A male Taurus friend, situation I don't get

I've a Taurus male friend(30yrs,his Venus on Taurus).Im a Leo-Virgo cusp female(29).I'm a photographer, 3 years ago a huge mall stole my pics & refused to admit it or credit me. The issue took a while without any luck.Ok there was a guy working on local brand name as a manager, he helped me a lot with the case. On the last 2 years he invited me to occasions but I couldn't make it.Then on the past few months on this year we really started to talk for hours on the phone! And never get enough. Literally talking about everything,anything, we have many things in common and some difference (btw he keeps telling me he can't believe how we r alike, and how scary he is,because sometime I understand him quickly).At first I thought I have feeling for him but I noticed that it's only admiration. Now he's working as an event manger. He keeps inviting me to taste his friends new burger restaurant. Out of support I told him that I'll visit them, he said he&crew are pleased to welcome me. On last Saturday I made it, I was excited and nervous because it's our first time to meet & the first time for him to see me. When I arrived I couldn't see him at first! It was lil dark and many guys out there! I saw him I was really excited! I called him I thought he didn't see me!!but he pretend as he's talking to his friend!!Even his friend told him to look and answer!!with WTF face!.He glanced me and say hi! Then look at the burger like I'm not there!!. I'm shocked & really really disappointed!. So before I leave I gave it another chance maybe I was mistaken, I called him again he turned his head only with lazy smile and waved his hand!!!!!!. Seriously I wish I die atm! I feel like a ghost!. I went out really angry and decide not to talk to him until he does!. On the next morning, he replied to a 3 days old msg on whatsapp which was a msg no need to answer to it!I replied "morning, could u please call me? If you may" he saw it a day ago & did nothing! I read somewhere that Taurus avoids confrontation! so, does he aware of what he did? so should I send him a msg w/ how I felt & all or waiting 4 him to call? Btw, he repeats many times that I scare him and he laughs, and of course keep talking to me for hours, one of our call we spent 5 hrs!. Guys you can't imagine my disappointment! He's not kinda stupid or dull!. He's completely the opposite!!!. Why someone do such s thing to a friend—?. What should I do?

Note: English isn't my native. I'm sorry for any mistakes. I hope you understand the situation.

Posted by idk
Alright, I know it sounded kind of insensitive.

but, as a guy, and a taurus, i feel like i can give you an advantage towards understanding this knucklehead.

i was dead serious about the burger thing.
i know the feeling and i don't even really eat burgers.
but there have been times when i've lost myself in a kraken-sized salad.
yes that's right.
KRAKEN-SIZED.

and even though he may be intelligent, like NASA is tripping over their own damn shoelaces trying to recruit this social flub, he may be a little love-challenged.
a lot of times, if I don't have a straight up "It's like this"
i will attempt to assume nothing.


if you dig this brah.... you might want to break out a little bit of "hey! that was a totally cool burger. i really felt the conversation, i wish we had this much fun everynight!!"

lol! Honestly I didn't take your answer seriously. Yeah! I thought you're being funny or something!.

Ok. Now are you telling me that's normal for a Taurus guy to ignore you over a burger? I know how you love food, I do love food too, even I would cry if i get a wrong order arrived! But meeting a friend for the first time and all respect is between us is nothing? I find it rude. Ignoring someone you know like this is rude.

Hmm, I like the NASA example but excuse my language limitation, is he shy? Or love challenge? challenge who? And why? I'm confused. Actually I don't know how end up like this!. I'm a straightforward person and I do/say what I feel and can't do games or playing other than my own self!.

Lol! If you see the message I'm trying to send to him you would kill me! Lol.
Thanks for your suggestion, yes I like the sense of humor and being sarcastic too. But I have strong feeling that he would ignore it too which will gonna make it more awkward, don't you think? :-/

Why does he even did that in first place? I'm a friend! Not an enemy or someone to take a revenge from. Why he didn't stop from coming if he didn't want me to come over :-/, my pride is destroyed!.

About the message I attempt to send completely what I feel. I'm clear when dealing with others. Isn't the right thing to do? :-/. Btw he knows how sensitive I'm!!. And he knows that how annoys me when a friend ignores me for no reason!. Is that a hidden massage he doesn't want to be my friend? Fine, I would understand that a bit! but why inviting me? Calling me? Or even back to talk me on the morning like NOTHING happen? It's confusing. I don't give up on people fast so I'll give him only one chance to explain his behavior. Right?

Thanks again for your time idk 🙂 I appreciate it.

Again my English is terrible.

Hey again. woof these days is really so pressuring. It's a weddings season.

First of all thank you (busyeyes88, RainDancer and idk) for your replies, appreciate it

Again excuse my English & my long story but I can't not telling the details 😢.

Hmm he's a douche. How about just say hey it was nice knowing you but we're better as friends and walk away forever..

Do what's your sign and placements and did you sneak a look at his? What is it?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Do what's your sign and placements and did you sneak a look at his? What is it?

Thanks for your reply 🙂

Actually I read somewhere that when Taurus guy feel overwhelmed and develope emotions quickly, they retreat! Because they fear to get hurt. Actually he's from another nationality and for some reason even if we develop a relationship we may never get marry!. I have bad feeling that after he saw me he kinda changed!!. Tho 5 days ago he just gave me a very fast missed call! I was playing on my phone! I even couldnt hang on!!!. Then when I called him back he didn't answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok mine is 22 aug. leo-Virgo cusp. Ascendant Is Libra, Moon in Aries, Venus on Libra. Hes 9 May, Venus on Taurus, moon on Virgo. I don't know about his Ascendant :-/

From what ive read.
1. If that was your 1st meeting, he didn't like you somehow and was actually an asshole being that rude.
2. He for sure did recognize you answer then play ed drama queen. Maybe there was someone around he didnt want to see you two talking together long. Button again asshole.
3. The fact he keeps saying about scare isn't good! What he means by that is a Mystery (you should have asked or said long ago you can get offense to that.
4. He's a very frightful guy and wierd or insecure. Maybe he likes you too much and doesn't like that this feeling is overwhelming him.
Anyway LEAVE him now and live your life .

I'm sorry for misspellings - texted from the phone ( T9)
Marker means asshole.
Answer means and
Button means but
😄

MARKER means Asshole( the phone seems to keep offensive words censored))))

Posted by busyeyes88
Come on OP!! Stop flogging a dead horse or in this instance a dead bull!!!

Hrs making you look like an ass!!!! I would never ever entertain a guy that did that to me the first time ie when you went to support him and he ignored you let alone contact him via Facebook etc and calling him etc.... No way!!!

STOP contact with him!! He has disrespected you!! Why would you want to be in contact with that kind of man regardless of sun sign. Delete him damn number and move on....

Do yourself a favour. Set your standards higher!!!!

Yeah, but the problem that I didn't see it! I mean I was just being myself! And never be cautious or worried with him!. I felt he's a person I can rely on at the beginning of our friendship. But that's why I'm asking you that you guys may see things I don't or you may have dealt with this sign. Thanks for your advice! it's really sad tho if this is what he really does.

Posted by TaurusMarine
From what ive read.
1. If that was your 1st meeting, he didn't like you somehow and was actually an asshole being that rude.
2. He for sure did recognize you answer then play ed drama queen. Maybe there was someone around he didnt want to see you two talking together long. Button again asshole.
3. The fact he keeps saying about scare isn't good! What he means by that is a Mystery (you should have asked or said long ago you can get offense to that.
4. He's a very frightful guy and wierd or insecure. Maybe he likes you too much and doesn't like that this feeling is overwhelming him.
Anyway LEAVE him now and live your life .

See? This what drives me nuts!. All these are possibilities so which one is the real reason? He's the only one has the answer 😢. The funny thing that he called me only for 3 mins and like if it's nothing happened! Then said "oh I'm sorry I swear it's my break and I called you but now the delivery of the cake just arrived I'll call you later!." And the whole call he's the one who was talking! Then he never called! But he still access to his social sites!. I just want to know why he's acting this weird! Is it because what he said earlier that he afraid of dealing with women?.

lol it's ok, I believe our phones are testing our patience most of the time xD. Thanks for your reply.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Do what's your sign and placements and did you sneak a look at his? What is it?

Thanks for your reply 🙂

Actually I read somewhere that when Taurus guy feel overwhelmed and develope emotions quickly, they retreat! Because they fear to get hurt. Actually he's from another nationality and for some reason even if we develop a relationship we may never get marry!. I have bad feeling that after he saw me he kinda changed!!. Tho 5 days ago he just gave me a very fast missed call! I was playing on my phone! I even couldnt hang on!!!. Then when I called him back he didn't answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok mine is 22 aug. leo-Virgo cusp. Ascendant Is Libra, Moon in Aries, Venus on Libra. Hes 9 May, Venus on Taurus, moon on Virgo. I don't know about his Ascendant :-/

He didn't had time to develop feelings,not until you'll interact face to face or face to back,that might be an option seeing how he's acting. You might have to use the force with this one.

No Taurus retreats because they fear of being hurt,they fear of not being in control of themselves,usually. Relationships put a stop on their main focus,again usually. If he's in a period of his life when he has no room for a relationship you'll see a lot of hot and cold behaviour.

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Ok. I think you hit a point here because it seems he's focusing on his company! And everybody says that he's workaholic. So now this is possible! :-/. "You might have to use the force with this one" so do you suggest me to force myself on him? 😢. I don't feel alright about this! I mean usually if I want to save a friendship I'll do anything to do so! I hate to see people being hurt or left with unsolved issues so even if they are wrong!. But with this one I'm not sure but I feel like if it's a mystery I can't solve! He even don't talk to me right now! Tho he PROMISED. So how can I step further even he don't allow me?!. Why there are some people are very that complicated? Ok I understand if it because maybe results of bad experience or insecurity. But come on he must have me a chance at least.
Thanks for your comment 🙂.

So should I give up on this friendship? And if he call me back again what's the best thing to do?. I prefer to be very frank!.

Posted by Koniucha
He was very rude the first time you met him. Give up. He will always be rude. Ignore him. You don't know him long enough

So is he lying? Yes unfortunately this is what I'm gonna to do. Thanks 🙂

Posted by busyeyes88
OP, no one likes a desperate person and unfortunately you come off as really really desperate!!!!

Who on earth would want to befriend someone who was so rude. Don't you hv any friends?

No actually I'm not that desperate but maybe because I was expected so much from him. Especially he's someone active and very socialized, I've very amazing friends and I love them. But this guy I want him to be my friend because we have many thing in common and we cand share our thoughts without mocking each other!. You think he's lying? You think he saw me and this is only drama? But why he did shocked when to send him the message that I mad at him?. Besides I'm kinda people who don't give my friendships easily, I have to be 100% sure. That's why I'm concered. I hope my point is clearer now. Thanks again for your caring 🙂.

Posted by Koniucha
Well I don't know if he is lying. That would require me to go into his mind.

But his actions suck, that is for sure

Exactly!. And he's not obvious! This is very tiring! I don't like to deal with too complicated people.
I understand them but I don't like to be around them because I'm sensitive person and I really care about my friends so I need clear, honest and sincere friends.

to me it sound like he romanticised you for those two years, probably he imagined sleeping with you. when he finally saw you, you weren't as attractive to him as he imagined you were. now that he realises that it is a dead end, he has no interest in keeping the friendship going.

Hi again.

Yes I'll keep coming back because this guy is really confusing. Now after you suggested me to stop to talk to him I did. The after awhile he asked me if I shoot in a place 80km away from my house. I said yes sure. I was excited, because the couple are his best friends. I came early as usual and I found him doing the tables. I went to him and say hi he recognized me immediately and welcomed me. Then I got back to prepare my tools. I was checking the place buy walking testing and finding good spots then he commented: "oh detective! Are you exploring? Lol, actually I'm watching you" then he laughed. After that he asked for my advice on some ideas. After I got ready I was try to kill the time because the bride was late. So he was keep calling my name several time and he loudly telling the groom and his friends, "YES! Here's our photographer" with a big smile! Really I was too shy!. I told him one time that I'm not fan to be on spotlight.
The second photographer "male" who's the groom's friend has interesting gears. We had great small talk but he interpreted us!!! >_>. Giving me the knife for the cake only!!!!! Im surprised because it's not that necessary to cut us that load!. The videographer is a famous one in the city and I know her little, she told me later that he asked her to shoot him but she said its video! He said its ok! she said ask Meesh (me) for photograph! But he didn't!. And never shows he interested to take some!.
Ok then the wedding started and I forgot about everything only focusing at work. When we finish I went to other side of the place and he was there, I was packing up and I noticed I forgot to bring some stuff, I called him and he answered in zero mins! I was like WOW that's not like him at all! lol. I asked him gently to bring them inside, he was like "oh where are you?" "I'm inside" "Are you inside?". (he saw me went inside the house btw!!) he came immediately. After the wedding finished he asked me if i enjoyed!.
Before the bride about to leave I was talking to her about some stuff he interpreted us! He said to the bride: "before anything, what do you think of her?" She answered: she's nothing as you described! She's way way better!!. I told them to stop because I'm dying from embarrassment they laughed he said ok ok, Enough!.
After two days I asked in fb for his snapchat! He didn't answer immediately, then he replied: add me wherever you want!. But he didn't give me the user name!!. I replied then how should I do that 😛? And I told him that I need to take his advice on something important on business and this is the 4th time I asked him, every time he got busy with something. He didn't reply. I have a feeling that he doesn't want to me on his snapchat!!. Fine. I understand, but I don't get it! Does he want me close or not? Does he want me to be his friend or what? Why do I care? Because simply it's when your guts tells you that this person is good and positive and you want him/her in your life. I really

Posted by busyeyes88
You have romanticised him in your own head. He treated you appallingly and you still want a connection with him. We can't help you OP. Your mind is already made up. Anything we say will fall on deaf ears. Good luck.

I see. So it's all on my head. Then I'll go with what you suggested from the first place. Thanks a lot for bearing me all this time. I really appreciate it 🙂. You have no idea.

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Posted by busyeyes88
You have romanticised him in your own head. He treated you appallingly and you still want a connection with him. We can't help you OP. Your mind is already made up. Anything we say will fall on deaf ears. Good luck.

I see. So it's all on my head. Then I'll go with what you suggested from the first place. Thanks a lot for bearing me all this time. I really appreciate it 🙂. You have no idea.

A taurus man is the typical gentleman of the zodiac if this taurus respected you from day one, he would not have treated you how he did in the beginning when you went to support him. he showed no remorse etc. You need to set your standards higher. People will treat you how you let them... If you want to keep him as a "business aqauaintance " do so but keep if professional ONLY. Or otherwise end it and move on!

What star sign are you?

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Yep, after reading your comments I end up to think that what it should happen. It would be less time consuming. And about that day he still say sorry but I don't know!, I've a feeling that something isn't right. Im Leo 22 August. A cusp /Leo and Virgo.

For that reason. Like a long time ago, I said hello and he said hello while not even looking at me but scrolling on his cell!!! That made me so mad so I ignored that ahole for months.

@Op- So what do you think you can do to avoid him or distance yourself a little?

do your own things, get to know him more as friends. Actually I don't like loud obnoxious people either and would take my time learning his behavior..

I will not meet a person over 30-45 minutes away from me. And a guy that interested in you would come all the way. Or try meeting have way.

I hope you asked him what is goals were right now and that way you can decide if he is the right one for you. And it doesn't seem like it... So put the brakes on and find something else to do.. If you are sure he isn't ready for a relationship then move on a find someone who does.

I know if I get busy I will put off things and people. Sorry just I am a workaholic too and I do want to spend time with someone else.. So I try to g out on my off day..in the meantime I do text or talk on the phone.. So make compromises and adapt. Spill the concern to him, and let it be and see what needs need to be met