what is his problem?

okay so i was seeing a scorp guy hes about 23 yrs old. we were hitting it off great but i had too many personal issues that i didnt want him involved in at the time. it wasnt long b4 i got back with my ex and moved out of state. well my scorpio friend got mad and hurt that i left. he also waited until last minute to ask me out when he knew he was about out of time. needless to say i had to turn him down bc i had already gotten back with who is now my fiance. but back a few months ago when i first moved away my scorpio friend was begging me to come back home to WV and i told him that i couldnt. i found out that im pregnant and he stopped acting desperate but instead rubbed in my face that ill never have another chance with him bc of it and how my fiance is a loser and everything else. well i try to talk to him now and he wont even talk that much. he even tried to hide from me that he dated a girl for 3 weeks even tho im engaged.
why was he so secretive? why did he he change so fast on me? hows come he waited until it was too late to ask me out? why did he try to make me feel bad for getting pregnant? i still care about him i really do but i just want to be his friend. i never did anything bad to him so why does he not talk to me much anymore? i even told him that if he doesnt want to talk to me to tell me and i wont care. but he came up with an excuse to why he doesnt talk.
i feel silly for caring what he thinks so much but im confused and i cant stand that! any answers?

Prime example of a "thater" .....


"What" has actually taken place flies over-head ... can only see "that" something is there.


"That" is fuzzy, has no definition = confusion.

"What" is clear, has meaning = elucidation.

i think sometimes it is hard to do the light, fun thing. deeper feelings can get involved. i think that's what happened to him, and he felt hurt by what he perceived as your insensitivity to what he was feeling for you.

i have to say... you're pretty hot.

"why did he he change so fast on me?"

I think the pregnancy dropped his interest in you... stone cold. It does that to a lot of guys. You think you're dating a girl, and you find out there's a lot more involved. It's a big responsibility for anyone, especially if you're not the biological father. Lots of single guys won't date single moms. Sad, but true.

Regardless, his treatment towards you after the news is unacceptable. If anything, you're seeing his real character which is downright horrible. He is simply not worth your time and affections.

FA i dont believe in abortion and what i decide to do with my own child os none of your bussiness! i may be young but i have come a long way learning the difrence between between a plain idiot and and a damn fool! you sound to be in between those 2 sumwhere.. do yourself a favor and NEVER mess with a mother and her unborn child! if the baby isnt yours then butt out! its not your problem now is it? i can guarantee you that if you ever got the guts to say that to a womans face youd end up dead in an alley sumwhere! you better be careful about what you say! for all you know i could be your next door neighbor!

thank you latina for being so supportive. my personal issues involved a certain life style that is hard to overcome. i didnt want scorp to get involved b/c of how quikly it was taking over my life. i couldnt imagine seeing him end the way i almost did.its kind of funny b/c he just asked me to go watch a movie and drink a few beers with him and i didnt realize how quickly he fell for me until he took me home and was leaving. i was wondering how in the world could i have led him on so quickly? well i tried to make it as unserious as i could but i could clearly tell the feelings he had for me and i wanted it at the time. but i had to make some changes on myself b4 bringing a new person into my life and i have tried to make him understand that.
i went back to my ex b/c i felt he was my only way out. he got me out of the state i was living in and brought me to a much cleaner environment with very supportive people and now im completly broke loose from what i had to overcome. i found out that im having his baby after i moved with him. so i even quit smoking cigarretts. my fiance and baby have saved my life.

i guess the reason i asked the question was to hopefully be reasurred that i really didnt do anything to hurt him. i just wanted sum1 to say that he ditched me. i dont like hurting people.

"i just wanted sum1 to say that he ditched me"


He didn't ... you ditched him.


Hello ... wake up.



Furthermore, you just admitted that the only reason why you are with fiance is because you had had nowhere to go, and needed someone to use to rescue you from yourself = user.

We hope you didn't faint...

Cancer_Leo, are you okay?

""i can guarantee you that if you ever got the guts to say that to a womans face youd end up dead in an alley sumwhere! you better be careful about what you say! for all you know i could be your next door neighbor!""

- ahahahahah

She said you'd end up dead in alley somewhere, butt-naked and bleeding in the cold....LOLOL


haaaaaaaaaa

Being a chemical sniffer will do this to the brain.

what's up with the girl on girl violence?

all points are valid. the harshness of tone seems uncalled for.

"We could be talking about how the day is so beautiful and promising, and FA will come in and say, "This day isn't beautiful, the sun is damaging my skin, and I really think its stupid to say something is promising all because of the weather. What kind of stupid logic is that?"

LMAO! yeah FA is a very negative disrespectful person. and to find out that shes a woman? i got the impression that she was a very angry cold hearted unmarried man! LMAO! wow.. the way she presents herself. if she knew anything about being a woman she would act like one.
PA if you cant handle the things people are saying to you then shut the fuck up or get out of my topic! nobody is here for YOU! if you want drama then go start it on your own post!

Thanks to everybody who is being supportive.. i appreciate it.. and tuarus/aries you are exactly right, im not the first young person to have a baby and wont be the last. i dont even know what the big deal is.. people talk like im 14 yrs old or sumthin! id rather have all my children in my early 20's and be able to do things and have fun with them instead of waiting until im older and too busy. my fiance has such a good job i dont have to work unless i want to. i personally think that its best when moms can stay home with their kids. children need their mothers.

"PA if you cant handle the things people are saying to you then shut the fuck up or get out of my topic! nobody is here for YOU! if you want drama then go start it on your own post"


What the fuck are you babbling about now?

Nobody's talking to me to even have to handle, lol

You're the one who admitted to snorting too many chemicals on another thread .. so perhaps, it's not me who is having a handle issue.

FA YOU are the most REDICULOUS person i have yet to see on this forum! YOU are UNBELIEVABLE!! you dont know my family.. and you dont know me. so stop acting like you know everything youre just making yourself look more dumb after every stupid message you post! give it a rest already!

And for everybodys information.. if you had been paying attention to my posts you would have known by now that i dont do drugs anymore. i overcame it without detox. i never begged or pulled my fiance back in my direction either. he knew about the situation and was begging ME to let him come help and i accepted it. i didnt use him at all! if i did i wouldnt be marrying him! he came and offerd his help and love. If anybody has a problem with that than im sorry that you havent been so lucky!

And as for YOU PA you said that we should stick to the topic... i dont even think you know what the real topic is.. this was never intended to be about my child! how can anybody even THINK about killing a baby? such sick minded people. and YOUR complaining about mothers having them young?? OH PLEASE! if you know so much about being a GROWN UP WOMAN then SHOW EVERYBODY ON HERE WHAT ONE IS! YOU ARE VERY MISLEADING! i suggest you just get out of my topic! nobody wants to read your messages! theyre pointless and stupid! youve got like 20 of them on here! if youve got a problem then take it sumwhere else! we dont want to deal with you!

i think that every1 should just start ignoring FA. she is obviously seeking sum kind of power. my grammar has nothing to do with her insecurities she just wants to be boss. i think about my child everyday! if i didnt i would stil be doing drugs. and the fact that i did them is no longer an issue. i believe in karma.. just let FA get whats coming to her. she will dont worry. i keep finding myself sitting here wondering why she acts the way she does.. im starting to think that perhaps she has had a hard life or something. bullies are insecure peoeple.

anyways.. i dont have enuff time to read all of her messages. so im signing off of here for now.

"And as for YOU PA you said that we should stick to the topic... i dont even think you know what the real topic is.. this was never intended to be about my child! how can anybody even THINK about killing a baby? such sick minded people. and YOUR complaining about mothers having them young??"


wtf are you babbling about now?

I never even mentioned anything about your baby, or killing somebody, for that matter.

Lady, you've got some serious comprehension/reality issues.

"youve got like 20 of them on here! if youve got a problem then take it sumwhere else"



wtf?


So, in West Virginia, the state well known for it's incestuous half-wits .. do they teach counting like this ... 1, 2 .. um 6 .... um 20

Accidents do happen where pregnancy is concerned. I'm not a mother myself, but I think it's one of those things in life you're never prepared for, no matter what age you are.

What does baffle me at times is that people are still having unprotected sex in this day and age (this is not directed at you, CL, just in general). If there were such a thing, I'd make men wear full body condoms, until we've both been tested. Which I require before becoming exclusive with anyone. I mean, I love sex as much (maybe even more) than the next person, but one night as opposed to the rest of your life...too big of a gamble for me. I've got shit to do.

--> end safe sex public service announcement 🙂

"You all are making this into a bigger deal than it really is."



Not from my perspective, MsP .. I never even said anything to her about her baby or killing anyone .. yet, she jumped square in my shit for saying it, so from my end .. I'm completely justified in striking back.

*takes a long drag on cigarette, and downs 2 shots of whiskey*

Whatchoo talkin' bout Ms.P?

🙂

"I'm completely justified in striking back."

I was talking about making a big deal out of her situation. She might not have made the best choices, but I don't think that makes her a complete idiot and incapable of raising a child.



MsP .. I never even said anything about her kid, her situation or her choices ....

Sorry P-Angel. i really didnt mean to use your initials up there.. i type really fast and meant to put FA.. my mistake. i think if we all used the longer versions of our names on here we wouldnt have had that problem.
As for all the bad messages im not even reading half of them. i dont have the time. i baby sit all day long and have responsibilities. i dont know why so much negative attention has been put torwards me and why people fail to read that I am just fine. I am financially secure, im clean, and a very strong person. i hate to break it to some of you but its hard to bring me down. so say what ever you want. it doesnt really affect the way i think about myself. it just affects the way i think about you. age does not define what kind of parent a person will be. there are people saying that i dont love my fiance. i never once said that. i love him with every beat of my heart. not only did he save my life but he has given me a child and wants to marry me. what more reason do i need to love him? im not like one of those girls that runs out in the street and has sex with sum random guy at a party and gets knocked up. i know who i have sex with.. i know the consequences, and if he isnt willing or cant support himself or me then there aint no way hes getting in my pants! i know who my babies daddy is and im marrying him. i dont know what alot of you may have done with your lives but what im doing with mine is my dream come true. my head is not in the clouds either. i just chase my dreams and make them happen. i guess thats why difficult things dont faze me b/c i always look for the positive side. if you stay positive then everything else will too. i usually ignore negativity b/c it just creates more. i feel sorry for those of you who are creating a negative atmosphere around yourselves. its not wonder you are so angry.
thanks to all of you who have been supportive and wished me luck. luck is a good thing to have.

"i think that every1 should just start ignoring FA"

Well FuckinA has given some great advice in the past so i don't think she would be ignored on this board. You might not like her straight talk but if you stop being so defensive you might actually hear what she is trying to tell you.

Oh, it's very important for a woman to keep certain independence. It's great your fiance is able and willing to support you and your baby now so you don't have to go find a job however, things might not stay the same forever. People change shit happens and before you know it, you might end up all alone one day without any real skills but few kids to feed.

I agree, Abby ... FA has a lot of wisdom.

People communicate differently .. all of us .. the message is what is important, that is what should be heard.


Thank you Cancer_Leo for acknowledging that ... I never even said anything about your baby, and wouldn't dare .. for I am a woman who has pregnancy issues as well. I'll take back my defense attack then about West Virginia people. 🙂

"I'll take back my defense attack then about West Virginia people."

Now I wouldn't go that far... 😉

"you wear a condom, not all that difficult..."

My parents used a condom the night mom got pregnant with my brother, and my mom was on the pill when she got pregnant with me...lol. Nothing is 100% in that regard, but you can def. cut the odds significantly.

And honestly, I must speak up in defense of MsP. She doesn't go out of her way to start arguments, but she does speak out when she feels passionately about something. Nothing wrong with that, we all do it. Some of us just feel more passionately about many more things. I'm that way myself. 😉

"The point isn't about it being 100% , but about taking responsibility and precaution to help prevent these things."

How do we know she didn't? She didn't really go into that.

"::clears throat:: I guess that officially puts us off-topic.....?"

HAHA! Only for seven pages. Even my blatant attempts to inject much-needed humor were ignored. = o

"how did she expect the guy to react? this is much ado about nothing"

Agreed. I think, CL, your feelings for Scorpio are far deeper than your feelings for the fiance. If that's the case, marriage is a REALLY bad idea. Especially if you have no plans to go back to school so you can earn a living on your own if you end up a single mother. Just food for thought.

It's unlikely, yes, but I try not to assume things, F-A. It's gotten me into trouble before. 🙂

"lol I snickered at them, SS. They didn't go unnoticed"

Well, I should hope so! It takes a lot of brain cells for me to come up with this shit.

NOT. 😉

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad you shared your mortifying drunk moment, MsP. However, it somehow hasn't convinced me to share (any) of mine. lol

Are you kidding? F-A would most likely rip me a new orifice. 🙂

lol, but what would we do without those horrifying drunk moments to humiliate us into having sense?

Without it, you might still be up there bellowing out "free falling" ..

oh, I just got it .. free falling .. falling into guitarist.


So, do you sing good?

"Come on Sea. Share one! Share one! Drunk stories are fun."

Erm...mine are more along the lines of horror stories...lol

"Landed at my front door where he dropped me off in disgust and I couldn't get my key in the door.....so I went around the house and slept in the backyard."

LMFAO! That sounds like something straight out of a Ben Stiller movie!

Hrm.......*surfs to you tube and searches "drunk girl sings Petty"*

Oh shit *searches youtube for self*

OMG! It was Aqua Man! The most useless superhero EVER! lol

LMAO! Why didn't you just knock until your roomie let you in? Of course, you were still probably freaked out by the Aqua Man sighting...lol

Yes, and even I would not date Aqua Man....lol

Your cunning attempts to extract info will not work on me, Emmie. 😛

No, I seriously can't top singing in public or viewing a seldom seen superhero. lol

LOL! I blame the Scorp rising for everything. I mean, it's certainly not the sweet little Pisces sides' fault.... 😉

*fingers in ears* LalalalalalaLALAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

🙂

""The only man who would ever want you, is a straight up b1tch of a man. You have the nerve to tell this woman about herself, yet you suck candy dildos IN PUBLIC, at your supposed BF's request... ""

- Well, she did say she met him online, lol. Gotta be careful with that.



""Ya, cuz thats the type of woman who should be bringing children into this world.""

- FA/Aprilbaby has stated a number of times that she doesn't want children. Perhaps, deep down, she really does want them, or maybe can't have any. Too many abortions? That happens to some people. 😢

I personally know a girl who has had so many abortions that she is now damaged and completely barren. That is the saddest thing.

20 is young in today's world, but tons of ppl have been in worse predicaments and turned out well in the end. it is what you make it.

i know a young lady who founded an organization that encourages teen girls and prepares them for college. she herself raised a son at only 15 yo, who is now doing well in college and a known community activist.