what do you think.

when i was a kid, being constantly bullied at school, i was told the old adage:

'sticks and stones may break my bones
but words will never hurt me'

the definition of adage is: a condensed but memorable saying embodying some important fact of experience that is taken as true by many people


and in my opinion it's the biggest load of crap i've ever heard. words are the most lethal weapons causing deep invisible wounds - the more they are spoken to you, the further you are ground down by them.

if my kids are hurt physically, it's not nice but i can fix it cos it's a tangible wound but if their feelings are hurt, it kills me. this doesn't relate to them though. it relates to me. someone who has heard enough shitty words to fill a lifetime of misery. you get spoken to like a piece of shit for long enough and you will eventually become that piece of shit.

until you wake up and smell the coffee anyhow.

the adage i prefer these days is 'what goes around comes around' and that, in the spirit of karma, is the truth.

amen.

It's really not a big deal. If you don't want to get hurt by words then you just don't.

I feel you Roxi, I was bullied in the 4th grade by a girl that was ready to beat me up because I was looking at her.

I also got bullied in high school, until the girls that were bulling me found out who my brotha was and then they treated me with respect the last year in high school.

SL: at the time, i fully believed that the beating up part was worse than the name-calling (mostly cos i couldn't understand what they were saying). brothers are indeed very useful in this situation LOL.

I had some girls bullying me in Junior high until I took the mouthiest one and put her in a choke hold against the wall and told her to never even dare to talk to me or look my way again if she knew what was good for her. She wanted to be my friend after that.

I think both can be detrimental it depends on the person that's doing the bulling and if they are really going to do what they say.

I remember one time walking home from school the girl teased me for a week straight, then I got so tired of her I stopped at the corner waited for to come to me and we had it out there on the street, the police came I so mad everybody ran I just kept walking home, got all the way home the girl went and put on turtleneck sent someone to knock on my door for me to come outside to fight her again, I kindly went outside, I was steaming then, and her sister told her if she don't kick my ass her sister was going to kick her, I beat the shit out that girl and that was the last and only fight I every had in my life, I do not fight at all.

With that being said. I dealt with the verbal and the physical part of bulling, and to this day, words don't hurt me all it does is make me lose respect for people and if people are that small to talk shit, then they get exactly what's coming them.

"I beat the shit out that girl and that was the last and only fight I every had in my life, I do not fight at all."

I am the same way. It takes so much for me to get that upset, but when I do watch out. I scare even myself when I get that mad at someone. Thank goodness it has only happened about 3 times my entire life. I was so mad at a cheating boyfriend one time that I honestly believe that if I would have had a gun in my pocket at that moment that I would have shot him. I don't ever want to be that mad again ever.

I beat up countless heathens who picked on my sister. I would have taken a whack at the boys who hassled my brother, too, but he wouldn't let me. He said it would humiliate him or something. Pfffft! 😛

"LOL SL, nice way to get some energy and steam out of the body! How old were you then?"

I was in elementary school. I did not know myself much or the degree of my madness, I was more of a loner in school, just stood and watched people all around me, no one was really worthy of my friendship and don't think I really knew why I was like that but as I got older I started to understand my personality.

gslove
"I was so mad at a cheating boyfriend one time that I honestly believe that if I would have had a gun in my pocket at that moment that I would have shot him. I don't ever want to be that mad again ever."

Shit I was going to kill my sons father (Pisces)we had a joint bank account and my taxes came and he deposit my check and went and brought some damn addidas, with my money, I stopped at his mother's house with this long stick with a nail sticking out of it, and told her I was going to kill her son, she would not let me leave her house...finally I left, I walked home and he was laying in the bed, I did have a gun at the time with bullets, I walked in the door he was just laying there I pulled everything out the closet got the gun looked at him and said where are the damn bullets cuz I am going to kill you he knew I was so furius with him he was smart enough to hide the bullets, so I never shot him but six years later I put love in my back pocket, and walked out on him, and he has not been right since. I was 19 at the time. A total basketcase full of emotions that I could not control.

I like to think that at this age in life and the peaceful evolved person that I am that nothing could ever make me that mad again, but I would never say never.

"I beat up countless heathens who picked on my sister."

How come I don't see you beating up anybody? 🙂

gslove
"I like to think that at this age in life and the peaceful evolved person that I am that nothing could ever make me that mad again, but I would never say never."

Right I so agree Never say Never

"SS my Mom beat up a few boys who tried to pick on her brothers."

I really wanted to Keva. I was seeing RED! He had to physically hold me back from storming up the street. I was gonna kill those motha fuckers. I had a baseball bat and everything.

"How come I don't see you beating up anybody?"

LOL Come on now, SR. I have scorp rising, remember? REVENGE is in my blood. Not so much for myself, but anyone who does something to someone I love...IT'S ON!

I defended my brother once with a bully and he got so mad at me because it only made things worse for him because the kids all started teasing him about how he had to have his sister fight his battles for him.

I feel so bad for him still to this day because he had it so much worse than I did. He was a scrawny, geeky, socially inept, computer nerd before there was even such a thing and the kids were relentless with him. He grew up and became a computer whiz though after computers were invented.

"it only made things worse for him because the kids all started teasing him about how he had to have his sister fight his battles for him."

That's what my brother said to get me to cool down, gs. I know he was right, but in the moment I wasn't even hearin' it. We laugh about it now..but he's the baby so my sister and I have always been very protective of him. I still think of him as my babeh and he's a grown man. Old habits die hard. 🙂

i can honestly say i have never punched anyone in my whole life (outside an appropriate class that is). i'm scared of losing control if i start lashing out physically and so i rely on my mouth to do the work for me. my libran influence is most useful in this regard 😄

"She hit me back, and I laughed (cause it tickled) and walked away. No problems after that...more like parting waves."

Well, that's what my dad always said to do. Stand up to them just once, even if it gets physical, and it will put a stop to it. He taught us how to punch, too. Gotta say he was right. I always followed that advice, even when scared shitless, and it worked. By my first year of high school, nobody messed with me anymore.

Middle school is terrible. It was a war zone back then...I can't even imagine what it must be like now.