What should I do?

Hola! ...I'm dating this scorpio guy ( I told you once my story) for 1 and 1/12 month so far and he recently had a surgery on his back ( lumbar hernia? ) and well he told me that he didn't want me to visit him at the clinic. I was supposed to take him to the clinic though but he changed his mind and sent me a message which stated " Do I call you after the operation? ....so I'm not fool and understood what he meant inmediately so I respected his decition. The surgery was this last friday I called the clinic to find out how it went and he was fine. Saturday and Sunday I just sent him one message hoping he's feeling better, but he hasn't answered me back.


I'm just worried about him why the hell he acts this way? Does he want to deal with this situation alone?? I understand he's scared and everything but the surgery wasn't in his throat so he could call me or at anwser my messages saying I'm ok don't worry.


Should I keep on and don't give up? 'cuz honestly I'm about to quit, things can't be the way he wants all the time.I know he wants to control me but he realized he can't and I'm not playing any games I'm actually trying to balance things out. I'm being understanding of his situation, I'm there for him ,..... maybe it is a macho thing you know, his ego or because he doesn't want me to see him vulnerable?

OT MAYBE HE JUST WANT TO END THIS ......——....


some of friends say I should leave him alone and if he comes back he will...others say I shouldn't tolerate his weird behaviour 'cause I'm the one who's not having a good time adn he's being selfish, things are or aren't so I better move on.

sad 'cuz I like him a lot.

He is in pain!! He just had back surgery, thats pretty major. He is on drugs, he is recovering. Stop taking it so personally. You sound very young, so please try to understand its about him right now. Some guys dont want girls to see them when they are vulnerable like this...esp a scorpio. Give him time.

LOL Weird behavior..he just had his back laid open. Doesn't exactly make you want to do the rhumba or go jogging.

Oh do excuse me mi'lady, I'd adore it if we could traipse about in the moonlight while I deftly plait blossoms into your hair..but there's this pesky incision at the mo'. 😛

LOL.....you guys!.... it's ok now and I totally understand he doesn't want me to see him yet. He just sent me a message saying he was still on drugs and that I give him time to recover and visit him within a few days when he feels better.


I was just worried and wanted to help him in everything I could, he's alone in this country, no family, except his daughter and friends. But well I respect his decitions and I'll wait 🙂 ........................men!

thanks

hugs

No sex for months— ....................my god ............hahahaha

hahah, thanks cowpuncher for your advices I'll be the sweetest kitty ever 😛 meowwwwwwwwwwww

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LOL@ "Not for you anyways"...CP gots it right. You should start strengthening your mouth muscles. 😉

If you start strengthing YOUR mouth muscles, I might just relocate 😉

If you ask me to go out ...being exclusive to each other, What does it mean for you guys?


I feel hurt right now....He told me last night that not only his ex wife with his kid ( situation I'm ok with) when to see him at the hospital but his friends and collegues too........and I couldn't go? .....he could've been more honest and told me " I don't want you to go because I don't want to put you in an uncomfortable situation if you met my ex for example ...I would've understood perfectly, but instead he chose not to tell me anything.
I feel like he opened the window but closed the door in my face.

He offered too much I feel cheated.


we're going to talk about it next week but decitions will have to be taken... Not sure what to do I headed south this weekend so I'll have time to reflect.

Any advice?

Happy Holidays btw

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I'm thinking he is uncomfortable with you seeing him vulnerable PLUS intercting with the ex too. In a hospital setting, he has no control over the situation if you encounter his ex and that would make ME nuts. (depending how long I was divorced).

When you all get together, calmly ask him and share your feelings. Enjoy your holidays!!

I smell 'rat'

Posted by OceanDeep
I smell 'rat'

LOL

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