How to respond to a Taurus man going through a hard time?

The guy I've been involved with long distance for almost a year is going through a tough time, I think. His first love, 8 years ago, was murdered and her birthday was recently in January and the anniversary of her death is coming up in Feb.

He's never said very much about her to me. I do know it was his first serious relationship and he adored her. I believe they probably would've ended up married had this not happened.

Lately he's been kind of out of sorts, is the only way I can explain it. We're long distance but he calls me literally every day. Lately he seems just down and like he's waiting on me to cheer him up or that's how I'm interpreting it. I have a hard time knowing what to say. We usually talk about other stuff cuz I don't want to bring up something I know is so painful to him. And he's not one to want to rehash stuff. I just feel like we've been out of sync and he's been a little more agitated than normal.

How can I support him through this? Just continue to act normal? I know he'll come through it. It's our first time through this together since we connected. Does a Taurus man prefer to just be left alone and get through something like this on his own? Any suggestions of what to should do or make sure to not do? Thank you.

Just tell him "I know this time of year must be difficult for you, I'm here to listen if you ever need to talk. If I can do anything to comfort you let me know, I'm here for you." or something along those lines. The thing about losing someone is that people dont wanna bring it up to remind someone of it, but you never forget and someone mentioning it isnt suddenly gonna make you remember, bringing it up sometimes is good cause the person feels pain and can't just ignore it and pretend to be fine for the sake of others.

It's not something that just happened yesterday to him, so assume he's already had time to be on his own to process it, he needs support at times too, even if its just knowing you're there for him and arent pressuring him to be happy and cool and "on" during this month.

If you can afford it, I'd maybe go online and order an edible arrangement and have it sent it to him (perfect for long distance cause theres a store in almost every city so its not a long process) as a sweet surprise, just to show you're thinking of him. Taurus show love through service and gifts and thoughfulness, so I'm sure he'd appreciate knowing you're thinking of him.

Posted by aquatar1

Just tell him "I know this time of year must be difficult for you, I'm here to listen if you ever need to talk. If I can do anything to comfort you let me know, I'm here for you." or something along those lines. The thing about losing someone is that people dont wanna bring it up to remind someone of it, but you never forget and someone mentioning it isnt suddenly gonna make you remember, bringing it up sometimes is good cause the person feels pain and can't just ignore it and pretend to be fine for the sake of others.

It's not something that just happened yesterday to him, so assume he's already had time to be on his own to process it, he needs support at times too, even if its just knowing you're there for him and arent pressuring him to be happy and cool and "on" during this month.

If you can afford it, I'd maybe go online and order an edible arrangement and have it sent it to him (perfect for long distance cause theres a store in almost every city so its not a long process) as a sweet surprise, just to show you're thinking of him. Taurus show love through service and gifts and thoughfulness, so I'm sure he'd appreciate knowing you're thinking of him.

I really like the idea of having something sent to him with a note letting him know I'm here for him. Thanks, that's a great tangible way to show him I do care

Posted by Lakeslady330

Posted by aquatar1

Just tell him "I know this time of year must be difficult for you, I'm here to listen if you ever need to talk. If I can do anything to comfort you let me know, I'm here for you." or something along those lines. The thing about losing someone is that people dont wanna bring it up to remind someone of it, but you never forget and someone mentioning it isnt suddenly gonna make you remember, bringing it up sometimes is good cause the person feels pain and can't just ignore it and pretend to be fine for the sake of others.

It's not something that just happened yesterday to him, so assume he's already had time to be on his own to process it, he needs support at times too, even if its just knowing you're there for him and arent pressuring him to be happy and cool and "on" during this month.

If you can afford it, I'd maybe go online and order an edible arrangement and have it sent it to him (perfect for long distance cause theres a store in almost every city so its not a long process) as a sweet surprise, just to show you're thinking of him. Taurus show love through service and gifts and thoughfulness, so I'm sure he'd appreciate knowing you're thinking of him.

I really like the idea of having something sent to him with a note letting him know I'm here for him. Thanks, that's a great tangible way to show him I do care

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I've sent this out before to friends, edible arrangements is quite affordable for me its 20 bucks for a small box of chocolate covered fruit or a lil teddy bear ahah. I'm a taurus and I like to give things to people I love to show i care so if someone's unwell i will like bake them a cake or something, thats how I show my love, which is why I think he'd appreciate getting a thoughtful message from you.