Two female Scorps in the same room.

Well, it doesn't work. Living with another Scorpio. I am the shy and timid kind. My roommate is the loud and obnoxious I want attention type. I am dating our other roommate (a guy) who I previously dated before I moved in and I have been here for 9 months. We've been dating for 5 of those months. Before I moved in he told me she hated me (she has only seen me twice at that point) The last 5 months, she has been weird. She wouldn't come in the living room and chill with us. When she was around, there would be huge tension between us. It's like I was in her territory and she wanted me out. Like I was a threat.

Me and my guy have been fighting the past week about things HE did that upset me. She lives with us and can obviously hear door slamming and yelling. The last day of our fighting (we got back together after 3 days of me sleeping in the spare room) I asked if he told her what we were fighting about, he said yes. I reacted a little annoyed cause I don't like people knowing details, it's between him and I. She heard us fighting about that (me not liking that he talked to her about it), it was absolutely nothing against her. It was sharing things that should be private that upset me, she lives with us but doesn't need to know the details. So I wanted to explain and apologize to her. I sent her a message apologizing and trying to break the ice of the weirdness the past 5 months. She turned around and ignored me and bombarded my boyfriend with a million hate messages about me. I have done nothing to her. She then sent me a message back saying she doesn't like me.

His friends has told me they have always thought she had a thing for him. He has never noticed I guess, and says they never ever got together "that" way. I think her hate for me is because she hates the fact he is with me and does not spend time with her. I am absolutely shocked. It's like she tried to fake being my friend the whole time to make him happy. Me and my boyfriend cannot believe the way she is being. But now that she admits to never liking me, I can no longer give her another chance. I didn't judge her when he told me she hated me, I still wanted to get to know her. From the get go, her judging me so quick saying she hated me should have enabled me to know exactly the type of person she is. I guess I was too nice.

Any thoughts or breakdowns of why someone would behave that way?

Thank you so much for your feedback.

I understand we do carry similar traits, and we both most definitely carry them differently.

She has hated me from the get go, I gave her a chance. I thought no negative things of her. Until now.

I didn't think I brought anything out on her from my problems with my boyfriend. Well I don't mind being talk about badly in the same house and in the next room ya know. I'm not trying to play in a battlefield here.

She is also mad at him for dating me, she has admitted that. I tried to initiate through an apology, which may have been a bad idea, through a stupid message sure. But I some how think that was the intervention to get things out instead of living in a fake atmosphere of pretending.

It bugs me that she didn't nerve to say all the mean things she's been saying to my boyfriend to my face. I had the nerve to apologize and initiate communication through a message. She is making remarks like "since she is your girlfriend your just gonna take her side anyway" and 'She is a sneaky manipulative person" sounds like she is trying to manipulate him to believe she is the innocent one . Well he is not like that. He won't take sides. I know the threat tactic that she is doing, saying things like "she is trying to push me out", and "do I have to prove something by moving out"

I have made a choice to come to this site to get feedback to clear things off my chest and to better understand this mess that came on so suddenly.

do you think she hates me because she wants him? thats my only solution. I have never said harsh things, or acted like she wasn't in the room. She just stays upstairs in her bedroom all the time. How much more effort can I make to someone who will always hate me from their pure jealousy?

who was living with who first?

i probably hate you 2 if my room mate moved in his quasi girlfriend and i had to play witness to their kissey faces on the couch that i wanna sit on and then i have to be subject to their arguing, door slamming, etc. yeah id definitely hate you.

are you paying your 3rd of the expenses?
does she hear you guys have sex too?
is she in a relationship?

maybe she did like him and now she has to listen to the details of your relationship.


I think her hate for me is because she hates the fact he is with me and does not spend time with her.

omg duh 🙂

Posted by lostinspace
do you think she hates me because she wants him? thats my only solution. I have never said harsh things, or acted like she wasn't in the room. She just stays upstairs in her bedroom all the time. How much more effort can I make to someone who will always hate me from their pure jealousy?

dude, your all in the spaces she used to occupy.

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Posted by DMV
who was living with who first?

i probably hate you 2 if my room mate moved in his quasi girlfriend

She said in the original post that she moved in 9 months ago and they've only been together for 5.. so the relationship developed 4 months after the living arrangement.

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so she says, idk. thats why i said, he moved in his quasi girlfriend. theyve probably only been "offical" for 5 months. i kinda find it hard to believe that they both work up 4 months later and decided to be in a relationship.

lets say a relationship truly did develop after she moved in, than its competitiveness and territorial issues at work. still, i would be so pissed off if i was living with what i thought to be 3 independent room mates/peopleto find out 4 months later that now im living with a couple. not just any couple, a scorponic relationship with drama at every turn.

work = woke

Posted by QUlETstorm
They had been together previously, then broke up, were living together as friends (according to her post) and I'm assuming the roommate knew.

Either way, it's their business what they do. As long as they're paying their rent, it's none of her fucking business who's fucking who and if she don't like it she always has the option to get the fuck out. That's just part of the territory of living in a roommate situation. If she don't want people in her face kissy-kiss face, maybe she should consider getting her own shit.

i agree. someone has to move out. 2 against 1

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Posted by DMV
who was living with who first?

i probably hate you 2 if my room mate moved in his quasi girlfriend

She said in the original post that she moved in 9 months ago and they've only been together for 5.. so the relationship developed 4 months after the living arrangement.

so she says, idk. thats why i said, he moved in his quasi girlfriend. theyve probably only been "offical" for 5 months. i kinda find it hard to believe that they both work up 4 months later and decided to be in a relationship.

lets say a relationship truly did develop after she moved in, than its competitiveness and territorial issues at work. still, i would be so pissed off if i was living with what i thought to be 3 independent room mates/peopleto find out 4 months later that now im living with a couple. not just any couple, a scorponic relationship with drama at every turn.

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I previously dated him before, a couple months. We stopped because we were both getting over someone. I moved in as a roommate (not boyfriend and girlfriend) we were friends still after our previous fling.

She is in a relationship (sorta) she says he is lame and that she doesn't really wanna be with him.. when I first met him she showed an enormous amount of jealousy, I would come hangout with him and she would come in the common area and be like" oh I get it, you love her more than me" and give us both snakey looking faces. He is really pushing me to just make peace and forget it. Its so hard. She said so many mean things to me, and I'm the one left with the compromise to be "nice" to her when he is not around?!?! my brains...

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Posted by QUlETstorm
They had been together previously, then broke up, were living together as friends (according to her post) and I'm assuming the roommate knew.

Either way, it's their business what they do. As long as they're paying their rent, it's none of her fucking business who's fucking who and if she don't like it she always has the option to get the fuck out. That's just part of the territory of living in a roommate situation. If she don't want people in her face kissy-kiss face, maybe she should consider getting her own shit.

i agree. someone has to move out. 2 against 1

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Well it's affecting our relationship now, and yes now the focus is on making a fake friendship. All because my boyfriend wants things to just be settled. I have a feeling it's gonna become so much stress I will just end up moving out.

your both hard headed kinda like what Elle was saying. so, since your the one blogging, just meet one on one and get your feelings out with her. be real.

Posted by DMV
who was living with who first?

i probably hate you 2 if my room mate moved in his quasi girlfriend and i had to play witness to their kissey faces on the couch that i wanna sit on and then i have to be subject to their arguing, door slamming, etc. yeah id definitely hate you.

are you paying your 3rd of the expenses?
does she hear you guys have sex too?
is she in a relationship?

maybe she did like him and now she has to listen to the details of your relationship.


I think her hate for me is because she hates the fact he is with me and does not spend time with her.

omg duh 🙂

This is a two apartment house, one upstairs and one on the main floor. 2 kitchens. When I moved in as a roommate I had the kitchen upstairs (it's very tiny) They both shared the main floor kitchen, I never cared.

They had a deal, she cooks and cleans for him, and he buys her groceries.

Well after the first 4 months here, the main floor including common area and kitchen was always a mess, I would always always clean it cause my family visited a lot, it was kind of embarrassing. He would never tell me to stop cleaning since she was suppose to (at that point while cleaning I didn't know their stupid deal, so I was picking up her slack unknowingly)

One day I finally said something after finding out how she is suppose to clean in order for him to buy her groceries (I said something during the time we started dating, 2 months in) I was still using kitchen upstairs. I said how I clean cause it's always a mess when I have people over.

Well he understood and thought the solution was to have all 3 of us share the big main kitchen (stupid because then I would still be picking up after her slobbish ways), she didn't like that idea and said I will just take her kitchen upstairs. So she did.

I share a bedroom with him right across from the kitchen, waking up every morning having to go upstairs for coffee and breakfast or any meals was just weird, and he said he wanted just us 2 to share a kitchen, something he did not tell her cause he thought it would hurt her feelings. So he told me to just use his coffee and food. So I did. She didn't like that AT ALL. Even though she did not buy. I would put my stuff in the fridge too.

Anyways, she didn't like the all 3 of us sharing kitchen and volunteered to take the small one (which was a relief to me cause she is ver

At first, I was paying my rent to him bi-weekly (I was having some issues) which probably me cleaning a lot made up for his kindess of allowing me to do that. She found out that I was paying bi-weekly and flipped on him. I came home from work right in the middle of their fight. She pointed fingers and was like you do that for HER and not ME.

dude, just ask her to move out or you 2 lovebirds get your own place.

Posted by lostinspace
At first, I was paying my rent to him bi-weekly (I was having some issues) which probably me cleaning a lot made up for his kindess of allowing me to do that. She found out that I was paying bi-weekly and flipped on him. I came home from work right in the middle of their fight. She pointed fingers and was like you do that for HER and not ME.

id flip out on you 2.

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Posted by lostinspace
At first, I was paying my rent to him bi-weekly (I was having some issues) which probably me cleaning a lot made up for his kindess of allowing me to do that. She found out that I was paying bi-weekly and flipped on him. I came home from work right in the middle of their fight. She pointed fingers and was like you do that for HER and not ME.

id flip out on you 2.

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why? he liked me? he doesn't have to do all the same things for her and treat her like a girlfriend too. He isn't technically the landlord, he rented this house and chose to have roommates to save him money.

Posted by DMV
dude, just ask her to move out or you 2 lovebirds get your own place.

simple advice. easy said than done.

she refuses to talk to my face.


well thanks everyone for your responses. i'm sure there is waaaaay more horrible problems out there in life lol this is all so unnecessary.

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Posted by lostinspace
At first, I was paying my rent to him bi-weekly (I was having some issues) which probably me cleaning a lot made up for his kindess of allowing me to do that. She found out that I was paying bi-weekly and flipped on him. I came home from work right in the middle of their fight. She pointed fingers and was like you do that for HER and not ME.

id flip out on you 2.

why? he liked me? he doesn't have to do all the same things for her and treat her like a girlfriend too. He isn't technically the landlord, he rented this house and chose to have roommates to save him money.

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seriously? your not paying rent like she is paying rent. your getting preferential treatment. when is rent due? 1st of the month. is that when she pays? does he float you for 15 days? till u can pay him back? that is if you pay him back. hey cleaning is the same thing right? there will come a time where he will give you a pass.

and u wonder why she is jealous. u get the guy and a free pass on rent.

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Posted by DMV
dude, just ask her to move out or you 2 lovebirds get your own place.

simple advice. easy said than done.

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why, who is pregnant?