Confused by my Taurus man - HOW UNUSUAL!

Hi all,

So, I hope someone can offer some words of wisdom here. I am seeing a Taurus guy and it's going great so far - for the most part. We see each other usually around 3 times a week. When we're together we have a great time. We take turns cooking each other dinner, watch DVDs together (often comedy!!), go out for meals and generally just enjoy each other's company. All good right?

OK, so here's where I am confused. I'm not sure what we are, that is, how does he see me? I don't believe he is dating anyone else due to what I have read about Taureans. Besides which, he doesn't seem the type. Does he consider me his girlfriend? We have big hugs when we see each other, hold hands when we're out but apart from that, nothing else has really happened and it's been 3 months. We have barely been intimate with each other, except to kiss each other on the lips, but we've never shared a passionate kiss as such. We haven't slept together yet, which doesn't bother me, but as far as other stuff is concerned, why hasn't he tried? Usually it's me initiating kisses or hugs, though he has no issue with it. When we're out, he'll take my hand but that's about it.

So, is this just Taurean slowness? Is he still 'assessing' me? Surely he would've wanted to share a little more with me in this time? Is he still not sure? What can I do to help? I just find it odd that a 44 year old man hasn't really made a move on me I guess. I've given him plenty of indication that I am into him and I love being in his company. I'm quite affectionate with him but he seems guarded with me in that capacity. I have met his daughter, which was a big step and he's meeting some of my friends next week so he wants me in his life. I have been brought into his inner circle. What gives?

Any feedback would be awesome! Thanks!!

Posted by SparklingEmerald
Hi all,

So, I hope someone can offer some words of wisdom here. I am seeing a Taurus guy and it's going great so far - for the most part. We see each other usually around 3 times a week. When we're together we have a great time. We take turns cooking each other dinner, watch DVDs together (often comedy!!), go out for meals and generally just enjoy each other's company. All good right?

OK, so here's where I am confused. I'm not sure what we are, that is, how does he see me? I don't believe he is dating anyone else due to what I have read about Taureans. Besides which, he doesn't seem the type. Does he consider me his girlfriend? We have big hugs when we see each other, hold hands when we're out but apart from that, nothing else has really happened and it's been 3 months. We have barely been intimate with each other, except to kiss each other on the lips, but we've never shared a passionate kiss as such. We haven't slept together yet, which doesn't bother me, but as far as other stuff is concerned, why hasn't he tried? Usually it's me initiating kisses or hugs, though he has no issue with it. When we're out, he'll take my hand but that's about it.

So, is this just Taurean slowness? Is he still 'assessing' me? Surely he would've wanted to share a little more with me in this time? Is he still not sure? What can I do to help? I just find it odd that a 44 year old man hasn't really made a move on me I guess. I've given him plenty of indication that I am into him and I love being in his company. I'm quite affectionate with him but he seems guarded with me in that capacity. I have met his daughter, which was a big step and he's meeting some of my friends next week so he wants me in his life. I have been brought into his inner circle. What gives?

Any feedback would be awesome! Thanks!!

Hi SparklingEmerald,
I have recently started dating a Taurus man myself. I will try to give you tidbits of my situation to bring you a little clarity so I hope this helps! 🙂
Spending time with your Taurus, cooking, dining together & watching movies is a great first step! You need to show them you are interested in them. Taurus men need some time to scope you out, but that is only when they are considering making you a part of their lives. Have you asked your Taurus where you are headed together? With my Taurus I already know. I knew in a days time.
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intimate with a Taurus is fine since you will often hear them say, "Let's take it slow. Let's take our time, there is no rush."
For a Taurus a mental connection is so much stronger with a partner than the physical. When they do make the decison to have you in their lives, they will consumate and the physical connection will be finally found with the emotional one. Do not fret if you have not reached that level yet, but my question still stands. If you see this Taurus in your life, let him know. And if he feels the same on all levels he will tell you. All you have to do is ask. Ask if you are or will be in a relationship. Meeting his daughter and his friends is nothing compare to meeting his family. Meeting his mom and dad his siblings. Then you know you are in his life!
I met my Taurus son after 3 weeks of dating and his friends even before that. I finally met his dad-months later. Do you see the difference?
Take the initiative if you really care for this man and hopefully all else will be aligned. Good luck! 🙂

Hi Nikki,

Thanks so much for your response and yes mental connection is everything. I believe we have everything there in terms of a basis for a relationship. He always asks about things I am doing and I about him. He's recently undertaken scuba diving in a big way and is now wanting me to get into it too, which I am about to start doing as well. Will be a great thing we can do together.

Funny, I have been thinking about bringing it up for a while about 'what we are' but every bit of dating advice always says to let it be and he will eventually bring it up - it's a potential relationship killer! Taurus seems to be the exception however! Any suggestions for wording on how to bring it up? I don't want to do anything or say anything that's gonna freak him out!

Thanks!

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Hi SparklingEmerald,

I'm so glad I found your post. I am experiencing the exact same thing with my Taurus guy. We've been getting to know each other for a little over 2 months now. He has already met my mother, family and friends, I have met his kids. We spend a lot of time together hanging out at my place and going out to the movies etc. I cook etc. He took care of me when I was sick and he spends many nights at my place but no sex just cuddles and hugs and kisses. I love spending time with him but I started to wonder why no sex!!?? The more I read about Taurus men the more I realize that when they are looking for a serious partner they take their time and absolutely nothing you say or do will change them. They do things at their own pace.. period.

We actually argued 3 times about it and I'm surprised he's still around because I accused him of using me and a host of other things out of my impatient impulsive Aries planet. He's so patient and forgiving and we finally talked about it and he said he really just wants to take his time to get to know me. So I'm taking him at his word because when I push for anything he pulls away and is even more stubborn than before. I learned that to get what you want from a Taurus man, you have to yield! Just relax and he will open up to you more and more little by little the more comfortable he gets. It's a great learning experience especially for Aries who want things now and are ready to jump in. Teaches you balance, trust and patience! He is assessing me to see if we can have something long term. It's frustrating but it's best to just see yourself as his friend/potential love interest, because that's what you are. You are not his girlfriend yet. Taurus men come out and say exactly what they want when they want it. Until then don't assume or frustrate yourself because it will only cause unnecessary pressure and believe me, you always want to be easy going and fun around this wonderfully complex Taurus man. He's extremely moody, quiet at times, very outspoken at others and very very loving and sensitive. I am hoping things work out with mine.

I recently noticed this weird thing he does when I'm not looking. He stares at me with a little smile and I look around just in time to see him look away. Also when we're out he walks behind me! It's infuriating! I don't know if he's checking me out, or checking other guys checking me out! He's a lot of work. Just become a part of his life and enjoy the r

Oh and I agree with Nikki, I knew what his intentions were on the first date. To him, getting to know how I think and who I am and if we're compatible is just as important as the physical. He's attracted to personality as well as beauty.

Im reading your post and it looks like my post 4 yrs ago right here on DXP...My ex was a Taurus..When i met his son I knew he was serious since no one besides me had met his son, then I met his mom and sister and brother. Taurus do take their time indeed. It was always cooking,movies,BBQ..Im very impatient and it would drive me crazy..He would go to my job just to say hello he would pick up my daughter from school when I was working. If he wanted to go to Home Depot or any store he would drag me with him, If he had to go to the office on a Sat night because he had to pick something up he would take me with him...On Thanksgiving we both would cook and invite his friends over, we always spend all the holidays together, well for 3 yrs that is. On my birthday of 2010 he gave me an engagment ring...I gave it back, he was furious because I told him I was moving back to my home town..I told him I was done..I still loved him but I didn't want to do it anymore. So he asked me to please not leave until his mom passes away...I said ok..I stayed by his mom side till she passed away On September 11..After the funeral I gave him a hug and I went back home. He did try to stop me but I felt I was wasting my time. He then drove 4 hrs to come see me 3 times with the ring I gave him back and I said no. He still calls me but I never answer him. Taurus are way too slow. Im a taurus but I think my Gemini moon balances me out. Good luck with your Bulls girls.

Why, Taurus Bad Girl, did you leave him if he was great and made you happy?

BGP he was way too slow...for everything. BUT he had a big problem that I ignored for a long time..he had a dysfunction and he was too embarrassed to go take care of it, and the only reason why I found out was because I found some med's in his medicine cabinet, when I confronted him about it he went crazy, I thought he was gonna kill me...at that time I was confused so I looked into the med's he was taking so I talked to him and he just apologized but did not want to talk about a remedy. For a long time I thought it was me that was not turning him on, I cried because I had never had this problem with any other man and I could see how he would grab my hair with fury and frustration, he was like mad at his performance but I kept thinking all along it was me and he knew I was blaming myself until that day that he told me it was him and not me..I felt relif but at the same time how could he have done this to me? He let me blame myself for a long time..I was with him for 3 yrs..really? I think I waited long enough.

Today I understand what it was..One of the reason he was so pumped and big was because he was taking steroids and that is what made him have that dysfunction. There is alot behind all this..its a story after another ...Over all he was a good man and i cared very much for him but I could not ignore that he had this dysfunction and he was not wanting to take care of it for me or for him. So I had to make a decision for me and walk away.

Posted by aurora
I don't know, Taurus I knew were fast in getting physical and in stating that we are together (luckily cause so I am too 🙂) so it probably depends on some other aspects. The one which really mattered to me just warned me that he is not good with expressing his emotions verbally.

In your place I would try to talk to him about it. 3 months is long time to not no where are you standing. I think there is nothing embarrassing, or pushy with simply asking him.

^^^^ Huh! I think the above is confused. TBG has moved on with her life after the 3 year relationship. TBG I understand your point. It must have been tough going through that situation. Good luck to you and may peace and happiness find you.

Thank you piggytoo240, yes I did move on, I had no choice it was either that or me staying in a frustrating relationship that was going no where for various reasons. And I believe that when a man loves you I don't care what sign it is, he will try and keep you close and happy because he does not want to lose you. 3 months is a long time for not even knowing where you stand with him, I may be wrong but step out of the circle and look inside..its kind of strange huh? i think so. But i do wish all of you lotz of luck, I do know alot of bulls that are great men. So don't go by these comments too much but don't discard them either.

Good Luck🙂

Posted by TaurusBadGirl
BGP he was way too slow...for everything.

The slowness is a BIG deal for me, thats for sure. It sounds like your ex was too slow in trusting you with his embarassing problem and including you in on it.

My current situation is with a man who has isolated himself from dating for so long, he is hesitant and mistrustful. He doesnt realize that though he wants to be with someone and share his life, he doesnt know how to let go of his comfort zone and allow a woman in. No one is as patient as I have been, but the end is very near, sadly. Its a shame...

I don't mean to give the obvious answer, but can't you talk to him about it? He has all the answers that you're looking for. Communication is a big part of a relationship and if you don't even feel comfortable enough to ask him "what are we?" or "do you think things are moving too slow between us?", then that is not a good sign. Astrology can't tell you exactly what people are thinking. : (

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Posted by TaurusBadGirl
BGP he was way too slow...for everything.

The slowness is a BIG deal for me, thats for sure. It sounds like your ex was too slow in trusting you with his embarassing problem and including you in on it.

My current situation is with a man who has isolated himself from dating for so long, he is hesitant and mistrustful. He doesnt realize that though he wants to be with someone and share his life, he doesnt know how to let go of his comfort zone and allow a woman in. No one is as patient as I have been, but the end is very near, sadly. Its a shame...

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When we first started talking he would always ask me *would you still love me and stay with me even if I were in a wheel chair and could not perform?* I said yes ofcourse but why do you ask me that? He would never tell me, So the thing started there, he knew how sexual and passionate I was and he was afraid he could not satify me, he later told me that I should calm down, that sex wasn't everything in a relationship, I knew then that their was a problem, but I was willing to stay and help him, but he was so ashamed that he didn't even want to go to a Dr. He was 6'1 strong muscular man very good looking so he didn't want to look like less than a man in my eyes, this was him thinking because like I said I was willing to help him. Towards the end he started getting jealous for no reason, he would bring up my past relationships and how they were no good, and how none of them loved me like he loved me and that no other man in this world will ever care for me as much as he would. He wanted me to stay to sleep at his house all the time, and if i would leave early in the morning he would get suspicious and would get paranoid.

He would have moments where he would cry to me and that broke my heart, he would hug me and tell me he loved me and that I was a great woman, but to please not go, he said we would make our dreams come true and go live up North where it snowed and be happy together..this was something we always talked about. But it never worked out..he got too comfortable and his ego got in the way, he was too proud to go ask for help. He thought I would always be there for him..Like I said I think 3 yrs was enough.

This Bull was the same way, his house was his santuary and he never brought

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other women to his house prior to me.

BGP im sorry about your relationship not working out, I do hope things change and get better. I just can't handle how slow they are..I can't do it.

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they are nice but not really initiators once they mature. I had one who nudged at mt breast cups in the middle of the night, once i pulled them out he had no problems doing what he knows so well how to do. I asked him to go down and he did. Then asked if he wanted a condom. Later in discussion he confessed he wasn't sure I wanted to go there until I asked about the condom and that he is not bold like that. He aims to please...just tell him what you want!

sounds like u have met a true taurus, I am one also so heres my input....we know what we want!!!!! we can be burning with desire on the inside but will not do anything until we are sure 100 % the kissing and holding hands and the grate time u spend with him is his way of showing how he feels (I know funny way of showing it I do the same thing) but I would never start anything in fear of being rejected!!!!! We would rather keep you as a friend than lose you if we have our radar on you!!!!! Trust me what goes on in his mind is how he would love to be with you.... Try this our weekness is our necks if you really want something to happen start there and watch his reaction he will start as a slow burn but needs your help for the fire, Like I told you if he really likes you he does not want to lose you and try something and have you mad at him.... but once you get him going and the fire starts within him WATCH OUT!!!! he will turn into another person before your very eys of passion and desire That will even put the so called scorpio male to shame.... we need to know what you want think of your conversations he is trying to get it out of you but if he does not, it will be just a simmer from within... That is why we have a bad rap of taking to long to make a move cus we would wait it out as long as we have to if your the object of our desire, when others will leave cus they dont want to put the time or effort in. word of caution do not try to take control it is a total turn off for us let us show you what we feel and think thru or actions in love making and our daily lives. we are not stubborn the diffrence between being told to do something or asking us to do something is HUGE. we will protect and fight even till death in order to protect and bring honor to our women and love ones. if we dissapear for what ever reason is do to being mad and we dont want to say or do something that we will later regret that is why after a couple of days from an argument or fight u would not see us but once we get over it.. it is done and forgotten that is why we come back as if nothing happened to beging with... we love our woman to be very ultra lady like. we want to protect we need it like you need air to breath let us be the man that we are and we will work very hard to bring you everything you desire and hand it to you in a silver platter play with his feeling and emotions and you will lose the most loyal person you ever met.... Hope this helps

Going through a similar thing with my Taurus. We're all cuddles and hugs and kisses whenever. Nothing else. Says he doesn't want to mess up with me the way he's messed up with the others. But he did say he loves me. And will always do no matter what happens. It's the emotional conect we have. I trust him. But times when am filled with doubts. Do such men exist—

He's planning to move to my city. So far been staying with me while in transit. He's mentoned staying close to my place. Though, I haven't offered him to move in with me. Am not sure if I should make the move or wait for him to suggest moving in with me. Plus I think the both of us wud prefer the space too. I know I love having him around and would like to spend time with him as much as I can. But times, I like my space too. So far we've been doing our own things without intruding. And i think he likes that. Am just scared of putting something out there in case it's too soon. Oh, we've been seeing each other 3 months and together in each other's faces 3 weeks. LOL! So yeah, a li'l too soon for everything. But guess him saying he loves me in the second week must be crazy! I haven't yet told him that I do too...cos am scared. Though he knows I care abt him.

But yeah, he sure takes his own sweet time abt everything. Groan...patience, patience....gimme some!!