This Scopio is killing me!

Ok i'm a new member. been reading for about three months before i joined.

I have been dating this scopio for about a year and half.Everything has been going on ok. She was so quick to show me her scopio side at the beginning of the relationship, So when we get into it i always walk away or keep quiet when she is hot to avoid the big fight.Even when she is wrong. This kept going on and i figured she just keeps getting worse with the whole temper bull $ #@!so when we got into it again i could not take it anymore and i exploded!.I guess she was surprised and said she was leaving me. I "kissed her a $ $ " to get back with her. Things went back to normal for a month except that i dont let her over talk me anymore.Now she hardly wants to doing anything with me. She says she wants "her space but she does not want to break up" .So far its been 3 months she has had her space. She does not even text or call. I do the texting and calling.when i request us to see or meet she still wants her space. I'm begining to think otherwise. Wat do you guyz think i should do. Let go and move on or just keep waiting?.

I'm a Libra...

She made me committed! She was the author of commitment when we started. She made clear about her feelings known to me and wanted a serious long term relationship which i was not comfortable with until i met her.

The fights are over stupid stuff. Everytime she always has something to yell about!

She wanted to move in with me at one point but i refused and told her it was to early to take it to that level. I thought she understood bcos she never showed any sign of not agreeing with me. Another thing is that she does not like when i try to figure out when she has a problem. It was something she really appreciated for sometime and said i understand her so well but now its like i'm a pest!

wagamama ... Scorpio's are control freaks, as it pertains to people's emotions. How you feel, when, where, for what purposes ... they want total control of.

That's why when you remained quiet, as she rampaged and dictated all emotional terms of the relationship .. she was perfectly happy = she had you controlled emotionally. Then once you exploded, she lost this control, and backed off from you.

Rest assured, she hasn't gone anywhere .. except just to linger in the shadows until you've learned your lesson, which equals = you present your feelings to her according to her terms.

and btw: her telling you she doesn't want to break up, while not allowing you to be in her company .... is punishment. You have been bad, and you need to be reprimanded for it. Because she is a Scorpio female, she truly believes that she is IT .. she is The Woman .. and so to tell you that she doesn't want to break up, she believes that you will loyally sit and wait for her, and feel like you are so honored and proud to have The Woman, that is a prize to behold (in her mind). So, since she is .. All That There Is .. and you have defied her by expressing your own emotions, at your discretion ... she will make you have to endure life without her for a while, it is your punishment.


That is the nature of the beast ... you can either dip, or become a "Yes Dear" man

Lol... ok i'll admit she always tells me i really dont listen to her when i ask her about what bothers her. I ask, she tells but i guess i still dont get her point. Especially when it has to do with issues outside our relationship. She said i always let things go and i'm very passive about things. I think she wants me to be a lil hard or something. Dont really know.

P Angel. Its like she keeps getting worse everytime i let her have her way. i've made up my mind that wont happen again. i'll give her the same respect she deserves but if she takes me for granted then i'll put my foot down eveytime she bring her head up.

lol... y? what makes u say that? and I'm serious

Because ... you are but a person .. SHE IS SCORPIO !!!!!!


You will have no say ... you will either dip, or be a "yes dear" man.

Actually .. let me re-word that ..


She will either decide to drop you, or you will be a "Yes Dear" man.

And something else, wagamama .. that you probably don't realize because most people don't ..


For her to have this control over you .. this either deciding to drop you or break you .. is what is attracts you to her, likely, unbeknownst to you.

This is how all Scorpio's capture people .. because it looks like a challenge. The opponent (you) will view this as a woman to whom means to control you, and so you will be drawn towards it, for conquering, because you'll be damned if you'll be controlled.

See? ^^^^^^ the power that draws you in.

However, she's the one actually in control all along, because she was able to pull you in, and keep you there, by remaining unconquerable.

Which is why Scorpio and Aries power struggle .. because the Ram does the same thing.


Both are elementary to tame, really ... once the game is fully realized.

I wish it were that easy for people ... if it was, we wouldn't have all these stories in here about people being helplessly dependent on others for them to feel.

(Lol... ok i'll admit she always tells me i really dont listen to her when i ask her about what bothers her. I ask, she tells but i guess i still dont get her point. Especially when it has to do with issues outside our relationship. She said i always let things go and i'm very passive about things. I think she wants me to be a lil hard or something. Dont really know.)

Yeap,UNDERSTANDING ISSUE here! Honestly, a Scorp is just too passionate and intense for a cool and detached Libra, yet you are attracted by those qualities and she is to yours.She says,you listen but you don't get it! Obviously, you two 'natures are different from each other and this is where the attraction lies.It is intense and hard to get out.So if you two truly love each other , have a proper discussion like two grown-up adults and drop the games PLEASE! (How many times I said this , I couldn't count any more!)

Though I must say that yelling at others is not a very attractive quality.You should tell her to drop that immature atitude! I'm a Scorp myself but I've never been once in my life yelling at any one.I'm too calm for my sake perhaps 😛 If I disagree with you and I feel that the situation is heated,I would ask to leave to recollect myself before giving any opnion.This Scorp lady you are with really need a lesson to treat people better.So tell her truthfully , don't play the games that she is playing as it will cause more brain turmoil!

The withdrawing might not be the punishment as others suggested.It could be just herself upsetting about something in her life (some can be drama queens I know!) or that she's feeling smouldering by your attention. You two might not be on the same pace at most of the time.When you run hot,she runs cold and vice versa.There is always something missing and mismatched in a Libra-Scorp relationship yet that's what exactly keep you two together.It's madness but you can't stand away for the uncertainty will be the glue.Libra,you can't deny that despite your logic,you love a good mystery now and then or so you think.😛

On the other hand, if it's her game of gaining control.Just write and ask her if there is any thing she's upset about the relationship,you two should meet to dicuss/if she need space for other issues,you will give her(as she should do for you too)However, if her intention is to punish you for something that you don't even know then it's injustice.By then,if there is no reply,perhaps you know what to do 🙂

Exam you just described her! Anytime she is upset with anything or anyone especially when its me or her mom she just holds it for a looonnnggg time.She can be in the house for days and not pick up her phone.Is that not Depression? I've always told her to choose her battle but she wants to fight you the moment you upset her.And the funniest thing is that when we are outside she is acts so different from when the doors are closed. i dont get it! Most people think she is a quiet cool person(which she is really) but behinde the doors she just shows out and i never allowed it bother me until she started taking my softness for granted.

I guess i'll just take one side of the advice and back off a bit maybe she would redeem herself if she doesn't hear from me for a while.

wagamama,did you ask her the reason of wanting space ? Just honestly tell her that you're willing to give her space , however , you need to know whether it has any thing to do with your relationship.You two are partners so communication and understanding are very important here.If it is nothing to do with you , then just go on with your life till she comes out.Perhaps , you should also tell her that you need her attention and contribution in the relationship.It's fine to have your space but going on indefinitely is unacceptable when she previously claimed of wanting to have a serious relationship with you.How would she be capable to do that?
No reason provided + Space + Not wanting to share her emotion with you-WARNING SIGNS!

At least after asking her , you find the answer you're looking for so you won't be mad/obsessed any more! I think your anger was ignited by her lack of explanation,not the withdraw.If you two play games, it'll never be the loving and understanding relationship that you all have dreamed about.It's doomed! Do it fairly even she wronged you and you can move on happily with your life because you know you've done all you could.You will find a more fulfilling relationship when you forgive and love
yourself and the people around you. Be loving.It's a relationship, not war!

I've seen how long a Libra is able to withdraw from the real world to weight and think things through! Only a Scorp would break your record sometimes 😛

lol, you could talk to her .. but, what's the point?


"she always tells me i really dont listen to her when i ask her about what bothers her. I ask, she tells but i guess i still dont get her point."

If from her perspective .. you don't "get" her, and this has been an on-going issue, which as been a part of what led to the needing of space (which it has because it's when you finally communicated for yourself that all hell broke loose - so a communication breach IS the issue) .. if she believes you don't "get" her when she speaks ...

.. then seriously, let's be logical here .. what point is there in asking her how she feels, and why she wants space?


lol ***** head spins in circles, beginning is end, end is beginning***


I particularly like the quote below .. for it's saying that when you don't get your panties wadded up over other people's shit, which isn't even her business to begin with to be stroking over ... more hell comes from her, as a gift to you for being passive about other people's bullshit, which is outside of the relationship and not really your business ..

"Especially when it has to do with issues outside our relationship. She said i always let things go and i'm very passive about things."



She's an emotional distaster, really ... if she freaks out over you NOT embracing passionately, other people's bullshit.

You have two choices ..... dip, or "yes dear"

Phew! you guys keep increasing the confusion in my head. and yeah is is very very very beautiful...lol. I called her yesternight we spoke without forcing she said she wants to take things slow.

Again everytime i really decide to move on she just figures and wants to work things out. yesterday i wanted her to run her mouth and say things that will make me not go back but NO! Instead she asked to hangout on my birthday(next week thrusday)! WTF? i was shocked! and i said yes with out thinking. But if i never called would she have still asked? Things like this makes me tired. i think she just likes this ON and OFF thing. it aint me.

this reminds me of the movie dumb and dumber....

Harry said,

We broke up because she says I never listen to her...I dont know because I really wasnt paying attention.

LOL

OK.Things are getting better she said "Everything was getting on my nerves and i didnt want you to be a part of it because i didnt want to scare you away thats why i wanted to be away from you" Is there a time scorpios go thru this and just shut everyone out?

She gave me a call and it went off from there. i guess she is off that period.We'll see how things turns out. but i'm not gonna take it all in. gotta protect myself too.

Thanks for the advice.