Will he come back if I chase him?

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4 days ago my Scorpio broke up with me.

I want him to share his thought and feelings. But to him, if he must explain everything to me, must give me a security feelings in this relationship - it means I don't trust him and don't understand him.

He blocked my Facebook and do not pick up my calls but still answer my Viber texts.
He said that he gets tired, doesnt want to see me, doesnt love me anymore. He even told me to move on.

How to know if this Scorpio guy is serious about the break up or he is just angry and need time alone?
He has very high pride, everytime we fight I am the one who say sorry and begging him because to me, nothing is more value thas "us".
But this time I feel tired... should I keep chasing him?
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Whatever you do, stop chasing him. Just stop. Find something to take your mind of him, or dont take your mind off of him, but dont chase. I repeat, DO NOT chase him.

I dont care how much you love him or how much you think about him. Dont ever let him think he has you completly figured out. It's crazy they want to know everything about their partner, but they also want their partner to have a certain mystery to keep them hooked. SMH. Girrrllll, save you running shoes and relax. If you didn't hurt him, betray him, or try to embarass him your good. They never go anywhere. I had one Scorpio disappear and never return and thats because i embarrassed him at the dinner table because he pissed me off. lol. I was amature back then. Younger too. But your good.Just knock it off running up behind him
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Posted by ellle
it's a damn if you do damn if you don't situation.....especially dealing with us.

will we chase? we wouldn't be caught dead chasing anyone. like star said......we invite (lure) you in and you either stay or you go. your choice.

do we like to be chased? no, it's unflattering and it scares me. lol

so, best to lay low, do you....and let him figure out what the hell he wants.

have you met in person?
LMBO!! She said "It scares me" lol.
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Posted by qweredbnty
4 days ago my Scorpio broke up with me.

I want him to share his thought and feelings. But to him, if he must explain everything to me, must give me a security feelings in this relationship - it means I don't trust him and don't understand him.

He blocked my Facebook and do not pick up my calls but still answer my Viber texts.
He said that he gets tired, doesnt want to see me, doesnt love me anymore. He even told me to move on.

How to know if this Scorpio guy is serious about the break up or he is just angry and need time alone?
He has very high pride, everytime we fight I am the one who say sorry and begging him because to me, nothing is more value thas "us".
But this time I feel tired... should I keep chasing him?
You seem to be the only one invested.

Even if he is "just angry" do you really want to be with someone that would go to these lengths simply because he can't get a hold of his emotions? That is if he isn't serious. You're only feeding the beast when you chase a person that would "break up" with someone when they get their feelings bruised. Expect this dance to continue for the rest of the relationship.

With that, if he hasn't been one for breaking up at the drop of a hat, it sounds like he's done this time. Respect that.

I always found it interesting that people will pester and call someone after a break up and when they acknowledge you it is somehow viewed as a sign they are not serious vs simple acknowledgement. However, if the person completely ignores you then they are "cold and heartless". How about you simply respect when someone says they are done and move on so you can heal.
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Posted by qweredbnty
Thank you everyone I appreciate all of your comments.

We have been together for 3 years. Things are settled down and we have talked about marriage.

Chase - for me, that is about waiting for him at his workplace, coming to his house and clean up his room, and keep texting him. It worked before and I won him back.
But now I feel so bad, and I don't know if I should...
I'm wondering. Why exactly do you feel bad now? Is it because you're upset about the breakup or because after reading what you've written you now realize that this relationship has been about you chasing him all along? 3 years deep and you still need to interrogate the man to open up?
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Posted by qweredbnty
Thank you everyone I appreciate all of your comments.

We have been together for 3 years. Things are settled down and we have talked about marriage.

Chase - for me, that is about waiting for him at his workplace, coming to his house and clean up his room, and keep texting him. It worked before and I won him back.
But now I feel so bad, and I don't know if I should...
Your desperation has a stench to it. It smells like DESPERATION. (like elle said..scary shit)
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ELLLE! You are giving me the laughs I need right now! Omg. Lol. Really dude? A stunt gun? Whyyyy lmbo.

And yea OP I have to agree the things you listed sounds creepy. But hey, your Scorp liked it and that’s all that matters. I guess.lol. But I still don’t recommend you do it this time. Sometimes a partner needs space to weigh things out. I think it’s cool that he knows you care and are willing to be there for him, but don’t overdo it. It might make you look weak and it may be his reasoning for his actions towards you lately. Be strong, let him know you care and are willing to work it out when he’s ready and leave it alone. It shouldn’t be that damn hard anyway. If he wants you he will come get you. Let the man be the man girl.
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bad because after 3 years same thing happen like it did before. And now I feel tired.



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Posted by qweredbnty
Thank you everyone I appreciate all of your comments.

We have been together for 3 years. Things are settled down and we have talked about marriage.

Chase - for me, that is about waiting for him at his workplace, coming to his house and clean up his room, and keep texting him. It worked before and I won him back.
But now I feel so bad, and I don't know if I should...
I'm wondering. Why exactly do you feel bad now? Is it because you're upset about the breakup or because after reading what you've written you now realize that this relationship has been about you chasing him all along? 3 years deep and you still need to interrogate the man to open up?
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I wasnt gonna say anything...I swear I wasnt but im a lil bored at work so what the hell, why not.....*clears throat* I find it very funny that scorpio WOMEN are answering abt not liking to be chased as if you guys are scorpio men. This was a scorpio male question......shame on you scorpio ladies...scorp girls and scorp guys are so different to me....



And to answer the OP's question............Being chased by a female scares the hell outta me lol piggybacking "Elle" there....I like to hunt in a similar way to what "starlover" said........well, maybe there is some similarities there 🙂
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I wasnt gonna say anything...I swear I wasnt but im a lil bored at work so what the hell, why not.....*clears throat* I find it very funny that scorpio WOMEN are answering abt not liking to be chased as if you guys are scorpio men. This was a scorpio male question......shame on you scorpio ladies...scorp girls and scorp guys are so different to me....



And to answer the OP's question............Being chased by a female scares the hell outta me lol piggybacking "Elle" there....I like to hunt in a similar way to what "starlover" said........well, maybe there is some similarities there 🙂
Well, no men were answering so...
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So u decided to fill-in? typical scorp woman....swear ya men lol
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I wasnt gonna say anything...I swear I wasnt but im a lil bored at work so what the hell, why not.....*clears throat* I find it very funny that scorpio WOMEN are answering abt not liking to be chased as if you guys are scorpio men. This was a scorpio male question......shame on you scorpio ladies...scorp girls and scorp guys are so different to me....



And to answer the OP's question............Being chased by a female scares the hell outta me lol piggybacking "Elle" there....I like to hunt in a similar way to what "starlover" said........well, maybe there is some similarities there 🙂
I think the post was addressed to both genders?

Maybe i read it wrong
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you swear you are so smart dont you—...........................It was directed at both genders lol but still, we should be answering
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Posted by starlover
Posted by 13th
I wasnt gonna say anything...I swear I wasnt but im a lil bored at work so what the hell, why not.....*clears throat* I find it very funny that scorpio WOMEN are answering abt not liking to be chased as if you guys are scorpio men. This was a scorpio male question......shame on you scorpio ladies...scorp girls and scorp guys are so different to me....



And to answer the OP's question............Being chased by a female scares the hell outta me lol piggybacking "Elle" there....I like to hunt in a similar way to what "starlover" said........well, maybe there is some similarities there 🙂
I think the post was addressed to both genders?

Maybe i read it wrong
you swear you are so smart dont you—...........................It was directed at both genders lol but still, we should be answering
Oh so it was directed at both?

Uh huh
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lol
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Posted by starlover
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Posted by starlover
Posted by 13th
I wasnt gonna say anything...I swear I wasnt but im a lil bored at work so what the hell, why not.....*clears throat* I find it very funny that scorpio WOMEN are answering abt not liking to be chased as if you guys are scorpio men. This was a scorpio male question......shame on you scorpio ladies...scorp girls and scorp guys are so different to me....



And to answer the OP's question............Being chased by a female scares the hell outta me lol piggybacking "Elle" there....I like to hunt in a similar way to what "starlover" said........well, maybe there is some similarities there 🙂
I think the post was addressed to both genders?

Maybe i read it wrong
you swear you are so smart dont you—...........................It was directed at both genders lol but still, we should be answering
No don't swear...just know lol

*Should* being the operative word there mister....but you weren"t, so you know.......?
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lol....Whatever