Ensnared by a Bull (Tale of a sad Cappy woman)

I'm a capricorn female and my very best friend is a Taurus. Needless to say we've had an unexplainable connection since the first time we met each other- in High School- five years ago. At first our friendship was completely platonic, though he had a habit of constantly touching me, which I recognize now as him having feelings for me. Fast forward 3 years down the road from the first time we met and you see a difference in our relationship: we are sexually active, but it's more than just that. We behave so much like a couple that our mutual friends constantly ride our asses; wondering why we haven't just gotten together. My Taurus male always said this 1) He did not want to get into a reltionship until he was financially stable 2) He thought of me as his best friend and didn't want to ruin what we had if things were to go wrong. He said wait five years, until we were older. All of this may seem irrelevent in regards to the actual, upcoming question: but I'm just trying to establish how very close we were.
About a month ago things took a terrible turn. My Taurus had been stressed from work and had been drinking, but not nearly enough to be as belligerent as he was behaving on this night. The issue started because I hadn't hung out with him in two days, even though for the previous few weeks he'd slowly been spending more and more time at work. I tried explaining myself and he blew up. Don't be mistaken, my obsession with Astrology and my experience with a Taurus for 5 years did make me aware of the famous Taurean anger, but this was something I had never seen, at least directed towards ME. He began screaming, and wasn't making sense. I tried getting out of the car to try and reason with him, but he shoved me back down and repeatedly slammed my leg in the car door, not even stopping when I began to cry. He apologized when I dropped him off at his house, saying: "I don't know why that happened, I'm so sorry." The words were (sort of) right, but were said in his nonchalant Taurus way and I just didn't have the patience that night, so I just remined silent. He texted me the next morning and aplogoized. He said he blacked out. I said I didn't know what to think, he'd never scared me so much. He just said sorry again and that was the end of it. I tried calling him a few days later and nothing. It's been that way ever sense. I try every four days or so to get ahold of him but it seems he could care less. I know the wrath of a Taurus can be brutal, but I do not

understand how he could find it logical at ALL to stop speaking to ME considering the situation. I just want my best friend back but I just don't know what could possibly be going on in his head. Is his stubborn pride really worth 5 years of friendship and budding romance?
What does anybody think? Will he contact me ever again, does he even care or acknowledge what he's done? Does he think about me as much as I think about him? Is there anything I can say/do (without pushing, I know Bulls hate feeling rushed) to try and help the situation? I just want my best friend and lover back.

Posted by scorchedearth
you should focus on the fact he hurt you. trying to excuse his actions by claiming he was blacked out doesn't get rid of the fact that he slammed your leg. that's incredibly abusive behavior. you shouldn't be chasing after a guy who would do something like that to you. where is your self respect? no one deserves to be treated that way. no one.

I couldn't agree more if the situation were different, but he's NEVER been like this towards me, and it's just hard for me to let go over one bad situation out've 5 amazing years. I know what you must be thinking, but trust me when I say I'm not at all the kind of girl to let myself get treated that way. I don't know, you have a great point and I'd say the same thing I just love him so much.

whoa whoa whoa!

taurean anger doesn't mean we physically abuse people. wtf!?!?

overall, he's most likely distanced himself from you because he's ashamed of his behavior. if your friendship is deep, you don't need to worry about losing him. he needs time to sort through his jackass behavior. with that said, feelings aside, why do you want him back?

the man was assaulting you and instead of hauling back and punching him the face, you passively accepted the abuse. THAT is what's truly scary and the cherry is that even after you've removed yourself from the situation, you want him back.

your self-esteem is truly fucked.

Girly, you are on a road to eventually becoming his punching bag...you got maybe 10 more miles to go, and you are worried about a 5yr(not even a long time) friendship and a lover(not even relationship)? Then you didnt even get a sincere apology! Speaking of logical, you are not.

Good luck, you will need it.

This does not bode well :c

lol...when Nefer gives you a one-liner, you're in troooouuuubllllllle - in my best Dee from What's Happening voice.

shouldn't you address your issues with my perceived views on homosexuality on THAT thread instead of derailing this one? or are you too much of a passive aggressive bitch to defend your community against a supposed assault?

Posted by Nefer
This does not bode well :c

Elaborate please?

she's typing...it takes time to channel wisdom.

i can sum it up for you though. get a back bone and walk away.

Posted by caligula
she's typing...it takes time to channel wisdom.

i can sum it up for you though. get a back bone and walk away.

Strong, icy capricorn woman part says: You're right Caligula, and blunt- just like I like it.
young girl in love for the first and only time says: Easier said than done.

ooooh, yes, young and naive definitely says easier said than done. older, wiser earth sign says, WAKE UP!

the one thing he was right about is that you're young and that rushing in is stupid. you were young when you met him and given the age you were at the time, 5 years later, you're not the person you were in HS. 5 years from now, you won't be this person either.

you have so many opportunities in front of you. the world is your oyster and you're ready to settle. sad. i wish i could take back my stupid and where i understand each person has to walk her own path, you know deep down that you're heading in the wrong direction. the more you ignore the voice inside you, the longer you keep yourself from something bigger and greater.

Posted by caligula
ooooh, yes, young and naive definitely says easier said than done. older, wiser earth sign says, WAKE UP!

the one thing he was right about is that you're young and that rushing in is stupid. you were young when you met him and given the age you were at the time, 5 years later, you're not the person you were in HS. 5 years from now, you won't be this person either.

you have so many opportunities in front of you. the world is your oyster and you're ready to settle. sad. i wish i could take back my stupid and where i understand each person has to walk her own path, you know deep down that you're heading in the wrong direction. the more you ignore the voice inside you, the longer you keep yourself from something bigger and greater.

This can be my elaboration, because it was fabulous.

It really was caligula.