How to speak with Taurus after his outburst?

Have been talking with male Taurus for a few months. Not dating, no sex involved. I told him to "smile more." He shouted at me "Stop, you have to stop!" Wasn't aware I offended him, again, felt hurt and apologized. Then, immediate flip of the switch, he smiles, comes closer to hug and kiss me, and says "I don't like being told what to do." I know he was very troubled about something with work and was trying to resolve an issue right before we met up. Maybe this is me trying to find and excuse for him. Anyway, I don't know how to continue speaking with him. And suggestions advise would be helpful. Thank you.

Yeah I argee with lust in what to say to make him feel better or how to change him without adding more stress..

We have this major thing about changing ourselves, it would seem you're supposed to like the good and bad and love them for who they are. So you knew that going into this that he doesn't like fighting. We're lovers not fighters.

So you snap at him.. but don't ever snap when you know what we are like and don't like when someone is attacking or in a bad mood...nagging and complaining doesn't help, it will make us leave.. We work too hard and not always able to open up. Just give space and then come back to what needs to be dealt with...

I tell you if he's stressed from work, an argument is the last thing you want. He works hard and doesn't do well with negative feedback from you or work. When we come home, a nice dinner will do, and some hot passionate sex for dessert. And if you sense he's having a bad day. Say. I would like to support you and give you a massage..or hey I'm here for you how was your day, be supporting and listen. If he doesn't want to talk, again leave him alone for a minute then do something spontaneous..

Actually don't leap to sex, sorry thought you been together for along time. A few months is just the tip of the ice berg. And sex will not help..

But do be supporting, cook him dinner and his favorite dessert. Lol.. and yeah soon just tell him, easy going that he is not compromising or communicating enough and it's not healthy if it's one sided..

Is this the first and only time he's had an 'angry outburst'?

I'm trying to put it into context here.

When I read your post I thought 'alarm bells' and when I read the advice given about ignoring it and being super sweet etc I thought 'really—'

A grown man having an angry outburst about something quite trivial isn't really good, is it?

Oh it's ok because he was extra nice to her afterwards because he realised he'd been a bit of a dick...

I'd watch and monitor that one if I were you OP.

I've been on the receiving end of various 'angry outbursts' and it doesn't always get any better.

If it's an isolated case due to pressure etc then ok, let it go. If it's not, or it continues then you might want to address it as clearly it makes you uncomfortable.

So I have a temper that isn't for the sensitive, but it takes alot of build up to get there. So it's probably who he is, and just has temper tantrums for no reason..

I react to the smallest things, like smile.....I don't smile at all..Ask everyone..Just something that I do. Not sure why..Maybe we're too serious about everything damn thing. Always in the mind.

. When I am in my moods leave me the fuck alone, then I'll talk rationally. It takes 0-100 really quick to provoke the bull..Fine line from verbal abuse to just need space afew minutes after work and then we talk about whatever is the issues.

Don't attack you will get an surprise rage...So that was just wrong timing. Could of said hey how was your day, then he would react differently.. like just plainly said smile more when he was stressing from work. We're stubborn and that wasn't the best way..

There's a difference between being more diplomatic and using different words and then there's pussy footing around the person.

We don't know exactly how she said 'smile more' but I doubt it would have warranted an aggressive response.

This is early stages of dating. I'm not saying that he shouldn't be himself but putting your best foot forward is usually helpful.

He may be having an off day. We all have them. He apologised. The end. However, if it continues and OP is uncomfortable with it then it should be addressed.

Consideration for each other is a two way street.

Out of the few Taurus people I know they are usually fine. One does take things very seriously and has a habit of throwing his toys out his pram. The other I knew had major anger outbursts and tantrums over nothing to the point where I looked at him with a 'wtf—' expression as that type of behaviour isn't expected in a grown man. I can lose my temper too and become overwhelmed (Scorpio) but tantrums and angry outbursts are a no.

I see. And actually the more I see his behavior like that. Makes me take a step back and maybe quit being so hard headed and stubborn. I've seen worse tempers than myself. And it's not good.

My Sagittarius dad and Virgo mom when's she is under the influence always had a temper..Maybe my temper and my mom saying to me smile more. Just makes me not want to smile. So it's a similar experience I went through. And yeah got mad at my mom. Then I feel like shit and apologize.

so I would be probably tough and then break down. Cause I don't like being mean or mad. Sometimes people say shit like wtf. And then I'm like okay just need a reality check in a calm positive respectful way. Any negative vibes I get. I react to usually unintentional..

Hi, everyone. Thank you very much for all of your advice and suggestions... How I said "smile more" ... I was kind and smiling at him, a little flirtatious I would say, usually am because he likes that. I knew he was having/had a bad day at work, however didn't expect his reaction. We met again 2 days later, brushed off his reaction, greeted him with a warm smile and hug, he was happy to see me and the rest went well. When and if things become more serious this is something I will discuss with him. For now, members say this is normal behavior for Taurus, I agree, as he has done this before, but this was the first time to this extent.

Posted by SophiaEva
Hi, everyone. Thank you very much for all of your advice and suggestions... How I said "smile more" ... I was kind and smiling at him, a little flirtatious I would say, usually am because he likes that. I knew he was having/had a bad day at work, however didn't expect his reaction. We met again 2 days later, brushed off his reaction, greeted him with a warm smile and hug, he was happy to see me and the rest went well. When and if things become more serious this is something I will discuss with him. For now, members say this is normal behavior for Taurus, I agree, as he has done this before, but this was the first time to this extent.

it's not normal for the taurus i know.

Posted by SophiaEva
Have been talking with male Taurus for a few months. Not dating, no sex involved. I told him to "smile more." He shouted at me "Stop, you have to stop!" Wasn't aware I offended him, again, felt hurt and apologized. Then, immediate flip of the switch, he smiles, comes closer to hug and kiss me, and says "I don't like being told what to do." I know he was very troubled about something with work and was trying to resolve an issue right before we met up. Maybe this is me trying to find and excuse for him. Anyway, I don't know how to continue speaking with him. And suggestions advise would be helpful. Thank you.

lol. Back to my experience with an ex taur. I usually dealt it with cool temper.

the moment he explode like a bomb - I just read all his messages with lots of exclamation points ( 50 counts)

I didn't explode. I was waiting until he's calm. then he showed up and picked me up from my work. Open the door

of his car. Kissed me and hugged me with warm cool hearted man different than few minutes ago sending me lots

of messages with lots of exclamation points. lol. that day made me laughed.

then he drove his car -- we're going home. He kept smiling while driving... then he asked me How are you

sweetie? I said : oh well, I am fine even I was dealing an angry bird a few minutes ago. it was like

bull trying to gored me. then he was laughing. gosh.. it made me smile sometimes remembering the past.

I suggest don't take it too personal - for sure it's annoying. but keep it peaceful and simple.

Posted by busyeyes88
@M143. He may have had an leo moon!!! Like me!! Because I always leave tonnes of exclamation marks and my temper is dramatically hot!! I am dealing with a bull now and I am a bullette but his moon is in sag and we are ok one minute and locking horns the next!!!! Lol

you guys seems cute when mad. It takes a partner to understand.

Haha sounds like a typical Taurus...getting mad and then switch to as if nothing happen and do cute sensual things in the process.. typical for you..

and it seems like some people know we are hard to deal with, but it's cool afterwards. It only lasts a few minutes. Someone could help us understand without criticism and in return pay it forward somehow, some way.

I'm trying to find out his moon, but asking for what time and where you were born seems kind of stalkerish...lol ... I did try info that seems likely, I got (for him) either Moon in Cancer or Moon in Virgo.

Haha, Taurus and their outbursts are kinda new to me yet are very familiar nowadays. When I dated this Taurus guy, he was the most comprehensive, cool, tender and laid back guy I've ever met (maybe those are the reasons why I fell in love with him on the first place). We stopped dating and he changed, it seemed like he had an issue with me (still I have no idea what's going on in his mind whenever he sees me). I just let him know that I loved him and, he had an outburst, he said certain things yet it didn't surprise me. My gut feeling was "do not take things personally". The only difference is the fact that I don't know how to behave around him anymore. Been there for him and still he thinks I'm too good to be true. Aside from the fact that now he's dating someone else and I prefer to walk away instead of making him feel uncomfortable.

So, go get him, girl and grab a hold of this opportunity since once you've found a Taurus and he likes you too, you won't regret it 🙂

im sorry that he yelled at you, we dont know how to control our temper sometimes 😢

but it sounds like you were just innocently trying to cheer him up, he shouldnt have yelled you, you need to respond to his reaction and let him know, regardless of how bad his day is, that its not okay to speak to you so aggressively.

when any taurus is in a bad mood, just try to stay far away until they calm down and go back to grazing in the grass again.

whats your sun sign, dear?

I'm sorry to hear that he shouted at you. But from what I hear, Taurus are very slow to anger. They're not particular snappy, I don't think. The mood swing seems kind of like a red flag, somewhat unstable. But again it could be stressed, I've personally never known a person to be angry then lovey dovey unless they're abusive (romantically).

I am Libra, with Scorpio moon. Still trying to find out his moon, either virgo or cancer.