ninalove
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The Ex Factor
Have you tried telling him that you've moved on and don't feel anything for him anymore?
I really don't think you should leave your job. Just knock some sense into him. I think it may be good to talk it over with him, for you, and also so that he can find some closure and maybe move on. Even though that will be a little hard for him since he's at the same workplace, but he can at least heal slowly.
I really don't think you should leave your job. Just knock some sense into him. I think it may be good to talk it over with him, for you, and also so that he can find some closure and maybe move on. Even though that will be a little hard for him since he's at the same workplace, but he can at least heal slowly.
Posted by Scenic
Have you tried telling him that you've moved on and don't feel anything for him anymore?
I really don't think you should leave your job. Just knock some sense into him. I think it may be good to talk it over with him, for you, and also so that he can find some closure and maybe move on. Even though that will be a little hard for him since he's at the same workplace, but he can at least heal slowly.
I have told him multiple times that I don't feel the same and he knows I am seeing someone. I speak with my Pisces multiple times throughout the day within ear shot of the Scorpio. Who by the way also has Venus in Scorpio.
I am not sure at this point what I can say to him to be more clear...I'm showing him through actions. It's only been a week but I am hoping this will cease.
Reassuring my Pisces has proven a bit tougher, for now he says he will let me handle it. I have explained to him that there is nothing that ANYONE can say or do that would prompt me to walk away from him, only he has that ability. I have no desire to destroy or compromise what we have.
Well, go to HR about it. He can't fire you and the emails can be proof he's harassing you.
Just because he's your boss doesn't give him the right to do that.
Just because he's your boss doesn't give him the right to do that.
^ This. Unless there's nobody above him, why is there confusion in how to handle this? Go to a higher up about it, or HR, and explain the situation. You may not want to get him in "trouble" but his lame issues are not your problem at this point. With guys like this, feeling bad just adds fuel to the fire. I think it's ridiculous that he can't respect the fact that this is a work environment and that you're clearly taken, yet he still tries. Selfish jerk.
Why so passive in how you're handling this?
Why so passive in how you're handling this?
Wow this is crazy. I would have never assumed a Scorpio with Scorpio Venus would be pushing that hard. I guess he has some other placements that I am not sure about. I would also see what type of options you have IE: anyone that is above him. Now I do understand why you would be passive about it because this is your job and it could create a world of drama. So I know you're between a rock and a hard place. Their are consequences to going to higher ups. I don't think that people are thinking about that fully here. Yes it's a serious situation but you have had ties to this guy too and it's not like you want to make him lose his job or yours. I would ignore him completely, ice him out. Avoid him at all costs. Eventually you think he would get the hint. If there is no audience there is no show.
Ok first off I didn't see anything where he used her job as a threat to get what he wants. I didn't see that posted. If he was doing that then I would have said something different. Calm down.
It's not that, Xin. HOWEVER he's taking this particular situation for his benefit. He's her boss - automatically implied power role.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
^ This. Unless there's nobody above him, why is there confusion in how to handle this? Go to a higher up about it, or HR, and explain the situation. You may not want to get him in "trouble" but his lame issues are not your problem at this point. With guys like this, feeling bad just adds fuel to the fire. I think it's ridiculous that he can't respect the fact that this is a work environment and that you're clearly taken, yet he still tries. Selfish jerk.
Why so passive in how you're handling this?
100% on point.
This behavior is the basis for further harassment. You have every right to work in peace without extra stress. Go to HR and extinguish the fire now before you have nobody to help you if it turns into something more - which WILL happen (see, he's already gone to illogical behaviors with this).
Posted by sheathedclaws
It's not that, Xin. HOWEVER he's taking this particular situation for his benefit. He's her boss - automatically implied power role.
You are reading too much into it. I don't think he is THAT malicious. I don't see anything in her paragraphs that say he is using his position as leverage. I believe he is just obsessive and a stalker. It makes it very easy for him to target her because she is in his place of employment. Honestly I would find a new job. There are consequences to going to higher ups. They might think ok she's dramatic and causing issues (because he is in a position of management they might rule in his favor you should know how this works) OR they fire him and he get's pissed the hell off and goes into rage mode. Do none of you think about any of this?
Not trying to be the black sheep here (seems most of us Gemini's are on this board) but think beyond just that. What will happen after it's "settled" if she does go to HR? Does anyone know his relationship with HR? How long he has worked there compared to her? There is a lot of factors going on here. And we ALL know how management works. It's a smaller company it won't be handled the same way it would be at a large corporation. Where translation could be lost and that rules in the favor of the person being pursued. If they do take action and he loses his job over the person he is obsessed with what makes you think he wouldn't go off the deep end? If it's like this now do you think he will have some epiphany and leave her alone? She should honestly either 1. ignore him (no audience no show) or 2. find a new job.
Ooooo! *Popcorns*
LOL@Elle
I didn't know who but I had a distinct feeling someone would know the background on this situation.
I didn't know who but I had a distinct feeling someone would know the background on this situation.
Posted by ellessque
I'm pretty sure that this thread will probably end up being deleted by nina too.
She's not stopped bringing up her scorpio ex since she came on this site.
"the most emotionally fulfilling relationship I've ever had."
"he texts me but I don't reply."
bleh, bleh, bleh.
You are loving eveyr single damn second of this.
Chic, you are not over him and you are eating up all this attention and because you feel guilty about it, you are making him look like the villan.
The less than stellar part of your character is showing. You should probably cover that up before someone notices.
I have never denied that the relationship with the Scorp was a great relationship...it was. The operative word is "was". He was very good to me. Ex's are ex's for a reason. I don't go back...EVER. You have never nor will you read a string that I created about him...I have commented on other's posts about scorpio and venus in scorpio based on my experience as I also have venus in scorp. The blessing/curse placement.
since you follow me so closely...you know that Pisces and I are fairly new and we have many trine plantary influences that have caused quite a stir between us. I posted in the Pisces forum for clarity...as I did not always understand his Cancer moon behavior. The mature fish in that forum were more than helpful...the Pisces and I are in a great place.
I have found that the mature/insightful posters can add a wealth of information and help to posters like myself and I truly appreciate their efforts. I also firmly believe in planetary influences and am grateful for those perspectives as well.
I assure you...you KNOW NOTHING about my character! I have enough natural drama in REAL life I don't need web attention to manufacture drama or attention. If you feel so compelled to NOT participate in said attention...you are welcome to ignore my posts and move along.
Deuces!
Posted by DeadRingerr
OMG!!! I just looked at her chart! I feel sorry for these guys!!
Sun/Libra Rising/Gemini Moon/Sag Venus/Scorpio and Mercury/Scorpio
Why?
Posted by ellessque
she goes on and on with sublte innuendos of how great this scorp was, especially his venus.
she compliments the scorpio more than the damn pisces.
she deleted her "I think we just broke up" thread from the end of February.
😛
Nothing subtle...he was great. It's over.
I also delete post with too many identifiable comments.
" I don't go back...EVER. "
Then why are you discussing this? Just curious.
Then why are you discussing this? Just curious.
Posted by DeadRingerrPosted by ninalovePosted by DeadRingerr
OMG!!! I just looked at her chart! I feel sorry for these guys!!
Sun/Libra Rising/Gemini Moon/Sag Venus/Scorpio and Mercury/Scorpio
Why?
You're probably a dynamo in bed(dont wanna come off like a lesbo) all these placements like to play mind games....You will probably be single for a long time....were you ever married?click to expand
Unfortunately...I have NEVER been alone...probably not healthy. I was married to a Sag for 13 years. Two children.
I would love to believe that I am a demon in the sack...but I really have nothing to compare it to. I am uninhibited and a pleaser...I think those are good things with the right person. Never had a one night stand.
Posted by tiki33
" I don't go back...EVER. "
Then why are you discussing this? Just curious.
Her comment was that I am not over it and want him back...
I wanted to clarify my position on ex's. All relationship that end...end for a reason.
So if you don't mind how exactly did this end if it was such a good relationship? With the "drama" from friends and etc. Seeing that it was a really good relationship why would any outside influences sway your stance?
Wait so she dumped him while he was out of the country? Wow. I'm still waiting on her retort as far as what was the cause for her to do that. Even if it was outside opinions/family/drama was it really that bad? That you would choose to leave someone?
Posted by DeadRingerr
How did he become the boss?
Yeah that's what I would like to know too. I mean it would be obvious that he was a co-worker and after she dumped him he got promoted. Damn. Talk about karma.
Ok doesn't matter what sign you are to be pissed the hell off about that LOL! Id be like WTF! And get my ass promoted like a BOSS! Which he is now.
Anyways, still waiting for retort!
Anyways, still waiting for retort!
Posted by DeadRingerrPosted by XinPosted by sheathedclaws
It's not that, Xin. HOWEVER he's taking this particular situation for his benefit. He's her boss - automatically implied power role.
You are reading too much into it. I don't think he is THAT malicious. I don't see anything in her paragraphs that say he is using his position as leverage. I believe he is just obsessive and a stalker. It makes it very easy for him to target her because she is in his place of employment. Honestly I would find a new job. There are consequences to going to higher ups. They might think ok she's dramatic and causing issues (because he is in a position of management they might rule in his favor you should know how this works) OR they fire him and he get's pissed the hell off and goes into rage mode. Do none of you think about any of this?
I agree,, I have seen it happen....sometimes going to HR is the worst thing you can do....she's trying to deal with it, without making to much noise. He'll give up, he's a Scorpio for christ sake, he'll be in someone else's panties soon enough...he's just pissed cus she found someone else first!!
Personally, I wouldn't have said anything to the Pisces, God knows they don't need a reason to feel insecure. If she finally got shit stable with him now this is gonna rock the boat. I bet all kinds of shit is going through his head as we speak!!click to expand
I've never worked for a company that would fire over that. And I've never worked for a company that has ever taken a boss' side while they cross the line.
I've had a stalker and he quickly progressed to a scary level.
I've never seen a Scorpio give up.
They're all situational happenings that are based on details we don't know unless we're that specific person, really.
Well, reading recent comments I'm definitely not putting more thoughts in.
Or, geesh- getting on anyone's bad side o.o
Or, geesh- getting on anyone's bad side o.o
how is the scorp contacting the OP with all the schmoozy stuff? via personal email? texting? if yes, you should block that...if it's the work email (and i would be surprised that a scorp did that), you have every right to make a formal complaint.
if there's nothing coming from you to encourage him, i don't see what the problem is and if you are being open and honest with your pisces, i don't see what his problem is. yeah, it's not a great situation but you should have enough trust in eachother to be able to rise above it.
i think you're making a mountain out of a molehill and i think there's a reason behind that. it's not like a scorp to just come out with proclamations of love...specially to someone who's already rejected them! you must've opened that dialogue box somehow.
if there's nothing coming from you to encourage him, i don't see what the problem is and if you are being open and honest with your pisces, i don't see what his problem is. yeah, it's not a great situation but you should have enough trust in eachother to be able to rise above it.
i think you're making a mountain out of a molehill and i think there's a reason behind that. it's not like a scorp to just come out with proclamations of love...specially to someone who's already rejected them! you must've opened that dialogue box somehow.
btw, i don't get all this bosses being all powerful stuff. i've never sucked up in my life and neither have i felt intimidated by someone cos they're higher up the ladder. i don't care if you make the tea or pay the salaries, we're all part of a greater whole, just as in life.
mmmmm....nice weed 😛
mmmmm....nice weed 😛
why did Nina break up with him if he was a great guy?
this is getting good 🙂
this is getting good 🙂
Posted by BigGirlPanties
why did Nina break up with him if he was a great guy?
this is getting good 🙂
I know that's what I was asking earlier!
Posted by DeadRingerr
How did he become the boss?
He bought into a partnership...He is now part owner.
Posted by Xin
Wait so she dumped him while he was out of the country? Wow. I'm still waiting on her retort as far as what was the cause for her to do that. Even if it was outside opinions/family/drama was it really that bad? That you would choose to leave someone?
Oh boy...I may have to delete this post too.
Being out of the country...was not exactly out of the country...his departure was not voluntary. He has drama that interferes with my ability to parent effectivley.
He likes to take care of those he loves...keeping you close but in his control. His circle of family and friends is broad...he is well-known and well-off (no, I was not seeing him becuase of that). I am not even remotely close to his earnings and wont be in my life time. I'm ok with that. But money can breed problems for people that don't come from money.
I doubt he would ever threaten my position...he likes things the way they are at work. However, I don't want to be a bitch to him nor make my Pisces uncomfortable. I am sticking with consistent action for now.
The Scorpio sent me flowers today with a note of apology and assurances to not cross the line again...I doubt he will stick to it.
Had lunch with my Pisces today and did reaasure him of his importance in my life. I hope it's enough for now...I can't deal with much pressure. I am certain I would not be comfortable with him working with his ex. I would never expect him to quit his job. I am polishing my resume just in case.
Posted by DeadRingerr
Oh really? Hmmm, maybe this is something you have done before? get involved with other co-workers on a romantic level?
Oh gosh no!! I've worked for a couple companies and have worked there when certain incidences between coworkers have occurred. I've always gotten along with most coworkers - so I'd always hear the gossip and drama going on 😛
I once flirted with somebody who worked at the same establishment... but we weren't any sorts of coworkers. He was a bit older than me (8 years?) and was quite interested in taking me out for sushi. I was up for it until I found out he had a kid, but I thought 'well that's alright - it's a date and doesn't mean much more unless it develops into that.' BUT THEN I found out he had been out of jail for about a month or two and was being REALLYYYY shady about - oh, I don't know - WHY HE WAS IN JAIL. For my sake, I didn't follow through. I have no problem with a turbulent past but it was too shady to me when I'll certainly understand and accept another's misdoings!
Excuse my little tangent, heh. But no, I've never been involved with a coworker 🙂 I like to keep those things separate so I have SOME piece of mind!! 😛
WOAH, excuse my failed attempt at quoting. Totally not correcting that 😛
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