what's with this woman??

Hi There

I have some confusion around a scorpio woman. We were dating a little while back and got on really well, but then due to a small misunderstanding ( her getting upset about me not taking her calls really late at night, as I needed to get up early for work).

She and I stopped talking, well she refused to talk to me, and we argued about this. She completely blocked me off everything and said she didnt want anything to do with me. I made several attempts to discuss what had happened and even pointed out that this had been blown out of proportion. But she refused to take my calls - and went totally silent. So I sent her message saying that she should feel free to get in touch when she gets over it.

Anyway several almost a year passes by, and low and behold, she has unblocked me. I was totally surprised by this - as I thought i would never hear from her again. Regardless of the silly argument, she was a lovely person.

Any roll the clock forward - her and I start messaging each other again, and were pretty much texting everyday for a 2-3 weeks, then all of a sudden, half way during a text conversation she goes quiet on me, and doesn't respond to my message, i tried calling her, but she didn't pick up or return my call, I even tried texting her again. but nothing. So i sent her a message saying that i didnt undestand why she has gone quiet on me, and that I am happy to be friends, however is she isnt comfortable with it - then i also respect that. still nothing.

that was over a week ago - still nothing. I don't understand why she has gone quiet on me, there were no arguments, everything was going well, we cracked jokes etc. She hasn't blocked me or anything, but yet she is silent which leaves me confused - can any of you scoprio ladies help me out with this please?

i don't know if she is dating anyone. we never talked about it. i'm pretty much in the dark due to the silence

thanks for your response impulsv. how do you think i should handle this?

no, just chit chat, how she was, how i was. what were up to etc... nothing deep, reminiscing on some stuff, laughing about it. we were getting on well. thats why i am confused

Hi Infinite,

Thanks for your reply.

No we were dating, and were intimate. Never just friends. Im a virgo. What are your thoughts?

her lack of response was confusing. afterall it has been almost a year, and in all fairness i'm not expecting anything from her. I would love to be friends. But she is confusing. She blocks me, then unblocks me after almost a year. And then stops talking to me after 3 weeks. No harsh words, last conversation was about music... and then silence for a week. So i tried calling and texting, still nothing. so I was left with no choice but to say we can still be friends etc.

Its not healthy to have expectations of an intimate relationship with someone who doesn't communicate. I learnt that lesson last time with her. I certainly don't want to do that again. I am genuinely interested in friendship - have not led her on at all. But how can that be attained when she doesnt even say whats on her mind. just silence.

This made me giggle as a Scorpio woman. Its a trait in us that you treat us a certain way we'll return the favour 4 times over. Give us a rose you get four in return. Ignore us once will ignore you 4 times over. We don't forget and we take our time with our revenge. Take what you want from this.

Posted by Arielle83
She sounds like a dickhead. Don't waste your time in figuring out her issues. She clearly has them.

Yup!

Posted by Infinite8
That's exactly what you should tell her:

Its not healthy to have expectations of an intimate relationship with someone who doesn't communicate. I learnt that lesson last time with her. I certainly don't want to do that again. I am genuinely interested in friendship - have not led her on at all. But how can that be attained when she doesnt even say whats on her mind. just silence.

Be as honest as possible and just put the ball on her court. After that, all you can do is let it go and let her come to you when she is ready. Don't try to beg or change her. Just trust the process. If she is meant to be in your life, she will be in your life.

If she doesn't reciprocate, be proud that you were as honest as you could have been with her. No harm in being honest and clear (we crave and respect it). She's an adult, treat her like one.

Werti,

You sound pretty sensible which is nice. I'm not sure how old she is but she sounds young or immature. As a Scorp even I don't get her issue! I was a bit of a nightmare in my early and late 20's and wasn't sure what the hell I was doing when it came to relationships but she seems odd.

I agree with Infinite8 here with quoting your own words.

I'm not sure what either of you want from each but it seems a little messy!

werti,

This is revenge. It irks her when you don't receive her calls during those time you were dating...

and that's why she was fighting with you in order to get her fair justice.

Scorpios don't like rejection.It takes amount of time for us to get revenge.Slowly but surely the enemy will

be defeated and mostly don't have idea why Scorpio come back after burning the bridge... lol.

Now she is playing even harder...This is just obsession.

really? revenge? so she is obsessed with revenge? so i would love to be friends with her, but by the sounds of it - it seems that she will use everything against me. It seems that she will never forget her revenge or will she - do scorpio women get over their revenge, or is this a hopeless case - if they do how do you encourage them to get over their revenge?

Werti,

Her feelings towards you before is just an Obsession.She was the one initiating calls and you don't pick

up the phone (insults).Most Scorpio women don't initiate. We don't misbehave specially evolved Scorp.

I hate to say this that I myself also struggling *revenge mode* before. I don't act the same day when I

explode. I have to get back my energy and focus the plan ahead of time (the revenge thing).

Don't invite her to be your friend, once scorpio move on then that's it. Just Exit! lol

Unless she is the one begging. Still there is hope.

How Scorpio get over their revenge? well, Just be humble.Patience and kindness is more powerful.

We don't have that patience,humble and kindness thing but once you give that I am sure it's going

to melt her Sick Heart and cry behind closed door. We hate being vulnerable.

Had an Ex virgo before. Virguys can't understand Scorp.

I conclude: Virgo and Scorpio is just for friends not for Lovers.

Posted by werti
Hi There

I have some confusion around a scorpio woman. We were dating a little while back and got on really well, but then due to a small misunderstanding ( her getting upset about me not taking her calls really late at night, as I needed to get up early for work).

She and I stopped talking, well she refused to talk to me, and we argued about this. She completely blocked me off everything and said she didnt want anything to do with me. I made several attempts to discuss what had happened and even pointed out that this had been blown out of proportion. But she refused to take my calls - and went totally silent. So I sent her message saying that she should feel free to get in touch when she gets over it.

Anyway several almost a year passes by, and low and behold, she has unblocked me. I was totally surprised by this - as I thought i would never hear from her again. Regardless of the silly argument, she was a lovely person.

Any roll the clock forward - her and I start messaging each other again, and were pretty much texting everyday for a 2-3 weeks, then all of a sudden, half way during a text conversation she goes quiet on me, and doesn't respond to my message, i tried calling her, but she didn't pick up or return my call, I even tried texting her again. but nothing. So i sent her a message saying that i didnt undestand why she has gone quiet on me, and that I am happy to be friends, however is she isnt comfortable with it - then i also respect that. still nothing.

that was over a week ago - still nothing. I don't understand why she has gone quiet on me, there were no arguments, everything was going well, we cracked jokes etc. She hasn't blocked me or anything, but yet she is silent which leaves me confused - can any of you scoprio ladies help me out with this please?

When scorpion doesn't respond to so strongly (a call, not messages) is because you are dismissed. The reason loneliness time or another man that interests her more than you. Leave it be.

I use text whatsapp weekend only to go, see you, ha ha! I think every Scorpio hates these stupid talks. Mine phone is always silence weekdays not look until Friday, i had 250 messages one time people are crazy, I only read three or four people obviously.

When something important to say call me or i call you, text also always lead to misinterpretations, etc, is an invention of

...Invention of the devil. Maybe she was just confirmed is not interested in you, sometimes Scorpio do these "bad" things, next time if you want to be "serious" to scorpio eyes not text too, just call. Scorpio is more comfortable this way, at least me case. We are not comfortable with small talk texts.

I think you call too later when she was bored, not return back us a call (it has happened before) also offends us enough, next time do it before.

To me it sounds like she still has a soft spot for you but she's backing down in fears of getting hurt again. If you truly want her show her by your actions AND your words. Save the lets be friends talk cause scorpios are very intuitive . We don't form friendships with our exes unless there's revenge ahead

Posted by scorpintensepassion

her and I start messaging each other again, and were pretty much texting everyday for a 2-3 weeks, then all of a sudden, half way during a text conversation she goes quiet on me, and doesn't respond to my message, i tried calling her, but she didn't pick up or return my call, I even tried texting her again. but nothing. So i sent her a message saying that i didnt undestand why she has gone quiet on me, and that I am happy to be friends, however is she isnt comfortable with it - then i also respect that. still nothing.

2-3 weeks of chatting.. but what do you want? Did you actually meet up or try to meet up to talk in person?
Personally I hate texting.. 2-3 weeks.. and the guy (potential dating material) isn't suggesting to meet up in person and i will/might think he's not being serious..
I kinda had a similar situation, I didn't have the feeling it was going anywhere even though i wanted to and being penpals is a bit silly..

Texting to me is not a way of communicating when you have expectations of an intimite relationship..
Scorpio = water = feeling = intuition = body language
texting = none of the above

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Thanks for all your replies.

She has blocked me again. So I just messaged her saying im glad she did and all the best. A very confusing lady

i think she had low self esteem at the moment she unblocked you and contacted you, due to another guy. and she tried to make herself feel better by having around someone who wants her. at the moment she stopped texting, she either realised she feels nothing for you or her other guy texted her telling her he wants her back. forget about her. virgo and scorp is a no no.

werti,

lol. there you go.. that message coming from you yes She is done with you. no more confusion. lol

She's too confusing. I wanted to be friends, thats all. I didnt wait for her i moved on a long time ago. I told her this when things finished as we were only dating and I didnt want to give her false hope. I recognised that she was not ready for a commitment so better leave it alone. But thought friendship could be an option as we had only dated for a few months.

But her actions are little childlike. She seems like she is overcome by emotions or something.

I dont know I would have no issues talking to an ex. They are an ex its done. No agenda no problem communicating . Just because we were not right for each other doesnt mean they are a bad person. We still have things in common and know about each others lives. Can still be a friend without blocking them.

She seems unable to do that. From the start she has had thia problem of going silent. I hope she is ok. I wish her well.

She's too confusing. I wanted to be friends, thats all. I didnt wait for her i moved on a long time ago. I told her this when things finished as we were only dating and I didnt want to give her false hope. I recognised that she was not ready for a commitment so better leave it alone. But thought friendship could be an option as we had only dated for a few months.

But her actions are little childlike. She seems like she is overcome by emotions or something.

I dont know I would have no issues talking to an ex. They are an ex its done. No agenda no problem communicating . Just because we were not right for each other doesnt mean they are a bad person. We still have things in common and know about each others lives. Can still be a friend without blocking them.

She seems unable to do that. From the start she has had thia problem of going silent. I hope she is ok. I wish her well.