@Sag89
14 Years1,000+ PostsSagittarius
Ex Scorpio Is So Critical!!!!
Posted by Sag89
he goes off into emotional explosion. What gives?he's a scorpio?
we tend to do that.
you can endure or you can walk away....both are acceptable reactions.
when you react....you are just giving us permission to keep going and going and going. we think you are 'getting us'....when, in fact, you are as annoyed as fuck.
If you are annoyed as fuck....*say* you are annoyed as fuck. he'll be much more receptive to your need for him to stfu.
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Why do you guys do that though? I mean there is stuff I think he could improve on too but I don't really give my opinion unless someone asks.
I guess I'll have to tell him I don't want to talk about these kind of things are we no longer can talk. Sometimes I think he works on me to avoid himself. I don't know.
Posted by VivaciousScorpio
Or... and this is a contentious point of view
Why not ask him why he does that?But that's crazy talk. Wait for everyone to tell you his plutonian energy is fornicating with his venus. A much more logical answer
Ok..
Posted by ellessque
we like to fix things. if I see I'm hitting a sensitive spot....I know what hurts.....it creates something I can protect and nurture 🙂
^ That! See I think that is what it is. I'm not comfortable having a relationship with him like that i think. I will tell him.
Thanks for explaining el 🙂
Posted by tiziani
Yeah I did that to my ex. I wanted to prove (at the time) that she'd lost more by losing me than I had by losing her. Of course, no one really loses anything but that's just how I thought at the time. And that's pretty much why all feminine men do it.
honesty! yes.
Posted by tiziani
You get to the be "parent" and act like you have yourself more together than the other side.
EXACTLY. Ah it must stop
Posted by ellessque
we like to fix things. if I see I'm hitting a sensitive spot....I know what hurts.....it creates something I can protect and nurture 🙂^ That! See I think that is what it is. I'm not comfortable having a relationship with him like that i think. I will tell him.
Thanks for explaining el 🙂
yeah, you've got to catch him doing that an nipping it in the bud. keep your boundaries...we'll try to push them back in any way possible 😛
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I notice lol i hope he can still get along with me with out trying to parent n boss around as T says
Posted by ellessque
We usually stop if we are told to stop. *shrugs*Most people won't tell us to stop though.
He'll probably respect that.
Yea I sent him an email explaining. I think he gets it. He said he only brought it up cause he felt like it was directly effecting him. I told him I did not mean
for it to be that way and I'll make sure you see that my actions aren't about you.
Posted by tiziani
Who does the calling?If he calls you and you tell him to stop, I bet any money he will never call you again. Because... that's just the nature of smalltalk relationships.
But if you both call one another then you probably have something genuinely respectful to salvage there.
Yea it's hard to tell. I'm sort testing to see if there is or not. I'm not sure at this point. If not oh well, if so than cool.
Why do you guys do that though? I mean there is stuff I think he could improve on too but I don't really give my opinion unless someone asks.
I guess I'll have to tell him I don't want to talk about these kind of things are we no longer can talk. Sometimes I think he works on me to avoid himself. I don't know.
Hey Sag? We don't ALL do that. I'm very good friends with my ex's from LTRs. Even those I've dated. The few who are assholes are non-existent and don't get acknowledged by me at all.
In your case, it sounds like a matter of closure that didn't happen. For me, things had to have closure as well as the exes. Cool off period needs to take place for sure. Communicate neutrally to get to the point of closure and it's all good. If your ex feels like he was burned over coals, he isn't over it. I don't remember your situation, but if he's coming at you like this, he's still holding anger. Either tell him to chill and communicate his issues, or tell him to fuck off if he can't. Put him into nonexistence. He'll either communicate or walk away. Anyone who does this bullshit is too immature due to ego issues or too insecure to move on.
Why do you guys do that though? I mean there is stuff I think he could improve on too but I don't really give my opinion unless someone asks.
I guess I'll have to tell him I don't want to talk about these kind of things are we no longer can talk. Sometimes I think he works on me to avoid himself. I don't know.
Hey Sag? We don't ALL do that. I'm very good friends with my ex's from LTRs. Even those I've dated. The few who are assholes are non-existent and don't get acknowledged by me at all.
In your case, it sounds like a matter of closure that didn't happen. For me, things had to have closure as well as the exes. Cool off period needs to take place for sure. Communicate neutrally to get to the point of closure and it's all good. If your ex feels like he was burned over coals, he isn't over it. I don't remember your situation, but if he's coming at you like this, he's still holding anger. Either tell him to chill and communicate his issues, or tell him to fuck off if he can't. Put him into nonexistence. He'll either communicate or walk away. Anyone who does this bullshit is too immature due to ego issues or too insecure to move on.
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Oh ya, I didn't mean it like that. Yea I know, maybe it isn't good to communicate, he does seem mad.
Yea it's hard to tell. I'm sort testing to see if there is or not. I'm not sure at this point. If not oh well, if so than cool.
Well if he's responding to your e-mail, that's a good sign. It may take some indirect communication like that to get back to the point of being able to have a normal conversation. Good luck!
@ elle..Not your day nut job..fuck off again
Posted by Sag89
Ok, what is with that? Me and my ex sort of talk every now and than. Cause I figure why not? But lately everytime we talk he constantly criticizes my behavior on everything.It's really fucking annoying. It's like a mix of he's trying to mentor me, be my dad or think he knows whats best. I don't really know but it's so rude.
I mean he'll go on for 30 mins straight and won't shut up.
My feelings are very hurt from this 😢 I'm just trying to be cool and he goes off into emotional explosion. What gives?
seem like he's just wanted the best from you. they usually expect the best from those they care about because they would do the same.
when i first met my Scorpio ex he critiqued everything I did ..it does get annoying after a while. Yet then he opened up to me why he nagged so much it helped me to understand. But it was still annoying lol
Yea it's hard to tell. I'm sort testing to see if there is or not. I'm not sure at this point. If not oh well, if so than cool.
Well if he's responding to your e-mail, that's a good sign. It may take some indirect communication like that to get back to the point of being able to have a normal conversation. Good luck!
@ elle..Not your day nut job..fuck off again
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Yea that is what I'm thinking too. Thanks LIB
You betcha..
Posted by Sag89
Ok, what is with that? Me and my ex sort of talk every now and than. Cause I figure why not? But lately everytime we talk he constantly criticizes my behavior on everything.It's really fucking annoying. It's like a mix of he's trying to mentor me, be my dad or think he knows whats best. I don't really know but it's so rude.
I mean he'll go on for 30 mins straight and won't shut up.
My feelings are very hurt from this 😢 I'm just trying to be cool and he goes off into emotional explosion. What gives?
seem like he's just wanted the best from you. they usually expect the best from those they care about because they would do the same.
when i first met my Scorpio ex he critiqued everything I did ..it does get annoying after a while. Yet then he opened up to me why he nagged so much it helped me to understand. But it was still annoying lol
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Yea and I agree that his intention is probably good but i guess after a while it feels controlling. Idk
Posted by tiziani
+1 on lack of closure.
well he dumped me so i don't know what closure he didn't have
Posted by tiziani
+1 on lack of closure.well he dumped me so i don't know what closure he didn't have
Yeah but you're in a whole new mindset lately so he'd probably like to have closure sex with that, too.
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Lol nah
Posted by ellessque
don't you guys still see each other occasionally for that?it's the venus, my dear. you are probably feeling all "GAWD DON'T TOUCH MY FEELS BACK THE F OFF!" because you don't *see* him like that anymore.
that's probably not going to change 'much' but standing your ground should hep.
Yes/no it comes in waves.
Yea, he's okay in small doses you know? More than a few it's hard to handle.
Posted by tiziani
+1 on lack of closure.well he dumped me so i don't know what closure he didn't have
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Guilt of doing so? Or...whatever the actual reason was that drove him to end it? Did he give you a reason?
Posted by tiziani
+1 on lack of closure.well he dumped me so i don't know what closure he didn't have
Guilt of doing so? Or...whatever the actual reason was that drove him to end it? Did he give you a reason?
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Well it was really complicated I mean it was just this two year long really messed up relationship. But you know, stuff doesn't work out and thats life and you just have to accept it.
Exsp if you still have those people in you're life I think you need to leave the past behind you and look at how they are in the here and now. I try to do that with him.
I do not think he is over alot of things that went wrong sometimes. I know my other ex scorpio w a scorpio moon isn't either.
I don't know why water guys are so attracted to me! Cause i really just try to be in the here and now.
Posted by tiziani
+1 on lack of closure.well he dumped me so i don't know what closure he didn't have
Guilt of doing so? Or...whatever the actual reason was that drove him to end it? Did he give you a reason?
Well it was really complicated I mean it was just this two year long really messed up relationship. But you know, stuff doesn't work out and thats life and you just have to accept it.
Exsp if you still have those people in you're life I think you need to leave the past behind you and look at how they are in the here and now. I try to do that with him.
I do not think he is over alot of things that went wrong sometimes. I know my other ex scorpio w a scorpio moon isn't either.
I don't know why water guys are so attracted to me! Cause i really just try to be in the here and now.
Prob cuz of ur cancer rising.
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Cruse that thing!
Posted by Arielle83
My scorpio does this sometimes...about the pettiest things on the planet...and his timing is retarded...I just smile and nod and move on with life...
Then I mirror the fuck out of him...
He gets it.
Hahah
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Ok, what is with that? Me and my ex sort of talk every now and than. Cause I figure why not? But lately everytime we talk he constantly criticizes my behavior on everything.
It's really fucking annoying. It's like a mix of he's trying to mentor me, be my dad or think he knows whats best. I don't really know but it's so rude.
I mean he'll go on for 30 mins straight and won't shut up.
My feelings are very hurt from this 😢 I'm just trying to be cool and he goes off into emotional explosion. What gives?