Thoughts....

A few months back my bf of 2 years got a picture message form a girl he dated a few times ( also slept with). We argued about this and he said she must be drunk he hasnt talked with her since we started seeing each other.

My boyfriend got drunk and texted her ( what i do not know) but I was on his phone on my facebook when one of her replies got texted back. - he doesnt hide his phone from me and im on it often enough.


Her reply had an xo at the end.

He tried to lie and say he gave his phone to a friend and he sent a message to some girl.

I then said - think very carefully about what your answer is going to be.

He then said it was her, and she messaged him about a sporting game and he replied.


We dicussed this, then his story changed again, he messaged her about the game - cus she likes baseball and she replied. ... he lied b/c i was upset when she text him a few months ago and didnt want to argue. I dialed the number and said well lets talk with her then... he got mad and took his phone to the bathroom and then i told him to leave and he left. he returned b/c he was drunk and slept on the couch - then we talked at 5 am. he apologized said he loves me and was wrong to lie etc.. etc.. then asked do i really want to end a 2 yr relationship over a text message. etc etc.


All and all - we havent talked in 4 days b/c of our work hours... and it may sound lame - but i dont know how i feel.

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yup tough it is... because i dont plan on living my life - like a crazy gf...checking phones, peeking around corners.

He can have friends that are girls and vice versa. But this... nah!

I guess I know how I feel..LOL

He initially lied because he thought you'd blow it out of proportion.. and you did - you (both, most likely) have trust issues!

What I'm going to do is spell it out - this is a deal breaker, moving forward - im out if you need to be doing that.

Only problem I see - is now if he is not sincere - he will be hiding stuff extra hard and i will have to be ( a play on your name) NinjaGirlfriend to find out... ugh!

let him be. Don't make him lie to you.

It will be his decision and obviously, we all go through times. He is with you now and nothing can stop him if he were to decide to go to her. Allow him to deal with his past. If he leaves his cell around, that is a good indication of his trust and loyalty to you. Your trust will make him stronger. Neither of us likes to be watched over like a little kid.

Have confidence in him, if.

true .. true to both of you.

I'm no ones mother and dont want to be now.

I'll lay down my bottom lines and hopefully we can move on in like Al Green says in ... love and happiness!

I don't think a text message is a cause for great alarm imo...

A lot of dudes do this...especially while they've been in a long term relationship...they don't usually plan on acting on anything...it's more than likely just to see if they "still got it." You know?

haha!! i found a similar text message that ended my marriage. it wasn't so much the text, it was the lies to cover up the fact he'd been texting (and having an affair with) someone else. why lie? what does it achieve apart from making everything worse. when you know someone is lying to your face it's very difficult to ever trust them again. i did try but it just wasn't possible and i didn't want to live a paranoid life where i felt the need to snoop on him cos i am very anti snooping.

when trust has gone there is nothing left.

it was probably a bit of drunk texting in the case of your bf but even so....why lie about it? THAT'S what would make me start thinking there was more going on.

the concept of 'sexting' completely escapes me! if i've ever received a 'sext' i always drown it with cold water with my response, lol.....it's ridiculous!!!

nah...i don't like it regardless of who is sending it. if you're gonna use the phone, use it to say the words into my ear....THAT'S good...but text innuendo? not for me.