Virgo Female + Scorpio Male. He confuses me.

So pretty much, I met this Scorpio a while ago, I never really paid attention to him much, we both looked at each other as acquaintances and didn't really pay much attention to each other.. except one of my good friends, who happened to be his best friend, died in a car crash September 6th.. so this brought us together a little more, and we began seeing each other more often. We hang out sometimes on the weekends, and I've grown feelings for him- intense feelings. I've dropped a little bit of a hint, but of course, myself being a Virgo, I didn't let him know I'm head over heels. He tends to shy away from me often, he answers my calls and likes to hear my voice, but he never answers my texts.. sometimes on MySpace [lame, I'd stoop to the level of bringing MySpace up, oh well =p] he'll read my messages and answer, and sometimes he wont. When we're together, he's very quiet most of the time, and other's he's almost too crazy. He seems like he has two sides. He always seems to give me mixed reactions.. I don't know what to think!

Any Scorpio males wanna help me out? I'd appreciate it. I'm not looking to waste my time..

Oh yeah, and here's some pictures of us.. his name is Angel. Mine is Ditz.. =p

The Virgo [Me!]


The Scorpio [Him..]

Hmmm,nice boobs.

Umm, thanks?

I'm not a Scorpio .. however, I watched my Scorpio son (26) when he interacted with the ladies, and I'll give it to straight as I observed ..


When he was into a girl .. he wanted to be impressive, he would give her a lot of attention however not overly flirty, rather, attentive. However, he wasn't showy/arrogant about it .. his gentlemen mannerisms kicked in with a tad of Romeo expressions (not verbally).

When he was wanting just friendships with a girl .. he treated her like one of the boys, no impression in any way .. just his normal self as he is with everybody. Dirty jokes, burping .. like she was in the locker room. No hint of gentleman.

If a girl was into him and he wasn't interested in her that way .. he become very quiet around her, very careful about his interaction, kept it at a minimal so he didn't give the wrong signals. However, he's a friendly sort and would still be curteous/polite and share casual things with her.

Ditto on the rack 😛

porn-Angel,i am totally and completly opposite your son..
When i am into some girl,i start making dirty jokes,making fun of her and treat her like any friend..if i am not interested,i ust stay calm and quite around her..and if some girl into me,well,i use her for sex and dumb her..no no..i treat her like in the first situation..so the conclusion is:
Life is beautiful.

"and if some girl into me,well,i use her for sex and dumb her"


He would only did that when she was either throwing herself on him because she was too unaware to notice that he was not his normal self around her (not interested) .. or, if she was a slut/easy.

Ok kissaVirgo,now since i am in helping mood-which comes once every 64 years-i will tell you this..
He is young appearently,and me having almost the same situation when i was in his age i can say that he is probably into you,i used to be shy and quite around girls i like..offcourse i don`t think he is gonna say he loves you now,we are not agrresive in that area,we are also smart (we are simply Gods 😛) and i guess he knows about your feelings completly but again you should make the first move or atleast setting the right atmosphere to make him confess (Vodka and mariguana would help)..
But PAY ATTENTION,give him space or he would hate you more than me hating Leos.
Now,my bank account number will be PMed to you later.

M&M,comon,cut the foreplay and confess your love to me.

M&M showing your ass to me is not signal of love..

One thing I want to add, and this applies across the board .. not just this thread.

Why is it that women are clear about how they "feel" about everything except "love"? Why do these kind of feelings confuse females?

We know how we feel about everything else in life ..

No m&m, I didn't see it .. but, it applies to that too 🙂

I like that .. have heard many (close, but no cigar) .. devious is perfect description 🙂

Hmm. I just don't know how to act toward him. Things aren't looking up.. I sent him a message saying,

"hey Angel, you should tell me what you think of me.

obviously you know i like you. &obviously i know you don't date. but i mean dont know how you feel and its pretty much driving me crazy man =/"

He replies,

"idk what to say to that but i really have to pissssssss"

I didn't know what to say but I wrote him back,

"ha hav fun.. but real talk i think you should help me out here its kinda hard to read you sometimes"

He read it& never replied.

Hmm. I just don't know how to act toward him. Things aren't looking up.. I sent him a message saying,

"hey Angel, you should tell me what you think of me.

obviously you know i like you. &obviously i know you don't date. but i mean dont know how you feel and its pretty much driving me crazy man =/"

He replies,

"idk what to say to that but i really have to pissssssss"

I didn't know what to say but I wrote him back,

"ha hav fun.. but real talk i think you should help me out here its kinda hard to read you sometimes"

He read it& never replied.

lol ..

"I just don't know how to act toward him."

yeah, I see that ....


You might want to tone that down a tad with the next guy you have the hots for.

A little too forward .. ummmm, most guys would run away from that, to be honest.

Scorpio's generally relate better to a person who picks up on induendo's, reads between the lines .. gets the subtextual.

I'm thinking that to have to be clearly definitive for comprehension of intentions might be a bit much.

Most Scorpio men I know would play that card ... you never know, though, for they are friends.

He replies,

"idk what to say to that but i really have to pissssssss"

I didn't know what to say but I wrote him back,

"ha hav fun.. but real talk i think you should help me out here its kinda hard to read you sometimes"

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I know you don't know what this means .. for if you did, you wouldn't be in here asking, KissAVirgo .. when he said he didn't know what to say and then told you he had to go take a piss .. this means he is blowing you off.

This is a clear indication that he's gonna piss how you feel about him away .. don't contact him about your feelings for him again.

He's not interested ....

Scorpio's are metaphorical .. he probably didn't even have to pee.

Most Scorpio's I know are pretty polite/curteous people, and have a natural ability to accept/tolerate people to whom they hold in regard quite pleasantly .. this leads me to believe that when she first starting dropping hints and couldn't read his reactions of "not interested" .. and then continued to approach it .. that he's getting irritated.

Doesn't sound like the normal Scorpion behaviour .. they normally only play these insulting cards as a warning .. The Stinger's getting charged.

hey kiss, cute screenname.

i really like your direct approach. i've been in a similar situation and i did the same thing because, to me, even hearing an i'm not interested would be better than wondering. i don't think labels are necessary but i do like to know where the other person stands and i HATE HATE HATE feeling like i'm being played with.

he's obviously avoiding answering, but that doesn't necessarily mean he's not into you. there could be any number of reasons behind it. maybe he doesn't even know how he feels about you yet (in terms of being more than friends) but i actually took the pissing thing as kind of humorous. insensitive definitely, but it seems to me to be an indication that he wants to be a little less serious about it.

but yeah, there's definitely a possibility that he doesn't feel the same way, in which case you'll know soon enough. since you can't force an answer, just give it some time (even though it kills 😛) and see where he takes it.

just try to flow with it and work with it, and don't get uptight. you put yourself out there which you said is difficult for you to do, but he may just need some time to think.

definitely see what kind of vibes he gives you the next time you hang out.

Haha the only problem is he is like this all the time. He'll say shit like that, and then next minute he'll be like, "You know I didn't mean it come here." and cuddle me and then he'll go make us food and shit. Its all just very two faced.. I truly think he's scared.

One good thing to do which was mention:

"Ignore him a bit. Let's see what happens."

He's young and hasn't grown up yet like half of these people posting. He probably never had that feeling of being attracted too. So he probably still has the feeling that girls have coonies. As others have also pointed out that he has little interest in you or he could be gay because he looks emo.

KissAVirgo .. rule #1

Scorpio's don't get scard .. they get even.

Except for spiders .. my Scorp son, who is a grown man, is terrified of the little buggers.

Well, if it's in there AS .. it's very well hidden 🙂

hi kissa virgo. i am a virgo dealing with a scropio man myself , and you are having the same problems i am , avoidance, rudness, cutting me off completely so you are not alone. like everyone said just cool him off as well,and see how it goes. my situation is different, and very difficult to explain, but believe if you have done anything to him that he didn't like you may never know , becuase i found them to be very sensitive he may be getting back at you. so i would say let him be i know it is hard, but if he cares he will come around. the scropio/virgo relationship is new to me, but my scroipi over all is very attentive to my needs. loving caring, and very sweet so just give it time.

grab his balls and see if he's interested

"he answers my calls and likes to hear my voice, but he never answers my texts.. sometimes on MySpace [lame, I'd stoop to the level of bringing MySpace up, oh well =p] he'll read my messages and answer, and sometimes he wont."
I can think of many reasons for this :
-> the questions arent important/not interesting/not challenging enough
-> He's busy - normally a true Scorp has millions going on their minds !lol! Otherwise, they might have a devotion with some habits! And they can take it to the extreme- POSESSIVENESS isnt just the quality for relationship but also other things - something people would call weird or taboo is just honey for a Scorp 😛
-> He get annoyed at your constant messaging and felt trapped - a Scorp likes abit of guessing and mystery which adds steam to the relationship !
-> He really is not interested in you but he doesnt know how to turn you down! I found it hard to say no or let down people I like (as a friend!) but I've learnt how to refuse politely without injuring the other party.

"When we're together, he's very quiet most of the time, and other's he's almost too crazy"
Emotional ! A scorp that is still young and immature wont be able express their emotion approriately so sometimes they can go extreme ! HOT and COLD ! You might need to convince him that you can be trusted with his secrets .Once he confides in you all his "darkest" and "wildest" things , look deep into his eyes and hold him close.He will be YOURS FOR GOOD ! LOL ! 😄

"He always seems to give me mixed reactions"
Again , an immature SCorp might play alot of games in love , even sometimes they dont realise that they're doing it ! He might be afraid that he will lose control of himself , of his emtions when he dives into YOUR LOVELY TRAP OF LOVE ! LMAO! 😄
I find this thread FUNNY too!

Best of luck 🙂

oh atlantic myst like you never helped someone you cared for. there is nothing wrong with it. i my be stupid , but if he is playing me he will get what is coming to him. im doing for him out of the kindness of my heart , and that is it. if he comes back to me he does. if not then its on him. i believe in life we all have been blinded by love, but also we all have been in situations where we have needed someones hep, and never asked nothing in return. and by the way i wasn't changing my story. this man was a geniune nice person to me, and i have no complaints about that.

Alright, well as soon as you all advised me to ignore him, I began ignoring him, which was probably yesterday morning or the day before.. well, when I woke up this morning, he had messaged me saying, "What were you asking about the other day.."

...I didn't reply. =]

I don't know about drinking, but we're talking about relationships because they can be really mood altering and we're just trying to help each other out.

By the way, everyone, we're both 18.

He probably doesn't think that much of you at the moment since you only know each other for about 3 months. Try spending more time with him and ask questions about him, but don't let it turn into an interrogation. Get him to feel really comfortable around you with lots of chatter.

ya listen to what the object says.

I've been here before you even started to learn how to tie your shoes. isn't there a matrix you should attend to?

sure thing i'll wax your car >=)

Damn, well. Anyways, he& I have gotten close, he talks about it sometimes.. cause of Adrian. But regardless. He's just crazy. I'll get used to it.

We're both ravers, and he sent me a comment at like 2 in the morning today, and was like "hey fuck your shit, come to the rave tonite.." I can't go, but I didnt reply.

I don't know what that means, but I think it's cause I've been ignoring him. =p

Nah it's fine, its just funny that now that I'm starving him of attention, he wants it back..

He kinda looks effeminate.

Nothing wrong with that, but maybe he likes guys?

i've already pointed that out

he's very quiet most of the time, and other's he's almost too crazy. He seems like he has two sides. He always seems to give me mixed reactions

bipolar.

Instead .. I'll say .. you're very confusing KissAVirgo, for you said on another board that when a Virgo girl is into a boy ..

.. she acts mean to him, then apologizes because she feels bad and then blows him off.

That's giving mixed signals to another person, btw ....

Yeah, Virgo's don't make sense unless they mean to. It might just be me. @__@

KAV: "...Virgo's don't make sense unless they mean to. It might just be me."

No, young lady, you told a truth - welcome to the club!

I get tongue-tied around a woman if I'm interested in her. Makes no sense at all. Most of the arguments / hurt feelings between me and my Scorp are the result of some bone-headed thing I've said -- especially over the phone, which is why I avoid that thing like an Al Gore snore-fest...

Owned. =p

Anyways, this weekend I drove up to where he lives (45 min from me) He was a little resentful of me when I first showed up there, I'm guessing because I'd been putting him off for the last week, but it faded pretty quickly and we were just joking around after that. Later on, we all spent the night at our friend Dustin's place.. there was 7 of us, and we kind of paired off, except for 3 of our friends fell asleep together. And Josh& I fell asleep together. He was feeling sick to his stomach so I turned him to face away from me and just lightly traced shapes on his back. He fell asleep. =]

So I think these are pretty good signs..

"He was feeling sick to his stomach so I ..."

Are you sure of it or was it an act ———?

Do be careful not to harbour too much hope

No, he was, he'd puked earlier at our friend Dan's before we went to Dustin's.