your scorp experience with cancer man, help please

Hey scorps, i need some help decoding a cancer man and whether or not there is a chance for us. so if you scorps have experience with this breed then any advice would be very much appreciated! here's the shortened version:
i'm a scorpio female and over 5 years ago i was dating a cancer guy. i completely fell in love with him, but i never told him this. we were only together for a few months before he broke up with me for reasons which were never really clear and we lost contact. i believe he knew that i had strong feelings for him but i never outright told him how much he meant to me or what kind of an affect he had on me. it has always been a mystery to me what happened for him to end our relationship. the explanations he gave were not clear, came down to i believe he didn't want to get involved/attached if we were going to end up separating (we were going away to school at the time although neither of us knew where yet and i had mentioned an interest in one out of state).
Anyway, turns out that recently he made contact with me and wanted to meet up. so we met up and had a great conversation, everything was natural as if we were old friends. we talked of many things, (although we didn't talk about the past), but i feel that i talked too much about my previous relationships, the ones i had after him. i'm worried that that pushed him away? i still care about him, very strongly and i never made it known to him. we haven't talked since our latest meeting but that was not long ago, and we both mentioned that we would like to get together again.
what kind of signs would show me that he possibly cares about me and is interested? i know that cancers are defensive and i don't think i made him feel safe or secure, can you help me figure out if this whole situation is defense at play or if he is not interested? what would indicate to me that he may possibly care for me and that i should try to break down the defenses? and how should i go about doing that without making myself too vulnerable?
Thank you guys SOOOO much.

I think the fact that he contacted you and wanted to meet again was a huge sign that he hasn't forgotten you. Cancerian people are very strategic, and I don't think that there was anything casual about the way he called you out of the blue, though some may disagree with me.

Ladies....


::shakes head::


When a man who you haven't spoken with in ages suddenly calls you out of the blue, it is for one reason only. He is either lonely or bored (or both), and WANTS YOUR SEX.

When will we learn, ladies? They aren't like us and never will be. We try time and again to project our emotions onto them, but this is just not how they function. Guys are more to the point. Actions! If you want to understand a man, read his actions only and all your questions will be answered.

I agree, a libran friend who I hadn't talked to for months called out of the blue hinted around sex and ofcourse I declined and boy did he seem disappointed. LOL!!!

I'm currently dating a Cancer man and I can say that they will drive you crazy. But the chemistry between a scorp woman/cancer man is undeniable. Cancer men can live in the past and because of this they have a hard time letting things go. The fact that he contacted you could mean anything. He may have just gotten out of a relationship and just wanted to talk to you as a friend but since he is a man you can't rule out the fact that it may be only about sex. Cancer men do not prefer casual sex so if he can go back to something familiar that would be his first choice. Also, between Scorp pride and Cancer's fear of rejection, communication is difficult at this point. At this point, I would continue to talk to him but be very casual about it. The only way to get a real answer out of him without scaring him off would be to ask your questions in a joking manner. If you ask him straight out (Scorp trait) he will get defensive and run into his shell until he is ready to deal with the question (cancer trait). Keep your emotions in check and follow his lead. It's ok to let him know you care, just don't tell him. They're very perceptive he'll pick up on it. Once he's comfortable, he'll tell you why he called you out of the blue.

Crabs are good for boiling, cutting apart, and eating. EAT THOSE CRABS

Of course it might take a while to open because of the sharp and hard shell but you better be aggressive and RIP IT TO PIECES!!!! ONCE YOU GET TO THAT SOFT MEAT IT LOOKS VERY TASTY

EAT IT!
EAT IT AND THEN THROW THE REMAINING PARTS IN THE TRASH FOR YOU DO NOT NEED THAT CRAB ANYMORE, YOU HAVE GOTTEN WHAT YOU WERE LOOKING FOR.

Save the crabs. 😢

fumingli i agree, the break up explanation makes sense, but he acts as if being with him wouldn't have made a difference. i am relationship/family oriented, the people who matter most to me have a big effect on my life, and i am faithful in love, and faithful out of respect to people. if it's over i will end it, never cheat on anyone. and even when it's over i have trouble letting go. i'm not interested in dating, i'm interested in a committed, dedicated relationship. he just doesn't get it. somehow i didn't get that across to him. and i see that i just sabatoged myself all over again because i also mentioned this time around that i was thinking of leaving the u.s. in a couple of years. sigh.
what's going to end up happening is i'm going to just have to make a complete vulnerable fool out of myself and tell him how i feel. because i'm interested in honesty and being open. but i think that will scare him away. right now i'm staying quiet. i sent him a message telling him i had a nice time with him and that we should get together again. now it's his turn. but i'm having deja vu. i'm feeling that he won't respond.
i feel so defeated about all of this. i feel like i will give up and just let him make a move when he's ready. is that a better way to deal with the cancer? although, i don't even know if i gave him any reason to make a move again. maybe the meeting answered some things that he had wondered about and he's ready to put this behind him.
i don't know how you guys put up with this. cancers are so emotionally draining.

Read everything you can about the Cancer man, especially "It's Just not in the Stars" -- crap, I've forgotten the name of the book -- it's hot Pink, in Borders, and relatively new. Very revealing about the Cancer man....

Namely that Cancers are the control freaks, not Scorps, very calculating, ambitious. Their sweet side is to die for, and that's what hooks us Scorps. I hear you about the sex, Fumingli....my ex Cancer hubby was good, not passionate, too...too shy to try something new...my Aqua man is the hottest I've been with when it comes to sex alone.

But the defensive hard shell of the Cancer man just about destroyed me. If you can handle the sulks, the moods, the creepy manipulativeness, then being the Cancer man is sheer bliss....but if not, try another sign. It sucks that the Crab is so insecure and defensive, because when it was good, it was emotional flow, psychic awareness etc. etc. all the things that the water signs get from each other.

Cancer men aren't good for me too clingy and moody.