Scorpio Woman confused by Cancer Man

I recently started dating a cancer man, when we first met there were sparks immediately. I was actually really surprised by how well we connected. Well we had sex pretty quickly however during sex he would say things like he wanted to be with only me and wanted to make me happy. When he first said this, I blew it off as "sex talk" but there was something about it that made me think that maybe he was serious when he said it. But I ignored it because anything said during sex can't be taken too seriously. After having sex a few more times and his continuing to say these things to me like calling himself my "boyfriend" one day on the phone I asked him if he was serious when he said those things and he said absolutely, he said that he was very comfortable around me and that it's taken him a while to to meet me. So I thought to myself ok, even though things are going very fast between us since we're both in our mid to late 30's maybe he's just tired of playing "games" and just wants to be upfront with his feelings. We talk most days but eventually every conversation turns sexual, also, every time I see him it's usually at either one of our places and it always ends in sex. I started noticing that we don't see each other on the weekends. This confuses me because that's the time that we could spend some "quality" time together doing something other than having sex. During an argument, I asked him if I was just a sexual thing for him and he said no. I kind of believe him because I stopped speaking to him for about 8 hours and he sent no less than 15 text messages and left voicemails asking me if I was ignoring him and asking me to tell him what was up. But this not seeing him on the weekend thing is confusing to me (granted he sometimes have to work on the weekends and no I don't know his schedule). But no one works all day. So, is this typical behaviour for a cancer male? Does this seem like a test? or, does it seem like I am being used for sex? How do I handle this?

text me....I GET RESULTS!

I have no idea. I would suggest that you really think about how well you can trust him and his intentions. From there decide if he can be trusted and trust your guy instinct. I would also suggest that you ask him if you all can spend time doing other things than sex. Try to plan something and invite him to come along, meet him there or have him just meet you somewhere for drinks. I would suggest slowing down on sex and getting to know one another. Try having more convo so you can get to know one another and each others habits and expressions.

Oh I can't wait for the Lion to get on this one

"Expressing words may be the EXACT reason why some women have the hardest time cracking that shell."

why wait ? words of wisdom from our resident wise one !

I think she posted this to have someone agree with her and text her. She needs proof that her advice works after being bashed about. SHE gets RESULTS

lmao XF

"less = more. The less you talk, the more you will get out of him."

yes....this is the secret to a great relationship - no talking....talking is highly overrated. COMMUNICATION IS THE DOWNFALL OF ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.

that's all you need - just keep having sex with him.

SF I thought the same thing before I even read it......

Poor SexyScorp, we've ambushed ur thread

she is isn't she SoNot....quoting the almighty lion and everything

lol yall are wild, Dont quote her on my post imma flood your texts with threats

oh sorry Sweet, i already did

actually that part about communication being the downfall of all relationships is my own - but it was inspired by the almighty lioness....geez....you guys don't read my posts either ??

u guys are so negative in here

Trust your instincts. Most Scorps are wildly intuitive.

My experience is that Cancerian men (I was married to one) are very relationship oriented. They can't help clinging even if they're not sure about you. On the other hand, no woman in heaven or earth, including the Scorp, is going to make a Cancerian man do what he does not want to do.

I agree with the post above....back off a bit...not too much, or he'll get his ickle feelings hurt 😢, but add in a bit of mystery. If he asks, say, "Well I really care about you, but I think we need to take it slower because neither of us is sure where we are in this relationship although we ARE very fond of each other." That's enough sugar to make him feel good, but it also subtly telegraphs to HIM that you are on his ass and why the fuck is he not taking you out on weekends?

The Cancer appreciates this kind of manipulative shit as he is so expert at it himself. Good luck! They can be wonderful as long as they're not taking you for everything you have!

Sexyscorp, I was in the same situation with the Cancer I'm dating and I'm a Scorp too! I got tired of the whole charade and didn't call him for a month. We saw each other a whole lot in the beginning but then he disappeared on the weekends. I found out after I stopped seeing him that he had a gf that was using him and he got tired of being a fool (still that did not justify his dating me while they were going through their troubles). I told him that I didn't want to see him and I cut him off. He tried texting me and calling me, and even called from a blocked number at times. When that didn't work, he started sending messages to me through mutual friends about how he wanted to do right by me and change. My friends told me to try and give him the benefit of the doubt and I did and he is different but in a good way. He now makes it a point to take me out EVERY weekend or its back to being ignored. I think it's crazy but for some reason Cancerian men like to be ignored. I guess it's the thrill of the chase! My advise to you is make him sweat under the collar a bit. You're a Scorp, you know what I'm talking about and how to do it! Good luck!