Virgo frustrated with Scorpio man

I am a Virgo and my Scorpio man is not spending as much time with me or calling as much as I would like. He works two jobs, which I understand is time consuming, but I still feel he has time to call me every day. The past week, he stayed over three days straight then didn't call me last night. I called him this morning and he said he was tired and that sleeping over with me was great but it tired him out for work the next morning. But I told him he signed on to myspace last night so he had time to do that and not call me and talk for five minutes? And he got pissed off saying he just wanted to chill, that he didn't even get on MSN, which is true, because I was on and he was not, but I was still upset. The three days was so perfect, he made me breakfast and even straightened up my place afterward, and then to get no call after that made me feel like he was just after the sex.

The thing is, I am black and he is white and my ex was also white and he said to my face he never loved me and used me because he wanted to see what black pussy was like. He is now dating a Latino girl so I guess he wants to see what Latino pussy is like now. Anyway, me and my ex were together a year, I had him meet all my family and friends thinking we were going to be together a long time and get married only to come to find out he never loved me and just wanted some black ass, so part of me is scared that this Scorpio guy is doing the same, just in it for the ass, I guess. He keeps telling me that he likes to show he cares but I don't see how he is showing it. Well, one thing, he opened his car door for me, which was weird because it unlocks automatically, but he opened it for me, which was sweet. But like I said my ex did sweet things for a year and I didn't mean shit to him. My ex is a Pisces, March 12, by the way.

But back to the subject, I texted my Scorpio after I called him and he hasn't responded and I text again and he still hasn't responded. When I started seeing him I started looking up astrology and a lot of it is true for him (secrative, sexy, intense), and I just need some advice to see if he's just playing me or not because I don't want to go thru what I went thru again and fall in love and get humiliated. Thanks for reading all this.

Starfish225 you are right. But I don't want to be alone forever, too young for that. I did see a counselor for a while for deppression, but am currently underemployed (working pt) and can't afford it, plus my friends are tired of hearing bout my ex. They're just like, you got played, it's bad but it happens and get over it. I am trying and for the most part my relationship is good, but I wish we could spend more time together, that's all.

Thanks Starfish225 for real talk. My friends mean well but they just want me to shake it off and I try but when it's your heart involved it is tough, but not impossible. Yes, I have prayed on it and though I really do want my ex to get hurt in the way he hurt me, I know I'm better than that and am praying to God to give me strength and wisdom to let it go and to hope my ex is blessed as well, because if nothing else, him being in my life taught me a life lesson.

I am looking for more work every day and am excited because Friday I have an interview for a really good job and I am trying to stay positive and focused. I guess I feel some type of way today because a friend I lost touch with a while ago emailed last night with all this wonderful news about her, her new man, and their baby, and it just got to me a little bit esp. since my man didn't call last night. I guess I think about things too much which I think is something Virgoes do! 🙂

But thank you for your advice and not being judgmental it helps a lot 🙂

Scorpios like to feel that whomever they are with can take care of themselves. We do not like to be depended on for the personal issues of which you are responsible for. If left up to us, depending on how evolved the Scorp is, that can turn us into controlling, sadistic assholes, and nobody wants that. Esp us.

Everybody talks about being clingy...

What's your definition of clingy? Calling, texting, e-mail, etc. Or is it complaining, nagging about not enough time spent. Or is it wanting to spend every waking ho

Ooops^ I think this needs to be a separate thread...

I appreciate the comments. I have come to a decision that I may need to let him go, though. I'm not being fair to him, and I feel bad.

Last night, I noticed he changed his space picture to one of him shirtless and flexing. He is a bodybuilder, a personal trainer, actually, so at first I didn't think much of it, but then I thought about how we had that little fight over him not calling me and I wondered if he put it up there to attract new girls. Plus he had been calling me all day but I'm on prepaid and my minutes were out. I'm too ashamed to tell him my cell is prepaid so I think he thought I just had the phone off. He texted me later then I answered back and didn't hear anything. That's when I went to his page and saw the new picture. I borrowed my little sister's cell and called him and was like "Oh, so you looking to replace me now?" And he was like "what do you mean?" And I said "Nice myspace pic." And he said yea, he was writing a blog about getting back into shape after illness (he had knee surgery earlier this year) and wanted to show off his progress to his myspace friends. I said oh so if I put a pic of me in a bikini on my page to show off my weight loss, that'd be okay with you? And he said it wasn't really the same thing, that you can show off weight loss without a bikini, but you can't show off delts (whatever those are) in clothes. Anyway he was like you need to trust me and a lot of other stuff. I hung up on him, he called back but my sis answered since it was her phone and told him I'd gone to bed.

This morning I got up to walk the dog and to go into my job to get my check and decided to use the computer here and I just went to my facebook page and had a message from him that had the link to his myspace page and underneath the link it said "That better?" I clicked and it was his page and a new picture is there, one of my favorites, him and his little sister at the zoo.

Then I realized everyone here is right. I am letting what happened with Pisces ex color everything, but it hurt really bad. I don't know, it's hard I guess to explain but my fam isn't racist but they warned about white guys just wanting a chocolate fantasy and all and I call myself being smart and a good jude of character and I got very played. As a Virgo I hate being humiliated and fooled and I hate mistakes and I am just very afraid of making the same mistake. But it's not Scorpios fault what Pisces did and I'm making it his fault and it's not fair to him. 😢

Arian are you Aries? It is funny because my ex-best friend is too. She is ex because she used to talk to my brother and she did him dirty so I had to cut her out. But she was a lot of fun and we got along really well and she used to say the same things you did about me never being satisfied. I really don't think it's that I think it's just Virgoes think ALOT and we know there is always some room for improvement! 🙂

"Scorpio's need a partner that can stand on their own. Have outside interests, friends. No clingy partners.. that will make them run away."

That is soooooo true. I tend to dump men probably before I should if I get the sense they even might be too clingy.

I need my space. I need it from people in general...even from my kids who are 16 and 18 years old. I just need quiet time without interaction. Otherwise I get stressed and tired. Being around people is an energy drain for me. Without my space I tend to get depressed, distant, bitchy.

Clingy is a relative term really. For this Scorpio, a phone call every day to check in is pretty damn clingy. I mean it's nice, I have some air in me, but I don't require it. If it's required..well then I'm hanging up. For good.

I dated a stupid Libra that would call me at 6am in the morning before work and WAKE ME UP just to say hi. I was a night person at the time. I thought it was sweet maybe the first 2 times he called. Then it started to annoy me. As it turned out he was really checking to make sure I was home and not "cheating" the way his ex did. We'd had a handful of dates. And Scorpio is paranoid and possessive? Jeez.

If you don't trust him the relationship is doomed...either because he's untrustworthy OR he is but you will bash him over the head one too many times with the "baggage" you bring to the relationship.

Awwww she sounds just like me. When I 1st started talking to my Scorp I was scared to death of him, as a matter of fact I cancelled our 1st date hours before the date was suppose to happen. I couldn't go through with it. I asked him out the next night & surprisingly he actually showed 🙂

For a long time after that I was leary of him because of things from my past, he constantly reassured me that he actually really did want to be with me but more then that his actions showed that he did. Eventually I just said screw it, I'm jumping in with both feet because there are no guarantees in life, No one can promise you that something will last forever but if you don't put 100% of yourself into it, you can guarantee yourself that it WON'T. It's up to you, do you want the opportunity to love & me loved? If so then you have to take a chance, it may not work out but then again it may & it may just be the best thing that's ever happened to you. I know personally I'm sooooo happy that he showed up the next night because I've never been happier with another man 🙂

Starfish, I never heard that Mary song. It's so true, every word, I am crying now. I do want to send it to him and have him listen to it. I never thought about it, but I am making him pay for what another man has done and that's not right.

FuckinA, I understand what you are saying and am taking everyone's words to heart. I am trying to find a full time spot, and in fact was focused a lot on my job search before this week. I can't even blame it on PMS. 🙂 But I am trying to put everything out of my mind so I can focus on my interview tomorrow.

I read on another place where you can do your birthday and find out what other planets and signs play a part in your personality. Someone did mine and just sent me a PM but I don't understand it. Like what does it mean Asc. Scorpio? Is there any place where I can find out what a lot of it means?

This is what she sent me:

Sun Virgo
Moon Aquarius
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Leo
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
True Node Taurus

Asc. Scorpio

Scorpology, it's interesting, because I am one of seven, so I never really "had" space so it is sort of a weird concept to me. Yet I understood what you mean and sometimes I like just chilling in my apartment alone. As soon as I could get my own place I did and am glad about it.

CanTaur, thank you for sharing your story. I especially like when you said: "No one can promise you that something will last forever but if you don't put 100% of yourself into it, you can guarantee yourself that it WON'T." That is so true! Thank you for putting it into words!