Explain Taurus to me...:(

Alright so, my little story, with the taurus i was talking to once upon a time who never backed off even though I have a aqua now and I still talked to him cause he was an awesome guy to talk to blah blah.
Well, he finally came down for three days, we agreed to meet alone wednesday, never happened because we met with friends since I was already at the friends house and it was awkward, he was no longer the social and deep person he was.
Mind you, we easily talk online and on the phone.
Today (thursday) we were supposed to hang once again alone but I wasnt able to but promised to tell him when I was.
Around 3 I called, he didnt answer, didn't call back, so I texted letting him know that I would be ok in a bit, never texted back, so I decided to do my own thing.
I decide to go to a friends house where his sister is, and I get aH text saying "word got around that you were going to gemini's house, are these allegatiosn true?" and I responded "yeah, true" and w/e.
Basically, this guy is so social and deep and meaningful on the phone, and when I finally meet him he is distant, he talked today to this girl the whole time, and its like, wtf?
So I got annoyed, and barely talked to him because it was frustrating.
So, I am not even going to stress it, it was somewhat a big dissapointment.
So, your Taurus, please analyze and tell 🙂
Dunno if it matters, his rising is cancer and his moon is aries.

Maybe he was a bit shy meeting you in person? I know that I'm all mouth on the phone and on emails and texts etc, but when I meet people I can come across as quite aloof and shy, although it doesn't mean my feelings have changed for that person.

But him not answering the phone is a bit weird, unless he was busy. Maybe he's a little put out that you have your Aqua now as well??

i agree with copperhead on being shy.

but also, you agree to meet with him twice and it never happened because you went to meet friends.
i personally hate it when i make plans with someone and they back out at the last minute, or they say they are going to do something and don't do it.

He knew I had aqua before and he was much warmer.
I didn't back out though, the first day we had agreed to hang out but since he was on his way down and I had gone to a friends house (which is also his friend) he I guess just decided to stop by. He hadn't called or texted to do anything that day and I didn't want to sit around and wait for it so I decided to do my own thing till he told me when he was down here. Then yesterday I couldn't meet up earlier because I had some things to take care of. And when I was free I texted and called but never got any answer. That has never happened before. And the reason I was with friends was because, again, I'm not going to wait around for him.
All I know is that yesterday and the day before he closed himself off from the beginning and in turn so did I.
I just am not going to bother, yesterday I felt like I was being put to the side and the day before was somewhat like that except that he was nervous.
Eh, if I see him today ill just chill out, be pleasent and not stress.
Grrr. Thank you guys. Just know that I put in my effort to see him and its amazing that I feel kinda Let down. 😢

Anymore suggestions :/
I never ended up hanging with him on friday, I called my friend and he was there and I was not invited to the whatever they did, and I have not heard nor contacted him (naturally)I have noooo clue.
Haha, I still find this amazing amusing, but at the same time, I am just wondering what is up his ass.
I understand if he is different, but geez.
Ohhh, well, just adding more to see if you tauruses are attracted by it being on the top of the forum for a bit hehe 😄

Oh, I was all on for the "lets make a plan," but his approach was "let things flow."
And today he messaged (aimed) asked what happened thursday, and I said that I was out of sorts, and that he seemed completely different, and he tried to refute it and say no, and then he barely talked to me, and he stopped talking to me after a while.
Soo, now I don't know what to do, its weird to lose that.
Now, what do I do?
I feel like giving him a call tonight, tell him I feel weird with the situation.
Should I?

Well, I'm a Taurian who is punctual as hell; however, I do agree that we are worth the wait 😉
In respect to this situation, I think you both are tip toeing around the tulips. What I mean, is that it seems you both have the desire and intentions to want to see one another, but neither one of you wants to "own that" and seem like you are all about the other. I know this very well, because I do it everytime I like someone! If it's just a random person or friend I have no problem saying, "hey, let's meet at ....(Fill in the blank) at ....time." But, if it's someone I am digging (currently in this situation now) the Taurus pride comes in. We are afraid to show we really like someone until we KNOW the other person is right there with is, so there is this coy game we play so we don't look desperate exp. "We can meet whenever; I'm cool with whatever time, so just give me a call whenever. No worries." See where I'm going with that? Instead of saying, "Hey, I want to see you, let's meet at 8:00 at McDuffy's for a Guinness." We are excellent poker players. We give nothing up!

Thanks guys, but the mystery has been official resolved.
I called, and he gave some lame ass excuse.
Havent talked to him since.
So...not going to stress this one, doesnt want to even keep in touch!
Ahh...man hehe.

"We are excellent poker players. We give nothing up!" IVE NOTICED this big time...sheesh!!!!!

But what to do? do we have to actually say "hey Im interested in you, what do you think?"

I agree with everything USC said, I'm exactly like this as well. We Bulls are prideful people, in fact we probably have a bit too much pride & I myself will go to all lengths to avoid looking foolish or being rejected. Chatz... yes you pretty much have to spell it out for us over & over again 🙂 Until we know & believe your intentions are true & vibe with ours. This is most likely the reason why it takes us soooo long to make up our minds about what we want, because once we plant our feet we don't move.

"though I have a aqua now and I still talked to him cause he was an awesome guy to talk to" AC you have a boyfriend, I think your Taurus friend isn't hard pressed to get together with you because you have a boyfriend & he may have feelings for you of more then a friend. In that case he would try to keep his distance from you because he knows what he wants from you he can't have, why then would he torture himself? As far as having good/flirty convo on the phone/text/IM Yeah, that's not hard to do. When your actually face to face with someone you can't hide your true feelings. I say let him go for awhile & give him time to accept that you are only friends. It shouldn't take to very long as long as you give him space 🙂

Yes, but what I don't understand is the sudden drop off the face of the earth.
One day, and bam. Never spoke again.
I understand the pride, I have my pride too, so if he ever wants to talk again, I'm not sure I'll let up.

Pretty much. I can completely agree with that one.

Ok guys, just putting this out there.
Havent heard from him in almost a week.
Got a text at 12 today, I didnt answer, got another at 3.
Didn't answer.
I dont think I should talk to him at all, rightt?

i gotta admit i've been guilty of the same in my situation with a sagi girl... it's on you to decide though if you wanna hear him out, sorry he's giving you mixed signals, i've done the same as well

like someone else may have pointed out, you two may have been getting along, and he had shown signs of jealousy which is a bull's way of maybe showing interest without actually coming right out and saying it and when you kinda shrugged it off he took that personally even if you didn't mean it that way and backed off and closed off to analyze your previous actions showing interest in him and then that coldness which may be confusing him as to your feelings

yea, if you two haven't talked or texted in awhile and you haven't like blown him off on any plans, or say you'll call and not call, or done anything to make him feel like he's just a backup plan that you go to when you're bored and have nothing else to do or no one else to talk to, then he should either call you or pick up the phone or get back to you soon if you do what greatbull says

and as far as not talking to him altogether, that's kind of up to you, if you think it's worth it, then by all means make some effort, if you don't, don't

there's the saying that kinda goes "nothing in life worth having comes easy". you can take it to say that relationships that are truly fulfilling all have their ups and downs and even though the downs can be truly horrible, the ups are just as much so very good. like... if you don't know what true sorrow feels like, how can you really know what true happiness feels like?

then there's the people who think that relationships should be nothing but good and if things are difficult then the relationship is just doomed and you should give up and find someone else instead of trying to work on it(which I think is the unrealistic view yet people still think that way). probably why american divorce rates are so high...

sorry for rambling. i know when it comes to emotions these kinds of things are very important so i try to give more than one way to look at things even if i tend to be a sappy hopeless romantic who leans towards the idea that love conquers all however cheesy that may be

whatever you do though will be what is right for you, try not to just make rash decisions cause sometimes you can't take them back

if you ever don't feel like talking to him and feel like you just need to back off and whatever, just let him know that up front, and reassure him that there's not another guy or whatever, and if you can just text him or something to let him know that you are on his mind even if you're not able to call him on the phone for awhile or spend time with him

jeez, i always write essays for every post don't i? lol

i'll try to make an effort to cut down on that

OK maybe I'm just crazy but I don't need the explanation from him.... I get it. AC & Taurus used to "talk" I assume this means they both expressed interest in one another as more than friends. AC now has a boyfriend but she maintained contact with Taurus because of the good convo. OR maybe because AC enjoyed the attention? I'm just guessing here. Now they've agreed to meet ALONE. This gives Taurus guy a little hope. AC doesn't seem enthused with his arrival at the beginning (not making plans set in stone) Taurus guys confidence suffers a bit from this so he plays the nonchalant role for the rest of the trip. She sees him talking to another chick, this is a little upsetting to AC, even though she has a B/F? I'm guessing again because his attention wasn't focused on her. Now Taurus guy still has this little thread of hope for more then friends in the future cuz you all know we hang on forever..... thus the reason he's started texting again......

What I don't get is, why this is such a issue? Is this relationship with this guy whom all of your contact has occured over the computer & phone THAT important to you? From what I've read.......Taurus guy likes you for more than a friend & always has, AC.... you went & got a boyfriend, this bothered him but he'd never tell you that, that's the pride thing there. He hasn't let go of the idea yet. If you don't feel the same for him don't respond to the texts & let this relationship go.

When I got my aqua I told him, he said he would back off, never did.
I wasn't going to stop talking to him all of a sudden! Which is what he did to me, and I wouldnt even think of doing that.
I ended up texting him back cause w/e, friends are always good to have and people can have their little faults. I just hope our little text talk wasnt it and he goes back to eating shit, cause I'm not up for a rollercoaster honestly.
Yes, he told me when I got with aqua how he felt, and when he started talking to virgo (ex) I said, alright, and he told me he hoped I wouldnt detach myself from him blah blah.
I think we both enjoy eachother's company, and I'm honestly alright with maintaining a friendship.
I just don't want this crap with the no talking and dropping off the face of the earth to transpire again, cause we aren't together and games are already being played. It gets annoying.
We shall see, I get along with tauruses greatly and again, friends are always welcomed 🙂