Are Taureans honest and straightforward?

Yeah I think that you and I both in this situation can take a break from it. I mean seriously because sometimes we wait and wait and hope for something more and it is both one sided and meant to be just friends. Talk casually and be independent helped me and then find someone who is ready to be together. It takes time though and can rush sometimes too.

why couldn't this have been done face to face? I don't think you come across as harsh but I think you would have had more success saying it in person. Now it's kinda hanging out there and has the impression of being a big deal.

And this...“I get that most Taureans are going to treat you like you are the most important person in the world when it's just you and them. And then treat you like a complete stranger any other time.” is not true. At least not the stranger part.

Hey Jeane,

Honestly I did not want to make the conversation awkward or uncomfortable for him. Even though we've only been sexual I still have empathy for him and I do care about his feelings. I know that Taurus can be deep thinkers, and they tend to over process and analyze their every thoughts. I felt like if we had the conversation face to face he would feel put on the spot and may give me the answer that he thought I wanted to hear instead of the one he took a week to think about.

In a way I think I would rather have the longer awaited answer for that reason. But at the same time, I really wanted to have that personal interaction so that it could have that genuine feeling and not robotic and disconnected as texting.

About the comment, I only meant that in a good way because like I said Taurus express themselves physically and not verbally and that's why when you're with them it feels like did I actually meet this person, was I daydreaming this interaction while looking at him from a far, or I did give him my number right? lol well, maybe that's what I used to think at first. But it wasn't meant in a negative way.

Posted by BeautilNLovely
Hey Jeane,

Honestly I did not want to make the conversation awkward or uncomfortable for him. Even though we've only been sexual I still have empathy for him and I do care about his feelings. I know that Taurus can be deep thinkers, and they tend to over process and analyze their every thoughts. I felt like if we had the conversation face to face he would feel put on the spot and may give me the answer that he thought I wanted to hear instead of the one he took a week to think about.

In a way I think I would rather have the longer awaited answer for that reason. But at the same time, I really wanted to have that personal interaction so that it could have that genuine feeling and not robotic and disconnected as texting.

About the comment, I only meant that in a good way because like I said Taurus express themselves physically and not verbally and that's why when you're with them it feels like did I actually meet this person, was I daydreaming this interaction while looking at him from a far, or I did give him my number right? lol well, maybe that's what I used to think at first. But it wasn't meant in a negative way.

he's not made of glass. i don't think you have to worry about upsetting his feelings by asking him a very natural question.

the problem i think is that you've started to develop feelings. again, normal and not unsurprising. you're feeling vulnerable and at risk of being disappointed. you're projecting this on to him and like i said, you're making it a big deal. i don't think he would have sugar coated his response. they are straight shooters.

they are not that much of a thinker. yes, they will consider and weigh their decisions seriously but i don't think they are particularly tortured. leave that to the water signs.

my advice to you would be to take a big step back in your emotions. it's new, it's been based on sex so far (and i think this stems a lot of your problems) and you don't really know each other yet. try to look at as a good experience that it has been, you've enjoyed his company, i imagine, enjoyed the sex. see where it goes. if he gets back, great but i really think you just need to relax. work out if he wants the same thing that you do (you're entitled to that). if he doesn't well, then you had a good time.

let me just say, i know this is hard to do once you've mind started to race with those thoughts.

here is an article, i'm not sure if the premise is true, but there might be a nugget in there that might help.

http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/reason-men-lose-interest/

No I'm worried about being disappointed at all. Yes he is cool and I have definitely enjoyed his company. However, I would be absolutely if he tells me that he doesn't want to move forward. I don't have any emotions vested in this yet. That's what I'm trying not to do. Nor do I want to continue having sex with him without any clear understanding because that is when feelings will subconsciously develop and one of gets hurt . Now I will say this, I have without a doubt developed and friendship with in some personal issues we share in our families that we both felt comfortable enough to share. And I would rather him be honest say that a relationship is not what he wants right and we go our separate ways on a good note so that in the event we revisit our feelings at a later date we will still have that foundation to build on. I'm going to be honest, I would rather have hurt feelings over a broken heart any day.

Jeane,

Do you know what this Mercury in Retrograde is? And if it has an affect being in the Taurus sign?

Just ask him or wait til the you get to know him more better.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Just ask him or wait til the you get to know him more better.

I did... basically just wanting on a response, or NON response-response. I've never been an over texting person. I've gone weeks without reaching out. I just won't actually reach out period at this point since I have put the ball in his court.

I tend to be very blunt to be mean to people I know well and I'm comfortable with.
To people I don't know well, I try to avoid telling the truth of what I really think by not talking much about it/ not giving out my ideas or my thoughts

Posted by BeautilNLovely
Jeane,

Do you know what this Mercury in Retrograde is? And if it has an affect being in the Taurus sign?

mercury is in retrograde now so it is in taurus.

i have to admit, i don't know much about this but you might like to read more about it here.

http://moonlinks.net/planets/mercury-retrograde/

Posted by BeautilNLovely
No I'm worried about being disappointed at all. Yes he is cool and I have definitely enjoyed his company. However, I would be absolutely if he tells me that he doesn't want to move forward. I don't have any emotions vested in this yet. That's what I'm trying not to do. Nor do I want to continue having sex with him without any clear understanding because that is when feelings will subconsciously develop and one of gets hurt . Now I will say this, I have without a doubt developed and friendship with in some personal issues we share in our families that we both felt comfortable enough to share. And I would rather him be honest say that a relationship is not what he wants right and we go our separate ways on a good note so that in the event we revisit our feelings at a later date we will still have that foundation to build on. I'm going to be honest, I would rather have hurt feelings over a broken heart any day.

hmmm, ok. it's not the sense i got from your text or your need to start this thread (not accusatory, i've been there) but fair enough. what mostly gave me that impression is the urgency to text him now rather than ask him face to face when you see him next.

Take control of this situation at hand the best you can. Don't wait it will be not worth it if it is not reciprocated mutually. Therefore sometimes we waste time, energy effort and struggle when we really don't like that shit. We do to see what if, should of, could of, it is not mutual right now. If he said come here now then you jump right? But don't cause I think it would be control. And you got to stick up for yourself too. Even before meeting up, through phone calls or face to face.