Gemini Girl for Scorpio Guy...I need advice!

I'm a typical Gemini. I like to get out and meet a lot of new people. I was doing just that, minding my own business, when I met this Scorpio. He told me the first night that I was who he was going to spend the rest of his life with. He was going to be exclusive and since I wasn't ready he would just wait.

We dated pretty seriously right from the start. He was always texting me and calling me. I fell for him right away that first night. That's usually how it works when I get serious with someone...it's instant. I still fought it when I talked to him of course. Acted like I didn't have the feelings.

He has only had one relationship last more than a month and he married her. They divorced over 2 years ago. No worries. We lasted only 2 months. He broke up with me Friday night. I still love him. I need advice.

He was out of town last week. He came home Friday and said "I'm just not good at relationships". I asked if he was breaking up with me and he said no. We then went on a kinda date Saturday night cuz we had plans to go dancing with a friend of his for her bday. He took me to dinner first. Then we danced and played pool and had a great time all while he was texting two other girls. We broke up Friday cuz he was texting them and I had had it. I know it was his plan. I could feel him freaking out. I wonder every second if I could have just let him do it would we be ok today. Would he have stopped freaking out. So then I spent the night again Saturday and when he got home Sunday I had all my stuff packed and was leaving. He asked me to watch a movie. We did but he was texting those 2 girls again. I said I could go home. He said ?you aren't enjoying the movie?? so I stayed. He was still texting. I paused the movie to go to the restroom and he picked out another movie I hadn't seen. The first movie was almost over and I said ?I could just go home and then you could call these girls and get a lot more said?. He said ?but we have another movie to watch?. So we started that. He's still texting. The few times that the texts didn't run back to back, he would look at me and even moved in to kiss me a few times and caught himself. Again I said ?im just gonna go so you can chat with them. I don't want my memories of one of our last nights hanging out to be filled with you chatting with other girls.

He looked so sad and said ?you're not coming back are you?. I said "what do you mean?" and he said "When you leave, you aren't coming back are you?" So I stayed again. So half way through the second movie I said ?im just gonna go so you can chat with them. There's no reason for me to be here if you are in phoneland with them?. And he told them he had to go. Cuddled up to me and we watched the rest of the movie. He kissed me like he still loves me. I'm so sad. When the movie was over he said ?well it's late now. You shouldn't try to drive home. I would hate for you to fall asleep or something. Just stay.? So I did. The next morning he got up for work, kissed me and hugged me goodbye and left. We texted all morning yesterday but not so much in the evening. Just a little. He's pushing me away. He's out of town till Thursday. I'm so sad I can barely breathe.

I know this is typical Scorpio behavior. He texted me on Monday morning and said "it all happened really fast. I just wasn't ready. I freaked. I'm sorry".

Now I need to know what to do. Do I give him space and let him come back? Do I keep texting him and letting him know I'm not going? What do I do? I know he loves me and he said I was only the second girl he actually let in to get to know him. Please help!

My God, I HATE you people who "Text". How old are you all, 15??

I have advice for you, Die.

angryscorpio thats cold blooded!

This is so pathatic I can't even comment.

Yea Angrescropio, that is a bit much you go wishing death on people regardless of how they act.

You can't go wishing death on people

okay—...hi scorplady...I notice you have been in a relationship with a gem guy for quite some time....I have too (ARIES HERE) its been one rollercoaster of a ride..LOL

so what are you asking me?

I thought from your last post that you and your gem was doing good.

Now I need to know what to do. Do I give him space and let him come back? Do I keep texting him and letting him know I'm not going? What do I do? I know he loves me and he said I was only the second girl he actually let in to get to know him. Please help!"


This guy does not love you...he is trying to move away. He told you it happened too fast, he got carried away and so did you. After 2 months, what you had for each other was intense, but it wasn't love. Trust him, believe what he is saying.

Why is it that we believe them when they say they love us, but we stop believing when they say they don't?

He told me he loved me when he left Monday. The hug, then kiss, then an I love you, a prolonged stare and then he was gone.

Actions speak louder than words. Without action to back it up, words are meaningless, Hgirl. His actions are speaking pretty loudly.

You are holding onto a man that would delibrately wound you into breaking up with him (your words...you considered it his PLAN). Why do you want to believe that he loves you and that you could still be with him? He does not love you, love is not pain.

my gem and I are doing great..as a matter of fact we are engaged... I was just holding idle chat....

Hey Hickgirl!!

Just a couple questions for you...

You've been dating this guy for two months, right? Ok. So you're still in the "I want you all to myself" stage. That's cool. But it's also cool that he has friends. Who were these girls he was texting? Were they just friends? Was one of them in the middle of a crisis? I'm asking because you said the texting went on all night...

I look at it that way cause I have friends who also happen to be male. Sometimes I get better advice and opinions from them than I would a girlfriend. It just depends on the situation. I wouldn't advise you to dump a guy you're nuts about just cause he was texting, not until you know more about what was going on.

If these were random girls competing for him, then yeah get pissy and dump him but I didn't see that just from what you wrote. I didn't see you saying...oh he's a big time flirt or player who swept me off my feet. I saw that he was very affectionate with you and tried to keep you entertained while apparently taking care of others too. Just my thoughts. I could be way wrong. Listen to your heart...but not your fears before throwing the baby out with the bath water.

The behavior is strange, even for a scorpio. It shows a lack of respect. I look for consistency of words and actions and he is quite inconsistent. I would pull back and keep contact to a minimum and let him decide if he wants you. Of course being a scorpio male, if a woman had done that to me, I would have left and not looked back.

Wow! Thanks for all your responses there at the end. I really appreciate it. I did some more reading and it said Scorpios show how they feel with their actions. If I had thought about it like that I would not have pushed him. He was kinda flirting but he is a flirt. But when I went to leave he held me back.

Last night was so hard..I decided not to text him or call him and wait for him. He texted me at 615 but I was in a meeting. I got out at 8 and texted him back. 5 minutes later he called me. It was awesome. He hates talking on the phone. So we talked for 20 mins or so and he said he would write me later. He texted me last night and we chatted for a minute. He then asked if he could come see me tonight when he gets home. I think we might be on the mend if I can just figure out how to be mysterious again and take it slow this time. I hope.

Thanks to Libra Carrie for making me think!

Thanks From the Ashes! I needed a guys input. You are right. I pulled back and let him come to me. So hard!!

Thanks Unreal for the "it happens". I'm not a weak person and I can see clearly when it's someone else. I just have a hard time seeing it when it's me. Blah.

Thanks Lana ~~ Great to know I'm not alone. Your post was very helpful. It was just like that only he didn't turn into a total jerk yet. But he was that Friday night. Wow. I'm pulling back and gonna see what happens. I hope I see him tonight.

Thanks so much! I really needed advice and you guys were all great!

Honey, I'm rooting for ya!! Go get him!! Take notes while you're at it, I might need them later LOL!! Actually I'm in the middle of a freeze out so I probably need a blanket 🙂 That pulling back is extremely hard when you know what you want. Patience might be a virtue but it sucks.

One piece of advice for you....the mysterious part you probably do already. You've got his attention and affection. Just be yourself. Seriously. You want him because of who he is. Good manners are great but pretending to be someone you aren't just to win him will get old. It's much better if everybody keeps it real. Gotta be real or the relationship isn't.

Good luck 🙂

something similar happened to me with my scorp. the first year of dating was indescribable. i kept taking what he was giving because i hate losing - and he was such a challenge - it was such a turn on. the joke was on me. he knew this from the very beginning - and he wasnt looking for someone who was into a challenge. and being a scorpio - had no reason to rush into anything - which puzzles me about your story. long story short - i fell DEEPLY in love with him and after him testing me for one full year and putting me thru the ringer - he told me he loved me and that was almost 9 years ago.

still together.

scorpio men are a different breed. very serious. very passionate.

i think your scorp was still heart broken and you were his rebound. the sex between you i am sure was intense and scorp dudes and insanely sexual. after the sex was over he might have started feeling weird with you because he still has a thing for ex.

the texting thing sounds totally weird though.

Manipulation is second nature to Scorpios, even more so when we don't know what we want. It buys us time. I've been involved with several Geminis, you guys love a challenge, and when we feel like we can be ourselves and drop the games, you guys get bored and split. Game over. My mom's a Gem, my dad a Scorp. She only wanted him when he wanted somebody else.

Wow! This last week has been a roller coaster but it's starting to smooth out. Thanks again to everyone that gave me advice. The "manipulation buying you time" thing is no joke! I finally told him I couldn't see him anymore on Saturday night and Sunday morning he started texting and asking me to bring him something at work and I finally did and next thing I know I hung out with him all day and then all night. We played pool and were making bets. I had told him I couldn't see him again after last night. I need to get over him and I can't do that with him around. He made a bet that if he won I would have to talk to him again by Friday and therefore go to the Amusement Park with him as we had previously planned. He won that game.

This morning I left. He called me 20 mins later and asked for help today too. He's moving and we are getting his house ready to rent out. He knows I like to help. We aren't back together but he keeps telling me he loves me and wants to just take things slow till everything calms down. I think we are on track to get back together stronger than ever. It was really hard but it will be worth it!

Thanks so much!!

Now a days u gotta text if your at work and your boss is breathing on your ass.

Give him space. I'm a Gemini girl with a Scorp man for 1 1/2 years now.

We just had a baby 2 1/2 months ago.

Let him be.

Trust me.

BTW when is your birthday and when is his?

Give him space. I'm a Gemini girl with a Scorp man for 1 1/2 years now.



Ooops I meant 2 1/2 years LOL.

I'm trying. It's so hard! But we are getting closer. My bday is June 6th and his is November 3rd.

Yummy. I love November Scorpios.

What are the birth years and birth cities.

Do you know your time of birth and his?

Lol you are funny. I'm 6-6-76 and hes 11-3-82. He was born in Strausburg, MO and mine is Kansas City, MO. I was at 6 something am lol. I don't know his time at all.

LOL I'm June 19th and he is November 20th.

*He's so delicious

Just a little update...

I moved into my new place and he came with me. He tested me for a couple weeks to see if I would hang in there and I did and now we are together. I donno about forever but I could not be happier. The whole space thing was huge. Thanks again to all that offered actual advice. I'm not a week person, I have just never met anyone like this one. I will never date another scorpio if this doesn't work out! lol.

Thanks again!!

I miss my Scorpio ;(