Virgo or Taurus?

Hi all,

So I've found myself in an emotional predicament - logically I know what I should be doing, but emotionally... all logic is lost. I dated a virgo guy for nearly two years when out of the blue he ended it with me saying that he wanted to spend more time with his daughter (long story short, I have another thread on here somewhere). Anyway, we had kept in contact for two months post-break-up, and he had told me that he wanted us to be friends, and that his hope was that we'd gradually get back to where we were (he felt that our foundation suffered due to the stress of his unemployment at the time). I agreed. However, throughout the past couple of months we've both been under insane amounts of stress - work stress, family members in the hospital, my own health problems, his own health problems, etc. We apparently don't deal well when shit really hits the fan for both of us at the same time (which I think is human), and we began bickering more often, and feeling as though each of us was inadequate in providing support for the other. At the end of the day, we both had a huge fight, and he said to me that he never wanted to have anything to do with me ever again. We met up once since, and he told me it was ok for me to keep in touch once in a while, so I have been. And he responded once a long time ago (amicably) but he hasn't been responding since.

In the time after this issue, I met a taurus. He's sweet, intelligent, funny, we have many things in common, and we're making monumental waves in terms of everything. However... (UGH) my heart is still with virgo. I keep thinking had I never met virgo, taurus would be absolutely perfect for me. And despite my difficulties with virgo (and his with mine), we really did make a great couple - he was everything I dreamed of (minus the disappearing acts).

Am I being a complete idiot here and holding onto feelings for someone who regards this relationship as dead to its very core? Am I yearning for virgo because I can't have him, while taurus (perfect on paper) is right there in front of my face and thus presents less of a challenge? Lol - what is wrong with me? =P

"I keep thinking had I never met virgo, taurus would be absolutely perfect for me."


There's no way one person could ever measure up to another .. they can only measure up to themselves.

If you are going to hold Taurus behind, or lowering him (unfairly) ... because he isn't perfect enough to be a Virgo, then ... yes .. you are being an idiot because Taurus is a completely different and unique individual in his own right, and doesn't deserve, nor does anybody deserve, to have their character held accountable according to another (ex's) standards and values, as it pertains to whether they are good enough people.

If you can't treat Taurus fairly, and allow him to present his own honor according to his own personal integrity ... then the adult thing for you to do is to let him go, to find a woman who will allow him to live without measuring him to another man to value his worth.

And then the other side of the coin is .. you are a Scorpio.

Which equates to = obssessing over people as if they are possessions.

In reality, it's highly likely this is the case .... for this Virgo man has stopped all contact or concern about you, yet, you are still hanging on saying he's perfect for you.


Deal with your obssessiveness, put it in check .. and all this will go away. If you don't deal with it, then you will continue to spiral downwards eventually being defeated.

PA you said it so well, I completely agree. It's not fair to compare this guy to another guy, and if you can't let that go then let him go. But it would be better for you in the long term to deal with this issue, holding onto that kind of stuff is bad for you.

chrix, I didnt read your other thread about Mr Virgo. But as one myself, I can share this with you: There is definitely a chance that you and mR Virg might be getting back together again. But why would you you take that chance when you have Mr Taurus right in front of you? Mr T might not be mister right, but here seems to be mister 'right now'! LOL!. Seriously, when a Virgo ends a relationship, it can be classified as DOA. And while there might be success in trying to revive that relationship, its certainly going to have brain damage.

Relating to a Virgo is a very depressing ordeal for many individuals, for they are filled with hopelessness, and this causes a lot of work for the other person.

"It will never work", is a common response from a Virgo when trying to overcome a problem. For a person to be dealing with this gets frustrating after time, for it makes the partner of a Virgo feel like they are doing all the work. The Virgo stands aside, muttering how unfair it is, or how there's no way to succeed, while the partner works diligently to overcome the obstacle. Once the obstacle has been hurdled, the Virgo is then filled with glee, back to his normal self, and will happily share with cheer ..... however, over time, the partner begins to resent that the Virgo doesn't also share in the progress of getting them to this point.

Like with this case, for example .... he said it's over, he never wants to see you again after a fight = gives up, defeated.

However ... YOU can continue to attempt to mend, or overcome the obstacle, and it's possible to get him back.

The question is ... can you put forth all the effort and still be happy with a man who will throw in the towel everytime an issue arises?

I've been trying to mend by sending supportive e-mails and such, or just keeping him updated to how things are going on my side of the fence, but I'm still met with deafening silences. The thing is I know if he needs me, he won't hesitate to contact because he knows I'll be there. I'm so hung up on him it's not even funny, and he's not even demonstrating any level of reciprocal action. I mean I can try to mend and mend all I want, but I also risk trying so hard for someone who may have given up entirely (but then again I'm not sure - it's not the first time he's disappeared. He did so when we were dating and very much happily in love).

Then there's Taurus - and I don't mean to compare him to virgo. It just kind of happens (probably because the break-up has been so soon). I said yes to Taurus because his personality struck me from the get-go (I wasn't looking for anyone at all at the time, but he showed up in my life and I knew I had to jump at the chance otherwise I'd never see him again). Luckily for both of us, I've had some uncontrollable circumstances arise that have prevented me from going out with him right away (because I don't want him to be a rebound, and I don't want him to be compared to virgo), and he's exhibited the patience of a saint waiting for the day when those circumstances clear right up (they are legitimate. I'm not stalling, I swear). He has such wonderful qualities, and yet, the old (stupid) heart still misses what it once had (i.e. virgo). I guess I'm using this time to heal from virgo and move on to Taurus, but a part of me keeps wondering if virgo will come back. Does that make sense? (I have never been torn between two people before... I feel kinda weird lol).

I have heard we scorps don't like rejection so that is probably driving you toward virgo. If virgo came back you might not want him so bad... I don't know never been broken up with but his is what I hear and I have experienced with a scorp man.

LOL you may be right - I've done the breaking up most of the time (except once before this, when a pisces found someone else and left me high and dry after 3 months - but that didn't really upset me for longer than a day). Being broken up with after 2 years (especially out of the blue) kind of does a number on the scorpio's ego and sense of equilibrium =P