Angry Taurus man, but why and what to do?

I am so confused as to how this man is feeling, what he wants me to do and why he's acting this way.

I met a man, we fell in love and I decided that this was the man I wanted to marry, so I moved to a small town from a big city for the man.

Before I moved he was so intensely in love, or at least expressed that, after I got here I felt a little bit forgotten about, expressed this a time or two but really just put my love forward in order to cultivate it, people are different when real life is involved and I get that. (We had a LDR for a while)

We bickered and fought sometimes, but not anywhere near unhealthy, I would say.

Come May, his birthday is the 5th and I got him a beautiful meaningful present and expressed how happy I was he was born... A day or two later he says he can't trust me, and thinks I've been lying to him about talking to other guys. (I don't even know anyone here!!!)
I guess he read my Facebook and saw that some guy who saw me at a show my man and I went to messaged me, I replied saying "that in fact was my boyfriend I was with thanks for the compliments though."
As well as my best friend (who is a guy) messaged me saying he loves me. And I said I love him too and I want him to come visit, because he just got out of the navy and I haven't seen in for years.
My Taurus man also accused me of talking about him with our mutual friend. Which I have. Nothing bad, and nothing too revealing. (Although at the start of our relationship I did have girl talk and I did tell her that my Taurus man has an amazing penis, and a body that drives me wild...we talked about this, I told him I wouldn't share things like this if he didn't want me to, I got over it.. I thought he did too.)

A couple days after he flipped out on me,(he started to act like I did not exist) I found out I was pregnant, and he turned into the loving man I knew him to be again. . . We both decided it was best to abort. So I did, and as soon as that was over, he told me he wanted me to move it because he needs time and space and need to think about things by himself.

I said fine, even though I didn't think that was fair. He just completely forgot I existed. Cut off all emotion towards me, all the love, connection, care just disappeared. I dont get this because we're in a relationship!!! If shit goes down aren't we supposed to deal with it together?!? It's not like I slept with anyone or lied or anything like that. He goes and changes his FB to single, I try

I'm really sorry that happened to you..sounds like this guy has some issues that need to be addressed, trust obviously is one of them, and he seems pretty self absorbed. Almost sounds like he acted loving toward to get you to end the pregnancy..sounds like he's very confused and doesn't know what he wants..i would give him space and rethink what YOU want. Do you want to be treated like this? Is this acceptable? It doesn't sounds very fair to me. And usually tauruses are like rocks, always steady and there for you.

So There's a few red flags from both of you. Major red flags, possibly deal breakers. You know what they are...

So move on and it wasn't met to be...let someone else deal with drama..

Fb is the social media that everyone looks at for the truth..and drama. Lol.

And moving closer or in with someone is a huge step and major step forward to seeing what that person is like too.

.It takes 1-3 years at least from the bottom(friends) to the top(marriage)..after 3-4 years maybe you can see this person on the same level, but relationship status are hard work. Always takes two..

So dating takes space, patience, commitment, trust, communication, time and energy, and compromise and responsibilities as matured adults...it doesnt mean move closer for a guy just because...

Yes it should always be communicated and honesty about where you are headed, what direction to go, what decisions to make with each other, if this doesn't happen often.. this is a one side relationship..and some problems to solve. There's still red flags though..

I would say be friends but you guys went past that and maybe it's unstable..

I wouldn't be with a guy afterwards on the abortion situation..this is depressing and sad and just wrong. I wouldn't look at the guy the same for that matter alone..

Maybe it was a blessing to go through that. Once you move in with someone it's harder to detach and move out... because there's major red flags you didn't see while you were friends, then I hope it was mutually decided you marry. Seems one person may have been too in love...

I'll be god damn if I was with someone I knew for 2-3 years, moved closer, and then shit hit the fan..that's why it might be important to have their own place when your dating.

You have yours, they have theirs, and mutually beneficial make time to visit, go out, and have some fun..maybe one week you visit, then the other visits..and see if you're compatible like that. Then move in later if you're with the right one that treats you right..and actually wants to marry and have kids..



Good luck..

How did this stranger at the show find you on facebook and message you? You said you didn't know anyone there there.

@boxcar you're right, I do need to think about what I want, I guess I jut want to understand. I am really confused and so hurt by his actions. I don't thing he would be nice just so I would abort. I came to him with the pregnancy and the fact that I did want to abort... Thanks for your advice

@firstdeacontauruswoman I didn't move "just because" I moved so we can actually do all of those things in the same area, having a long distance relationship is difficult and we both really hated it. Me moving was something we talked about a lot, and regardless of him I'm glad I moved...we didn't get married, but we both have said that is where we would like our relationship to end up. It wasn't a proposal, just more of a talk about where we are going.

I think moving out is exactly what's needed, it's just painful that he was so harsh with me when I don't feel like I was deserving in the least. Thank you for your advice.

@gil because I'm the only tall black bald woman in this town. And when you have a couple of Facebook friends in a town as small as this one (from work) then it's really not hard to find someone on Facebook, at all.

@evalani yeah, I took a pregnancy test and I was pregnant...

We did both decide, it's not something I regret. Or have a problem with how he handled it, it was afterward that sucked. I am still dealing with the emotional pain from having to abort. (Something I didn't take lightly) she's a great honest true friend of mine, we talk about everything. If I knew that it would've been such a big deal I wouldn't have said anything, it was the very beginning of our relationship and I had no idea it'd be such a big deal. He saw me at a show that I was with my boyfriend at, and he told me he wasn't sure if that was my boyfriend. Frankly, I thought my boyfriend would be proud I said that it was my boyfriend, and made it clear. As he has mentioned that he loves when people know that he's my boyfriend.

I don't feel like I have broken any trust. As I mentioned before we got over the penis thing and the guy on Facebook was nothing.

I have to get a hold on where I'm coming from, it is hard though when he says nothing. I guess in that way I just need to move on. It's a hard thing to get over and past though. I guess I just need to be a patient and do what I need to do to make myself happy. Even if that's without him.

Posted by Deepduality
I have to get a hold on where I'm coming from, it is hard though when he says nothing. I guess in that way I just need to move on. It's a hard thing to get over and past though. I guess I just need to be a patient and do what I need to do to make myself happy. Even if that's without him.

DD, I couldn't help it but I have to extend some hugs for you.

You'll be fine soon. Be strong. Next time don't listen a guy if he wanted you to move out from your comfort zone.

I had an ex bull who kept arguing me because of my work - he wanted me to quit my job so I can cook and spend time together. Every night, got home from my job - we always had a fight. because I don't give up my work and he wanted me to be in his side everyday , every minute.. that's what he said.I didn't listen to him no matter
what happened - then he broke up with me, the moment I walked out the door - there he is standing sayin M, I loved you... M, is dead. lol. I grabbed the chance to go on my life and no one dictating me.
I was born without him. I lived without. I survived without him.

The only thing I know in myself - I am responsible
for the decisions I made to walked away.. now he's snooping my fb. both him and he's ex taurlady.
I bet.. she can't move on about me because he kept insulting her- she imitated my fb pics. I am pissed off. but no, I won't go back to where I left off. and She didn't won him even I left.

Hm I'll be damn if someone who was controlling tell me not to work. And just dictate that. That's are hard blow for me. And I would become depressed. All I ever have done is work double and over time, and work two jobs at night while going to school.

Not alot of people I've met over the years like my schedule...of course would change to a shift that we both know we would compromise to. If it was meant to be and in the beginning process of friendship. So work conflicts are very important in a relationship...one would want to be home in bed together and the other one making money..it's something to talk about for sure.

Typo..That's a problem and a hard blow to me..makes me feel sad that one day I would have to change but it's for the better, and not always be stuck in a rut with just working hard to become stable. In a relationship it takes two stable incomes..When you are single can do whatever you like...

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So There's a few red flags from both of you. Major red flags, possibly deal breakers. You know what they are...

So move on and it wasn't met to be...let someone else deal with drama..

Fb is the social media that everyone looks at for the truth..and drama. Lol.

And moving closer or in with someone is a huge step and major step forward to seeing what that person is like too.

.It takes 1-3 years at least from the bottom(friends) to the top(marriage)..after 3-4 years maybe you can see this person on the same level, but relationship status are hard work. Always takes two..

So dating takes space, patience, commitment, trust, communication, time and energy, and compromise and responsibilities as matured adults...it doesnt mean move closer for a guy just because...

Yes it should always be communicated and honesty about where you are headed, what direction to go, what decisions to make with each other, if this doesn't happen often.. this is a one side relationship..and some problems to solve. There's still red flags though..

I would say be friends but you guys went past that and maybe it's unstable..

I wouldn't be with a guy afterwards on the abortion situation..this is depressing and sad and just wrong. I wouldn't look at the guy the same for that matter alone..

Maybe it was a blessing to go through that. Once you move in with someone it's harder to detach and move out... because there's major red flags you didn't see while you were friends, then I hope it was mutually decided you marry. Seems one person may have been too in love...

I'll be god damn if I was with someone I knew for 2-3 years, moved closer, and then shit hit the fan..that's why it might be important to have their own place when your dating.

You have yours, they have theirs, and mutually beneficial make time to visit, go out, and have some fun..maybe one week you visit, then the other visits..and see if you're compatible like that. Then move in later if you're with the right one that treats you right..and actually wants to marry and have kids..



Good luck..

Damn, I needed to see this! *sigh*
LDR are hard...trying to see if I should just let my guy go cause we are both insecure and its making things worse! And we are only at the 1 year mark...
So stressful. 😢

Ipoot- Yeah you can definitely find out if your compatible with just dating and seeing before jumping into an impulsive risk..

This is about compromise, communication, and honest, and now consistency..Did I mention stable..

Do you express what is need to be know without sounding bossy or controlling.. just keep calm and respectful, collected and just talk. Now insecurities are common...you both need to work...again if you've tried everything possible and no changes of action speaks louder than words.

Do you drop the stress, focus on your own thing, and be independent.

Sometimes it's a good thing to go through shit and back and experience..but movin in while shit is happening badly is a clear sign...

The older we get, the wiser we get..Now I'm stubborn so I have to learn and not REALLY rely but advice is dually noted. What people say sort makes me hard headed. So I get it letting go isn't easy. Especially when you are trying to become better..but do it for you..

Well, everything was perfect while he was here. We didnt jump into anything, and just enjoyed being friends and hanging out...he (Cancer) seemed to always know that our friendship would take a turn into something more...I was like more like, "whatever"...and then it happened!

The problem with me and expressing myself...is that I just...dont. I've spoken up a few times, the first was more like an "attack" - honestly just trying to get a reaction...I learned that didnt work well cause he didnt say anything. Other times it wasnt bossy or controlling - just mentioned.

But that's his problem with me more so. I dont communicate. Just scared to put myself out there I guess, esp since we're now LDR.

But as far as moving in? Hell no. Been there, done that!

Posted by Deepduality

As well as my best friend (who is a guy) messaged me saying he loves me. And I said I love him too and I want him to come visit, because he just got out of the navy and I haven't seen in for years.

Is this "best friend" attractive? Has your bull expressed reservations about him before? Did this guy ever like you, date you, etc? Shouldn't your bull be your "best" friend if you are in love?

OP - what sign are you? I'm assuming your are like an Aries, Aqua, Gemini or some other sign that doesn't understand jealousy.

This whole post is major red flags...And never provoke the bulls by jealousy..And always be friends first. It is a must. For the oh so picky bulls.

Ipoot- This post is a eye opener take note and if you really want to know about Taurus, Lol..Haha the ohh so dreaded fear of moving in. Haha with someone who isn't on your level scares the shit out of me..I've been there too.

Now the long distance relationship, hella far, and will only do up to 1 hour away. Haha I am picky in that sense.. Because deep down I do need someone not too close but too far, right in the middle while we are friends, lol....

How far is this guy?

FirstDecan - LOL! Well, I'm a Taurus, he is a Cancer. And we are 6 1/2 hrs away...LOL!
Like I said, we just have alot of trust issues that stem from our past, plus others things, and we cant even seem get to a place to where we can have a convo about things cause I think we're both scared to "rock the boat" I guess...so I've decided to just do a slow fade for now, and maybe we'll get it together later. Yes...I know thats the wrong attitude to have about it, but that's all I can handle at the moment. It's only been a year, so I guess we're in that 1-3 yr phase you were talking about. H

But I'm not moving, hell no. At least not right now. We'd have to be engaged or something. And I still would have my own place and life going on!