And if she does come back?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by LordTerramine on Sunday, March 22, 2015 and has 9 replies.

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@LordTerramine
11 Years500+ PostsLibra

So about that Taurus sun - Aquarius moon friend. Assuming she comes back and gives me another chance. What would I have to do to at LEAST keep her from leaving ever again? I can handle just being friends and letting her have her space. But seriously, what would it take to keep in contact with her? What are the necessities for keeping such a person as a friend?

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

That "ever again" in your post..you can't prevent anyone from leaving ever again.

My first reaction was to say you have control issues..but considering stuff you shared...it's an abandonment problem.

Take the focus off her a bit.

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@LordTerramine
11 Years500+ PostsLibra

Oh come on guys, it's not a control issue nor an abandonment issue. Even if I loved myself I'd be interested in keeping someone in my life because they're just that amazing of a person. I care about my friends. If someone was an amazing friend why would I want them to ever be gone? I know I can't force her to stay? But I mean, people usually /only/ leave when something is wrong? When something happens like they get hurt or they hurt you? You don't just leave when everything is hunky doory. She's gone because I fucked up. People leave because something wasn't right.

I already realize that the process will just repeat itself if I don't love myself. I am going to work on that regardless of if she comes back or not. But if she does, I already re-worded my question. How do I stay on her good side?

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

The only thing I can tell you..since I don't know her.

Is that people with prominent water in their charts make assumptions a LOT. So my only advice would be to check with the other person if your assumptions are real before flying off the handle.

That was the basis of the misunderstanding with her because you felt she hurt your feelings because you assumed she completely disregarded you and didn't give a fuck. People aren't fond of people who bring drama in their lives and are high maintenance emotionally. Especially earth sun people.

One outburst will not make me disregard a friendship so I think she will be back after she gets some clarity. But just don't keep at it with the assumptions.

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@LordTerramine
11 Years500+ PostsLibra

Posted by Damnata
The only thing I can tell you..since I don't know her.

Is that people with prominent water in their charts make assumptions a LOT. So my only advice would be to check with the other person if your assumptions are real before flying off the handle.

That was the basis of the misunderstanding with her because you felt she hurt your feelings because you assumed she completely disregarded you and didn't give a fuck. People aren't fond of people who bring drama in their lives and are high maintenance emotionally. Especially earth sun people.

One outburst will not make me disregard a friendship so I think she will be back after she gets some clarity. But just don't keep at it with the assumptions.

Yeah don't worry, I'm done with outbursts like that.