't tell him exactly where I worked. He kept pressing the issue, wanting to know why. I offer friendship, he says "no thank you." He gets put on medication, he calls again. I tell him the same thing. He gets a new job, same thing... He sent me a text message and I told him, I just got home. He wanted to know where and with who. Why doesn't he just accept the friendship or move on all together? He told me last night to call him when I am single and want to see him. I have told him that we cannot get back together. I don't feel he understands.

Besides him being possessive, jealous and complaining, he also tells stories or exaggerates to make himself look good.

MsVirgo, I asked a Scorpio man what will it take him to get the message that it's over and you know what he said?? And He was serious, too! He said that I would have to say no no no no no to him for a few months before he will finally walk away. Months !

I guess you just have to stand your ground or do what the other poster suggested, get back with him, piss him off.. One of the thigns that scorpio men dont like is clingy, possesive woman.. Try that maybe, if you'd like. But whatever you do, pick one and stay with it.

I don't think his behavior is typical to Scorpios, one rejection is quite enough for me thank you, I'm not into masochism. The guy has had family problems and is on meds, do you suppose that has anything to do with his weirdness?

I understand the frustration, I just doubt that it has much to do with which month he was born in.

Aries: "woa don't drag us into this psychotic mess we don't obsess over it for months cuz Aries attention span is like a grasshopper which makes. oooohh I am going to watch Greys' Anatomy online I want ice cream"

hahahahha!!! you are right but only in the day to day. if the aries gets a bee in his/her bonnet about something, they obsess like a scorpio on acid.

Hey MsV, I've been in your situation...Ignore him. He can't handle the fact that you were the one to decide he wasn't right for you.

The SM from my past has tried to drag me back in so many times (the first couple of times I went back), and even when we were just mates if he had a fight with his gf - he'd ring me and start a fight with me...wtf?? Lol. I know what all this was about, but that's another story for another time 😉

DON'T go back to him. Trust me, i've done that, it DOESN'T work. It only encourages his behaviour, he'll leave you then keep on comin back until you kick him to the kerb once and for all. You've done enough, don't let him make you feel guilty so that you keep being there for him. Good luck with it 🙂

"Whats up with Pisces woman, SSP?"

Hot and steamy.

Is there anyway to ensure him that we are not meant for each other and there is no future?

Don't pick up his calls.

It would be easy not to pick up his calls if he didn't call from 4 separate numbers. I have his name 1,2,3,4 so, I know if the call is from him now. I don't know if he is calling from a calling card or someone else's phone however, it is never the same number. Do you suggest I just hang up when I hear his voice or he identifies himself?

I also have gotten a text from another #, I asked who it is and he told me. Why not just call or text from the same number? I have never hung up on him.

I definitely would not go back to him because we just have nothing in common. His temper and stories are too much for me.

"I definitely would not go back to him because we just have nothing in common."

I wasn't suggesting getting back to have a relationship with him .. you were told how to get rid of him, once and for all. You comprehended ... getting back to have a relationship.

Oh well ......

I understand what people say about Aries. I dated one and we got in a fight because he didn't tell me he was going through a divorce, he wanted to hang out with his friends he met in Iraq and drink all the time. We split. He came back a year later and apologized. 4 months later, he wanted to talk with me again. I turned it down and he went away all together.

I don't really want to see him or be around him romantically. I was a little clingy before. He has a daughter and the daughter's mother suggested they get back together after her boyfriend left her and she had no money. I was watching like a hawk. I was talking to him everyday. This is before he started becoming really abusive and intolerable.

"scorps aren't quite that dramatic i don't think."

hahaha...that's funny.

Perhaps, MsPisces ... but, this is what is apparant to me.

If that's being a fool, then I'll own it.

why not give the guy a little slack?...he sounds like he wants to vent...you state in one post you havent talked in months.....so it doesnt sound like he calls you that often. I have a scorp that calls me still even though he knows im involved...its doesnt bother me because I am completely honest with him...besides we all can use a shoulder to cry on.....

Personally, I just think she's stuck in her emotions .....

The claim is made that there is a desire to be rid of him, and asking on how to succeed in this ... while responsive posts speak of all the emotional trauma that took place during the relationship.

This suggests that she doesn't really want to be rid of him, rather, re-hash these feelings she has for him. A person who wants to be rid of another, doesn't really droan on about how and what the other did in the relationship ... to keep this kind of focus is indicative of trying to understand how to DEAL with him and these feelings, not be rid of them.

Ferdy, he is obviously emotionally immature. He doesn't know what the hell he wants. He may figure it out someday, and he may not, but you can't be expected to sit there waiting for him. Try to move on and just let him come to you if/when he figures it out. Throw yourself into your life and something you enjoy. If you're interested in astrology, why don't you sign up for a class? Go out with your friends. There's more to life than this emotional melodrama, and no one who cares for you would put you through this.

"I've been good this week w/o contact, but it is torture inside no matter how busy I try to stay."

I know, but that's because you haven't made a clean break. Each time there is contact it opens the wound anew and you're right back where you started from. Accepting that it's over is the most difficult part, but then you will begin to heal. It just takes time. Think of this...what or who might you be missing out on because your thoughts and emotional energy are all going into him? You're not open to meeting someone new, and you won't be until he is part of your past.

ROk-z "if the aries gets a bee in his/her bonnet about something, they obsess like a scorpio on acid."

Sadly that is true haha 🙂

"I may look into an astrology class. There is always room for self-improvement; if only I spent more time on that than I do on thoughts of him!"

LOL Yeah, you just need to direct your passion elsewhere, where it's constructive and/or appreciated. Maybe there will be a cutie in the astrology class...— Neva know... 🙂

"I see we both have our Venus in Aries so perhaps you can understand
how passionate I am when I'm in lovvvvvvve"

LOL..Yes, I know. We see what we want. We know what we want and we want it NOW! Come hell or high water. The trick is not drowning in the high water. 🙂

"I'm horrible when I'm in love. So much better when I have no one in my heart."

Awww..don't think that way. It's not you, you just have to find the right one. Then it's all worth it, because you'll look back on it and say to yourself.."wtf was I thinking?" 🙂

I know you can't imagine that now, but you'll see what I mean.

"I thought he was supposed to be "The One" after my wasted years on CAP!"

It's never wasted time. Either they taught you something, or you taught them something. Just think of it as school...that goes on for your entire life. HA! FUN

Once Scorps get something in their head, it's like they don't even hear you anymore. It's difficult for them to see things from someone else's perspective. Which is why you have to find one who's in the same reality as you. 🙂

"Urgh, no more love for me..."

WHATEVER Venus in Aries! 🙂 I'm off to bed. 'Night Ferdy!