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WHAT THE HECK DOES UNFOLDING MEAN??
Posted by Ellybean
It means they want to think less about what should be happening or what titles should be applying or measuring themselves against any standard of a relationship. They just want to be able to enjoy every individual moment and feeling as it happens. Experience each minute of time spent in it's purest form.
A cup of this^^^^
Posted by R24
Sometimes it refers to our stereotypical unwillingness to define the relationship or have "the talk." ...click to expand
with a tablespoon of this ^^^^
For me the more naturally thing unfold, the more genuine ( I know, I know) it feels to me. I'm not interested in changing who you are, turning you more into anything, wanting you to be just *that thing* for me. You are who you are and if that doesn't mesh well with me, so be it. Other fish. This is why I hate questions like "so what are you looking for in a man?" Just be yourself and see how we flow together.
Posted by xxnightbynight
I've heard that before. - From my understanding it was about loving the moment for what it was... not worrying about the future but just enjoying every second that is happening.
Basically, enjoying the journey instead of the potential destination.
And two teaspoons of this^^^^
Posted by BullGem
Even that, "let nature run its course" can be confusing. What is natural? And how does one know that they are moving at a natural pace?
No manipulation or game playing involved. Not being forced to move faster then it is meant to. If it takes months to be clear about someone, then so be it. If you click and it takes weeks then so be it.
Posted by BullGemPosted by DazedScorp
The fruit shall ripen, before one takes a bite.
Who wrote that?click to expand
Did a double take and had to steal my sister's glasses to read the name of the poster my d*amn self .
But well said Dazed.
Posted by cancer12
Hey Scorpi-boos
So when you're interested in knowing someone and want thing to unfold naturally, PLEASE explain what that means. I'm not sure what 'letting things unfold' means...will you do me the honor of explaining what that means....I'm quite the impatient and eager type.
What Let*It*Be said, but if I may expand some thoughts to ponder.....
(Assuming this is a man, you're talking about)
Patience is something you will have to learn, very quickly, and remember to exercise that for the rest of your life.
What kind of relationship are you really looking for—
What kind of relationship is he looking for—
Are you into fast food? Is he into fine dining?
Are you cheap, quick and dirty? Is he more refined? Having tastes for the finer things?
IF you are looking for THE ONE, and this Scorp has your attention, take your time, don't rush things.
What a lot of people, regardless their sign, fail to understand is that a Masterpiece takes time.
Ask yourself, "What kind of "Masterpiece" do I want? Ask him, What kind of Masterpiece, he wants.
IF, you are truly honest with yourself, and he is also, and to each other,
then... the two of you will understand each other's ambitions and intentions more clearly.
What style of paintings do each of you like?
Michaelangelo
Posted by GumshoePosted by Let*It*BePosted by Gumshoe
I'm probably risking life and limb with what I'm about to write, but: it means things will move at his pace. Period.
*shields face with hands*
...and for that you get a free "scooter" from those who agree lol 😉
My hand to my mother, this is a conversation I had with my Scorp sister many moons ago:
Scorp Sister: I don't understand why he can't relax. He should know by now that I care about him.
Me: Give him a break- you move in mysterious way, and you know it. And anyway, if you weren't so sure that he's nuts about you, this would be a very different conversation.
SS: (dagger eyes) Do you remember when we were little and everyone used to pick on you at school because you were so quiet, and I was the ONLY ONE who protected you? I wonder where your big fat mouth was back then. It would've come in handy.
Me: (silent, cross-eyed)
SS: You have a point.click to expand
Lol!
Posted by xxnightbynight
I've heard that before. - From my understanding it was about loving the moment for what it was... not worrying about the future but just enjoying every second that is happening.
Basically, enjoying the journey instead of the potential destination.
Don't get lost... you may never find your way back. 😉
Getting lost is what scares me sh^tless--- I keep thinking about the bloody destination...hey i'm all for enjoying the moment but hot damn! I can breathe easier if i got an idea of the destination.
Posted by cancer12Posted by xxnightbynight
I've heard that before. - From my understanding it was about loving the moment for what it was... not worrying about the future but just enjoying every second that is happening.
Basically, enjoying the journey instead of the potential destination.
Don't get lost... you may never find your way back. 😉
Getting lost is what scares me sh^tless--- I keep thinking about the bloody destination...hey i'm all for enjoying the moment but hot damn! I can breathe easier if i got an idea of the destination.click to expand
That's the whole point of letting it unfold slowly. Along the way you'll get hints of the final destination. It also gives you a chance to catch your breath, ask questions so you can figure out if want to proceed. It's less overwhelming.
Enjoy the ride .
*you
Posted by R24Posted by BullGem
Is there something in the air? Why are the scorps so poetic lately? 🙂
I guess my saggy parts are keeping me from smelling those poetic roses... all I had was just a blunt, tactless, uncandy-coated definition of "unfolding." Guess I better leave this to my more finesse fellow scorps, lol
trust me blunt is GOOD, i love blunt, it keeps things clear and pure! lol
Posted by BullGem
Even that, "let nature run its course" can be confusing. What is natural? And how does one know that they are moving at a natural pace?
Posted by QUlETstorm
When it's not stagnant, when it's moving steadily but not too fast. I use that phrase frequently actually, so it was funny to see this thread.click to expand
yea what is natural and what is then considered stagnant? I consider not hearing from him in a week pretty damn stagnant considering we connected in such a great way. this guy ended up sharing some personal things with me and I with him, and we both acknowledged that to each other...correct me if i'm wrong but when one feels a strong connection to another, then you tend to want to continue connecting...am i way off here? btw my venus is also in virgo 😉
@DazedScorpio - wow you really are poetic...but i really like this fruit and i just wanna bite the hell out of it, ripe or not i'm hungry!!! lol 😉
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by BullGem
Even that, "let nature run its course" can be confusing. What is natural? And how does one know that they are moving at a natural pace?
No manipulation or game playing involved. Not being forced to move faster then it is meant to. If it takes months to be clear about someone, then so be it. If you click and it takes weeks then so be it.
fair enough, but months and weeks of consistent communication right? i can handle the months and weeks but not hearing from them and vice versa or having to chase...not cool.
@MrFireBird - to answer your questions:
(Assuming this is a man, you're talking about) - *yes a man*
IF you are looking for THE ONE, and this Scorp has your attention, take your time, don't rush things.
*i don't mind not rushing - slow is good BUT i just don't understand that if we had such a great connection (he said it and so did i), how come i haven't heard from him in a week - it's driving me crazy bc he's on my mind all my time - i don't want to chase, i already called him up last week and told him that opening up with him that night made me feel vulnerable...(ears turned red)
Posted by Gumshoe
I'm probably risking life and limb with what I'm about to write, but: it means things will move at his pace. Period.
*shields face with hands*click to expand
(removes hands shielding face and gives a big hug) ahah! HIS pace is what it feels like - lol thanks for the bluntness! 😄
gosh i just want to be myself and i feel like i gotta play by these rules - i'm a cancer, if i like you i want you to know, if i wanna hug u then thats what i want to be able to do, if i want to call you i want to be able to do that without being considered needy or rushing - that's how i connect. bah! (rolls eyes and signs)
Well here's dirty little secret about me - most of my relationships started with sex and relationships kinda just happened. I want things to be different. ok so with this guy we made out and dry-humped (haha, i'm not apologising for writing that it's the honest truth-lol) - but also we connected on a mental and emotional level which really got my attention - anyway it got really hot with the making out but i stopped him and myself - i told him i want more than sex from him. so i've grown up you see? lol - i now want something with real mental and emotional connection...FIRST.
I'm may not have 'dated' in the past but tell me if i'm wrong - don't ppl want to talk to each other on the phone/ communicate when they like each other? he even makes me nervous and that my friends NEVER happens...grrrrr he's got my turned and twisted upside down already!!! grrrrrrrrr - lol
I'm may not have 'dated' in the past but tell me if i'm wrong - don't ppl want to talk to each other on the phone/ communicate when they like each other? he even makes me nervous and that my friends NEVER happens...grrrrr he's got my turned and twisted upside down already!!! grrrrrrrrr - lol
Posted by DazedScorp
Some unripe fruits will give you diarrhea.
yes...that is true...*note to self pick up some imodium chewables* lol 😛
@PhoenixRising
i LOVE rides!! lol - and ur right i do want to be able to catch my breath cus i do get shortness of breath sometimes..😉
in your experience with dating (i've never done it the 'right way' so forgive me for being so naive): don't ppl want to talk to each other when they like each other?
Posted by cancer12Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by BullGem
Even that, "let nature run its course" can be confusing. What is natural? And how does one know that they are moving at a natural pace?
No manipulation or game playing involved. Not being forced to move faster then it is meant to. If it takes months to be clear about someone, then so be it. If you click and it takes weeks then so be it.
fair enough, but months and weeks of consistent communication right? i can handle the months and weeks but not hearing from them and vice versa or having to chase...not cool.
click to expand
A week isn't long! You. Have. Time. So just chill out a bit. Also, consider the time of year. People are a little busy. Since this "thing" is technically new, he may be easing into it, hanging out with friends. That doesn't mean he's not into you and not thinking about you.
To answer your question consistent communication to you may look very different to another person, so that will need to e sorted out at some point. If you want to call him, do so. I'm not sure how going after what you want = chasing. Yes, you can over do it, but a simple phone call, or a text to say "hey" is not chasing. Chasing to me would be:
Text: *Hi! How u doing 2day?*
(15 sec later)
Text: *Been thinking about u... How have you been?*
Text: *Are u busy?*
(1 minute goes by)
Text: *If u're busy just let me know*
Text: *Hello?*
Text: *HELLO!!!!✨
Text: *Look if u want me to leave u alone, just say so. I thought we had a great connection. Did u?*
(2 minutes go by)
Text: *Okay, I guess ur busy. BYE!!✨
Text: *I'll be up later if you want to talk*
Text: *Is something wrong?*
*sigh* Chasing.....
Posted by cancer12
Well here's dirty little secret about me ...ok so with this guy we made out and dry-humped (haha, i'm not apologising for writing that it's the honest truth-lol)
This made me laugh because I though it was so cute. I hope you're not offended. Okay so anyway:
Posted by cancer12
i now want something with real mental and emotional connection...FIRST.
I'm may not have 'dated' in the past but tell me if i'm wrong - don't ppl want to talk to each other on the phone/ communicate when they like each other? he even makes me nervous and that my friends NEVER happens...grrrrr he's got my turned and twisted upside down already!!! grrrrrrrrr - lolclick to expand
Nothing wrong with wanting something real, but I don't personally think "real" can be rushed. I'll need to steal Dazed's fruit analogy for this one, but if you bite into fruit that hasn't ripened just because you're hungry (aka really into this guy), sure you won't be hungry anymore, but you could make yourself sick and turn yourself off of said fruit. Just a thought. Off to go eat a mango.
Posted by cancer12Posted by DazedScorp
Some unripe fruits will give you diarrhea.
yes...that is true...*note to self pick up some imodium chewables* lol 😛
@PhoenixRising
i LOVE rides!! lol - and ur right i do want to be able to catch my breath cus i do get shortness of breath sometimes..😉
in your experience with dating (i've never done it the 'right way' so forgive me for being so naive): don't ppl want to talk to each other when they like each other?click to expand
Of course they do. Every second though? Depends on the people. Ex. my girlfriend need to talk to her husband all the freakin' time. When we go out to dinner she calls him or texts him. Jesus Crip, I can't relate to that level of clinging. Me, I let you know I'm going out with the girls, before bed I may call to say good night. Depends on my mood and how tired I am. Am I thinking about him? Of course, but sometimes a little longing is nice.
It sounds like you feel anxious because you put some private bits out there leaving you "naked". I get that. It can feel very unnerving. Been there.
Text: *Hi! How u doing 2day?*
(15 sec later)
Text: *Been thinking about u... How have you been?*
Text: *Are u busy?*
(1 minute goes by)
Text: *If u're busy just let me know*
Text: *Hello?*
Text: *HELLO!!!!✨
Text: *Look if u want me to leave u alone, just say so. I thought we had a great connection. Did u?*
(2 minutes go by)
Text: *Okay, I guess ur busy. BYE!!✨
Text: *I'll be up later if you want to talk*
Text: *Is something wrong?*
*sigh* Chasing.....
@ this made me crack up so much!!! sounds so desperate -eeeeek! :p chasing ...is now understood thank you and no i'm not offended about ur quote - lol - i'm just glad i am breaking old habits, no sex when the attraction is so strong...whoa what's happening to me? lol
yes Dazed made a solid point there, (despite my teasing - cudn't help it) - i understand the things worth in life are worth taking the time - this is new for me with romantics situations
to EVERYONE that posted a reply - thank you! thank you! thank you! i'm really really Appreciative of you all taking your time to give me some feedback, you can't imagine how lost i am at this 'grown up' type of this stuff. i say grown up bc i've done some growing up in the last few years of choosing to stay single *highfived myself* YAY FOR ME! lol
seriously though guys, thank you from the bottom of my heart! i'd hug all of u if you were physically here!! **BIG HUG!✨*
(15 sec later)
Text: *Been thinking about u... How have you been?*
Text: *Are u busy?*
(1 minute goes by)
Text: *If u're busy just let me know*
Text: *Hello?*
Text: *HELLO!!!!✨
Text: *Look if u want me to leave u alone, just say so. I thought we had a great connection. Did u?*
(2 minutes go by)
Text: *Okay, I guess ur busy. BYE!!✨
Text: *I'll be up later if you want to talk*
Text: *Is something wrong?*
*sigh* Chasing.....
@ this made me crack up so much!!! sounds so desperate -eeeeek! :p chasing ...is now understood thank you and no i'm not offended about ur quote - lol - i'm just glad i am breaking old habits, no sex when the attraction is so strong...whoa what's happening to me? lol
yes Dazed made a solid point there, (despite my teasing - cudn't help it) - i understand the things worth in life are worth taking the time - this is new for me with romantics situations
to EVERYONE that posted a reply - thank you! thank you! thank you! i'm really really Appreciative of you all taking your time to give me some feedback, you can't imagine how lost i am at this 'grown up' type of this stuff. i say grown up bc i've done some growing up in the last few years of choosing to stay single *highfived myself* YAY FOR ME! lol
seriously though guys, thank you from the bottom of my heart! i'd hug all of u if you were physically here!! **BIG HUG!✨*
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by cancer12Posted by DazedScorp
Some unripe fruits will give you diarrhea.
yes...that is true...*note to self pick up some imodium chewables* lol 😛
@PhoenixRising
i LOVE rides!! lol - and ur right i do want to be able to catch my breath cus i do get shortness of breath sometimes..😉
in your experience with dating (i've never done it the 'right way' so forgive me for being so naive): don't ppl want to talk to each other when they like each other?
Of course they do. Every second though? Depends on the people. Ex. my girlfriend need to talk to her husband all the freakin' time. When we go out to dinner she calls him or texts him. Jesus Crip, I can't relate to that level of clinging. Me, I let you know I'm going out with the girls, before bed I may call to say good night. Depends on my mood and how tired I am. Am I thinking about him? Of course, but sometimes a little longing is nice.
It sounds like you feel anxious because you put some private bits out there leaving you "naked". I get that. It can feel very unnerving. Been there.click to expand
YOU GOT IT SPOT ON! i do feel naked...it takes a while for me to open, guess looking for reassurance but anyway i feel more reassured with everyone clarifying things for me and u clearing things up in ur last post...will work on my patience as suggested by MRFIREBIRD...on another note omg noooooooo not every second like ur girlfriend, no offence but whoa that's ALOT of contact - you and i are alike -for me its more like if i'm going out then hug, kiss, maybe a little action 😛 then see u later...may or may not call to say g'nite - i completely believe in couples having time to do their own thing
Never mind....
Posted by PhoenixRising
Never mind....
aahahhahahahahha i saw that btw...i like when u talk so much 😉
Posted by cancer12Posted by PhoenixRising
Never mind....
aahahhahahahahha i saw that btw...i like when u talk so much 😉click to expand
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