The mystery of Scorpion men

I'm a Pisces and from what I've noticed, Scorpio men don't like to put themselves out there. Whether they're the shy type who avoid people or the really confident ones who bulldoze everything in their path, they don't like to be rejected in any way by women. They cast a net and wait for the object of their affection to come to them. At least, it seems this way from what I've observed. They wait and wait and wait and lose out on opportunities, all because it seems they need to be approached first. Is it really the way I'm seeing it? Or are they not interested?

I have a lot in common and I apply the same method - throw some bait to reel them in, pretending I'm unaware. This works on every other sign but not Scorpio men. There have been a few that I've liked and there seemed to have been a connection there but they just seemed so unwilling to put themselves out there and take the next step. Having the same nature, I didn't do anything either. The thing is, if they reached out - there was/is no way I would ever reject them. I'm practically waiting for them to do it. I did have a relationship with a scorpion and I did like him a lot but I could never be honest with my feelings as he seemed to be holding back as well. If he had been more open, I would have too. Years have passed and I'm a lot more straight forward but I still have this problem with scorpio men.

Am I seeing things incorrectly? Should I reach out to my current Scorpion? I don't want to come across as someone who is throwing myself at someone but I have so much in common with this guy and I think that there is definitely something there. What should i do? Thanks!

About rejection you really hit the nail on the head.. REJECTION in any case not acceptable for a scorpio man.. it just breaks us down from the inside...

About approaching the girl situation.. When we like a particular girl we weave our web.. and when that is done we throw in the bait... and wait for the prey.. to come...

Personally i do the same thing.. and i know scorpio men like to chase the girl but somehow i like the other way around reason i like when a girl approaches me first time coz it shows that she is confident and willing to take risks.. that is the foremost quality i look for when i meet a girl.... and then i start to approach her or build a sort of relationship with her....


When we hold back our emotions or just wait for the girl it definitely does not mean that we are not interested.. it is basically a sort of test we put in front of the girl to see what her reaction is... that is it...

Another reason for appearing ice cold is that we weigh the pros-cons before entering the relationship...


And in your current situation.. i think you should tell him how you feel.. but do not appear NEEDY coz its a big turn off for us... and from there see where this leads you... take it slow dont rush it... hopefully it works out.. 🙂 and if not then there is no frigging chance...

PiscesShark, you best bet is to let them pursue you. Be sensitive to almost every nuance you get from him when he is reaching out. He is extremely sensitive and will withdraw without a word if offended. Then it's on you to pursue, which may not be comfortable for you. If he is genuinely interested, he will most likely return after the withdrawal. It can be a touchy thing, but moreso if he really isn't all that interested. You really don't want him if he is not all that interested though, because he will screw with your head. I think you may be meeting the wrong ones. When you meet one that is really interested in you, it will be more clear. The tests won't stop though.

Thank you so much everyone for answering and advising! Everything that everyone says makes sense and it's also made me aware where I may be going wrong. I try to stay in his radar as often as possible but I get frustrated sometimes when he doesn't do as much as I would like him to and then I concentrate on something else or withdraw. So I'm definitely not consistent. But I will remedy that soon. I also have a terrible habit of saying really stupid things around him. So sometimes when he speaks to me I prefer to not as much instead of putting my foot in my mouth. With everyone else, I'm so full of smart remarks and I often make people laugh - but around him, I become stupid. I'm gonna try calming down and be myself more.
Thanks thanks thanks again!!!

Scorpio men don't like to put themselves out there

sure they will 🙂

Scorpios are very confident people. If they are sure of the results, balls to the wall.

I find them very expressive till you hurt them

intentional or not...

Whether he is consciously aware of it, or not, he is holding back because something (energetically) that he needs to be there isn't or something that he needs to not be there, is. If he really wants you, believe me, you'll be the first to know.

Posted by Equator
Whether he is consciously aware of it, or not, he is holding back because something (energetically) that he needs to be there isn't or something that he needs to not be there, is. If he really wants you, believe me, you'll be the first to know.

Right on the money!!! 🙂

Posted by Arielle83
I told mine about the soulmate connection between cancer and scorpio and it reeled him in. However, he already mentioned the emotional connection we had. Playing coy can be favourable; however, if his mind is on other things then you have no chance.

LMAO, really? Isn't that trying a little too hard? I mean if there was indeed a 'soulmate connection' then both would feel it somehow & there wouldn't be a need to point it out. I think you were kind of manipulating his feeling there by saying that to him.

Posted by Equator
Whether he is consciously aware of it, or not, he is holding back because something (energetically) that he needs to be there isn't or something that he needs to not be there, is. If he really wants you, believe me, you'll be the first to know.

I agree with this.

PShark, has this scorpio man ever approached you for a date or as a person of interest to him?

Posted by cunninglinguist
Disagree. This belief leads to wishful thinking which leads to wasting time on people who aren't all that interested.

My Scorp couldn't be bothered to pull the "mysterious" facade with me. He simply pursued me, even though he was shy and awkward by nature. He wanted to keep me to himself, rather than diddle dawdle and risk someone else beating him to the punch.

If someone truly wants you, they will have a sense of urgency and they'll step up to the plate.

My scorpio was the same way. He simply pursued me and there was no mistake of his interest in me. However, it was our second time around. The first time I did experience a kind of dilly/dally, and we only talked a few times a week over the phone and went on one date. Then we simply stopped communicating. A year or so later, I reached out to him again because I still thought of him and he came back totally focused on being with me, I never asked why he acted the way he did previous. Whatever was holding him back in our previous acquaintance, was gone in our new one. PiscesShark, you can let him know you are interested in him, but do not pursue him. He will do that if he is interested as all of us have already said. That is all I can say because that is how it worked out for me.

pisceshark,

Just don't throw yourself at him... and I guess he doesn't like you that much.

Scorpio men will pursue if they likes you as what I have noticed from my ex fiance.