Bulls with Scorp Parents

Hi folks!

I was hoping you could help me out with a few things. If you have Scorpio parents (Or had a Scorp guardian) how did you find that experience? More specifically:

What were some of the challenges you experienced with this type of parent?
When you need emotional support what is the best way to give this with you?
When you get upset or rage what do you need? Space? Someone that just listens and stfu?
When you are "stuck" (aka stubborn as f*ck) what is the best way to offer you advice so that it can be heard?

Taurus Sun
Aries Moon
Gemini Venus

TIA!

What were some of the challenges you experienced with this type of parent?
>>My father is a scorpio and we always get along great so the challenges are few and far in between. However if there is any, a challenge for me would be my dads stubbornness and insistence of me following his advice, despite letting me know that its still my choice. It doesnt bother me - call me a daddys girl but i trust him and believe that hes looking out for his girls best interest and guess what, hes always right!! Haha!

When you need emotional support what is the best way to give this with you?
>>Tonsa Advice, hugs, listening ear. I may be biased but my dads the best..and he doesnt sugarcoat anything either but knows when to support n when to push me to be n do my best or when to stop feeling sorry for myself etc.


When you get upset or rage what do you need? Space? Someone that just listens and stfu?
>> Father would know when to let me rant n when to stop me from making a fool of myself with jokes n by making me laugh, i learn to see the bigger picture n that its not sucha big deal after all.

When you are "stuck" (aka stubborn as f*ck) what is the best way to offer you advice so that it can be heard?
>>my father just imparts his knowledge n then tell me to wait and see, regardless of my actions..and like i tell u, hes always got it right so if i had to have a consigliere, who better than my own father? Hehe

Sorry if the post lacks insight on my scorpio parent- im just telling u from experience as my astrology knowledge is limited...

I'm trying to support a young bull that is butting heads with her mother (a fellow Scorp). I don't know mom. She's young, has very little supports, super loving, angry as hell (yowzzaa) and she is really hurt by her mother's actions. At some point the goal will be to get them to talk, but for now I'm just trying to offer support. I have no experience with young bulls and my friends aren't really into astrology.

Thanks for the feedback!

As well, given the fact that she is opening up to me I don't want to mimic what is going on with her mother being a Scorp and all . I'm not too worried about this given the fact that I don't have the same emotional investment, but I know for myself when someone even slightly reminds me of traits I dislike in someone else, I'm done and limit my interaction with that person.

Posted by scorchedearth
the scorpio parent essentially has to respond exactly the opposite of how they think they should react to things emotionally. you guys are sensitive in different ways than we are. being open to meeting the tiny bull halfway will go a long way to making things better.

bulls with less aries probably want to be heard without anyone talking after them. the other bulls on the board are much different than i am. hopefully you get some good feedback from some other taureans. 🙂

Thanks.

I have 2 Scorpio uncles and 1 Scorpio aunt.
They always had the URGE to say it out loud their opinions on my quiet side. "Why this boy is so quiet?" "How do he spend so many time sitting here?" "Why don't he treat women like a piece of garbage?" "Why is he so soft spoken?"
Another thing, they are always suspecting of something. "If he is so quiet, he must been dumped by a girl".
They can't understand, sometimes all I want is sit and look at emptyness drinking my cup of fresh brazilian coffee LOL

I was hoping you could help me out with a few things. If you have Scorpio parents (Or had a Scorp guardian) how did you find that experience?

>>>My Dad is a Scorp. Wisest, most talented, loving person I know. Just was always there to take care of me, very much unlike my Virgo mom who left the family when I was 9. My Dad wasn't too keen on me having friends over, he never had a lot of friends himself and was just very secluded and private. But, he always had food on the table, always was attentive and wanting to spend time with us, and just was the most positive influence. Strength of mind and character beyond anyone I know, and I never ever saw any negative vengeful "stinging" side to him or any of that. He had his prejudices but in general was like some sort of adept master in the art of kindness. A very deep and romantic artistic soul - amazing musician. He would have a glass of wine and play the piano or guitar and I could just lay on the couch and listen for hours. He could not even read music but could play any instrument he picked up.

Phoenix: What were some of the challenges you experienced with this type of parent?

>>>The only challenges were that, once my mom left, he let the house go. He sort of became a hoarder. He would never clean or throw anything out. This made it impossible to have friends over and made him even more secluded. I tried to help him with this later in life but he wouldn't really accept it. He was such a sweet person and really living with him was such smooth sailing that it was hard for me to find fault or rock the boat.

Phoenix: When you need emotional support what is the best way to give this with you?

>>>Ah, he was a little too quick to give the "suck it up and be strong" kind of advice over just listening and hearing me out sometimes. But I think that's a typical Dad. I would've liked for him to maybe listen better. I'm loooooong-winded though.

Phoenix: When you get upset or rage what do you need? Space? Someone that just listens and stfu?

>>>We had a few raging fights, but the love was just so strong. He would come into my room afterwards and, with total sincerity, just say "Listen. You're my son and I love you, and nothing can get in the way of that." and we'd just forgive each other instantly and completely. He taught me how to forgive by apologizing. I've never experienced such ease of forgiveness with anyone.

Phoenix: When you are "stuck" (aka stubborn as f*ck) what is the best way to offer you advice so that it can be heard?

>>>This is so tough because when I'm really stuck, I'm so bad at taking advice, or at least I was as a kid. Definitely hear me out first. Empathize a lot. Don't go in for bluntness before I've expressed myself.

Posted by PhoenixRising
As well, given the fact that she is opening up to me I don't want to mimic what is going on with her mother being a Scorp and all . I'm not too worried about this given the fact that I don't have the same emotional investment, but I know for myself when someone even slightly reminds me of traits I dislike in someone else, I'm done and limit my interaction with that person.

Its hard to parent a bull. In many ways, especially if they learned to distrust authority (and you specifically) bc you provided a crappy family situation for them already, you have to take a "hands off" approach and let them learn from their mistakes. Giving them a lot of freedom, but still being there for their basic needs is really important. Letting them know that you still love them and are not disowning them because they aren't taking your advice....Fights between my mother and I were so far escalated, that at points both of us probably hated one another, and when I was forced to stay with her, she denied me a lot of basic things like food, safety, privacy - a lot of that out of anger and hatred that we had both stirred up in our fighting.

Bottom line is advice is great, but you cannot force a bull to take your advice. We believe we know ourselves and our circumstances better than anyone, and will always decide on our own. I've been like that since I was born.