Concern

Me and The Taurus in my life have a child together it’s somewhat difficult to get him to communicate. I understand our relationship was never the greatest but things going to change specially when you have a child together you will have to learn to communicate. I address a few concerns regarding him with our daughter. It’s like I got to go out my way to tell him what’s going on with her and I told him i strictly wanted our conversations be bout her. So I asked him does he want to be involved in her life. I go out my way to contact him bout her all the time only time I feel like he texts me when I tell him I’m done reaching out to him. I don’t feel like he’s puttinh no effort in what so ever. He really haven’t done a thing for her and he always tells me he tell him when she needs something but he hardly spends time with her. He’ll try to contact me bout sex and I think he tries to use our daughter to get to me I just generally think he doesn’t care. But how do you have a fwb with your bd?! I think it’s messy and it’s not a good idea to even try cause you going to have to communicate more since there’s a child involved. He told me he likes me but he hates some things I do. I guess addressing my concerns he always think I’m arguing and I’m not. I’m so conflicted on what to do in this type of situation. I careless if he doesn’t want a relationship I just want to know if he wants to be involved with her. He says he wouldn’t come around if he didn’t but my whole pregnancy we wasn’t really talking. He contacted me the month before I had her and try to tell me he miss me time to time and he likes me now ? What does that even mean really! He told me we need to be a team and he says he only has sex with me which is hard to trust so I cut the sex off after I realized nothing doesn’t seem to change. Seems like he’s comfortable thinking we are a fwb or something which is silly to try to have. I hardly speak on emotions tbh I just address issues regarding bout our child. I just try to show general care and every time I don’t talk to him he’s blowinh up my phone what’s up with this?

Thank you. I think so too. I think he’s sweet talking me so I don’t take him to court. I think I will cause I don’t want to do something I don’t regret. He told me while I was pregnant he never loved me and he just seen me as a fb so yup I think so as well. I think he needs to know his boundaries. I can careless who he fucks with tbh. I told him I hope his bm wants him he says I need to grow up and stop playing that game. But he told me he was gonna end up with one of them. So I don’t understand why does he come around or came back around my child only around my family. I feel like he plays mind games to keep me around but for what he knows I’m not falling for his ish.

But DOES he pay child support at all?

I get that you want to try and bring your daughters father into her life because its heartbreaking to fear that she will be rejected. But it's not your job to pull him into it. Give that energy you are wasting, back to your kid. The easier you make it for him the less likely he is going to put effort into it.

I get it bulls can suck at situational conversion. meaning we don't try to force topics or push or pull information too much, we figure the right time and place will come.

My advice is to be really clear telling him that you are open to conversion with him to share information about her, if he wants a relationship with her, but he needs to in put the effort. Then stop trying.

Taurus are extremely attached to their own children, take that possessive quality an multiply to by 100. I know a few men that have taken full custody of their children. So his lack of interest just from a Taurus influence is a bad sign.

He’s saying let’s be a team and tbh I don’t think that will work out. He told me I better be taking care of his baby or we gonna have issues. He’s only worried bout his sons basketball. His daughter did tell me he really doesn’t fool with them and it makes you wonder why. I just feel like he’s always worried bout the women he got them pregnant to control them. He told me he wasn’t there for his bms pregnancy then he tried to say he was. But funny thing is my child doesn’t have his last name nor does his 3 other kids. He got two bms with the same name me and his other bm. Our children doesn’t have his last name. I told him how I felt he thinks I was arguing so maybe that was pushing him away. But how come I can’t get him to leave me alone. I cut him off he acts like he doesn’t want me too.

I hate to say it he’s sounding always insecured and always thinking I’m leaving and not coming back for good. He asked me was I going anywhere like he says I’m not going anywhere I’m his. He plays games to get reaction out of people and I don’t understand why. He been doing this to me for over a year now.

Bulls are more receptive to actions, not words.

Go to the courts and file for child support.

If he wants to set up an arrangement to spend time with his daughter, this will have to be arranged with through the courts.

This method seems harsh, but something tells me his actions has more to do with maintaining his hold over you rather than spending time with his daughter.

I will agree with Robyn.

Most Bulls are extremely protective of their children.

Wow.

Did he sign the birth certificate?

Why doesnt his child have his last name?

Let the courts raise this man and bring him up to the level of needed maturity.

I remember an ex bull... no child involved but nah he had to pay the career I given up for his demand of living with him only to create drama and confusion. Fortunately He did. What a lucky me. I calculated the loss for months.The risk of looking new career. etc.etc. lol. ( those are funny and angry moments ) trust me when he bargain it, I raised the amount. lol.

I must say toughen up in dealing with him. This is for the child's welfare.

None of his kids have his last name and the ones that do it’s because they went to court for it. I don’t want my daughter to have his last name. I think he only worries bout his bms and not really bout the kids. Like it’s easier said then done. I’m not falling for his words. I just don’t understand what he is up to what’s his motives I don’t get it ?

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Bulls are more receptive to actions, not words.

Go to the courts and file for child support.

If he wants to set up an arrangement to spend time with his daughter, this will have to be arranged with through the courts.

This method seems harsh, but something tells me his actions has more to do with maintaining his hold over you rather than spending time with his daughter.

I will agree with Robyn.

Most Bulls are extremely protective of their children.

Thank you. I think your exactly right. He texts me saying I’ll come by to see you and the baby? Like I don’t understand what he is getting out of it. He has no control over me and I don’t communicate less it has to do wit my daughter. Tbh I think he wants things to go back to what they used to be. I don’t think he wants anything to do with her at all. He says he doesn’t force things. He said he wasn’t ready for a relationship so I don’t understand why he wastes his time. But thank you I been seeing this.