What exactly is being clingy

I am confusay, many people say cancers are "clingy" but what they love most about us is our ability to show affection. I need clearer rules on what constitutes being clingy. I started dating a scorpio and I don't want to chase him away. Help please!

OOOOO Scorpions like attention but when it becomes too needy they don't like it. They need their alone time. Clingy is always wanting to do something always calling always asking. It gets annoying.

Thanks!

I don't particularly consider myself clingy because for one I usually don't stay around long enough to get that way. (I don't have sex with many people, but when I do...for whatever reason...I lose interest after!) I am 25 and have only had 2 b/f.
(1 Scorpio who called me over EVERY DAY and it was fine until he got angry that I wanted to go out sometimes, 8 months) and
(1 Sag, they are SOOO right when they say we are incompatible, but he wanted to be up under me ALL the time too. Accused me of being a lesbian because I wanted to hang out w/my best friend! Also 8 months but we lived together)

That seems clingy to me! I usually let the man dictate how much we see each other because I HATE rejection. I don't see the point of calling each other EVERY hour on the hour, b/c that IS annoying, please believe I know. I LOVE affection and not only am I a Cancer, but the youngest of my family. When the new Scop kisses all over me, I LOVE IT! I do believe that people should spend time alone regardless of the sign in order to remain true to yourself. I do that every morning. I call it my zone out time! Then again I live alone, so...

Once again Parallax, you hit the nail on the head...F-em if they don't want my kisses b/c they are SWEEEET!

Omg... clinginess is a turn off, that brings the bad out of me, i get agitated and just ARGH. I wanna rip my head out.

Clinginess is calling 6 times in a minute, then calling your friend to see if she is on the phone with her. [ it's happened ] Or just hanging up the phone after you call and then call 6 minutes later. Clinginess is... me: I'll call you back ...1 hour later the phone rings and it's YOU. No, I said I'LL CALL YOU BACK.

Clinginess is wanting to be attatched to the hip 24/7. And then getting mad and asking you partner "Why don't you spend enough time with me?" Umm, excuse me, I've been with you the majority of this week, what the hell do you mean?

Clinginess is always wanting to be with me and not allowing time for me to be with other special people in my life.

K?

OBVIOUSLY, you don't like cling-ons huh? (lol)

No, I don't.

Hi! 🙂

I know, let's give her a collective cancer hug (We have the best cuddles)

Parallax, you may be the first Cancer male I like...then again I really don't know you. But you are funny!

No, no, no no, no, no,no no. I don't need a hug. Thanks anyways though, cause I like hugs. I can get all the hugs I can get from my pookie bear! Why do you say I need a hug? I'm just speaking my mind gosh, it's not like I have a problem PARALLAX!
🙂

Go Parralax

oops sorry Parallax sometimes those r's look like l's lolol

Abrasive is not really a word to describe me. But I guess you know me up and down, like an open book, you have the right to judge my personality. 😉 It's cool.

Ok cancerlady heres the deal . Everything is perception and perspective. What is clingy to one might not be to another. Opinions are like a**holes; everybodys got one, One mans trash is another mans treasure, I could go on forever sprouting cliches but just remember this: Even nothing is something. Personally I install definition at the beginning of any relationship, boundaries are subtly established before anyone gets too deeply involved to get hurt. It goes something like this: "I like to be the object of ones desire but I also need to be me and the time to do it, be it 5 minutes or a day. If I cant have my time, nobody else can."

I know cancer is a water sign.
To you, they were nasty comments, but not to me. Stop crying and whining and suck it up.
I don't see myself as being bitter, sorry to hurt your poor little feelings, like I said STOP CRYING.
If you don't like it, then that's on you. I'm going to continue to do what I do, regardless of what you think.
That is all.
🙂

You shouldn't care.
Therefore, you shouldn't have been crying in the first place. You're not gonna make a difference.

Case closed.

Parallax and Beautiful Scorpion,

Maybe we should take a chill pill and cool out? Let's not try to take this personally...I imagine noone knows each other personally so neither of us has a right to judge the other.

Please don't attack me though, because I AM sensitive, bordering on wet noodle. I WILL CRY because I like you both! :-)

Cancerlady

I never have needed a chill pill all of this time. I'm not the one complaining with the problem. But he'll/she'll just have fun being petty and arguing with her/his own self, cause I'm through. 😉

I like you too cancerlady

How do you get those emoticons to work? Let me know, because I like being expressive.

Cancerlady

BeautifulScorpion, you remind me of my Scorp. sister with your no frills attitude. You call it like you see it, and that works for me. Sometimes it hurts my feelings (like when she said I had cellulite) but it usually helps me out (I lost weight as a result) Some people are not able to appreciate that as much though.

BS,
If others can't stand the truth then that's their problem as far as I'm concerned. I do think we have a problem with communication though. When we say something that is as obvious as the nose our faces, we naturally assume others can see it also. I've learnt over time that in fact others don't possess that clarity and as our delivery is so blunt and can appear cold, they believe we can't possibly be right because we appear so mean.

It's not until much later on when they actually realise we were right all along do they either need us more or shun us altogether. That's why we have many acquaintances and not many true friends. Only the strong survive with us and I suppose that's the way we like it.

Just put the symbol.. i mean thats how i do it... i only know how to work 🙂 😢 😉 If there are anymore I don't know how. Just put the : and ) for happy, : and ( for sad and ; and ) for wink... thats what I do.

Yes, I do call it how I see it, not gonna lie. And if someone does it like it then...that's gonna be a problem. Because I am who I am ya know?

Eleven, I couldn't agree with you more! What does your nickname mean?
>>Only the strong survive with us and I suppose that's the way we like it.

What more can I say?

To: Parallax

Pathetic, embarassingly emotional, misshapen head Moron.

Continue to be a douche bag, see if I care.

Disclaimer:

Parallax is not made by or is by any means affiliated with the Ex-Lax corporation. Ensuing litigation will force him to relinquish this handle and reclaim his true birth name discovered by private investigators working on the case.

Bob Sh*teater Jenkins

LOL

Correction,

Bob T*rdburgler Jenkins

LOL

BS,

It's sport related and my favourite number. Nothing complicated. Scorps may not always be best buddies but others certainly don't want us ganging up on them (which we will)..do they? They can't be that stupid surely!

VS,

Love your style and your stirring power. Water of a ducks back to you, isn't it? Some people unfortunately deserve what they get and then cry about it. Got to love those Virgos'. You can argue with them without them taking it personally. Cancer...hmmmmm...well that's another story!

Ah yes, Scorpios do want control; and by the way, Scorpios can be clingy, too, depending on who's definition wins out here.

But a more evolved Scorp is going to see past all this BS on this post.

Everyone has a right to free speech, but no one has a right to an audience.

>>Scorpios can be clingy, too

You're right. Very possessive, my best friend was like that with me...

I'll say one thing about water signs, they know themselves very well. Can't help but be possessive about what you want, especially when you feel it.

I love water signs; they can move earth, put out fires, and totally ignore the air.

Hi everyone.

Eleven, you're right. Water off a ducks back my Man lol.

This is what it is. Q called it ego, he's right. Self righteous? Yeah, probably some of that to lol. Well, probably a lot of that lol.

Difference in opinion is just difference in opinion. Argue a point. That's fine. Intellectually stimulating. I don't have to believe something to accept how another feels about it.

BUT going after someone because another feels they're 'looking for an audience' or they don't like what they're saying. Come on, it's unfair. Calling someone a 'douche bag' or 'fat and ugly' when they directed nothing at you. You got to be kidding me!! The hell is that!? What kind of profoundly emotionally unstable person does that!? Directed at me, it doesn't faze me. I mean, it's a board. At most, to me it becomes sport. But insults directed at another for NO GOOD REASON, and then walk away pouting and whining, "I was challenging you". . .that does piss me off. As if there was some kind of justification for it. Who the hell is one person to decide they're so esteemed they can challenge another?

I like DXP too much to let stuff like that slide. I guess I'm just emotional that way (sniffle, single tear).

Everyone. Feel free to disagree.

In fact. I may regret this, but I actually want opinions. Was I wrong here? Batman ignore the mugger attacking the woman walking home? Was Superman wrong to throw all the nuclear weapons into the sun? Daredevil wrong for whatever Daredevil does to criminals? Exaggerate examples, but still.

Opinions people.


VirgoSquared

Oh, side note.

Female water signs rock!!!

Of course it depends on the whole chart, but on the whole. They're pretty cool.

Yeah, Vsquared...

I hope you never get p-off at me! Cause I WILL cry! Thanks for the compliment!

CancerLady lol.

I guess without fore knowledge I do seem like the bad guy here. Hmmmmm. Sorry Sweet-P, one more superhero comment lol.

The movie Daredevil. He was pounding this guy in the hall. Fist like rain on this criminal's brow. This little kid is in the corner shaking . . .Daredevil looks at him. Completely baffled with, "What. I'm not the bad guy." LOL!!!

Trust, this is quite specific. Check my other post, I've never attacked anyone before. Those are the only two.

Now, Bob had it coming lol. T*rdburgler forgets to take his medicine at times and . . . it's moot.

Q on the other hand. . .I may have been unfair with. He just comes across as blisteringly curt at times to people he posts to, perhaps it cultural, I don't know. Doesn't matter, Sweet-P's right.

No more playing



VirgoSquared

VS,

I like your sense of humor!

Cancerlady

Parallax, agreed.

Egotistical . . .well, girth of ego depends on the arena it's gladiating in.

The other part. . . it doesn't matter.

From my side it's over.

VirgoSquared