I NEED ADVICE and really quick

I am capricorn and i have met girl who happens to be taurus.

We talked a month or two and i was very very very careful with her. Step by step i managed to set a date.
She decided the time and when i was about to give options as to where we should go, she said exactly the same thing i wanted to ask, which was instead on drink, to go on and have some lunch. And she said it will be one chinese restoraunt.

We talked about very random casual topics. Creative things, music and people. She did not asked me where i work, do i do any sports prof. now or before, nor where i studied etc.

Long before we made this date, i asked friend of her if she had any boyfriend and they told me no she doesnt which was good. She also told me why i didnt asked myself and that she thought i would have no problem with that since i am considered to be good looking according to her. In fact friend of hers (other) likes me... And now as we were taking this lunch she(the girl that i like and went out) asks me how do i know that girl(her friend that i asked about her). I told her that friend of mine introduced us and in that very same moment i knew she knew about what i asked. Which was normal thing since the moment i asked, i knew that she will eventually find out, i dont have any problem with it, on the contrary, she knows my intentions and that i like her and she came out with me.

She is the most beautiful woman i have ever seen in my life. The last time i felt like this i was perhaps 15 years old. She is very creative and she is all the best i can say about any woman ever. Her eyes her hair her lips ... i was mesmerized... but i tried to be cool AND I WAS. Cool in term, not to overreact or anything of that sort, just be polite, calm.

When i thought that we might leave for home she asked if i wanted to go and have some sweets. THEN i asked for the bill and insisted on paying it and i did. She said okay now i will repay you at the sweets store. I said okay we both laughed. She was smilling all the time. She has the most beautiful smile in the world!

SHE IS THE ONE

But upon leaving i froze. She said i will go this way and i said no i will take you home she refused it 3 times and i stopped, i didnt want to press her. But i am not sure how she took that. She said "i am glad we saw each other" the rest is all blurred. My heart was pumping like mad and all i tried to concentrate was to remain calm so i said the same and in a tone that i was sad that she is leaving. I kissed her on her cheek like when we meet in front of the restoraunt and i think she pretty much was sure we are going to kiss on the cheek, or i am just maybe overreacting nvm. She said goodbye i told her to let me know when she comes home, and i did one bad bad mistake not consiously i did not followed her to the station. I drove home furious with myself. But i tried to stay positive.

2 hours past and she didnt said a word on messenger. I wrote her that "i hope she arrived home so i d

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... so i dont have to worry" and she replied after some 10-15minutes "yes yes i arrived i was busy with some work straight away" and that serious smiley next to it 🙂

I replied too after another 10minutes thats all fine i just wanted to check on her , with big smile on side trying to be just positive...

I saw in the next half an hour no answer from her and i added, saying her name, and that i spent very good in her company and that it was lovely and that we will stay in touch and that was all i wrote, trying not to push things or put some distance so she is not afraid to soon perhaps i dont know ... BUT she didnt respond to it.

Not the very same night. But yesterday whole day not a single word even though she saw it around 1 oclock. This is the morning and i think only about her.
I couldnt SLEEP actually. I slept but thought of her replying to me. I woke up 2 hours before going to work.

I am not usually like this, but this girl has shaken the ground beneath me. I am single around 3 years with all the time messing with girls around. I had 2 big relationships over year or two and NEITHER girl i have ever been with or met made me feel like this.

What should i think? Is she running away? She doesnt wanna see me? Why she is not replying out of courtesy at least...
Is this usual with taurus? My previous girl was taurus in fact. But they are different. This was passive type perhaps. Calm , smiling all the time, very gentle way of speaking not rushing not high tones anything like that. If i had to paint a perfect girl, it would look alike that and be like that.

PLEASE ANY ADVICE

Posted by SewerRat89
What is the line of this argument without reading all of that?

Line of argument is impossible without reading that all. Isn't this place for people to read and give advice... ?

Posted by Leo3355d

Posted by SewerRat89
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Line of argument is impossible without reading that all. Isn't this place for people to read and give advice... ?

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Agreed. I apologize.

I don't think she's ignoring I think that was a closing statement. And plus by the time she saw it there rly wasn't any reason to respond IMO

Out of curiosity what is your venus sign?

How do you mean closing statement? I dont have a chance at her?!?!

I think scorpio

and what you meant with this "And plus by the time she saw it there rly wasn't any reason to respond IMO"

Right, I think she read what you wrote, but did not expect you wanted a response. If I am not asked a question, I often read a message and then close it. No response needed.

You sending several messages in this way might turn her off. You might start to look desperate and needy. Instead of sending another pleasant message, why not try directly asking her out on another date? This way, if she is not interested you will probably know right away.

He has to be asking if she's ignoring him... Listen I had the same connection with my Capricorn. We started to go out to parks and restaurants etc. We would end the date on a good note, he would say let me know when you get home I would say okay and drive home, get home and forget. One time I remember my phone had died the next day and I didn't have a way to charge, he freaked out.. Thinking I didn't make it home, called me over and over and over again texted me, called his sister that works with me, it didn't help I was and hour late to work and I had no way to call. He had everybody worried, I rolled into work like la-lala-lala and his sister was like my brother was worried about you you'd better go call him.. I did, he was a little mad, but relieved.... I think I was unsure about him and that's why I took so long to decide if I wanted in and so I wasn't overly attentive to his texts or calls. But I came around eventually when he sat me down after a couple weeks of getting to know each other and was like what is this we are doing (we had been intimate), I know I don't want to see you with anyone else, what are we? I agreed. We started dating and wala everything is great.

I guess my advice to you would be to have patience, I'm a Taurus lady and I know the importance of my space, & I don't like to be rushed, especially if I am unsure. She'll come around eventually, treat her like a lady; we also like little trinkets and pretty things even though wouldn't ever ask for them, I would be happy to receive them..

Everything will be okay just be confident, it's a very attractive quality.

What about asking her "Hey how are you, is it all good?" after that silence from her for over 3 days ?

Or would be better to ask her directly to go out again with me on some other place, like the movies you mentioned? She said she also loves them and the only time she watches movies is in the cinema

just slow down

And calm down.

That scorpio venus is something else.
You will no longer be the person she was initially attracted to if you dont calm your nerves and find something else to occupy your mind.

2.5 days will pass she might think i am not interested ...

I have already asked her before, weeks ago if i was bothering, and i was writing her on 4-5 days and in the last week we started to talk more and eventually she wrote me first late on midnight saying she likes the song i put and it was one of her most favorite...

So when i asked her she told me that if i was bothering her she would have let me know by now and that i dont have to worry about it and that she appreciated very much that i thought about it.

Also i let her know that i am not pushing her and i gave her much space for example when she said yes we can go out but after some date i said okay, i will leave you until then i wont bother you. And when the day came i didnt want to bother her or write her right away like i was waiting on the stopwatch but instead i left another 4-5 days to pass and then wrote her again and eventually by then she was little mad that i didnt asked her again. When i did she was once again putting those 😄 smiles on messages.

I am not rushing anywhere i am just afraid that she might didnt like me and thats the reason why she didnt returned on my messages. If thats not the case then i am not worried at all.

Thats all fine lets say i will listen to you ... but how can i know if she wont after be mad at me or say AGH HE HAS QUIT ... or HE DIDNT SAID THAT HE WANT TO SEE ME AGAIN,

We literally didnt change numbers you see, the place where we took lunch was very close to both of our workplaces and although i asked she said we will wait there and in the conversation somehow that number question was lost ...

In my last message i just wrote that "we will stay in touch" not something to comfort her that i like her ... etc she might dump me you know ...

Is that bad if i only write her a decent humble message checking on how she is not to ask her out etc. Just to ask her our of curtesy how she is is she okay etc. Not that i want to put chains on her God forbid ...

But thank you on these messages they are really helpful

And btw how much should i wait? A week? Or for her to write me? Because i know that will never happen ...

After a date certainly i cannot wait for more than 3 days for only to ask her one humble decent question like "How are you" , like being good responsible guy nothing more

Posted by Leo3355d
I have already asked her before, weeks ago if i was bothering, and i was writing her on 4-5 days and in the last week we started to talk more and eventually she wrote me first late on midnight saying she likes the song i put and it was one of her most favorite...

So when i asked her she told me that if i was bothering her she would have let me know by now and that i dont have to worry about it and that she appreciated very much that i thought about it.

Also i let her know that i am not pushing her and i gave her much space for example when she said yes we can go out but after some date i said okay, i will leave you until then i wont bother you. And when the day came i didnt want to bother her or write her right away like i was waiting on the stopwatch but instead i left another 4-5 days to pass and then wrote her again and eventually by then she was little mad that i didnt asked her again. When i did she was once again putting those 😄 smiles on messages.

I am not rushing anywhere i am just afraid that she might didnt like me and thats the reason why she didnt returned on my messages. If thats not the case then i am not worried at all.

somehow this reminds me of my virgo friend .. whom i really dont feel like talking to anymore for being "overly cautious.." .. "overly pleasing" .. "overly analytical" ... turned me off even though we are only just friends ..

be yourself. if she likes you, fine. if she diesnt like you, fine. You say you're goodlooking.. you wont find it hard dating others.

seriously taurus gals start a relatiinship verrrrrryyy slow... like she might even message you once a week and still like you.. be careful with you over texting her to get into the friendzone... with those smileys too!

just really be yourself. be the confident you n not the pleasing "boy".

keep calm, be patient... she's probably busy. she will come around when she can I'm sure if the connection was just as strong for her.

There is one problem 😄 I like this girl and no other

As strong for her?! 😄 😄 😄 If it was strong for her like it was for me she would come to me running believe me hahaha thats how strong is mine ... i havent met a girl like her and i have met a lot. She is one of a kind. Exactly like its sign is described ...

Posted by Leo3355d
As strong for her?! 😄 😄 😄 If it was strong for her like it was for me she would come to me running believe me hahaha thats how strong is mine ... i havent met a girl like her and i have met a lot. She is one of a kind. Exactly like its sign is described ...

this is exactly what i mean.. even if its that strong for her, she wont show it.. or it wont be obvious..

As for me, i would respond well to small gestures. but if you start telling me things like... "I dont want to push it" .. "i hope im not bothering you" .. "i know you must be busy but..." .. "why didnt you reply to my last text? ..or anything that goes with meaning im talking to an insecure or not so confident or a people's pleaser guy... these just are a hugeturn off ... IMO

this is why im telling you to try and slowww down

Nope the first thing that i asked her was on the beginning just to be sure i can proceed on and since i got green light. I didnt asked her something like that "why you didnt return to my emails" i know the result of that and i am not going to. Just trying to be a man, and polite.

IN fact i told her that "i dont want to push it" because friend of her died on the day we said we would go out and i gave my condolences and told her that i would be selfish if i asked her out therefore that i would wait for her when she is okay.

I dont think i did anything wrong.

And small gestures are like what? I planned on bringing her, her favorite sweets to her work place? Is that good? Hanging them over saying hello on 1minute and bye bye ...

PS. We dont write emails but on facebook messenger.

Posted by Leo3355d
Nope the first thing that i asked her was on the beginning just to be sure i can proceed on and since i got green light. I didnt asked her something like that "why you didnt return to my emails" i know the result of that and i am not going to. Just trying to be a man, and polite.

IN fact i told her that "i dont want to push it" because friend of her died on the day we said we would go out and i gave my condolences and told her that i would be selfish if i asked her out therefore that i would wait for her when she is okay.

I dont think i did anything wrong.

And small gestures are like what? I planned on bringing her, her favorite sweets to her work place? Is that good? Hanging them over saying hello on 1minute and bye bye ...

i was just giving examples .. didnt mean you are actually doing this.. just telling you before you find yourself pushing her with such...

n yeah the sweets are a nice idea! ..

im sorry to hear about her friend.. i hope she is dealing well with that

Yeah few told me about the sweets and she told me which were her favorite. I can go but i am afraid just because of those things. We went out, now after few days without a single message or contact i show up on her work place with those sweets and she might be afraid ... like i am pushing. How thats not the same?
Why if i ask her one simple polite question is more than this big gesture?

And since i dont have her phone and i dont know exactly where she works how can i go and deliver these? Is it okay if i send a delivery? Which wont be the same but ...

Posted by Leo3355d
Yeah few told me about the sweets and she told me which were her favorite. I can go but i am afraid just because of those things. We went out, now after few days without a single message or contact i show up on her work place with those sweets and she might be afraid ... like i am pushing. How thats not the same?
Why if i ask her one simple polite question is more than this big gesture?

And since i dont have her phone and i dont know exactly where she works how can i go and deliver these? Is it okay if i send a delivery? Which wont be the same but ...

maybe get them delivered to her with a friendly note hidden inside. or just give them to her in person the next time you meet..

Just my .02 cents.

A gradual courtship is excellent. However, during this transition of slowly getting to know your Bull, be sure to let her in as well. Allow her to get to know the REAL you. A Taurus will accept a real nobody vs a fake somebody any day. Try not to overthink everything, and just allow the relationship to unfold organically. Tell her about your goals, dreams and passions. What makes you laugh, what makes you tick, discuss your family friends, an embarrassing childhood story if you have one. Get to know the 'real' her...Focus on quality traits outside her physical appearance.You focused too much on her looks in this thread. A female Bull wants a lifelong partner, not a fan.

You're coming off as "too methodical." It may appear disingenuous and 'scripted.'

Be a gentleman...but be sure to be yourself as well.

Good Luck! 🙂

Posted by evalani290

Don't try too much,Taurus women can pick up the subtle vibes,there's no need for extreme behavior with this one. She probably has a seductive nature so if you go on too strong you'll miss the details and spoil all the fun.

And relax..she'll crush your ego if you lack patience.

This ^^^^

As I stated earlier, allow the relationship to flow organically and you will most certainly be on the receiving end of the Venusian subtle signals.

Be sure to reciprocate when this happens.

I am not hounding her but prior the date in those 7 days we spoke regularly and now after the date i am gone like 3 days without making a contact, she is going to think that i am not interested and they dont wanna play cold and hot she will cut me off then sure...

i dont intend on running after her just staying in touch or seeing her again. Since after the lunch she invited me on sweets when she could cut me off then and go on her own, it means she likes me too! Otherwise why she would ask me to go with her? Doesnt make ANY sense. And if she needed company thats OUT of option because you dont invite someone if you dont like around you!

And we communicate via facebook 😄 simple

And i am damn sure she wont contact me even if i am Brad Pitt so i dont think i should wait for that at all !

However i like her WHOLE not only the looks, but whole, like ive said! Havent you read? 🙂 She is genuine! We have lot in common!
I think with her i can do lots of things and vice versa.

Also she told me she wants to learn to do videos and i am doing such and i am doing them very very good. Today i did one and i made some people cry 🙂 because it was so much emotional it was for one very important man of ours, doesnt matter. I am sure she saw it.

IS that any plus for me? She is creative and she sees i am too.

Whats troubling me is , Is it bad that she didnt returned on my last facebook messages from 3 days ago when i expressed that "hey, today it was really nice to be in your company. With ease with the work and have good night. We stay read(stay in touch) later"

no smiley nothing, i wrote only that. Its really looking like someone not interested. And she returned nothing.

I need to know how bad that is. If you are experts in horoscope

Guys i need some help

We were having conversations from time to time asking her she asking me how i am how i spent the times hows on work is there anything new with me she showed me her pictures she took for a magazine she works 2 jobs she sent me some video materials on which i could work something since she knows i like videos but ever since we got out and i asked her to come again, which happened only once and the other time she said by herself even before i had a chance to ask her again, that she was busy at work etc.

Yesterday for the first time happened that i wrote her she saw the message on the facebook and she didnt replied to it. It was around 9 o clock. She returns to my messages after a day or something like that or sometimes right away. And before i wrote her that, we didnt talked for 10 days, i didnt wrote anything and i wanted to see if she would but nothing happened.

Once i wrote her only "good night" after 4 5 days without saying a word and she replied in the morning "good day :* " and we talked a bit and again she talks about her work.

If i ask her "how are you" she will say " i am good, here and there, going for some work, just coming home" since she would reply later in the day and thats it i dont have any chance of doing anything more like for example, to ask her to come out. And she would go offline and wont say a single word.

I dont know what to think.

Little help. I dont wanna lose this girl...