LetltB
@LetltB
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Will my Scorpio lady come back?
*That's real world advice...take it or leave it.
i agree with LETITBE, this little girl is not ready for a grown up relationship that your offering her. Sometimes we as women, are just not ready for the love that is being shown to us. Some of us have to go through a few bad apples to see the good thing that is standing in front of us.
most relevent thing you've posted:
Posted by jace
...She has a fair bit of baggage to deal with from past relationships and family issues...she said she has so much going on, her head is all over the place right now and she doesn't know what she wants...She has told me she needs some time and space.
Every thing else you wroter was just a distraction from what you already know.
Overall, I would say leave her alone (romantically) to sort out her stuff. You're a "beautiful distraction" so she doesn't have to do the work she needs to do. Every time you make up, the cycle starts again. Stop the cycle. Simple. Now, since you're here and the fact that you've described her as deceitful and selfish, I will assume you know all of this, but would like to keep trying---so a few things to consider:
Posted by jace
We have had a few rows and broken up a few times, but she has always come back. We are currently split again, but speaking. I have asked her outright if we are finished for good this time, and she said she has so much going on, her head is all over the place right now and she doesn't know what she wants. She said she loves me, and loves being with me, she also talks about settling down, but if I talk about the future or settling down I'm pressuring her. When we are together things are perfect. We only ever fall out over her lies, and her letting me down, when we are not together. She is quite selfish.
Why did you break up? What are the fights about?
Posted by jace
We have had a few rows and broken up a few times, but she has always come back. We are currently split again, but speaking. I have asked her outright if we are finished for good this time, and she said she has so much going on, her head is all over the place right now and she doesn't know what she wants. She said she loves me, and loves being with me, she also talks about settling down, but if I talk about the future or settling down I'm pressuring her...
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You're giving her too much control here. Are you "finished"? If not, put down some ground rules. This whole "we can't carry on" sounds a little passive to me. You know you can't so, come off it. con't...
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She's all over the place because she can be. To be very clear here, this is not about trying to control her. You can't do that with a Scorp, but you can make it very clear what you will and will not put up with and don't waiver from that.
You keep mentioning these lies....what is she lying about? If the lies are enough to break up, then that should tell you something no?
She's all over the place because she can be. To be very clear here, this is not about trying to control her. You can't do that with a Scorp, but you can make it very clear what you will and will not put up with and don't waiver from that.
Posted by jace
We only ever fall out over her lies, and her letting me down, when we are not together. She is quite selfish.
You keep mentioning these lies....what is she lying about? If the lies are enough to break up, then that should tell you something no?
I guess he chose "leave it" 😐
The user who posted this message has hidden it.
😕.....Hmph.
Right.
think of it like this. she may come back, she may not. but if she does, will you be ok with the way she treats you? I think ultimately you decide how people will treat you. she probably does care about you. but thats not whats in question here, the question is more??_. how much of this treatment all you willing to put up with?
good luck fishy 🙂
good luck fishy 🙂
Posted by LetltB
I guess he chose "leave it" 😐
seeing that he hid his comment... i see that he cant take truth and reality when its slaps in the face and forces you to wake up from the illusion.
Posted by jace
Sorry, I didn't choose to leave it I just ended up feeling a bit daft asking. I appreciate the advice. I also felt the situation probably takes more explaining which I didn't want to do. Let it be was right, if she wants me she will be with me, most of the rest probably wasn't right TBH but I would need to do chapter and verse to show that.
Phoenix Rising, she has been told what the conditions of moving forward are, she has also apologised for her behaviour to be fair.
No need to feel daft. No one is born "knowing" how to get through life. I think many people lie to themselves when they know exactly what is going on. Why? You need to figure that out yourself, but that doesn't mean you're stupid/slow/daft. Advice is just given with a little stinger to the a** around these parts. Trust, if we didn't GAF to some extent, you wouldn't get a response. At least not from me.
So take space and you can be a friend (if you choose--I personally wouldn't), but she needs to get herself sorted out or just expect more of the same until the bridge is eventually burned and there will be no coming back. The back and forth seems to indicate that she's avoiding something inside, or she's using you. You've decided to leave it there, so one can't say for sure. Whichever it is, it's best you step away for now and give her the space she has requested. If she wanders back, hold firm to that until she has demonstrated that she has really figured things out.
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