Astrobyn
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I really don't get what business is of yours to have a gripe with this woman or to assume she is getting in between your connection with your dad.
If anything, it's your dad who should be called out here, since he is an active member in 2 connections - the one with his daughter - you, and the one with his wife. It's up to him to uphold both connections and manage equilibrium.
Had a simillar issue back at home. My first knee jerk reaction is to go off on my dad's girlfriend since she is possessive and clingy but in reality, it's not her fault at all. She is acting within the rules established in dating with my dad, rules that don't include me and I have no reason to get personally offended with her behavior. It's my dad's behavior in letting his connection with me fail on his list of priorities that is something that should be addressed and was addressed.
You are directing your ill feelings to the wrong person here. It's not her who is failing you.
If anything, it's your dad who should be called out here, since he is an active member in 2 connections - the one with his daughter - you, and the one with his wife. It's up to him to uphold both connections and manage equilibrium.
Had a simillar issue back at home. My first knee jerk reaction is to go off on my dad's girlfriend since she is possessive and clingy but in reality, it's not her fault at all. She is acting within the rules established in dating with my dad, rules that don't include me and I have no reason to get personally offended with her behavior. It's my dad's behavior in letting his connection with me fail on his list of priorities that is something that should be addressed and was addressed.
You are directing your ill feelings to the wrong person here. It's not her who is failing you.
I am not happy with my father, and definitely feel he shares majority of the responsibility here. but i also don't want to be upset with him right this min. and be stubborn and not see him for the rest of the time i have left here. This has all been really hard on me emotionally.
She is kinda the source of the problem tho, actively seeking out ways to cause problems with me.
She is kinda the source of the problem tho, actively seeking out ways to cause problems with me.
And maybe i am just being stubborn and channelling my anger towards her cus we are supposed to go take a family pic this weekend. And i don't wanna now, seems like a big fat lie
Posted by tiziani*waves handkerchief*
Rob and Damnata hugging.
/retires from DXP
but yeah, i get her perspective on this. it sucks.
Lol thanks
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