Insight on Aries woman and Taurus male

April 16 1986 and April 21 1981

After ending a Long relationship with a Sagg I found myself contacted by a long lost Taurus. I am amazed how much I enjoy his comforting, grounded aura and humor. We text daily and infrequently meet up so I can treat him to a massage and us to some very intimate delicious sex! I don't stay long but I never leave unhappy. When we are together we are instinctively drawn together but have never discussed a relationship beyond our friendship/sex. I'm not necessarily ready for that anyway. I just don't know how to read him- if he will just be the best f uck buddy I've ever had or will it lead to more? Will I get bored? I try not to be overly aggressive with him and he sure is fun. I don't want to lose him. Advice?

taurus? youre out of your mind? my advise is to dump it and get something stable, relationship oriented, if he wanted a relationship with you he wouldn't start it with using you as his cum dump, do you even know him other than that he, like every other guy who screws a lot, is good at sex?

Mmm... I don't mind,as its benefiting us both. I just didn't know if I should leave well enough alone. I never started the relationship to marry him! He's tall, deep voice, light eyes, biiiiig/ good in bed and dependable. If it wasn't for the sleeping with him part I'd def be his friend. I'm not in love with him just wondering about compatibility and worth That's all. besides no man grows up before 40. But he's a he'll of a lot better than my sagg who might as well be 18 forever!

I don't know about that. I'm inclined to say that I'm in the same boat with a Leo. I got into it for the sex: we're epic together! Such an intense sexual connection....
I'm the biggest commitmentphobe ever -- and I have ADHD when it comes to guys -- so not once have I ever asked him when I'll see him again and when I'll hear from him again. It's always been a case of 'we're in the moment'. Not once has the conversation been 'future' orientated and I believe it's the only way for me to still be involved with him (and vice versa) three years later! If you had told me three years ago, this sexual relationship with this hot young thing was going to last so long, I would have run a mile! But through just taking things one day at a time I've got something I've been completely terrified of getting into. And while what he and I have is a completely crazy situation and it is purely sexual -- no feelings involved at all -- we have both become attached to each other and we have established trust. Not trust as in I trust he won't hook up with someone else.... That's not how we roll (no commitment, expectations or obligations is the rule with us) and we are both open and honest about other people we have hooked up with. But we both trust each other with very intimate details and information about ourselves.
People can say what they want about mine and his crazy li'l thing we have going on, we know: it's just sex... We do not love each other... There is attachment to each other but we do not belong to each other and we trust each other but are not committed to each other. It's all I am capable of as far as forms of relationships go. And we both get to be ourselves and it works for us.

Don't let anyone else try and slap a label on what you have. For me: things fuck out the minute a label is put on it. I'm super chilled in situations like this until someone slaps a girlfriend or boyfriend label on the situation. Then it all snowballs into hell. And so what if you're ok with being someone's dumping ground for sperm. If that's all you're ready for then nobody else can tell you not to do it. I don't think you have to have the talk either... Just leave things and let things be. I think if you just want sex from the dude then that's how you should keep it.

I do agree with KOA about the Taurus thing tho! What a snorefest! Go find yourself a Leo, Scorp or Aries if you want the best fuck buddy ever!

You won't really know what passion is until you are in love with the person you're having sex with. It's on a whole other level. I think Aries women are the best at separating love and sex like men can but it's gets empty after a while (ok, with me at least.) I don't know about your situation enough, Ariess. A real relationship involves more than just a hook up once in a while. It can work with a Taurus, but you need to have more going for you than just sex.

@lotuslily, I guess your situation works for you and I've done the same in the past but never for 3 years! Maybe 3 months, and I was able to not get emotionally involved but sometimes the guy did. Usually one or other does, how is it that no one expects or wants more after 3 years? Are you dating other men? I mean, do you ever want to be in love?

I don't want to be in love and I (for now at least) don't want love. Or not in the traditional sense of the word. 'Love' is a crazy thing and it makes people think irrationally. jealousy and all sorts of unattractive behaviour starts showing up. Plus I'm still unsure whether I'm the disillusioned one when it comes to relationships or if it's the rest of the world that's wearing rose tinted glasses. For starters, I don't know one male who has been faithful. I get that not all men are like this but a frighteningly large percentage are and I realized that a long time ago. I also took a step back and watched people (in public places like gyms and shoppIng malls and stuff) and a disturbingly large portion of the people out there who are walking around with partners and kids look utterly miserable. Pissed off and snapping at each other....at partners and kids... And generally looking seriously disgruntled with life. My girl friends who have been married for a while break down and cry about how "this can't be all there is to life" and "if I could do it over I wouldn't get married"....
I also noticed how men want to control women and don't actually take us seriously and dismiss us and our ideas as silly little girls. And how they basically just want someone to cook, clean and pop kids out. I don't know about you girls, but ball and chaining myself to one person in the name of 'love' doesn't seem like a healthy way to live life. Especially if the controlling dickhead I'm cooking and cleaning for every night is busy screwing god knows who behind my back as an added slap in the face. that generally seems to be the general picture these days and until 'love' becomes more understanding and accepting and loyal: I don't want it.
I guess it helps that Leo and I have never spoken about anything 'real' in the sense of what we want from life and shit that bothers us... I (and him too) have friends to speak to about that stuff. We play one role in each other's lives and we play that role well. We both know how flimsy emotional relationships can be and we both appreciate the lack of drama that comes with getting emotionally involved with someone. From the very beginning we just knew and have never even had to have the talk!

Even thinking about having the talk wih him or anyone else really makes me feel like I'm insecure when I'm not... If you know what I mean. And that's not who I am. I'm strong and I know who I am and what I want (and don't want!) and there's never been any reason to have it anyway. We've both been on the same page from the get go. It's awesome that we both just understand and get each other in that respect.
I hook up with other dudes.... I don't want a boyfriend.... So I haven't dated anyone else. I've seen him through two girlfriends already and I have to say I'm way more comfortable being a mistress than a girlfriend. I have my freedom, we both respect and don't interfere in each others lives and I know where I stand. I know there's someone else and I'm far more comfortable with that ugly truth, rather than being the innocent, loving girlfriend/wife (of which ever guy.... Not just Leo) sitting at home playing with babies and keeping house for some bastard who's lying to me.

I like not knowing when I'm going to see or speak to him again. It keeps everything in perspective. Like... He's not my boyfriend, he doesn't have to do anything. And the more I remember that, the more chilled I am because then it also reminds me that when he comes to me, he comes to me because he wants to come to me, not because he's expected to or obligated to come to me. He's around because he wants to be around and so I don't need to be THAT girl asking needy girl questions... I know he appreciates that! And I feel good about myself for being strong and keeping my shit together. And I know he appreciates that too.

Hrmmm.... Hahhaha.... Not this time round! I was tryna enlighten.

I can see how you would see that though. I guess a lot of the time my perspective is not the same as a lot of other people's and so I have to try and explain how I got to the place I'm at so at least they'll understand. Maybe 'understand' is the keyword. Maybe I just want to be understood. Haha. I definitely think that's what the issue is more than defending my life/life style choices.

Mistery asked me how and I explained so she could understand. Lol!

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 ?? Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aries 26.26 ?? Ascendant Leo 12.37
Moon Cancer 18.21 ?? II Virgo 3.59
Mercury Pisces 29.06 R ?? III Libra 0.11
Venus Taurus 17.42 ?? IV Scorpio 2.23
Mars Capricorn 9.19 ?? V Sagittarius 8.27
Jupiter Pisces 12.35 ?? VI Capricorn 12.52
Saturn Sagittarius 9.03 R ?? VII Aquarius 12.37
Uranus Sagittarius 22.12 R ?? VIII Pisces 3.59
Neptune Capricorn 5.48 R ?? IX Aries 0.11
Pluto Scorpio 6.14 R ?? Midheaven Taurus 2.23
Lilith Gemini 5.28 ?? XI Gemini 8.27
Asc node Aries 29.56 ?? XII Cancer 12.52


Zodiac in degrees 0.00 ?? Time unknown
Sun Taurus 1.31 ?? ??
Moon Scorpio 27.35 ?? ??
Mercury Aries 24.52 ?? ??
Venus Taurus 5.14 ?? ??
Mars Aries 27.19 ?? ??
Jupiter Libra 2.20 R ?? ??
Saturn Libra 4.33 R ?? ??
Uranus Scorpio 29.11 R ?? ??
Neptune Sagittarius 24.42 R ?? ??
Pluto Libra 22.44 R ?? ??
Lilith Scorpio 12.36 ?? ??
Asc node Leo 7.01 ?? ??

Our natal charts go together well, even if he is a taur!

@lotus I totally get what you mean abt your leo. You are too funny
See, He constantly remarks that I never stay over or stay with him and he tries to change the way things have been between us. But we never go anywhere and that is why I find it so confusing- why want me with you longer but not to meet your friends? Just weird. Like you, I don't want th dynamics to change! I can feel my anxiety rise at the thought of any type of commitment being made- not that I think that's what he wants per say. I like things how they are! I was only asking how well an Aries and taurus would mesh because I don't ever want this to change haha I dont want to get bored or attached etc. no expiration date please! While I do prefer commitments and I've always been very set on the marriage fairy tale for some reason, with him, I'm just so comfortable and content with what we have.

My last housemate was a Taurus chick and she also loved living life according to this preconceived template of how life is supposed to unfold. She couldn't just hangout and have fun with a guy and enjoy where it was at in the moment and go with the flow. She was always going on about "but he should be acting like this" or "that's not how things are supposed to be done" ( one time she barged into my bathroom while I was in the shower and sat down to have a convo with me about a dude she was seeing and she told me I shower wrong because I wasn't facing the 'right way' in the shower!!!) like life has to be lived according to some textbook. And if it didn't look like it was going as she expected it to be, then she'd freak out. They're generally very traditional thinkers.

I have no idea how long this thing with Leo will last.... But I do know it's fun and I appreciate him for who he is and how compatible we are as far as sexually exploiting each other in the most positive way goes! Haha! It's been one day at a time and that is the only thing I can cope with. Throw future tense in there and co depency and I will start hyperventilating!

As far as you and Taurus goes: like I said, they tend to be traditional and if you want things to stay like they are then I guess you should tell him that before he fucks it up by wanting to change it and make it more traditional. Girls getting up after sex and leaving isn't very traditional.... Girls traditionally want cuddling. So that 'must be' how it's 'supposed to be'.... And maybe thats why hes wanting to change that part. If hes not showing you to his friends though.... I would think its still just about sex for him too then. He is probably just not used to not doing things by the book! And we are anything except 'by the book' kinda girls. Haha...

Lotuslily, I wish I could be like you, because I understand what you're saying about not wanting to tie yourself down to someone or be "obligated" to anyone because you never know what they're doing behind your back and you love the freedom so you avoid getting into the whole mess of relationships. Happier that way, I guess. I wish I could just stand back from everything and not get too involved - mentally, physically, emotionally, or any way - with anybody because then you're just pulled into so much potential drama. Just carefree, playing the field, is what I aspire towards.