That Scorpio Boss of MIne

So, I came on here in the middle of March to talk about this Scorpio boss I have.
I am a Cancer.
I was told to run. lol I'm sorry, I still find that funny.

He's a cool guy. Still as cute as the first time I saw him.
He's been doing some real weird stuff lately though.
He's been walking up to me talking and then asking me who hired me.
The most recent time he did it (the 3rd time), I guess he read my eyes and he said that he just wanted to know because he and the other bosses (who were standing just where he came from) had this bet going and he was saying that he hired me.
Weird.
Then we were alone together in the office and he started to ask me why I am so quiet.
He said that I needed to go to the club. I told him I went to the club once-- last year and it was only because my brother wanted to take me for my birthday.
He said that I was better than him because he's never been (he swears that he's a quiet guy-- or rather was one).
We stopped because someone came in: I left.
What a beautiful eyed enigma. haha

The most recent time he did it (the 3rd time), I guess he read my eyes and he said that he just wanted to know because he and the other bosses (who were standing just where he came from) had this bet going and he was saying that he hired me.
Weird.

Yeah weird. Sounds like some weird sexual harassment in the workplace, gang bang style .

Yeah I wouldn't be laughing either if my superiors were chuckling and guffawing over me like I was some floozy piece of meat.

Hahaha. You guys, he's not sexually harassing me.
To recap what I said in the last post:
I found him attractive when I went on the interview. I was stuck on a Libra (Libras and Cancers don't go, yes, now I know) and choose not to pay any attention to him. Plus, I thought we'd be coworkers because he said "Hey, we're going to be working together." after I got hired by someone else. It is more like, "You're working for me... and that lady who just hired you." haha I think he's just trying to get me out of my shell. As I am no longer all up in the air, I thought maybe I could find something easy in the water with this Scorpio.

I like him enough, and I don't think there is any harassing going on here, though I didn't understand what that whole "Who hired you." bet thing was about. When I get him alone again, I plan on asking him. I think he was lying and trying to put the worry out of my eyes for being asked that for the 3 time.

He is also the only one who gives me rewards for any of my good work. Everyone else doesn't seem to notice. But, he'll reward me when I'm not even paying attention.

I don't know. I can't figure if he likes me, is being cautious, or if he is beating around the bush.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
There's a saying in my neck of the woods, "There's nowt as queer as folk!", I think this applies here.🙂

I just looked that up! I thought the "nowt" was a typo. haha
You're from the UK?

... No one is guffawing over me. Some of the other bosses I was talking about are female.
He had just come from the group, but they weren't looking at me. They were looking around to make sure everyone was working efficiently.

Calm down on the sexual harassment dudes.

This will not end well..... That whole conversation was inappropriate. The very fact that it ended it "because someone came in" tells me you both knew it was not a conversation you wanted others to hear. Why not?

You've been warned.

Posted by xygeneration
It's a professional environment, he's your boss and you are attracted to him. Someone walked in in the middle of your conversation and he stopped, he knows he's not supposed to be saying all that shit to you.

He wants a piece of your ass.

I mean, he invited you to go to the club. If he wanted to dine with you, he'll ask you to go to dinner. He just wants you to down tequilas and forget about it tomorrow. Just saying.

Looks like someone beat me to it. As you were....

Posted by PhoenixRising
This will not end well..... That whole conversation was inappropriate. The very fact that it ended it "because someone came in" tells me you both knew it was not a conversation you wanted others to hear. Why not?

You've been warned.

No, I'm assuming. I mean, that's why I stopped. Who knows why he did. Plus, I was checking out anyway.

We're all in our mid to early 20s (the immediate bosses and some of the team) and have a pretty relaxed working environment.
Can't a girl have a liiiitle fun?
I'm the quietest one. He probably just wants to know why.
It is not encouraged to fraternize, but it is not against the rules either.
Though, one of us (probably me because I'm new) would have to move to another department if we had such a relationship.

I would say that it is harmless light as a feather niceness/flirty at best.
And he's got these beautiful eyes, so, I'm liking the attention.

Would I sleep with him? Yes. After all my tender Cancer heart has been through, I could use a little FWB.
And yes, even though I'm a Cancer, I can have "loveless" sex.
But, we're not there yet. Though, currently, I'd be up for it.

Posted by ItsWorking


No, I'm assuming. I mean, that's why I stopped. Who knows why he did. Plus, I was checking out anyway...

Okay, one thing at a time....First, You didn't assume, your crabby intuitions told you exactly what was up--come on. "Who knows why he did it"? He did it to test you, to see if you would bite. You did.

As for this:

Posted by ItsWorking


...I'm the quietest one. He probably just wants to know why.

I don't think so. He was sizing you up for a while. He wouldn't have approached you otherwise. Scorpios "read". We watch, we "feel" people out, then we approach.

Posted by ItsWorking


We're all in our mid to early 20s (the immediate bosses and some of the team) and have a pretty relaxed working environment.
Can't a girl have a liiiitle fun?

And? Work is work, the playground is the playground. Don't blur the lines. So if this goes sour (if you pursue it) are you willing to deal with the drama that comes with that? Work has it's own stresses without you adding to it. Are you that bored with your life outside of work that you need to "have fun" at work too? With your boss no less.

...That last bit may have sounded harsher than I intended. Sorry.

Posted by ItsWorking


It is not encouraged to fraternize, but it is not against the rules either.
Though, one of us (probably me because I'm new) would have to move to another department if we had such a relationship.

I would say that it is harmless light as a feather niceness/flirty at best.
And he's got these beautiful eyes, so, I'm liking the attention.

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Un huh. "Not encouraged, but it's not against the rules...harmless flirting, but I like the attention..." I already saw where this is going from the first few line in your post and your responses to the other posts.

Posted by ItsWorking

Would I sleep with him? Yes. After all my tender Cancer heart has been through, I could use a little FWB.
And yes, even though I'm a Cancer, I can have "loveless" sex.
But, we're not there yet. Though, currently, I'd be up for it.

Cool, then do you...like I said, this won't end well.

Posted by ItsWorking

Posted by PhoenixRising
This will not end well..... That whole conversation was inappropriate. The very fact that it ended it "because someone came in" tells me you both knew it was not a conversation you wanted others to hear. Why not?

You've been warned.

No, I'm assuming. I mean, that's why I stopped. Who knows why he did. Plus, I was checking out anyway.

We're all in our mid to early 20s (the immediate bosses and some of the team) and have a pretty relaxed working environment.
Can't a girl have a liiiitle fun?
I'm the quietest one. He probably just wants to know why.
It is not encouraged to fraternize, but it is not against the rules either.
Though, one of us (probably me because I'm new) would have to move to another department if we had such a relationship.

I would say that it is harmless light as a feather niceness/flirty at best.
And he's got these beautiful eyes, so, I'm liking the attention.

Would I sleep with him? Yes. After all my tender Cancer heart has been through, I could use a little FWB.
And yes, even though I'm a Cancer, I can have "loveless" sex.
But, we're not there yet. Though, currently, I'd be up for it.

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I agree....I dont see anything wrong with what this scorp boss is doing. Just harmless flirting...He definitely likes you and if you like him then who cares if he's your boss or not..As long as he's not disrespectful then who cares..... 🙂

Posted by Ellybean
It's charming and flirting because you find him attractive. If you found him unattractive, it'd probably be creepy.

If you're looking for casual and temp though, I def wouldn't recommend a scorp male, especially one that you work with and is your boss. Even when they appear to be casual its not most of the time. Especially since you're a fellow water sign. Water sign-water sign can be a brutal hot mess if it turns into drama.

If you two could keep your heads straight though and there is no corporate policy against dating superiors, there could be some good memories and experiences from it. But office romances are ultimately difficult to some degree no matter which way you slice it. Best wishes.

+1

Well, I don't think I've taken any bait. lol So, we'll just see where this goes.
Probably nowhere with my history.

As for the not having a FWB relationship with a Scorpio, you're right.
I never thought about that. I think it's because I find Scorpios so... non water like.
My Scorpio aunt hates it when I compare her sign to that of an Aries... whom I dislike.
I think of Scorpios to be so strong and fiery in my mind, that I forget sometimes that they are supposed to be emotional and a water sign. They definitely don't have Cancers beat in emotional stuff though. haha

Anyway, I guess I'll keep you guys posted, so you can disapprove of me some more for thinking my boss is cute.haha